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viperman:
If she had any respect for him or their relationship she wouldn't be giving him an ultimatum becuz of a mere 'goatie'.
Little signs of today are trouble of the future.

charlesisu:
some women are just plain complicated, funny thing is they never show any of these signs before marriage, nagging, stubborn, she becomes less submissive, carping and unattractive. these were the reasons my friends gave me.

Stevogue:
You have been keeping the babe and the beard for the past two years and now you dont know which is dearer to your heart. Well you sound as if your gal is not worth anything more than your beards. My opinion is you don't really need our advise on this, else you won't be placing your goatie side by side with your girl. Give her a little respect or just let her go get it elsewhere. And next time don't bug this house with this sorta crap!

Stevogue:
Gentlemen, this is not a gender war.If it was, the men, as usual will win. but we are talking about a union contrived by Jacob and his girl based on their mutual feelings and understanding for one another. Whether he decides to answer Jcob or Esua, in this kind of union, somebody must shift ground for the centre to hold. So its not enough for Jcob to rush into Nland and play on the sentiments of fellow men. As u can see most of us fell for his gaffe and are calling for the poor gals head. Shaving your goatie which often pictures one as malnourished goat is not the worse that could happen to a guy in love. She didnt ask yu to buy her a car before Valentine, she only wanted you to shave your goatie and you are shouting blue murder. yu may be expecting a lot from the guys in NL Jcob, am sorry you dont have my vote. Next page!

charlesisu:
You are speaking my language, marriage is basically not for everyone and the norm in our socirty is a woman is not deemed successful if shes not married, One of my colleague is always sad anytime its time to go home, he prefers to hang out with us till late in the night because he has become a bitter husband of a nagging wife.

charlesisu:
Should i get married with all these divorce suits flying everywhere ?

I think im commitment phobic.

snowdrops:
You dont expect marriage to be a bed of roses do you. Same as other aspects of life.
I am sure your friends also have their flaws. THERE IS NO PERFECT PARTNER.
Marriage is about tolerating each other and accepting the other for who they are.
The fact that these challenges in marriage exist does not mean we should all be celibate.
Even if you wait for 20 years, unless God directs you to that person, my friend, it will be a wild goose chase.

charlesisu:
Let me set this record straight,

These guys are wonderful People. they are friends ive known for quite some time and even the most gentle of them says the same thing.

His wife is stubborn and his mother in law intrudes in their affairs, he is tired of the marriage. we chatted for about 3 hours today and he strongly advised me to be extremely careful before i tie the knots with any woman, its not all rosy and women can be pains in the arse after marriage

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
not sending credit is the least of your problem, you should also run away from that rat as fast/far as possible.
we all know how you think. . . . . . .you are saying to yourself that you will sleep with the hell out of her and then move on with life but this women will find some ways to extract some cash out of you.
i mean, you havent even met her yet and she is already trying to milk you?! what is she going to ask/scam out of you by the time you have your tongue down her throat?!

Fhemmmy:
I am being serious, instead of losing sleep over something that u dont have to.
For me, it is just another day that God has given me, and only me can decide if i wanna be happy cos some calls came in, or cos someone came to chop my cake with me or not, and i can decide to be miserable.
It is just another day . . . . . .

Fhemmmy:
There is nothing i can do.
BTW . . . . i have a policy "NEVER EXPECT, SO YOU DONT GET DISAPPOINTED" and that has worked for me so far.
I dont even remember my own b'day.
However, depending on you, i will do my best to remember, if i can, and if i forget, i will do my best to make it up. . . . .but if you so adamant about it, i rather walk

vfocus:
why not?

are you actually serious in asking why not Give the girl a bit of respect and break up with her like a man, tell her yourself, if you've been dating for 8 months, you should be the one to tell her. I think if its so close you should meet up with her, you seem to feel this yourself, tell her how you feel.

But please tell her, whatever way, if she still wants to be with you she will get hurt no matter how you tell her, don't drag it out any further, she will only get more hurt when you do eventually break up, so is better if you can tomorrow, or ASAP. The more time you spend not telling her, the more she could be missing on the Mr Right for her. So please be gracious and tell her in the nicest way you can, just do it soon. If i was her, i would appreciate that.

Fhemmmy:
No one says, the day is not very important, but what is the big deal who remind the other . . . .He is your man, you love him, and accepts his faults, remind him like 2 days before, okay, lemme teach you how to do it.

Let us assume your bday is February 1st. . . .Today is January 29th
So tonite: Darling, u always forget my B'day oh, and it hurts oh, so remember the next one is Feb 1st oh
Next day . . . . I will be another year older tomorrow hon
I am sure that man will not forget on that day.


It's easier said than done. I bet ya, if you were in her shoes it will be the other way around.

Well, if you remind him and never show up on that day, then, that one get as he be, are you sure, he is not a Jehovah Witness man?

Fhemmmy:
But not remembering the date does not equals to not being special.
There could be so much in his head at that time. . . . .

Fhemmmy:
It is very easy, remind the man, say a week or some days to the date and he will do what you expected of him.
I have a policy: NEVER EXPECT, SO YOU DONT GET DISAPPOINTED

lalaboi:
Use paint on you pc/laptop to resiize photos. . .then save as a seperate file to upload

lalaboi:
Use paint on you pc/laptop to resiize photos. . .then save as a seperate file to upload

Fhemmmy:
^^^ Nicely said