slam7000:


Stop making yourself to be the victim here. I despise your friend and such attitudes from people but your number one mistake was naivety. You obviously saw photos of him on Facebook then believed that all was well with him. All those flashy bits you saw were all fake and he probably also started telling you lies from the beginning before you opened up about your predicament.
I’m not making excuses on his behalf but you don’t travel from PH to Lagos with just N16k in your pocket to live with a guy who occupies a 2 bedroom apartment hoping to stay with him for 3 months.

You should be thanking your God for not meeting him at all. Your little experience in being homeless will make you stronger. Think and stop depending on people.

I’m sure you had lots of opportunities to earn little cash here and there but avoids them because the jobs were too dirty and degrading for someone like you. Know this...there are lots of dirty jobs out there but the cash in your hands doesn’t tell the source.

Like you, a friend called his cousin that he was coming to the Uk some years back...this guy landed at Heathrow, called his cousin and guess what?...the number went into voice mail but he wasn’t that silly, he had plan B and C. His cousin posts photos of himself in winter jackets, combat trousers and Rockport boots even in summer. My guy didn’t know the difference between summer and winter. Like you he saw a successful person but then he wasn’t fooled. He hit the ground running, never wasted time moaning about the lies and mistreatment. He got it right, became a success.

Don’t be deceived by Facebook and social media photos.
You can achieve in Ph what you hoped to achieve in Lagos. Get out there and work. Nigeria is tight and hard but there are lots of things you can do to build yourself up.

am sure his friend had a change of mind at the last minute ,or maybe the friend exprienced some ugly situation in the past .Let me share my own story ,sometimes last year an old school mate called me on the phone (have not heard from this guy for over 15 years) he said he was in a neighboring state for some business and could not make it back to Lagos that same day he wanted to do a stop over at my place then continue his journey the following day .I said no problems this guy arrived i could not take him to my house cause it would be in appropriate i did not inform my wife beforehand,so i lodged him at a very good hotel about 30k paid for his meals till the next day i even took him to my wife just for formal introductions and all that before we went out for the evening for merriment .The dude got back to his base in Lagos and only sent me a messages on whatsapp that he has arrived in Lagos .This is someone i spent close to 100k for (impromtu) .Till date he has not called me on the phone or whatsoever so with all this do you think i would be willing to assist even someone i know next time ? A lot of terrible people have ruined chances and opportunities for the innocent ones

GeneralPula:


She has already did..

Calling out Yoruba Nollywood, she don over do..

I’m sure more response are coming..

honestly i wonder why people still take this tonto woman seriously ,a woman that paid her own bribe price oh sorry bride price and was flaunting on social media like she was having the best marriage ,when her ex hubby's personal assistant successfully snatched and gave birth for her ex ,why did she not come on social media to talk ,she went mute .Madam Tonto and iyabo ojo are not the only nollywood actresses we have this Baba Ijesha issue is a delicate one so lets wait for official police statement on the matter .I wonder why people just make unnecessary enemies for themselves all because of clout chasing .RADARADA. What if Baba Ijesha is innocent ? I am just saying ooo

Omihanifa:


https://punchng.com/wiping-back-to-front-introduces-bacteria-from-anus-into-vagina-researcher-urinating-after-sex-wont-prevent-infection/

for those of you that like to lick everything how market ?

lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Bomb dey that your uncle head ,as if the old woman would live forever .Op just get a maid that will take care of her and send what you can afford constantly also carry your siblings along it should be a collective effort not left for one child

wirinet:

To me it goes beyond the N100k. It goes to the very heart of the type of family you are about to enter. How will you go to their family house and ask for their daughters hand, knowing how shameless they are. I can never respect such a family. I will use that to judge the type of upbringing my intending wife had. It will make me think she had been pretending to be a decent girl all along and would unleash her real self once I say "I do".

you took the words out of my mouth ,op i think you need to re-evaluate your relationship .Do you want to end up with such a shameless family ? they spent 60k out of your business money mistakenly paid into their account instead of them to look for all means to refund your money ,they rather choose to manipulate you .A family with 4 elderly people that cant raise 60k urgently to cover their shame says a lot (they must be very dubious people hence no one will lend them ) .Oga op don't ignore these early signs before it will end in premium tears.

