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Op don’t get yourself worked up , your mum should have herself to blame cause this habit of your dad did not start today or yesterday .she should have made corrections right from the very beginning “what you won’t accept on sunday better start rejecting it from Friday “ and most of us should learn from this , just try to find support for your mum and double your hussle that is all

Norphiee:
Our lecturer

so what happened to your lecturer ?

What the fv.ck are you doing with an 18 year old on your contact list if she's not related to you?

so everyone on your contact should be related to you ?

Mumu men

The most irritating is when you see a young girl that is barely 18 all you see on her status is related to relationship or marriage , when she should be concentrating on her education or learning a skill Na wa ooo

989900:
Oworo? This ain't funny!

Twitter is saying Sawmill boys chased them away already, is it true?
Oworo is not an easy target anyday, anytime . . . you can't attack Oworo without incurring the wrath of Bariga (Odunsi, New garage, etc.).

confam you sabi . Maybe them think say na ikotun or egbeda “IJA WA IJA OSI ALWAYS ON GUIDING “

humble2:
Hello people

Please help with your inputs....I will be very brief.

A man married a woman.. the marriage produced a kid. Along the line they had an unreconcilable issue...I called it unreconcilable because the man had begged the woman, called elders and everyone in sight to help beg but the woman is unforgiving. Now after some years of the woman staying out of their matrimonial home. (Cos she moved out with the children) she called the man and told him she wants to move on and remarry and that the man should tell her how to return the dowry paid on her. She is also making the man sign an undertaking that he can always come to see the children whenever he wants. Though the agreement didn't state that the children can always visit their father whenever they want.

Now my question,, should the man accept the dowry or he should reject it but let her move on?

Secondly, the agreement stating that he can only visit the children at her maybe new home. Is it proper? Cos as it is the children cant go to their fathers. Please ur opinions are welcomed.. DNT mind my typography.

op don’t let anybody pressurize you into accepting bride price back .It is a recent tactic many families use to cover up for their kids .I will advice you to get a lawyer then also insist on a dna test for the kids (so you know what you are fighting for rightfully belongs to you ) Paternity fraud is real

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

op let him continue to fetch .he had enough money to buy a land and build a house ,he collects rent monthly and finds it too difficult to put a borehole or a well in the house .Forming macho man fetching water all over the place with his age .I guess he will have enough money to see the doctors very soon . Water is very essential for every household so don’t joke with water

rabzy:
Hmmm unbelievable, there are indeed weird people in the world. Cave men abound. So because you are Mr universe, you are free to take advantage. This is a sting operation, and it is a standard practise in investigations all over the world. The school has dismissed them, maybe you should sue your alma mater for unlawful dismissal.

shut up ,he was only suspended before calling others cave men ,only cave men dont read and comprehend easily ,sting operation under what loco standi going to a lecturer to solicit for admission when he has little or nothing to do to affect the admission process in the university system or maybe their sting operation was to go out there to seduce lecturers and label them otherwise rada rada

Asowebdesign:
From experience I've learnt that those who act godly are not to be trusted......



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why do people keep forgetting
Pastors are humans too and no human is perfect ,for me bbc and kiki mordi should go to hell .what was the stupid admission seeker doing in his office is he the addmission officer or is he jamb ,we have heard testimony from a student how nice this man is .Lets look at this issue fairly lets not use cause BBC is involved to punish this man unjustly their useless investigation would have held water if it happened to a student who was already given addmission amd he was asking her for the sex for grade for his course ,even the whole headline of the investigation is misleading sexforgrade ,which grade are we talking about here jamb grade abi course grade .we need something more concrete we need an existing student to come out to make claims and bring proof not all this useless investigation from a shabby bbc journalist throwing herself to naija men seducing them they form undercover investigation.BBC should better wake up naija men no be uk men oooo any girl wey go do anyhow or go dey form seduction na fucking for her , she is even lucky she should go amd try it with some lecturrers wey be men dem na she go even pull her pants Bleep them free of charge lecturers that have swag abi no be my alma mata again some lecturers in that school have money and swag oo .Lecturers that many undergraduates and postgraduate big girls are tripping for .Kiki and bbc are both crazy na yeye dey worry una

realestniggah:
Why is the focus on the journalist rather than the fucking_animals who call themselves pastors/lecturers?

Are the cabals trying to discredit her?

Well Huge KUDOS to her, for her courage, commitment, activism and sense of Justice! Very proud of her.

what is an undergraduate frolicking around a male lecturer for she should go and pass jamb and post ume rather than looking for favors from lecturers that is the problem if you do the righthing you can never meet yourself in this situation the investigation is baseless to me you went to seduce the man now you are saying shit poor ass journalism lazy youth.Madam kiki you can as well drench yourself in fuel then light up a match and see the outcome rada rada .It is as simple as this if you don't make yourself available around this lecturers they won't venture into that area read and pass your courses and if the lectuerer fails you and you are sure of what you wrote you can report to higher authority and this is where xams and records come in they will tell a senior lecturer to grade the sheets that is okay not all this rubbish madam kiki is doing .how can you grade someone that is not yet a student rubbish you have no idea how many admission seekers disturb this people on a daily basis asking for what is not possible abeg I no blame baba man shall not.live by bread alone .

