₦airaland Forum

A lot has been said already about this issue. My own point of view would be to know whether or not the boy consulted his parents/guardians/or someone older and more experienced than him for guidance before selling it. That could have made a whole lot of difference depending on the maturity and the exposure of the person who advised him, if there was any.

I think there is a very important piece of information that is critical in our analysis of the situation. This is the MOTIVE for renaming the particular street. Any other street could be renamed after the activist but why this one. The answer is in what the ANC's first Deputy General said last year.

They have the right to rename the street and the U.S. also has the right to close their embassy. The question is, who will benefit or suffer if both happen.

I didn't lie to her. I only shared a personal and sincere advice with her. Ultimately, the final decision is hers to make but decisions do have consequences, either good or bad.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying to her!

@preshpraiz, no matter what you do, you had better stay away from the trap of church people and family if you ever wish to tackle your situation. Churches are filled to the brim with women like you who have been praying for many many years, some even decades, for God to save their marriages. Many of the same women have had to watch the husband they have been praying for eventually abandon them yet the pastors and mogs urge them to continue praying even into their old age for what will never happen. Why? because those women fill seats and bring money and more customers into the church businesses through their many delusions.

God of the Bible cursed marriage and childbearing in Genesis 3 vs 16, and Jesus Christ equally said that the marriages of men are not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36. But your pastors will not tell you this part because their businesses depend on you staying with the many delusions surrounding marriage today.

Kobojunkie:
If all of the so-called different types of homes experience many of the same exact challenges, what is the point or merit of the differences you claim? It is all meaningless religious bullsheet in the end given that no direct positive can be claimed in any of the cases from the association of marriage with one religion or the other. .

Hmmmm, it is well. I wish you all the best, all the happiness and joy you ever wish or pray for in life.

I think there are different types of homes - a Christian home, a Muslim home, and a non-religious home. None of them is insulated from challenges but I think the pieces of advice above may not work in some homes or all the types of homes.

Friendship, dating, courtship and marriage are not at the same level.

I read something Ronke Ojo said few days ago about her dating lasting for 10 years but her marriage lasting for only 1 year.

Hmmm it is well my sister. I married at 33 as a virgin. My wife was 27 YO as a virgin too and I have been married for 9 years now. So, I can relate with what it meant to you.

Your mental health is of utmost importance to you, your kids, your family and friends and even your husband. So, please, don't bottle your emotions up.

I am a Christian by God's grace. I'm assuming you are a Christian based on your profile name. So, my advice will follow that line. Talk to your pastor or his wife or marriage counselors. Let your family and his family know what you are going through as well. Please, I beg you by the mercies of God, avoid ungodly counsels.

I think it is clear that your husband is not a matured Christian and dealing with an immatured Christian is like dealing with someone who doesn't know the Lord. I Tim 5:8. A former colleague of mine has a husband exactly like yours. I thank God for her faith in the Lord and endurance.

If you handle the situation the way of the world, your marriage may not survive it.

I have a lot to say but please, trust God, pray, pray and continue to pray and take right actions. What God says about marriage and family is what matters. Not what the society says.

Use, the challenging situation to grow the more in your faith and walk with God.

Always ask yourself - What will Jesus have me do in this situation?

I met a couple few months back who have been married for 70 years. Marriage is not bread and butter. It is a life time commitment and it has ups and downs.

I pray that the Lord intervene in your marriage and give you joy and peace in Jesus name. Thanks, God bless you

I think it is a rational thing for her to ask. She might have seen you bringing your cylinder in and wondering why you don't patronize her. She might think you don't like her.

I think everyone in business wants customers. So, she might have asked in order to get you to patronize her.

Your response may help and hurt her at the same time. But I think knowing that you don't patronize her because you don't buy from street vendors will allay any misgivings she may have about you not liking her.

Thank you.

It is well, my sister. I assume you believe in God since you said you have fasted, prayed etc. So, please, seek godly counsel from the wife of your pastor/imam. Every marriage has challenges, so divorce may not be the solution. Continue to pray, and trust God.

Mental illness is also a big issue for many today, so do everything you can to stay sane. Talk to your parents, siblings, his trusted family members, godly friends, therapist, marriage counsellors etc, but avoid counsels that will derail your life.

Single mothers are easy targets for wolfs in sheep's clothing. They are sexual predators who present themselves as good, loving, and caring men. I guess you read about them in the news. So, don't make yourself their
easy target.

I pray that the mercy of God prevail over your situation, and help you out in Jesus name.

LOL!. I believed it then. How did it even start and spread?

Wow!, I'm overwhelmed with nostalgia for my childhood days.

I am not oblivious of the fact that things are really hard now, economically and financially, but I do not think restoring petrol subsidy is the way to go. I supported its removal in 2012 under Dr. Goodluck Jonathan, and I still support it now.

I think it has to be removed if we really want to deal with the corruption in the sector and want the sector, and our economy to perform better.

Something does not seem to add up. How could they open fire on them and kill only the wife?. I hope the law enforcement agents will investigate this case thoroughly.

I'm at a loss for words.

A friend sent this to me earlier. I think she is a Sierra Leonean, not a Nigerian.

I do not support disrespecting anyone, especially the elders. However, why is the person who wrote the original tweet he responded to, not the focus of attention?.

I don't think this is appropriate at all. It went way deeper than it should go. In a sane environment, it is too much but the content may be a reflection of their values and norms about sex as a country or may be it is intended to address prevailing sexual attitude in their society.

chokekachy:
https://thenationonlineng.net/court-sentences-lagos-vulcaniser-to-death-by-hanging-for-robbing-nurse-of-n57000/

How in the world did she arrive at this judgement?. I do not support robbery but I believe every right-thinking person should know that this is an injustice.

This is very disheartening but please, consider carefully the different pieces of advice that have been given and act with wisdom and discretion. Please, permit me to add the following as well:

1. Get professional therapist for your daughter to heal and overcome the trauma.
2. You, your husband and your daughter are hurt. Considering how your husband has acted given how painful it is for him too, please, ensure you and your husband act in unison. Don't take decisions single-handedly to avoid avoidable frictions between you and your husband and the matter creating a mess in your marriage.
3. I don't know how long or how soon it will be, but please make a decision to forgive. It may be difficult but it is needed for wholeness. Don't keep yourself and your family in the prison of unforgiveness. The damage it does to us far outweighs the relief we feel from it.

Thank you.