₦airaland Forum

Franking:
So? Collect the money and retract make we rest.

There's so much on everyone's plate right now.

dont mind her in her little mind she thought she has met her cash cow , she end her marriage now her cash cow don run her street . Alot of ladies es have fallen victim to such they cant just come out to cry

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders. Merry Christmas and a prosperous happy new year in advance to each and every one of us here

My girlfriend called me last night to request for money for Christmas hair. She knows I'm presently broke and doesn't have the amount of money she's demandingly for. So I told her to go and cut her hair . She took that as an offense and been angry with me since the conversation started. She has been demanding for 30knfor hair and 80k for clothes for the Christmas. To make the whole matter Worst,she told me the relationship may end along with 2025 if I fail to provide the money for her. Those words have been ringing in my head since she dropped them ,but I'm confused and I don't know if that's enough reason to end a relationship of over 3 years+ which we've suffered to build together,all because of ordinary Christmas hair and clothes . Is she normal at all?

Please my fellow Nairalanders, should I consider this as a red flag and dump her cos I don't think I've done anything wrong to her by asking her to cut her hair . She even looks more prettier on low hair cut ,from her look during the last time she cut her hair

use it as a wake up call to work harder and do away with such a person or she might be using it to ginger you to be honest some guys need such

Revealer3:
They thought they were upgrading. They thought leaving their husbands for “freedom” and “independence” would give them peace, happiness, and self-discovery.

These are painful realities women only realize after destroying their marriage:

1. No one else will tolerate what their husband did: That man they dumped was patient, loving, and forgiving. But outside, no man is willing to deal with your entitled, combative behavior.

2. Feminism doesn’t pay rent: Online feminists will hype you up, but when you’re broke, lonely, and falling apart, they won’t offer a dime or a shoulder.

3. Sexual market value drops with age: You’re not 24 anymore. You’re older, with more baggage and less patience. The options shrink. The demands increase. And most men now want younger, feminine, peaceful women.

4. “Freedom” is just loneliness in disguise: You thought you were escaping a “boring marriage,” now you’re eating dinner alone, faking happiness on Instagram, and battling depression in silence.

5. Your kids suffer the most: You broke a family to chase trends. Now the children grow up emotionally fractured. No father. No stability. No structure.

6. Being a single mother is not a badge of honor: You thought it made you strong? It made life 10 times harder. Now no high-value man wants to sign up for a ready-made burden.

7. Hypergamy has a deadline: You wanted a richer man, a more exciting man. Now you realize the pool you thought was full is actually shallow.

8. Attention is not the same as respect: You may still get likes and DMs. But no one respects you anymore. You’re entertainment, not investment.

9. Peace is priceless, and you threw it away: He wasn’t perfect, but he gave you peace. Now your world is chaos, drama, and anxiety. And you caused it.

10. The internet doesn’t care about your regret: You followed strangers online, now you’re suffering offline. And guess what? They’ve moved on. You’re the one paying the price.

This is the reality of modern women who traded submission for rebellion, family for fantasy, and wisdom for TikTok advice.

Marriage Tv

too many are already on this path before they realise it our society is very judgemental thats the only advice i give ladies about to make the terrible mistake even if it happened 10 years ago

BlackViper:
Edo, Saudi and Irish. Such an unusual mixture of ethnicities

he can say this with posting looks like posting to lure ladies for scam abeg oooo

izicooo:
i'm really sorry for sounding indifferent here, please pardon my mannerz; what i'm trying to understand is, how two adults having sexual relationship, how is that suppose to be an issue? if this was a case of rape or defilement it would have been understandable. Them dey always tell men, mount your guard (financially, bedroom & in several other aspect) or else person go wipe your wife.

them everyone's woman should start sleeping around then you can't be 100 percent in everything that's why we have divorce . It is easy to say whatever you like when you are not the victim we should not encourage such acts alot of people lack contentment out there and cheat for no reason other than financial gains

AWONEYAN:
This Young generation, when you give them little opportunity to the pulpit, they will start asking for leadership.

