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jonsn:
You did not describe yourself to check compatibility.

It's for everybody, you check yourself and choose the best for yourself.

Omoawoke:
I’d go for the one with the biggest ass

Biggest ass not always satisfying man o, I guess you just started sleeping with women

fitinwell:
You will be forever enslaved, by selling your birth right to Lady A... If your option was based because of Money...

You don't trade peace of mind in Marriage with anything in the World .


Option B lady not good in Bed is a Plus for me... Ofcos she too would be curious to want to explore sexual fantasies with you... If you both genuinely love eachother and married together...

Yoruba adage says small swallow with peace of mind is better.. than big bowl of trouble...

You will forever in your life remaining in abject poverty, if you solely rely on prayer, even your holy books,say work & pray( work comes before prayer)

Usmanovic95:
Oga we can have different opinion about same thing. No opinion is an established fact. Saying someone's reasoning is shallow minded is a condescending and demeaning thing to say in a public forum.If my opinion doesn't resonate with you,you could have just ignore.

Yes, but different opinions on same topic, meanwhile, only one of such opinion will be true, while rest are not genuine, valid or truth.

For woman to poor in bed, is not a yardstick for fidelity.

Usmanovic95:
For me I will go for B. I don't see been lazy in bed as a weakness because a time will come sex will no longer excite like it used to,so at the time if you can't satisfy A ,she will definitely seek sexual gratification outside; the knack wey she good at ,na someone people knack am till she turn expert so she go still dey go for sumol extra training once in a while(my opinion 😂)
Since it's indicated that B is good at making hair,that means she has a skill she can monetize, it's better hustle sumol money and set up a salon for her so she can also become financially independent and can also contribute financially to family upkeep.

B strike more as someone who will give peace of mind which is what a man crave for.

You biliv every woman that good in bed is a whoorre, and if a woman not good in bed, she cannot involve in extramarital relationship?


Your reasoning is shallow minded.

Olachase:
Make I no lie the two of them carry back

But the second one "back" she cannot use the back she carries effectively, according to the story.

So, it is not useful for you as a man.

correctyourself:
This Monday morning does this topic worth discussing?

Yes, marital life is very important, Ur workaholicm will surely sent you to early grave if you fail to have good wife/husband

Sister A.
WORKING CLASS LADY.
FINANCIAL SUPPORTIVE.
CANNOT COOK/CLEAN.
GOOD IN BED.





JOBLESS LADY BUT CAN MAKE HAIR.
BROKE,BUT CAN PRAY.
CAN COOK & CLEAN.
LAZY IN BED.

For me I will go for sister A and cover up for her shortcomings
Prayer is habits that can be inculcated, and maid will be hired for cleaning.

APC mole in PDP, this one cannot even win his ward

manuelkel:
I bet you if Tinubu renames UNILAG to MAULAG, the same people that protested against GEJ renaming UNILAG to MAULAG will accept it happily, but if it's a southerner or am easterner, boom!!....... heavy protest will erupt.

I bet u, . every policy and action, Tinubu is taking now, if pita Obi takes exactly the same policies, words for words, actions for actions, ......the same headless mob that are attacking Tinubu now, will applaud, praise and commend Pitobi"

Let hear from Iran, how they want to assist their own faith.

I biliv it would be through, Boko Haram, ISIS & Fulani herdsmen, making jihadists professor, Muric, the spokesman.

Xmen149:
I am not one for one sided judgement or expecting a human to automatically turn God because of title. Even jona had his share as he deemed fit but not from man.

If I am in a relationship with someone and I don't like certain things but the person do while it's not a deal breaker one can bend to accommodate to make it work. It's a private affair and that doesn't make them evil. Like heck none of us had an account of the styles father Abraham did because that part of the story is none of our business neither did we have that of David or Solomon.

The man is single and in quest to marry he must date,if he bends to accommodate his lover it's his problem same as his lover. One can find love anywhere and has to try. If it doesn't work you end it.

I can't marry a winch because I gave her ring before I found out,or BCS she gave me dooggy while we where dating,if my deal breaker comes up I bolt and so should everyone else.

Naso people go dey endure based on e gimme good sx, I don already promise am,after we had plenty children etc until one person kpai another.

The only time I will take these seriously is if anyone comes out and say he raped her, physical violence,he threatened me with weapons etc. if not everyone should rest.

