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newcreatio:
@Thelmabee
@Davidandgo

I think u are right. Just this afternoon I got a movie on this whole issue and thot we both
shud watch it,titled "FIREPROOF" abt a couple goin thru dis hell we are talkin about. Went home
for lunch, copied it to her harddrive and while munching lunch, more like "brunch" anyway
she made annoyin remarks about the guy (who was like me accordin to her)] and I fired back at the woman (who was like her to me)
in the movie.

I didnt finish the movie cos I had to get back to the office.

Its unfortunate that "therapy" doesn't exist here in Nigeria that we could go to.
Everyone seems to talk about goin to church, seein a pastor, and
unfortunately i don't fancy that much. I just want out (am not sure of that either)
Maybe i am just goin thru  A MID-LIFE CRISIS!

Right now, its 7:30pm, am in the office, don't wanna go home
PS:
The movie FIREPROOF was acted the by same guys in LEFT BEHIND series, or so I think cause I saw the guy who acted the journalist in it.
It seemed like a xtian movie or something.

Follow this link in case u wanna see the movie http://www.fireproofthemovie.com/

davidylan:
Is this a female pity-party gathering?

On a more serious note . . . when a man truly LOVES you (as against merely likes you or thinks you're a cute person he can hang with), he shows it. Men are not monsters, you can basically tell if a man is keeping you as a potential wife or as a mere bedmate (if you're 100% honest with yourself you will pick up the vibes). When a man has made up his mind he wont marry you . . . trying to change him is a waste of time.
To be honest . . . 99% of men dating you and professing to "love" you spend a lot of their free time away from you busy looking up potential wives to replace you. At least i confess i do this a lot.

heryyy:
Yes she knows about it and i am not hiding anything from her,she knows i am doing this to secure our future,we are still both young,i am 25yrs and she is 21,its all about understanding

pro01:
You see my problem with you Nigerian girls? You're almost always clever by half and never make logical, reasonable arguments! In one breath you protest that "not all Nigerian girls are devils"; and in another, you negate yourself by claiming that "come to think of it, you Nigerian guys are the devils because you MADE US THAT WAY". Silly deceit. Why not stand up as a full-grown adult and take responsibility for your 'devilry'? Must you people always act like senseless, vulnerable infants who can be pushed in any direction? Thats how when you bleep your bf's best friend, people will be blaming the best friend for his treachery - as if you are one innocent toddler that did not have WILL POWER to RESIST that. Later you people will want us men to trust you; yet you always imply that you're vulnerable. Trust my bloody arse.

@ Poster.

I share your pain bro, having experienced that just once (but unlike you, my brakes work just fine, thank you very much). She spoilt it for the rest of 'womankind'; and i thought her to be so good, honest and quite literally 'pure gold'. But she broke her vows and left me reeling. So i had to wonder: if gold could rust that way, what should one expect from the ordinary, base metals out there? Love died in my heart for ever from then on.

However Mr. Poster, there is no need to consciously set out to 'brake', ehm i meant, break girls' hearts. I doubt they have hearts anyway. My only advice is one that you have already realized. To paraphrase you: 'girls are better phuckked than loved'. Thats just it. Go out and meet 'em girls, but don't make the mistake of loving or committing. Just trifle with them until either of you gets tired and then you move on. But i advise you to focus your attention FIRST of all on making MONEY. Trust me, with money your mission preying on these rats would be unbelievably easy. Even the 2 that 'braked' your hearts would unwittingly lay themselves on the slab to atone for their sins with their own blood. So FIRST get rich or die tryin' bro. Like the saying goes, 'you get a.s.s when chasing cash but can never get cash when chasing a.s.s."

Goodluck man.

Maybe they think it would be easier/better with someone else, once thay reach a few years of marriage and realize it's not all fun and butterflies,  The truth is, it would be more or less the same with anybody. Some of the things that are difficult in a marriage are due to marriage itself (it is not easy to share everything with one person, and all the responsibilities of marriage) or to the person herself , and not the partner (for instance, if it is a challenge for me to expose my feelings and talk to my husband about what bothers me I cannot blame it on him to "not understand me" but on myself, things would be the same with another man  ).

Of course, there are some situations when a person really does marry the wrong man/woman (I'm thinking of the girls who would still marry their boyfriend after he beat them, or someone with alcohol problems etc.). But all in all, I believe marriage reveals more about ourselves than anything else, and changing partner will not change us, at some point, we have to look at ourselves and accept to change if we want to make the marriage work, not change the partner.

lord krato:
It's simple.The man want's to enjoy.
Most Guys Can't bear the fact of making dough young and getting tied down when the babes are on the sara levels.

If a Guy wants 2 Marry You then He would do so on [b]His own Terms.period.[/b]Anything else is a muttallab(BomB )

Mai Suya:


@topic,

Not sure what ya mean by 'invectives', but my candid advise to u is: MOVE ON!!!!!!!!

tai2:
Classic case of a man of no control trying to buy his way to love through artificial control only to find himself in the land of Mugu-hood where he will die a lonely death and none will come to mourn him even the women he spent his money on. He is not a hustler but an ATM machine, a local branch of UNICEF buying recharge cards for girls to call their Chairmen. He should seek the path of wisdom before it is too late for him.

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
sorry but i dont follow you any longer. . . . . . .
so you had unprotected intimacy with your guy BEFORE the test and then decided after to go and have the test, only to discover that you were + but not him?!
well i guess if he isnt - now, he might not be along the way. some people on ARV drugs would show a - test result while they are positive. . . . . . . . . .dont be fooled people!

as for your story, although very hard to believe in 9ja, i guess you found the right guy so hold on to him until you pass away.

ladybird77:
Just asking a general question[b] why do we bother[/b] looking for love when all it does is hurt us breaks our hurt,

I have decided am staying single until love finds me.

cha its such hardwork am done

FBS:
Wait. Your baby is 10 months and takes Indomie to school? How possible is that?

Abu Zola:
@fifi09- why you dey tease your friend toba now, when your english is crook as well, it is you are too funny and not 'to' funny. Note it down. *walks away whistling*

Abu Zola:
Jarusss ! What happen to my thread o, where are you.

toba:
I know u will fail jamb again dis yr. Error1 i posted not i post thread.Error2 it disappeared not again it disappear.Error3 it is d enemy that moved it¬ move it away.Guy Education isnt your line,go & become an imam

Fhemmmy:
Damn, lame excuses

silentc:
Trust is a gift and you should honour that gift by not breaking the trust. Just because a man trusts a woman doesnt mean she should break that trust by spending the night in the house of a guy who isnt related to her.

If a woman trusts me, I will not break her trust by putting myself in a situation where i am spending the night in the house of a woman who isnt family. I will make sure that I dont end up in that situation (i.e I will find somewhere else to sleep).

This doesnt make a guy controlling or insecure. He must trust his woman 100% , but sleeping in the house of another guy is not treating his trust with respect. In my opinion, she may not be cheating on you, but she needs to understand that her actions dont make you comfortable. A relationship is a responsibility of each others feelings and in this case she needs to handle your feelings which doesnt like her spending a night in the house of another man.

chidipupay:
But i think it is not applicable to all women

H2O2:
What sort of silly question is this

NO. It's not proper.

viper3ez:
absolutely not.

call me old school but no nobody should be trusted with that.

LOL, you're old skool