sorosoke101:
God will make out way where there seems to be no way, he works in way we cannot see, he will make a way for me, he will be my guide hold me close to be in is side, with love and strength.......nah wetin come my mind be that when I see wetin OP post

not in this case na die this man dey so

malcom1X:
This is why I don't play with neighbors children, they don't greet me, me I no even want them to greet me.

I no send them.
Every guy wants to hit on the man's daughters, me I no get time.

I go work, I come back I enter my house sleep no one begs me for lighter or anything. Me I no beg them for anything.

Everybody dey their dey.


The only communication I have with the man is good morning while I'm leaving to work and good evening while I'm going inside the house.

Shikena. Them don call me names tire, call me cultist etc.
The day I was on leave the wife said I lost my job.

And then dey talk am make I hear.
While I'm leaving to work. Me I no send them.

It hurts to be them and not getting a reply from me.
I no reply I no send them.

nice one there are some kind of avoidable drama it is for
Your own mental well being

Odin13:
All this your grammar .. you wan go ride person wife .. based on say .. you don Dey collect for long ..

You too lucky say the man too formal.. no be traditional Alhaji dem..

By now na your dead body and pictures we for the see..

You Dey go form Woke for Islamic enclave .. and still never learn your lesson

Wish you the best till we see your rip..

Person wife go Dey worry una ..

Of all places na your hotel room .. your married friend Dey visit you.. hotel lobby and all no do una .. na room.

Next !

Some people are just careless with their lives

learn to set boundaries with your friends whether male or female especially when you know they are married , you do not
Know whats going on in their marriages , stop risking your lives unnecessarily many have lost their lives this way . With the Nogerian setting seeing a married woman in a hotel with another man is a big redflag .

ahnie:
I have this beautiful chubby neighbor that's from my husband extraction (Igbo)
Babe is hard working, business oriented and an avid hustler.

But she's dating a chubby fuvk boy,a failed yahoo lazy lout that even in the next 50yrs I do not see him ever picking.

He's killing and bringing down my neighbors business and sucking her dry and she doesn't seemed to noticed.

She's always crying of bn broke everytime....and it's damn pissing me off like fvck.

On his birthday she baked cakes for him,printed his name on mugs, towels, got him clothes and even travelled to visit him,left her business and stayed days with him before coming back.

It's irking me because he's a bad market and to me he doesn't have a bright future,he's not working,he has no handiwork and no skills
He's just a rotund whale sucking her youthfulness and finances.

Let's assume he has a skill or he's learning a trade it's another thing, at least we would all assume that he's productive and her supporting him wouldn't be futile,but this one.... nothing nothing.

On her birthday he didn't even posted her pictures or got her a pin,he said he doesn't have data...just negodu the nonsense and he still demanded money from her....to me the guy is just miserably useless.

He's now proposing marriage to her,and he visited her some days ago na she use her money run everything from feeding down to blood test.

I have not met him before,but immediately I saw him....my spirit no conform with his at all...he's not only a liability,but also a robust reaper.

Now my neighbor is asking me what I think of him.....I told her outrightly that I don't like him,that he's going to be a liability to her in the future....person nor fit take care of her as girlfriend,how e go take care of her as wife.....I m one hundred percent sure,she's the one that's going to pay her prideprice, pay for the wedding and feed herself.

She's trying to convince me to like him....but this isoko woman ain't capping that shiit.

I just detest fvck lazy boiz.

aunty learn to mind your business for you to have so much information about their relationship clearly shows you dont know how to mind your business . The lady might see potentials you dont see . As long as they both have peace there is no manuscript to this thing called relationship , the girl can have the upper hamd now what if tables turn tomorrow . Aunty go find your own man biko

Michelle70:
Give them some break biko.
Its not always their fault.

Some tried to build something till late 20's only for the man to run away. e deh happen.

Some left school probably at 24 and build a career till late twenties, afterall if they didnt build, u will still tag them leech and how they didnt bring anything to the table.

I have read a story on NL where a married man decieved a lady to marry him, only to find out he was married on her wedding days, how could u blame her?

I have also read a story of how a man died, 2weeks to his marriage, would u blame the woman?