Let the young men sit down and learn. And allow God to work on them

dont just follow the crowd calm down and listen to this mans sermon you will see the difference this man used to be a lecturer why dont people know baba is very smart and the perfect man for the job look at home he answered the question

NOETHNICITY:
Can you see what
the action of thief has caused some other people?

https://www.nairaland.com/8494458/nnpc-sacks-pump-attendant-suspends

oga i still blame the woman and instead of her to learn and be smart na people like you and your thinking go land her for 6 ft some driving you is pulling a petty trick of 30k and you let him drive you around this dangerous city cause you want to feel like a madam so if assasims should offer her driver 50k he will be the one to shoot his madam himself , na the poverty mind side wey you for me pain me i no suppose dey follow you talk anything if i dey naija oga na me dey handle the hilux steering the benz na for distraction just incase make she dey video herself cos of 30k dey cry she no even dey think about her life and how to begin drive herself and keep the little change she dey ay driver for her purse nonsense na she be herself problem and people like you

NOETHNICITY:
What is preventing the driver from going to get the good paying job out there?
All this poverty mindset to justify theft ain’t going work

my oga you can make your point without insulting or using certain words ,did you not do comprehension in school ,so with what i have stated above you cant still see my point of view ,what do you know about human management ? Have you managed employed people before and how many and for how long ? you said something about poverty mind set you just hide behind a moniker and talk to others monikers online like you know them in person ,with you thinking and naija state of mind you think i am trying to justify the drivers actions or something once people like you can afford to rent a flat whereever in lagos and drive an economy car you think you have made it ,and can others are struggling .I dont think anyone that is well paid will engage in such petty stealing and it goes to both the woman and the owner of the gas station . Rada rada

Shawarmagirl:
Kemi is a patriotic UK citizen, I love her energy. Nigeria is a messed up country.

looking for unnecessary attention even the white guys have said it to her face severally looking for cheap points and credits make aunty abeg even the white guys are not doing this much

NOETHNICITY:
How does this justify the theft?
How is she the suspect?
The driver had the choice of not working for her na. Is anyone preventing him from getting his deserved salary out there?
What kind of bad mindset is this?

you call it bad mindset , I can bet she is not paying that driver up to 100k ,the same amount she knows is not enough for her kid in the university and she expects the driver not to steal from her she should be happy it is just fuel and 30k not her vehicle make she dey play for there she will soon learn the Hard way if she can't pay the proper renumeration she should start driving herself and stop forming unnecessary madam

onome25:
😱my brother it's just too much haba ...
out of 50k na 20k fuel them put no nah....
pocket 30k 😂😂😂😂
the driver has bin doing it for long na God say that day be d 99 days for the thief & one day was use to catch d useless thief 😂😂😂

I don't blame the driver alot of people like cheap labour this is what happens when you are looking for cheap labour you want to may your domestic staff below minimum wage they will only end up stealing from you it is that simple see the madam forming victim and na she be the main suspect for the whole situation rada rada I don't pity such people because of cheap labour you will employ aboki that you don't even know his real name and expect him to watch over your property worth millions ,when he does the unthinkable you will now be claiming victim

fabolouz1:
congrats girls .
$100,000 is waiting for you and a five bedroom duplex in eko Atlantic City.
Wailers would develop heart attack and the undertakers would make brisk biz.

I trust my 001 fgn $100k baba no be city boy for nothing him go run am

Holluwhakemmy:
From your comment here I can see you are not wise and you are still a little boy who doesn't kown anything about relationship talkless of marriage.
So because you have spent much time and money you will open your eyes and go further to marry a person who both of you have health challenges giving birth to SS children.
Do you even know the consequences?.
No professional Doctor/Nurse will advise you to go ahead and marry someone with genotype problem.

these things are not issues in some countries anymore that have the necessary equipments do you finding very well and give people the right advice the pre implantation process is the same as ivf just that the ss cells will be eliminated using a petri dish and cost a bit extra tleast people dey use 3-4m do bbl so spending 7-8m for a healthy baby is not bad either

[quote author=Kayberg post=136303305]How did this country get to this point? 🥺
Like, what is going on exactly?
These never happened all these years…
i can authoritatively say these kidnappers are not Nigerians we might have corrupt leaders and bad economy nut as a people we are kind ,irrespective of religion or tribe Nigerians are kind people .It is clear this people are not part of us but one way or the other they have entered into our country its time we start protecting our borders and immigration services need to start arresting and questioning suspected people cause these outsiders cant mix with other tribes easily like they do with the northerners please before we start giving jobs to these kind of people kindly verify their identity dont because of cheap labour just employ anybody that comes up we need to start presenting proper identification nd government should also make it nearly impossible to get this identity cards it is obvious outsiders are in our midst now there people are from war torn places they have no form of emphathy why kidnap farmers ,pos agent these are commoners but these outsiders dont care they just wan money any which way ,and for people that help them in anyway to get into this country it shall not be well with them ,please lets be guided anybody you doubt their identity report to the police or immigration no matter how familiar their way of life looks like yours cause ithese people are getting into Nigeria easyly and claiming to be nigerians ,wehen i was out of the country i met a guy who was claiming to be a nigerian at a party ,but the way he was speaking it was obvious he was not a nigerian it is becoming that bad cos when we challenged him his explanation was not sraight we have outsiders in our midst already please report suspected people

kokoA:
We no follow you dey inside your bedroom to know weather your pillow dey wet on per second billing maw... Wetin concern me sef.

