₦airaland Forum

This comment alone shows you are the problem in your now, dissolved marriage.

Partners in marriage must mature enough before going to marriage.

Allow God to decide.(God says vengeance is mine.)

Insult and attack him/her.

Date or marry the better version of such person.

Upgrade yourself to better version when he/she hears about you or meets you after few years.

Afobaba33:
Dangote is not smart at all he is investing too much in the economy that is not secure.



Take it from me that I say his going to regret this act one day


I rest my case.

Enemy of progress, if you tire of being a Nigerian, why can't you move to Niger.


Meanwhile, a pessimist will never progress in his life, he will always fail for fear of unknown.

I biliv you know the meaning of pessimism?

cunny88:
Will this lead to a significant reduction in the price of fuel?

If your father can subsidies the price for Nigerians.

I think Egbetokun ordered police not to parade suspects again. Abi new Sherif has since reverse the order.

Subordinates investigating the most superior, yet, expecting unbiased outcome. Absurdity in the highest order!.


The way we deceiving ourselves in this country ehn, no wonder country in retrogression.

Toolegit123:
Hey my Nairaland fam.

There's this neighbor of mine,a girl in her early 20's who's still living with her parents. Recently,I got to know that that took jamb and had even written the exam. So,this morning she came to me to advise her on the next step to take since her result came out and she scored 173. First,this is someone whom I know who doesn't have any skill or handwork. Secondly,her parents aren't that well-to-do type that can see a child through any university at this moment considering how expensive the Nigerian higher institutions have become.

I told her openly that she should go and learn a skill from now till next year and can retake the jamb next year. Though she agreed to what I told her but since then,she has been behaving so cold towards me. Someone who used to respond to me jokes before no longer talks to me. And I've been wondering if what I did was wrong. Or perhaps,I should have just mind my business and let her continue with what she intended on doing.

Nlfpmod obembet Dominique mynd44 Seun Dominique nlfpmod.

Leave her, she will understand your CANDID & HONEST advice in the next ten years. Meanwhile, that shouldn't stop you to continuing giving same advice to the next person at her age, even if her/his parents are well to do.

At this stage of the girl in question, only 2% thinking rationally, when you advise them about others opinion that different from theirs, they will see you as enermy.

At this stage of life, many all of them will look up into the future and see themselves as Presidents, CEOs, Billionaires, Ministers, Ambassadors, etc, but time will tell, ......only fragments of them will scape through.

franchasng:
Engineer designs.

Technicians or Technologists installs.


An Engineer uses engineering and mathematical models to design, while the field Technicians do the installation or fabrication as the case may be.

In Nigeria, we mix up things.

So, if engineer takes technicians to field and there is error, who will correct it? When they get to engineering work, I guess technicians will lead, why engineer takes the back seats.
WHAT YOU DESIGN,THE TECHNICIAN IS UNABLE TO INSTALL, WILL THE JOB STOP ABRUPTLY?

I doubt if you, the way engineer is to technologist, technician and artisan in engineering field is doctor to nurse, health technician and lab assistant.

Engineer and doctor, must able to perform and correct errors made by subordinates.


NB. Not that engineer will be do it, but must be able to do it, in case technician makes errors.

Thank God it's not mob that caught them, their unclothedness would have been everywhere on the internet.

Kaliningrad:
Fun fact: There are more Christians in Iran than in Israel.

Iran is a safer place to live as a Christian than Israel.

Fun facts. There are more terrorists and terrorists sponsor in Iran than any other countries in the world.

Who is to blame for this error?

University.
Lecturer.
Student.
Government.

If secondary students can do it perfectly at lower level,why is it difficult for university students to replicate it?

lezz:
This is the most emotional and politically charged pope in history who has no clue about geopolitics and religious leadership.

A pope so naive that has drawn the church against the most powerful country on earth with a careless and unnecessary utterances.

Abi oooo, turning pope, who is supposed to be peace maker to man slaughter, before you can appreciate him, not until I see you and rest of your family in war front..

Gragra boy will sit down in their one room face me and face, using ₦100mb to throw bomb into world.

Ibas3454:
Saraki was miraculously dropped from that case... I'm not surprised, Nigeria can do and undo

Abi oo, if I accuse you of rape now, you must go to jail, either you did it or not.

The way many of you thinking backwards is terrifying.

Anybody who cannot thinking that, ....how much the robber want to steal, that Saraki won't use his red biro to steal convinently as a sitting senate President. Such person need psychiatric evaluation.

paxonel:
I have been saying it, all these men are scammers who exploits ignorance to emass wealth for themselves, why the vast majority of church members go home poor.

They are not working

Keep on having .... over men that have successfully in all ramifications, instead for you to go to them or any other man of God for deliverance from shackles of 9enera-tio₦al pov@rty and bo#dage you find yourself, keep on lamenting until you grow old.

The more you complaining the more their ministry flourishing.

I checked and recheck first page, I come to conclusion to the reason why marriages become toxic among mordern couples. Men no longer married their bone of their bone, the type of wife, if they insult, they will consider such insult as theirs!

immortalcrown:
You are missing the point. As long as the offences are the same, let the punishment be the same.

If you condemn the punishment because the offender is married, condemn the same punishment when the offender is single.

If apprentices come late to shop, the way you will tell single to kneel down is the way you will tell married woman to kneel down.


Your kind of leadership is fearsome!

immortalcrown:
Let's avoid double standards.

If kneeling down as a punishment is good for any apprentice, it is good for all apprentices, including married ones.