Some women prepare for marriage, and on wedding day, husband was nowhere to be found, ring sef dem no see.

Please being a Nigerian is enough to torment us, do not force someone into depression with ur words, Alot of kidnapping, rituals, forceful marriage is going on cos the society has decide to force a standard down our throat

If Warren buffet had set a standard for us, everybody was suppose to be a millionaire at 29yrs.

most ladies that fall into this category i feel their problem is self-gratification and lack of self-control .Self gratification is indulgence in certain acts to satisfy certain desires (money and sex ) many ladies went into relationship for the monetary gain thinking less if it was heading somewhere or not ,so they keep jumping from one man to the other as long as you can pay their bills before they know it reality sets in .Then the other part which is sex ,when it comes to sex the average Nigerian girl is misguided ,most dont even understand their own bodies talk less of understanding that of another person ,many started engaging in sexual activities from a very tender age and got it all wrong from there .Recently i was discussing with a female friend and i was surprised when she was free enough to discuss with me how she buys intimacy gadgets and all that shit ,mind you she is not yet married .So lets look at it from this angle for her to result to intimacy gadgets she must have tried different guys yet not getting the satisfaction she wants now she has resulted to intimacy gadgets ,this toys become addictive from once a week you find yourself using several times a day ,in the long run it becomes tiring cause her body is used to it then she opts to buy a bigger and better one .In the course of use males will become less pleasurable to her cause she is now dependent on this toys .So tell me how will such a lady get married so i feel most of them are the architect of their problems my own opinion though

Rexymania:
Man made, thugs or touts trying to steal

exactly my thoughts ,the last time i visited this market around December the amount of street urchins ,touts was alarming .Honestly the government and the store owners in Lagos island need to do something about those boys and their activities and their sense of entitlement is another annoying thing one almost beat me up cause i refused to give him some tip cause i asked for directions from him .

iamogunlowo:
Man spends heavily for his side chick.



https://mobile.twitter.com/JustKingss/status/1503360294629826567

oga you dont know the arrangement so just hold your peace .Dont be suprised if the gf's elder brother owns that house and all this is just a way to keep him under the radar .I actually know of a case where the landlord acts like a normal tenant in the house everybody reports to the lawyer .Guy na naija we dey

Zonefree:
You want to celebrate women on IWD and you're using a murderer

So much for women celebration!

the pageant is for only prisoners na wa ooo

Uyoha:
Almost wvery agency now has fake personnels. The most common is EFCC. You'd see fraudsters extorting other fraudsters.

May God deliver Nigerians from the spirit of 419

when abnormality becomes normal just know the system of the day has failed ,as kids it was difficult to hear someone impersonating as a common man o war ,now the hardship and failed system has made people more hardened and ready to do anything for survival

Zonefree:
Why she no go dance like that when she didn't contribute penny for the wedding.

Liability dancing into Asset.

the type of dance when you marry your kind of guy when everyone else does not know why you are sticking around the particular guy.Happiness is free

philme87:
Amid an online conversation on the widespread ritual killing carried out by young boys to make money through fraudulent means, a video of some young boys in a shrine has been shared online.

In the video, the young boys lip-synched to King Hemjay's "Ajitu Cruise". They were heard saying "no hustle o, pepeye you no go shenk. If we show you the way, shey you go fit do am? If you run too fast you go die young, if you run too slow you go die poor".

They also made sure that the entire shrine was captured in the video.

Watch the video below;


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i38OGedFfhQ

At this point I think we need social media regulation, people just wake up and post nonsense online misleading the public and portraying a very image of the country it is a video like this that encourage and make the younger generation believe rituals are real and end innocent lives for nothing. Another angle is Nollywood I think the film board needs to do more with all their ritualistic movies (start banning them). The other day I was speaking with a medical doctor and I was really disappointed with his view on these ritual killings he actually believes there is something called blood money if someone, as educated like that, believes in this shit then what happens to the ordinary layman in the village.The national orientation agency also needs to start working seriously

it is not really a big deal ,things have changed just moving to the neighbouring town or city is enough people don't really care anymore these days

Philip94:
My newly wedded wife always capitalize on what I did and said wrong eventhough she does and says wrong things to me which I most times overlook.