Abi we no dey see that part ,abeg seperation don turn thing it is better to be alone than having a toxic person by you all day long ,a person that can push you beyond your limit .Dont let anyone kill you or send you jail .Jail no be nice place

Lately the access bank staff and contact centre has been so slow and non chalant , some months back i was about to leave the country so i was forced to visit a branch of the access bank ,to increase my transaction limit i got there and did all i was told to do ,spent almost the whole day there and they told me it would be done .Only for me to get to my destination nothing was done i tried to contact them all to no avail .Now i have another account with diamond bank that is now access bank ,i have applied for a migration of the account cause i need to access that account it is almost 2 weeks now and it has not been done ,they have called me on whatapp fo verification and all that still nothing as been done .I am really getting fed up with them and i have been with them right from the days of intercontinental it is really heart breaking

ExAngel007:
Nigerian gay rights activist, Bisi Alimi, has
alleged that Enugu state is a retirement home for crazy homos£xuals.

In a post shared on his Instastories, Bisi advised Nigerian gays to run for their lives if they come in contact with any gay man from Enugu state.

According to him, no one is ‘Sane’ in the state.

hmmm , i am beginning to suspect a family friend of mine ,how a yoruba man just decided to retire in Enugu .And he was never married he had kids but he lived alone most of his life

bnanny:
Bro never trust a Nigerian girl oo. Even so called church girls are worst than oloshos and every Nigerian girls now are open oloshos or coded oloshos. .
Remember all the sad endings of Nigerian boys abroad who brought their wife's from village. A girl who knows nothing before in Nigeria will come abroad and start claiming right because they want to go into prostitution where the quick money is.

the truth is alot of naija ladies are misguided when it comes to sex , a resent analysis showing the most visited websites in nigeria i think 2 pornographic sites were among . Now this is it alot of people want to act or experience what they see in adult movies forgetting these people are professionals and have been given serious medications on healthy doses to perform that way hence when they try one partner and he does not perform that way they go to another before you know it their body count starts to increase . Some dont even understand their body ,many ladies dont even know not all women cum through penetrative sex , you see some with very poor personal hygiene look for a man to perfor
MouthAction with them cause they have seen it in an adult movie , not withstanding some men have natural strenght but not so many of them .So they keep exploring and looking for what is not lost . Some are even dating guys who use enhancers daily taking all sorts of opiums on a daily basis then when they get married to such guys and sex is initiated impromptu the guys fail to deliver then problems start . My advice to any man out there marry a matured and exposed lady that knows all these facts and figures for your own peace of mind

Holluwhakemmy:
From your comment here I can see you are not wise and you are still a little boy who doesn't kown anything about relationship talkless of marriage.
So because you have spent much time and money you will open your eyes and go further to marry a person who both of you have health challenges giving birth to SS children.
Do you even know the consequences?.
No professional Doctor/Nurse will advise you to go ahead and marry someone with genotype problem.

next time try not to insult others before you make your point .Lately alot of men prefer going for ivf cause the rate of paternity fraud is high especially for people that stay abroad and people that work far away from home , cause alot of people look at ivf as a taboo may we not be victims of paternity fraud

Holluwhakemmy:
From your comment here I can see you are not wise and you are still a little boy who doesn't kown anything about relationship talkless of marriage.
So because you have spent much time and money you will open your eyes and go further to marry a person who both of you have health challenges giving birth to SS children.
Do you even know the consequences?.
No professional Doctor/Nurse will advise you to go ahead and marry someone with genotype problem.

madam do your findings before commenting on public forums like this have you heard of In vitro fertilization (IVF) with preimplantation genetic screening ?? It cost about 5-8m naira , if you can afford it go for it . People undergo surgeries more expensive that this all the time . So even if the genotype of the parents is right. It does not guarantee a child can not suffer from certain comditions that will require more than this amount . It takes the grace of God to have a healthy child . And on the other hand do you realise alot of intending couples spend more than this amount yearly on frivolities , so stop making As + AS sound like a death sentence ,it is not ideal but seek medical guidance if you can afford it then go for it

LoveUdie:
I met my husband at university as an undergraduate.