Amb1045:
So painful they killed that young man. DJ naked wire. a guy with heart of gold, who has help a lot of young guys through his work. una no go get peace till death

what a name dj naked wire

staged

only if our government can take this our local state football clubs more serious and involve private investors it will create alot of job opportunities than we think also it will unite this country (it would be fun travelling with your team to a state you have never been before even if it is for two days)

TooMuchStuff:
Edo need it's own Sunday Igboho ASAP

don't mess with edo youths their own Dey pass be careful they might extend it to suya men and meat sellers .Just wait and see no single herder will be in the edo forest after 14 days

Go

[quote author=Burgerlomo post=98654434][/quote] Dey there dey yimu

Dpharisee:
After Northern Nigeria fear women.

yes ooo fear women the second wife might be behind all this the man should confirm from another place the dna . All this dna wahala in naija naija hospitals are not to be trusted

Some months back if I read something like this I would be like Nigerians have come again . Just last week here a boy that has living with me for close to two years I sent him packing ( lately he has become too difficult to handle ) the boy is In his late 20s when I checked his luggage to make sure he was not stealing anything from my house ,I was shocked with the amount of fetish stuffs I saw in his luggage from different soaps to creams different voodoo items . One needs to be very careful with people we Harbour In our lives and homes . This younger generation the way they are desperate to get rich is becoming alarming .

Alexgman1:
You have being dating a girl for a year and all of a sudden she broke up with you and went back to her ex who she said she hated so much & would hurt him if she ever saw him again because he used her & took advantage of her. Do you think there is something am not doing right Or does her ex has something i dont have that she went back to him?

Oga instead of you to be dancing and preparing for thanksgiving you are here complaining ,you just dodged a bullet (paternity fraud is real ) maybe you think the ex just called her overnight and she went back just like that ,they have been communicating and having sex regularly but you were obviously too blind or carried away to notice . Bros am so happy for you

SatanBoss:
stop it please. no delta or edo girl is a victim of sex trafficing. they go there to do olosho willingly. they even pay to go there. useless thread

you just spoke my mind , this is how they end up stranded in all this funny African countries Rebellious child .

Zane2point4:

So kids you pay such amount of money wont Wash ordinary car for u??
So what will they do for you?

If you see no wrong in this then theres a problem.
I wash my fathers car for almost upto late twenties. Even extended to my elder brothers own.
Just say that family is dysfunctional and there's no hierachy atall,no respect.

from what the op wrote I think the man in question was careless with his finances and decision making in his prime working days . How can you be paying 600k for 3 kids per term and your salary is just 300k monthly .Do the maths his annual salary was 3.6m and he was paying 1.8m yearly for all the 3 kids leaving him with 1.8m for other expenses rent and day to day living . Forgetting that in the nearest future he will retire or stop active work (no retirement plan) if he made the right decisions and enrolled them in a school that was paying like 100k per term he would have been getting extra 1m yearly which he would have invested in side businesses or tops landed investment for his retirement years ,now that he can't meet up financially he his angry his kids won't do normal house chores that should not be an issue if he planned for his retirement (a house help can wash his car even 5 times a day if he can afford it ) . In as much as we try to give our kids the best education and life we should do it within our means and think of our future and their future as well . Of what use is it sending your kids to top notch primary and secondary schools them at university level you send them to a polytechnic or college of education cause the finances are no longer the same but it is better to send them to average schools and invest your money properly so you can send them to the best universities in the world and also enjoy your retirement peacefully .

