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stillwater:
Let me see how you will stop me.  Yeye and nonsense liberal views all to say ehn I think differently. In fact bawomolo if you don't see me in your dreams with a cutlass, then my name's not Stillwater.
Even if she didn't do her homework well, it's her prerogative to demand for something else and something BETTER. If he stuck to her for 8 years, why is it hard for him to go to the registry, call two people and make it official? Let there be a PROOF to this so-called commitment. Word of mouth DIED in 100 B.C. He obviously does not love her or care for her future that is why he can open his mouth and ask for settlement if a suitor comes knocking. Many people are guided by certain principles. The poster obviously wants to get married and have children. That is what she wants. The make belief commitment her boyfriend has in store for her is not what people guided by these principles want in life.
The 8yrs he spent with her does not guarantee he will stay. Sooner or later he will realize the poster is getting old, now he wants a younger girl. It has happened to many women before, it can happen AGAIN!!!

@poster
If he's Nigerian, it is NOT a commitment issue, either he does NOT see you worthy to be his wife or he's broke, period!!!

I sabi Nigerian men well.

Hella funny

Mudley313:
okpemu. this is a "public" message board and anyone posing a question here is inadvertently asking everyone. so, yes, dem ask me, ode.

dr philgood ni, dr feelbad ko

OBLONG:
I know a gal who spent as much as you did on her man---- after three years of a relationship and spending---- he STILL FCCUKEd her friend---- to you I sawy GOOODLUCK!

MONEY WILL NEVER KEEP A MAN THAT ISN'T YOURS!

Mudley313:
stop trying to be a smart-azz. person ask question (probably wit genuine interest to learn) n i try to point out d incorrect/incomplete answers n dat one come make me dr. phil, huh?

more like it

Of course, did anyone ask you   (according to T@meD0) Dr. PhilGood

Mudley313:
love is far more complicated than all of the above

Alrighty then, Dr. Phil

@Post: They are not only Ur lover, but also Ur best friend.

eddy1977:
u r 27 and the monkey is 32

u started dating him since u were 21
and u havent figured it out yet?

well, just stay with him untill he finds his true love and dumps u like a bad habit

its what happens when u wear a shirt u havnt paid for yet; it get old and fades and u trash it

be stubborn and stay with this baffoon at your own cost.

alicianna:
@ H202, , C'mon, use "your healthy imagination",

Tcrack:
Beauty, waking up everyday next to a beautiful woman,There is no better way to start your day.
Intelligence
Sexiness/Fashion/Girliness
Traditional/Homely
Career Potential
Virginity/Low Sexual Experience, I HATE VIRGINS

LOL, good for you

Armenian:
I might be old fashioned in thinking it's weird having a girl doing the spending.

Even if she has more money, i just find it normal being the one buying the
gifts for her.

Also considering how hard i think it is being a girl (physically weaker,beautiful on the inside, genetically more caring and emotional, CHILD BIRTH!!),
i just think i'd rather do they lavishing. PERIOD.

When they are in love, they give and give and give and most times are misunderstood.

Maybe im in the wrong century but that's just how i feel.
chikena.

sagluva:
i've been reading through alot of the threads on here and i notice that alot of guys are complaining about how girls offer nothing in relationships and all they care about is money and never give anything in return and blah, blah blah. My question is what about the girls who give alot in their relationships but dont get much in return?
Is it wrong for them to spend alot on their boyfreind? i ask this question because over the course of my relationship with my bf, i have spent alot on him,  i bought him a ps3 and video games and ralph lauren perfume for his bday, helped him pay for his car, bought him a mac for our anniversary, a 52 inch flat screen tv and $600 gift card for christmas,  alot of my friends tell me that i shouldnt be doing that and the guy will take advantage of u if u do. So my question is,
is it wrong for a girl to spend alot of money on a guy she loves?

mcnikes:
Am a corper serving in Benue. There's this girl in my class. She's damn pretty and good mannered. I sure feel something for her but don't know if I should let her know. Anytime I talk with her the way she calls me "Sir" makes me feel like its wrong to ask her out. I know its unethical and improper for a teacher to date his student but am deeply in love with her. Will it be proper to tell her how I feel about her?

sas2chat4:
iv asked myself these questions over the years even since i was ever born:

does true love really exist?
why the heart break all the time from both sexes?
why the quarelling fighting & beatings in matrimonial homes?
whydoes both sexes cheat on themselves?
why do you marry a man or woman you do not love?
why going ito the r/ship.
why the sudden changes in r/ship & matrimonial homes?
why do people fall in love?

1) Good body----AKA FINE
2) Full Service History-----(OPEN ABT EX'S)
3) Low mileage--------(U KNW WHAT I MEAN)
4) Good runner---------(RELIABLE, DEPENDABLE)
5) Not more than one previous owner---------(NO PROMISCUOUS)
6) Low cash fuel consumption----------(HMMM)
7) Warranted mileage

190's ATTRIBUTES

1.Homeliness & virtuous woman
2.career potential & Home Economics
3.Intelligent & Beauty
4.kitchen and keys skills
5.not high temper/gossip
6. virginity (NOT REALLY A CRITERIA COS IM NOT)

the bolded word really cracked me up
@post
not all nigerian artist copy the americans beat
they are so many talented ones out there who run their stuff well btw did i hear someone say jamaica is on top when it comes to entertainment
that is just not true
i agree the jamaicans(some) are quite good at their stuff but they arent on top

confusedl:
well you are not alone in this.

Personally I do feel same and I have not made love with my husband for more than a year now, though this is not something I planned initially when I wanted to marry him but circumstances surrounding the relationship led to this.
He cheated, lied and he kept doing it, does not contribute to the marriage in any way, does not really have interest in the marriage anymore. He was not like that when we got married, got some advice from his mum, that I was too fertile, like he said he is scared of getting me pregnant, but he enjoys himself outside.

I must say that the bond intimacy creates in marriage cannot be quantified and once there is not intimacy in marriage there is no marriage.

I have two kids in a marriage of 3 years Feb this year, and in this three years we have only had intimacy like 5 times and God so did it that I was able to get pregnant and have two kids, now I have resigned to fate, cos he initially started it, refused to touch me for more than 8 months, so I zeroed my mind towards intimacy, though once in a while he ask for it these days like ones in three month, I do not have interest anymore and I just tell him I am not interested.

He cannot blame me for this, when he started I reported to my people and his people but everyone looked at it as if i was just making noice, he is catching his fun wherever, believing I am that decorating item in his house.

My kids are all I care about now, they are my life and everything.

Nigeria is such a place were we have no places for marriage counselling, that would have been of great help but all we rely on when we have such problems is our Pastors and what they preach to us, and most of the time we are unlucky to fall into the hands of those who will deceive us, that is why I rely on prayers for my problems.

I will advice you to read books, trust in God and pray without ceasing, he will see you through but as much as you can if he ask you for intimacy do not deny him, because as you have stated you did not mention anything like he is cheating on you or so, that is why my case is different, he cheated on me to the extent that I do not trust him anymore or believe in him.