We started as friends and it grew into something beautiful.

After graduation and NYSC, we got jobs and worked for a while.

A few years later we got married.

A few months after marriage my husband changed.

First of all, he ordered me to resign from my job.

We fought over that for months until I gave in for peace to reign.

A few months after that he began mistreating me.

Any little misunderstanding we have he'll remove the smart card from our cable so I don't watch TV.

Once the cable subscription expires, he'll refuse to subscribe again or order me not to subscribe even when I can afford to.

To make matters worse, he'll lock the kitchen door and take the keys along with him to work, so I can't cook or eat.

Then he'll lock me inside our house so I can't go out to eat.

He did it the first time and started to keep malice.

I decided to apologize for peace to reign.

After I apologized he kept malice with me for another month.

I kept my cool and kept watching.

The next time we had a misunderstanding he did the same things.

He did it a third time and I found out that it's now a pattern.

The next time he locked me inside after a misunderstanding I left before he returned.

I decided to take spare keys to all the doors before we had a misunderstanding.

I took the decoder with me and switched off my phone for over a week.

When I switched it on he had sent me so many angry texts and WhatsApp voice notes.

Once I left I informed my family that I wanted out of the marriage.

My Father advised that I give him some space instead, but I knew I was done with the marriage.

He thre.aten.ed me for a while about ending the marriage, but when he found out I didn't care, he mellowed down and changed his tone.

He reached out to my family to apologize for how he treated me.

He said he didn't know what came over him asking me to return home.

My Father refused saying there's a lot to be sought out.

My Father insisted that I couldn't be unemployed because he didn't invest in me to sit at home.

My husband accepted that I could get another job and promised never to starve me or lock me inside, but I don't trust him anymore.

I never believed he could turn around to treat me the way he did like a common criminal.

Imagine denying me food and locking me inside the house.

Asking me to resign my job was the worst and refusing to provide for me.

Now he is acting sorry and remorseful but it's all a show to me.

He is pleading with me to return home but my Father is as suspicious as me.

My Mum feels that I should give him a chance but I have a bad feeling about returning to him because I feel he'll get worse if I return.

I no longer have any interest in marriage anymore, I just want to know if I'm making a mistake because now I fear for my life.

I fear that I'm no longer safe because of the way he suddenly changed and became remorseful.

I feel it's just an act.

I don't want to make a mistake that I'll regret.

What I don't understand is why you'll marry someone and do all this.

Take away the smart card of the decoder, lock the kitchen, and lock someone Inside the house so that......https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/2024/08/how-to-be-faithful-and-naughty-to-your.html

Madam i wont tell you to leave or stay in your marriage but ponder on these words before you make your decision "In as much you feel where you are accepted is inappropriate for you also have it at the back of your mind you might not also be accepted where you feel is appropriate for you " now let me break it down you leave your marriage you will be searching for a replacement cause of shame and self respect you will be very picky but the man you left will be enjoying alot of attention from different women willing to cook for him amd even give him their bodies some are even ready for him to step on their heads cause they have all learnt the hard way thats just the irony of life . Dont even think rejecting a man is punishing him , you are only punishing and complicationg your life . No matter what it is you both should try to resolve it abeg ooo

BigYash:
Una love don expire.. Accept it that way.. Your father sef get as him take dey. If say na so his wife dad do his wife,will your mom still be in his house today? Which kind useless investment he dey talk about? You should have stopped her from marrying at first,since you invested. Your dad is suppose to be a peacemaker maker in all these not the other way round,even though your said husband self na big Werey for treating you the way he did. What are your own faults? You no talk your own now o,na your husband you dey hammer on. You might have also been the reason the love he had for you died easily..

believe stories like this at your own peril , when a womans eyes is already outside she picks little little meaningless details , i did not see anything like domestic violence and you never said whatever lead to these incidents , madam better go amd calm down and submit to your man . Outside no good ooo them no dey tell person , small boys go use you do yeye , even your family will laugh at you last last na person wey you no ever believe say you go ever agree to even talk to go begin sleep with you be wise , the journey you are about to embark on does not end the way you assume it will , that your husband you are condemming you go see the sweet woman wey don learn her leason go quickly grab am . Aunty just dey play

Holluwhakemmy:
It is even better for you to be separated rather than facing the problems ahead because you will blame yourself at long run, so be happy, move on and find yourself another beautiful woman which will match your health.