NeoWanZaeed:
Thats exactly same idea that ruins this country. Business without compassion. Science without compassion is what is killing this world

what compassion if he invested all is life savings into that project as a pensioner do you expect him to hit the streets and start begging , if you were In his shoes you won't do any better

NeoWanZaeed:
Nigerians causing discomforts for nigerians and blaming buhari

what discomfort he built that hostel with his hard earned money and needs to get it back , it is a business for him and not a charity organization

Zzor:
Exactly, there's nothing like he will change,a verbally abusive man will physically abuse you,its just a question of time.Most Nairaland men are very abusive both verbally, physically and mentally

madam , it is not a he or she thingy it is a two way thing so stop generalizing what she said to a specific gender please let's be guided

NkemChukwudi:


Amateur! Always check the rooms before you negotiate price.

no be amateur stuff the shit is most this hotel fail to re-evaluate their staffs and their performance from time to time , after I complained the house keeper came to change the whole beddings cause it was in the wee hours of the morning that I checked in

Mekudi:
This one makes me speechless

that is how many of this useless hotels will be forming standard and charging useless exhorbitant fees meanwhile their service and staffs are trash , I lodged in one and the lodging fee was a bit high close to 30k only for me to get to the room the pillow case was dirty the duvet the same I wan run mad it was fucking dirty

DopeAngel:
yes bro. he does not really care. after having much disappointments he says he cant have more and is not ready to search for another girl. he wants to settle down. it is clear the decision was made emotionally, due to fear of further disappointments in relationship. He is not balanced right now and not thinking straight. even if i allow this happen, if in future eventually they have an SS child. we all as a family will bear the burden. i dont want to worry over that then that is why i am more concerned now. if they go ahead and get married and something happens. i wont care then and i dont want family taging me as a wicked brother. that is why i am more concerned now. i had a friend who was SS yrs back, he died days after we wrote our waec due to accumulated stress. i dont want that pain in my family

Oga stop stressing yourself since your brother is financially capable then let them just look for a donor egg and the woman carries the child since it is the paternity that matters the most in naija ,infact lately many men are going for the ivf option just to be sure they are the biological father of their kids (for professionals and long distance relationships) ,This "this life no balance ooo" a visit to a fertility hospital or a visit to the children ward in a teaching hospital will make you have a rethink , many kids are suffering from different ailments from birth (nothing that has to do with genotype) so people should stop over flogging this genotype issue just the other day a man discovered his 3 kids were not his biological children is that not worse than a genotype issue please let's be guided , for me as long as they both know what they are going into who even knows maybe they have decided to have a childless marriage ,op Abeg learn to face your own issues

Jesslove:
Na poverty cause am

many would use poverty as a yardstick but I think it is more of lack of parental guidance and too many bad examples in the society

These kenyan thieves and bastards will never release that money again , Kenyans are not different from Nigerians they reek of corruption

Hezmatosky:
The main issue is Mrs Kanu, stay your own and respect your husband

rightly said why is she pestering another woman's husband ,that is how they start with an innocent "hello " before you know it another thing don dey happen , and for kanu's reply I shake my head how can you reach out to a colleague you have his phone number in that manner Na wa

gypsey:
What a loser, but what kinda dumb female offers sex for their country's passport? Some Nigerians really do not know their rights.

And the sex was with a Guard? Not even the main controller? Chai! What a dumb woman.

bro you so on point , I don't understand what a guard has to do with renewing your passport unless she was trying to cut corners usual naija style

Arthurity1:

Where are your statistics and figures? Where's your proof? You'll just come online to start vomiting trash! Where are those mods to remove this rubbish?

I tire ooo honestly I don't know why he would put Lagos and Edo state rubbish rada rada

Kog45:
Don't say am talking rubbish...Kanu just showed that he need to save his marriage...madam Kanu I mean Amara was damn wronged and she is the only one that can come out and say the truth but guess what Osaze is not a small boy to read between the lines...asking Osaze for a solution to your child injury look somehow...walahi something is fishy

i tire ooo is Osaze a doctor ? This footballers get a lot of messages daily on their social media account some like to go through all this messages so that imagine someone that gets over a 100 messages daily and you want him to single out your message .If the message was urgent Kanu would have called Osaze directly . These days the rate at which a lot of married women have turned themselves to beggars online is very alarming , some their husbands are even rich but greed will not let them be

Judybash93:

The law was unfair to him. If investigators carried out a thorough investigation into the death of the lady, they would have been able to prove that the man in question wasn't the murderer. It's in fact difficult but if he didn't do it, he didn't do it

the law failed him what is so difficult in searching for the younger lover to attest to the story and what is so difficult In carrying out a post Mortem to decide whether it is suicide or homicide

I wonder why that guy is shouting obviously the owner of the rolls Royce will let him go