Oh and he who doesn't have an ex should cast the first stone here or give us stories of everything you did with your ex in the bedroom duh the pastor is a superior being from mars lol

Why won't men on pulpits turn themselves to gods of men, no thanks to congregants with this your mentality.

Wen has pastor become LovePeddler, that would be changing girls like rappers, just because he is not God and he has flesh like you

Because, he has flesh and blood is running in his vein, that is why he would be sleeping with a married woman and asked her to leave her marriage.

I pity who no pity you boda.

Xmen149:
Courtship is not evil na. It's to see if we are compatible,if you can't control your self during that period and I later decide we are not compatible nothing stops everyone from going their way.

Where it becomes a problem is if we are talking about violence and doing things under duress with evidence. If none of these: why da heck will a lady force a man to marry her it simply means you are unmarriable therefore can't get another man.is he the first person they dated or you supporting them did you marry everyone you dated

And wen a "General Overseer", started sleeping with varieties of women, including his members in the name of promising marriage(courtship), also exchanging nudes, .....is that church or Sodom & Gommorah

Embattled Lagos based pastor, Chris Okafor, had refused to comment on the viral claims of actress Doris Ogala, that has promised to marry her, and several others, including members of church, while eventually tied knot with someone else.

In now deleted pix, that appears to Okarfor topless and with a towel round with his waist in a bedroom, Ogala wrote. This bedroom after making love. Full video dropping soon.
You said I'm lying Okay. You shared my naked body. Everyone will watch yours, This video is from a girl he promised marriage. She sent it to me.

virginboy1:
Many naija modern women are liabilities to themselves and their husbands, as far the abusive husband has money...they will stay...

They will choose a abusive, woman beater psychotic rich husband...over a hardworking struggling man that will pamper them with love.

liability mindset is a curse....God abeg

Men cause problems in marriage far more than woman.

Try to say the truth, if indeed you are not part of society problem.

I know the number of my childhood friends, that would marry at same time and how many which their marriage has collapsed, almost all of them, largely contributed to the downfall of the marriage, none of these guy are rich oo, they struggling hardworking as you claimed o.


Even your moniker already, show your mindset in relationship, I won't be surprised, ladies are running away from you, hence, showing your frustrations on every topic on relationship


You are ENDEAVOUR to read post on 10 pastors that went from pulpit to prison, I didn't read anyone who is a woman oo, and I'm very sure almost all of them are in marriage, yet, they did unthinkable, even in marriage

Gerrard59:
Again, this is why you need to sieve everything you read/consume on social media. Shey e don affect you now to the extent you're changing words?

This is why extremism has never been a good thing. All the bad narrative will one day hit home. So, how do you defend your sisters when you held similar views which now affect them? How do you align with people whose views you espoused, but now reject simply because your sisters are affected? So suddenly your sisters have become good women because they're 30 and unmarried, but other 30 year old ladies were bad?

When I talk say make una dey go better schools, you people disagree only to attend poorly run British universities run by lovey-dovey woke administrators.

You think people attack and critical of others because of education background? You too is not different from those you are attacking.

...... many people are just wailing and attacking just to proof relevant and some may want to proof a point.

Only a fool, takes social media rants seriously.

Walai:
Stop all this talk of wedding going on. I am in the event management industry and I can tell you for free that weddings have dropped over 50% since 2015. Infact this December season used to be everyday wedding, sometimes we manage 10 weddings in a single day, today getting a wedding event is scarce. Just one wedding per Saturday and you are jubilating. Do you know we have millions of unmarried ladies out there?

Go to local government and see how people do weddings everyday, apart from Sunday, you people should desisting from illusion that people not married again, meanwhile, you shouldn't forget, wedding or no wedding, people still getting co-habitated and having kids as married couples.

If you and Ur goons are unable to married, does it stop thousands of others not to marry?

Dpsychologist:
One uncomfortable truth many don't like to talk about is the real health risk that comes with multiple sexual partners especially when basic sexual health practices are ignored.

When people move from partner to partner without regular testing or proper treatment, infections don’t just disappear on their own. Untreated STIs can linger, worsen, and become easily transmissible.
Sometimes, you don’t even need a diagnosis to sense that something isn’t right : unusual odors, discomfort, or recurring symptoms are warning signals, not “normal.”