stop these kind of talk at this age and era it is not ideal but seek medical counseling aunty, first in Nigeria relationships arent cheap no matter how you want to argue it time amd money , and moreover when you visit general hospitals you will know there are more serious conditions that even 20-30 million will not solve with 7m you can solve the genotype issue go amd seek proper medical advice , dating the average nigerian girl you will spend close to that in a year

Oyindamolah:
The law of detachment, stop over loving people, learning to be quiet when everything going good

no matter the situation dont ever over play your role , some will see it as desperation ,some will see it as your weakness .The energy you get is what you should give most importantly life is per head a few years down the line you might not even hear or see these set of people again so why overflog yourself over something that is not guaranteed

kingsways:
Dangote is too big to run as Vice to anyone. He is even bigger than Trump who came from business to win US

nope he his not he his not a politician but he would be good for a vice right now i feel we need him and obi they would resolve alot of things in this country

obi for president and dangote for vice is not a bad idea then a sowore for senate president looks like a sure ticket to me

Oluromantic:
Its not surprising to hear that. No single man would want to date (-probably leading to marriage) a woman with children and a woman once married won't want to date a single inexperienced guy. The status of being once married still lingers in their mind. This divorce thing only has a good start when signing the papers, it never has a good end

in a very short period reality sets in and they now understand most single guys and divorced men are not going to marry them they just need them for intimacy so they rather chill with the married that is ready to spend and keep hoping and praying a single or divorced man that is serious miraculously comes around

Sonnobax15:

Another reason why men should enjoy their lives while they are still alive in stead of acquiring different properties all in the name of --'I am securing my children's future by building houses and land".

Cuz the moment after you die,the way those your so-called children and wife go do collabor just to dey whip-whip and sell sell your properties go even shock you for your grave

not just property alone , even your wife you cherished so much will be used vigorously by another man that might not wven be up yo your standard , thats why i pity men that carry these properties and women for head .

SAMBARRY:
cutting the Head is not the solution to solving headache.the police should get to the bottom of this and fish out the little murderers.you don't throw the baby with the bath water by shutting down the school because of some animalistic boys.there are decent and we'll brought up students that know why they are in school and are focused.they can't thwart or interrupt their education because of those useless boys.na the boys wey police suppose face including all the porters that were on duty that night the incident happened as well as the security and neighbors of the boys.nobody can claim they didn't hear anything.even if they were sleeping the noise of the aggressors and the victim was supposed to draw attention or at least the neighbors should have reported to the security in the school.

you are right in a way , but most parents feel these private universities are safe havens for their kids failing to realise some of the intakes have been expelled from numerous universities and the private one is their last resort . So imagine a naive teenager sharing hostel space with a hardened student expelled from various other schools for different reasons (cultism, drugs, poor grades ) when will bullying not take place . Back in the day i went to a public university and stayed in one of the feared hostels new hall to be precise it was not for the weak but to my utmost suprise it was one of the safest hostels to stay cause the older ones watched out for the new intakes there was even security 24 hours , man o war had rooms on each floor to stop situations like this . I just hope the necessary action is taken

SAMBARRY:
exactly.i don't even buy the he stole a phone accusation.i suspect he was forced into cultism and the dead boy said no,so in retaliation they beat him to death and used stealing as a convenient excuse to cover for their wickedness

Meanwhile leave the v.c out of this.is the VC supposed to leave his house and be monitoring what the boys are doing in their hostels? Is the VC the parents of the murderers? Is it the vcs job to give the boys home training that they are supposed to collect from their homes

Anyway the Matter don go beyond the one wey you dey talk.parents if you like keep giving birth to dysfunctional children and children you cannot train.na frustrated police men go help you use beating train your children for cell.If God now wan punish you,make some of the parents be single moms or parents wey dey use cooperative money (gbomu Le lantern) pay their childrens school fees.una ho smell your yansh

Oyinbo say there's Time for everything.theres a time to instill godly values in your children especially in their formative years,if you don't do that, when the age pass,na monsters and wild animals go be your children.if you no even dey careful your pikin fit rape you especially with the wild and untrained boys we see everywhere on the streets and in schools

private universitiees like this should be closed even in a public university you cant beat someone for so long and no authority was called or invovled , they just charge high fees so the other students could not go call school security or something , i suspect cult related activities thats why the other students did not report the issue NUC SHOULD SEAL THESE SCHOOL ASAP

The perpetrators no get names they are above 18 let them publish their names simple as A B C

Soldiers no suppose dey interfere for civil matters , na so my gateman go bring soldiers for me , i just jejely call higher rank for barracks hilux of soldiers show carry the two soldier to barracks direct to guard room , them dey misuse their power well well