On many occasions, she will start giving me attitude and will pick up quarrel with me for weeks. I have told her countless times to always address issues she has with me immediately before it turns to a big quarrel.

She wont listen but will rather keep malice with me at any little misunderstanding we have.

Please, how can I find a lasting solution to my wife's unending quarrel, malice and resentment? I am already getting tired of rhe whole thing ��.

does she have something doing ? if she does not engage her in a little business that will keep her busy it helps a lot

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

how is your husband frustating you ? the total annual income in your home is less than $5000 (2 million naira) and you feel the next thing is to start bringing children into the world ,better go and acquire more skills and self development the way your hubby is going about it .before you are 40 you can still have 2 kids

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

madam better relax ,you have been having sex with your husband and all this while no pregnancy madam you might have fertility issues dont overflog it ooo my own 2 cents

Landmack:


beating up a child in a formal set up is barbaric,when he/she aint a beast of burden. there are mild punishments used in correcting a child. Those of u that were beaten and heads dipped in a pit latrine in school, turned out to be the most vile,emotionally unstable and evil beings here online and offline.

since the teachers can’t discipline them without been intimidated by their parents atleast the kids are now beating themselves to death I think that is a better option Rada rada

DIKEnaWAR:
See, if we all don't join hands to fix this country, it will consume us all. Rich people took their kids to an "upscale" school that they thought will be insulated from the vagaries of our hard knock life and ghetto disposition, but it turned out to be the biggest ghetto.

Small kids killing another like terrorists are the kinda fate rich Nigerians ascribe to the hoi poloi. But, they forget we all live in a big mad house in Nigeria. No one is insulated from the madness...both rich and poor.

Close the school, revoke their license and prosecute the owners, head teacher and house masters, alongside the students.

parents need to be cautioned and we need to start seeing hashtags like #stopintimidationofteachers . The way parents interfere in the schools this days is annoying some have even turned the school premises to their offices .Abeg make all this parents rest na them cause all this rubbish . Some of us were beaten and disciplined by soldiers when we were in secondary school we did not die and parents did not come to complain even children of colonels and generals got the same treatment . But small punishment these days the mothers have picked aso ebi to go fight the teachers and school management rada rada .

ZendayaColeman:
How can kids be this wicked? Is it that their parents/guardians don't show them love abi wetin happen gangan?

the situation is really a sad one , how parents have created loopholes in our school system now the kids are taking advantage of these loopholes . Just the other day a celeb brought school matters to social media that is pure intimidation of teachers and school management , a child is disciplined at school and the next day the mother is already at the school fighting the teacher if the school management takes appropriate measures the parent comes to social media to dent the image of the school . Now teachers are even too scared to discipline their students . God bless our parents way back where they would even authorize the school to give corporal punishment to the entire class or hostel if need be , I could remember way back some of our graduating seniors where detained at police cells just to discipline and tame them and let them stop harassment and bullying of other students . They have brought this over pampering into the school system and it is so so wrong

Moreign001:
Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.

I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.

I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.

We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...).
We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..

She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.

So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.

Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites.
Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".

Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.

This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her.
Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys.
Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.

you should have yourself to blame you are not yet ready to settle down why now involve yourself in a serious relationship , like what were you expecting ? She should sit around and wait till when you are ready and there is no guarantee you will even marry her when you are eventually ready .Baba abeg free the babe joor

Moreign001:

It will hurt me the more. I just want her to happy.

In a few years time you will actually be glad all this happened . Cause early and unplanned marriages have sent many into poverty .

Grgton:
yeah you have a point!! If need be, Mr obi cubana should go defend himself

wisdom is profitable to direct . In any situation you find yourself learn not to stick your head out too much * Hide your head * e get why

Grgton:
Typical jealousy!!

I knew this will be coming!!

As it begins

boss sometimes it good to ignore the messenger and focus more on the message , even past political office holders that go low key have their reasons no let fbi or Interpol get your time ooo .