neonly:
Me I have just closed my account with them on Tuesday I have using dat bank for 18yrs now but recently their service is a no no for me very annoying staff I nearly beat one of them when I was in ikorodu
ATM issues sha really sick of bank now
I miss sanusi sha

the most annoying is sending them an email on the email address provided on their website and you dont get a reply even after 4 days it is really messed up

Since the merger or acquisition of Access bank and diamond bank i can authoritatively say their services have been so poor .From overcrowded banking halls to few tellers attending reluctantly to customers.The most annoying is numerous failed pos transactions .I did one on August 6th at a petrol station .I went as far as sending them emails and i visited their branch .I was told it would be corrected 27th of August after the long wait it is now 31st of August and nothing has been done .I visited the bank yesterday and the customer care gave a flimsy excuse he did not even bother to check the status of the reversal or nothing .The most annoying is you send them an email during working hours and it takes them sometimes 3-4 days to reply you .Please the relevant authorities should look into the activity of this bank and stop punishing people unnecessarily .I can imagine what students and low income earners pass through in these hard times cause of the carefree attitude of this bank

must dey torment us with akpeyi again .We have many people in naija here that will do better than DE GEA sef

lordsd:
Useless country keep arresting y not ask yourself y this boys keep Increasing 99 percent of them are either graduates or students in school but the country is not giving hope yahoo be like the highest employer of labor now employ dis boys and see

Dont say that ,we all know the country is hard .Do you think if Efcc wants to really do their job it is just this 9 ,10,20,30 they are arresting here and there .The ones that get arrested are the over bearing ones ( is it so hard to live like a normal and responsible person.Efcc wont just wake up and start going to people's houses they work based on petition and information do you actually even know how many petitions they overlook ? The truth is Efcc has the right to arrest and investigate even a lawyer or Doctor that lives recklessly once petitions are submitted against such persons.When i was home on my yearly visit i was shocked at the hotel my younger cousin lodged me in ,Group of small boys and girls all over the place drinking and smoking doing drugs .If this is what has to be done to bring sanity back to our society so be it .One question we should all ask ourselves by the time the era of these free money and fraud finishes what will these youths turn too ? what do you expect from a person that sees $1000 as chicken change and can spend more than that a night on drinks ? Most of these boys will turn to armed robbery and kidnapping when the money stops and that will be an external cost on all of us .It is well

Vega100:
You have a point though, but Ghana is visa free, go there and see the number of Nigerians there perpetrating evil., and corrupting their people.

the cost of living in Ghana is not so high with 50k you can go to ghana via road .How many people can afford 200k for airfares and south africa is generally expensive to stay

Vega100:
u are the only sensible person on this thread...

However, SA should be careful including Nigeria into that list, cause Nigerians are so criminally minded, they will just flood their country and do worse than they are doing now, all the crimes and criminality u can mention being perpetrated by Nigerians would quadruple, consequent of our inordinate quest for riches at the detriment and expense of every other thing.
That's Nigerians for u, that's how we perceive life over here, and the reason for our perpetual failures and retrogression as a state, which has no end in sight..
That's Nigerians for you. Avoid them if you want to advance, mentality over here is very depraved and perverted.

i like your opinion but why not look at it from these point of view .These is to control unnecessary overstay of illegal immigrants in their country once entry and exit is made easy it becomes unattractive to alot of immigrants looking for greener pastures .Then the once that still go will not make it a do or die affair to live in the country once they make little money they will go back to their country cause they know the can always come back.And south african government will make more money from these .And this will reduce the xenophobic attacks

Omoluabi16:
Until the government start closing these hotels before dem go get sense. How can you not have a pool lifeguard in your service??

incidents like this can be easily avoided if the government starts doing their job.When will the government start visiting these hotels ,restaurants to check things are being done in the standard way also they should check the activities of all these bukas too some should be shut down permanently especially in lagos

Op sorry but it should not be this serious ,did she catch you on top of any woman ? this is what too much telemundo,zee world ,africa magic epicc,show case causes ,when i was home for the holidays and i watched some of the movies and soaps many of them send women on the wrong part pele she will come around

ReeLoaDead:
@OP: Seems a little harsh to get upset over a flirty chat ... unless there are some more details you have left out, like you have gone "digging"

Abi ? my advice to the op better focus on your life and your goals ,stop calling and texting all the time , once or twice a day is to show you are sorry but don't over push it .Now op i don't wanna hurt how you feel but i think you should use this opportunity to set a new dimension in your relationship what happened to "no checking of each others phones" ? You must always find something there or things that will make you assume in the wrong direction .op most of the ladies out there not yet married have atleast 3 to 4 sex mates even when they are in a serious relationship this might just be a case of reverse physcology for her to go run her shows so you need to observe carefully also but dont over do it and make wrong assumptions .

Rolly22:
Bros I hate this country and it's citizens with passion. Always promoting Mediocrity

going to a student community with few personels to arrest students this people no even they fear ,students can be very difficult to deal with and this can lead to complete breakdown of law and other in these commnunities and the innocent indigenes and student will end up being the casualities ,the way this thing is going i dont see anything good coming out of these

LordKO:
Balderdash. So if your poor and uneducated wife of today becomes more wealthy and formally educated than you tomorrow, you'll divorce or kill her.