This reality has made many people cautious not out of judgment, but out of self-preservation. The fear of contracting an infection is real, and it’s valid. Sexual freedom without responsibility eventually creates consequences for everyone involved.

This isn’t about shaming any gender. It’s about accountability, hygiene, and health discipline.

Regular testing. Prompt treatment. Honest communication. Respect for your partner’s well-being.

Those are the real markers of sexual maturity.

Ignoring infections doesn’t make them disappear, it spreads risk. And no moment of pleasure is worth long-term health damage.

If we want healthier dating and sexual environments, responsibility has to be part of the conversation not an afterthought.

If your submission is to be taken seriously, 95% of people in the world would have contacted the deadly disease.

If you you know the amount of multiple sex partners, every mature man and woman have.

ThunderFireAgba:
That Man is the No1 cabal in Aso Rock. I'm not telling you to believe me. His wife too but not a strong influence.

Because you don't know sequences happenings in the seat of power,....... they have since appointed immediately former"head of service" in Lagos to do most of job, Gbajabiamila hitherto doing, as chief of staff, many of appointments and contracts, Gbaja is seeing them now, from short distance.

More reason why terrorism couldn't be defeated since politicians and security personnel who are supposed to be fighting banditry are the one given them lifeline.

You think Gbajabiamila is part of them? Tinubu has since degraded him. Even in Lagos, his aspiration to become gov is fading away.


I'm not see a serious cabal in Tinubu govt oooo, when dictator is rulling, every other voice would be crushed or silent.

Though, some are influential, but no serious cabal.

chrisxxx:
I am just thinking about the aftermath of 2027 election. Will Wike allow Fubara to replace him as the minister if Tinubu wins?
See beyond this question.

Even without Fubara in pictures, I doubt if Wike will come back into Tinubu cabinet, it seems to be burden to Tinubu than assets.

At least tyrant of rivers has severely degraded now

Diamond098454:
I really admire women in politics
How they resist all this random male politicians remains mysterious to me.

Men worry a lot, they will come with different strategies that will make the woman fall

Any man who is not strong political figure in his domain, and who is "wifed" a woman who is into active politics.
I pity mama that born him.

Ewedegubbler:
My friend from Enugu married a big politicians daughter, brought her to South Africa but the gal and her mother so badly undermined this guy.

She decided to leave the marriage and moved back
To naija with their only Child

Fast forward it today, this ex wife of his is now his sidechick while he is happily to another humble gal.

Life no balance ooo

The story is common, 90% of ex wives, the ex husbands still having access to their honeypots, while the ex-husband now happily married with another woman.

Even the ex-wives that since remarried to another man not excluded.

Any guy that married single mother, which her husband still much alive, hail and hearty. I pity who no pity you.

Dreal1247:
There are always multiple reasons to end any marriage at all. But there are better reasons to stay married, once married. Unfortunately, people will encourage you to divorce but cannot help you to secure another marriage. People will encourage you to divorce and turn around to blame you at every given opportunity after your divorce. People will encourage you to divorce but won't accommodate you after the divorce. Marriage is for the matured minds and not for babies. Unless domestic violence or life threatening situation is involved, couples should learn to settle their differences.

Anybody they ask to do evil, in which is obliged, he himself is evil already.

L1TTLE:
I'd debunk it if I haven't experienced it, I've met a girl who use to give guys rules because she has standards according to her, but while we were dating, right from our first meeting everything was easy, she stayed out late, visited me and stay for a long time, do chores, same girl that was saying she can't stay out past six, her parents don't let her out bla bla bla, those rules start if she doesn't like you, when you meet a girl that likes you it'll be very easy trust me, especially if you have a ride, that doesn't mean she's cheap though.

I know a guy, who slept with university lecturer (PhD) in an uncompleted building .

I always pity guys, who ready to do anything for a lady, who doesn't care if he is existing.

If you want to enjoy woman in a relationship, make sure she has interest in you from very beginning.

Instead for expired republic to be working to develop youth employments, we-rey is fighting like drunkard for superiority, mad man forgotten, he is under chairman of local government in his domain.

We told them, this drug addict, not good enough to rule America, they were insulting us,.......they don't want woman to rule, they preferred lu-na-tic instead.

until men stop spending recklessly on ladies just to proof superiority over your fellow men.


All these transactions relationship/sex was started by men and before you know, women capitalised on it and it becomes culture and traditions