Karlovych:
She's in for a long ride in a Nigerian prison, a lot of young people need to be taken to an excursion to a Nigerian prison to see what the conditions look like, maybe then a lot of them will think twice before committing crimes, she should face the consequences.

honestly I think the government should introduce it into our educational curriculum (maybe part of activities of freshers week) so this young adults know better . Omo men nothing is worth your life or freedom not money not sex

Thebest12:
Hello Good morning nairalanders ,
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Pls I want to know am I about to experience heart break or I should do that now before she does it to me . My girlfriend just posted someone LOML . I just saw that on her stories. I investigated deeply and I found the guy's username . I saw that the guy has been commenting on her posts recently and I wonder why she posted the guy LOML . I tried to ask her but some people adviced me not to and that I should watch from distance. Okay just when I have decided to freestyle the matter , today again she posted same guy again . I am so pained right now , and confused.

Am I about to experience heart break .? Should I kuku end the relationship now ? Pls I need your advice

not every relationship should end in marriage some will just be a learning process for you , Oga focus more on yourself and become a better person . If the bad ones don’t go the good one won’t come Shikena

Befii:
Somehow, d murder maynot have bin intentional. Think about this - a 21 years old undergraduate staying with her dad and other family members wouln't jus murder a 49yrs old billonaire jst like dat. M beginning to see some truth in her story. Sometin went wrong. She isn't mad enough to come up with such plan, imagine where d whole tin took place.
She was aware, people knew they where dating & they had actually spent time together @ public joints. So m tinking, she wouldn't reason coverin up d murder was gona b easy. Another point to prove her innocency, d poor girl was easily apprehended by d police. If she had planned it, dnt u tink she could hv manage to cover up & stay off police radar. My people, sometin went wrong. Somehw someone took excess advantage & exploited her young age as he was a billonaire. Cnt u see d injustice. He did drugs & has excess money, it possible he abused d poor girl.

on a second thought I think the drugs and weed they took caused all this , the intake of drugs and illegal substance in the country now is so alarming and I think the government needs to start taking serious measures to stop this wildfire . It is so bad people smoke weed and sk in public places like bars and hotels like it is just cigarettes . Once weed and drugs is in the body system things can go out of control within minute you see two love birds or good friends become outright enemies . Two lives wasted for nothing

Chuka200:


Very possible that seeing the amount in the account got her mesmerized and she decided to act smart she probably told one or two people cuz they said she had a Nigerian passport on her when she was caught.. This is an act of desperation and wickedness in the part of her helper. This guy must have helped her n her family very well with more promises to do more..people who you help always come back to hurt u or be ur enemy

my brother we need to be much more careful don’t ever reveal your pin to anybody and make sure when punching it on any pos or atm nobody is watching . Let me share my own experience there is this particular pos I use very close to my house during the COVID lockdown I did not like touching the pos so I told the attendant my pin one day to press it herself I thought nothing of it , I was surprised some weeks later I used the same pos and she put the pin herself (she memorized it) it was then it dawned on me i made a very costly mistake , imagine she had criminal intentions and profiled me with the kind of car I drive and the house I stay (cos her stand is very close to my street) and with the amounts I withdraw it is just a matter of double crossing me and getting my atm card and possible make an attempt on my life for uninterrupted withdrawals please we need to be more careful

GrammarNazi1:

In fact, one of the reasons why she killed him might be the possession of the password.

that was what triggered her to kill him .To me her story is not adding up , she somehow figured out the pin to the atm card (most probably out of the mans carelessness while using pos consciously or sub consciously) they have been hanging out for long so that is not rocket science to get . Then she killed him so she could make uninterrupted withdrawals via atm machines and pos points but I guess luck ran against her . This is an eye opener for everyone on how careless use of atm card and pin can make you a soft target of robbery and murder . We have desperate people all over the place now just looking for the slightest opportunity to take advantage .It is well

CoolJulian:
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Does this your experience now make it right/proper for one to be drawn to, and abandoned in a strange land? What kind of experience can ever justify carrying out such a wicked act against a fellow human, abeg?

abandoned in a strange land when it is within nigeria ,boss i am not justifying what he did but come on think about it 16k to live on for 3 months and we know it will be more than 3 months .When ever i am visiting lag if i do not have money to put at a hotel i always take atleast something tangible to support wherever i will be staying with the way the economy is to even feed an extra mouth is a big problem for alot of people