Marry a virtuous/strong-minded woman, with her you won't have a frenemy in any condition, so long as you remain good to her.

baba you nailed it .from the little i know about marriages ,disparity in income or level of education has nothing to do with respect ,RESPECT IS EARNED .Marriage is teamwork and each player knows his roles and duties and must be ready to fulfill this roles at any given time with little or no support from the other player (except in some cases).The fact a woman has a phd does not mean she wont cook for her family and the fact a man is a farmer does not mean he wont put a roof over his family and food on the table ,once you don't see yourself performing these roles easily then know it is not the right time for you to get married .It is painful many use income disparity as a yard stick to be lazy and care free and leech on their partners

kevin25:
the man is a very quiet man the wife dnt see him as anybody but she respect men who are rich or literate yes she does it... It is bcoz she knows the genesis of the man? Had it been she met the man financially ok i dnt think she wil insult him

shatta wale said it all " I KNOW MY LEVEL" this is my advice to any man out there when it comes to the issues of getting married and child bearing be financially prepared if not you go suffer no be small dont let any woman sweet talk you into these things they are good at saying baby anything we see we go eat even if na garri na big fat lie oooo .

AryaSand:
That king is the most useless king in the history of Ikorodu. Very Shameless human.

dont blame the king ,blame the government of the day when you prefer beautifying a state than creating employment this is the end result (a very beautiful city filled with criminals).I will use Bariga Ilaje as a reference here (where sharp sand is sold) that place as been in existence before i was born i am going close to 40 now ,despite the crude means used in getting this sand they devised a means to put food on the table of sand sellers,tipper drivers,the guys that get the sand ,the guys that offload and with minimal death rate over the years .Instead of our government to find ways to assist and improve this method these people have devised for themselves ,the government shut down the place to put up a jetty (how much did it cost to set the jetty up ? How much will the jetty generate ?) when they could easily have imposed tax on the sand sellers and tipper drivers and rake in good money daily .Now what happens to the hundreds of people that have been hustling in this place ,the government has suceeded in rendering them jobless so they have to find a way to survive ,who on earth will want to go board a ferry in a place filled with all sort of criminal and gang members.Do you think most of this youths that engage in all this activities are happy doing so they are only trying to survive

OP should be happy it was only touch ,a neighbor of mine got raped weeks ago not too far from the house the most annoying part is the road is not even that isolated ,too many sick people on the lose in Nigeria .It is only in nigeria someone sent to jail for rape is released years after and no proper follow up is done .They just let them go back into the society more hardened

OP should be happy it was only touch ,a neighbor of mine got raped weeks ago not too far from the house the most annoying part is the road is not even that isolated

stanley000:
I can see these bloggers keenly feeding off this yahoo topic. Suddenly everyone's eyes is been diverted from politicians and pastors who also kill for Rituals and whose one is even worse. Why has Ritual killings suddenly died down after the past elections?

I think we need stronger cyber laws in Nigeria that is when all this madness will stop stiff punishment for peddlers of fake news.most of this useless bloggers have no idea how far this negative news go we keep letting ourselves down

Anticqz:
"to everyone talking rubbish your time will come"

which time is this idiot talking about do u know the meaning of "your time will come"??

shameless fraudsters...

it is cause of people who think and reason like you nigeria is where she is today ,people's fundamental human rights are been abused by a corrupt system and you see nothing wrong in it,and who told you it is only fraudsters and armed robbers that have business with being in jail ,a minor offense (two-fighting ) can land you in jail so how will you feel after meeting all the bail conditions you are still kept there just because they want you to bribe everyone that is invovled one way or the other .May you never find yourself in a situation you are denied your freedom just because of greed of some certain people trying to take advantage of your predicament.

Rolly22:
So he wrote this trash to make people clap for him. Mtcheww

i dont support yahoo but i hate people that rush to the internet or social media to claim saint ,we are all aware what his wife and her colleagues did to citizens bank , then bank phb then she continued at heritage bank rada rada oga alibaba go and sit down somewhere

Textra:
You nailed it bro!

you know the Herculean task ahead of you guys ,so it is better to prepare .Not everyone can withstand pressure most broken marriages today the major cause underlying many is finances

Textra:
I think one of the major reason for break up is because we have given too much priority to Procreation.... given birth, rather than building a partnership first.
I think couple's should wait at least 2 to 4 years before allowing a kid to come in between them. Build your finance and grow your love.
Women are meant to be help meet.
What do you guys think?
Happy New Month.

i stand with you on this ,it is a pity many nigerian men allow their women to manipulate them .A woman manipulates you into doing a big wedding (all sponsored by the man with little coming from the woman),the man is yet to recover from these wedding expenses now she tries to manipulate him into child bearing .Most naija ladies are lazy be very very careful when dealing with them stand your ground make sure you guys are financially buoyant before child bearing .Most ladies put this child bearing as a priority but it is just an excuse to be lazy and dependent on the man .