If kneeling down as a punishment is bad for married apprentices, it is equally bad for unmarried apprentices.

In other words the punishment meant for toddlers should also be given in same measurements for adults.

At age 40, your dad can still be slapping you, after all, he is your biological father.

As husband you went to shop where your new wedded wife is learning hairdressing and you met her like this, serving punishment from oga, what will you do?

You confront the boss.

Tell your wife to stand up.

Stop her from going to the shop again.

Overlook her as if not I'd happening.

Applaud the boss.

First time mad boy will talk sensible, anyway, he has learnt his own lesson. Just as I said yesterday, the monster created from woman by man, must definitely come back to him wherever he runs to

You spend unrealistic lavishly on woman.
Wild orgy.
Introduce her to excessive drinking.
Encourage her on naked dressing.

These and many more are the reason woman taking brutal decision, hence marriages bringing endlessly conflicts in 21st century.

Urgent1Million:
It's the audacity of those ladies for me!
I don't know what in fish brain's name make them think they can still get money out of their ex after dumping them to marry another man.
Just tell her you are ready to help her but you want to speak to her husband about it first.
If she gives you her husband's number, call him and tell him to take care of his wife and watch her closely.
My ex tried that rubbish with me. I warned her severally to stop calling me to ask for money but she wouldn't listen.
She even travlled to lagos at a time to see me. I refused to give her my address.
When it became obvious she wasn't going to stop disturbing me, I called her husband and told him to beg his wife to stop disturbing me.
And she stopped.

You are a man, but for 90% of guys/men, let woman just winks face for them, suddenly, brainbox will malfunction and start follow-follow her like bambiala.

The same people will be the ones to wail about woman and entitlements mentality.

NB. Since you reported her to husband...... didn't she leave and eat?

Many of these ladies atimes, not that they are suffering in husband house, but they just want money for frivolous things, which hubby not ready to give. Hence, they remember ex who is also a Mugu.

CharleyBright:
My dear brother, I will tell you the honest truth straight forwardly because you asked a sincere question.

Firstly, let me make you understand that the fact that she didn't marry you should not make you feel bitter about her.
For everyone, God had created someone for him/ her by reason of destiny. If you didn't marry her, she was not the person God destined for you. Both of your only crossed paths for a purpose.

Secondly, there is absolutely nothing wrong in helping your Ex if she is in need and reaches out to you OR you feel led to do so.
Life is meant to be such that we can help one another. Today you help her, tomorrow it might be she helping you or your children.
Besides, why would you deny her help if she is in need and a said you truly loved her? Are you still feeling hurt and want vengeance?
That is not needful. Render help to the needy and consider it that you are doing it for God and sowing a seed.
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Would you deny someone in need of water a drink?
Would you prefer to make contribution for her burial (God forbid) than to give financial assistance while she is alive ?
Finally, my candid advise for you is reach out to her and give the help if you can

First of all, if you married and just wake up one day, your wife opens provision store which is not a proceed from her own savings, neither is it urs, or any member of u or her own family, after details enquiry you find out that, her ex was the one opens it, how will you feel?

Apart from above scenario, with the way she left, she doesn't deserve this type of assistance from ex, though, if you know your value as a man. Let say, OP is in "life and death" situation, not even provision stuff o, did you think the girl will even call? Let alone assist? In fact, she will deny him outrightly.

3rd, the way you reasoning, is reason why women having "entitlement mentality" going into relationship, they have it in their mind, men are cheap, if I just flash him, he would forget whatever atrocities I committed, he must return the call and start doing my biddings.

Last not the least. I'm very sure OP has more than 50 people around him, family or friends that need assistance like this, can he assist any one of them? If no, he is nothing but a fool.

Know that there is clear differences foolishness & kindness, it will sharpen your life going forward.

Namaster:
You sound like someone who has LOST 2 things:

1. Your DIGNITY.
2. Your MIND.

The breakup was NOT amicable.
You did NOT go your separate ways because of irreconcilable differences.

She DUMPED you the moment she met ANOTHER man who was ready to marry her.
She DUMPED you without a second a thought.

She DUMPED you for ANOTHER man.

And for THREE years, she did NOT reach out to you.
But the moment she needs MONEY, she remembered the MOOOGOOO that used to FAWN over her.

This woman wants money from YOU that the man she LEFT you for CANNOT provide.

And instead of REVELING in the KARMIC nature of the situation, you are here MULLING the idea of actually GIVING her the money.

Absolute MADNESS!

I hardly like comment but force to like your comment, there is difference between act of kindness and act of foolishness, but this one chooses act of foolishness.

I'm very sure if reverse is the case, if the lady's husband is very rich and with high statu, if she accidentally meets OP who is poor and low status, she won't even greet, and if OP try to near, she will deny him outrightly.

mukthar2000:
Nothing than money

The money that Wen it finally comes, the wife that has been with you through out the time of adversity will become like flirty rag?

Man must bring excuse to escape blames, it started from time of Adam and Eve.

Emeskhalifa:
Fact

Experiencing it currently. After a hectic, chaotic day and preparing to go face the next day, where person wan see time and feelings for za oza room?

Someone who is not up to you, even in the area of financial capacity you are complaining of, will be helping your inadequacy in Oza room, my opinion is bitter but it's a fact!

Wen you are 24-27, ladies should endeavour to lower their guard and marry guys that available, many of the type of man lady admire to marry are unrealistic.

When you cross 30, it becomes a mountain prayer for you to even marry lesser man you dream, is it not the same Naija where guy struggling to feed his own mouth?

How many guys working in CBN, NNPC, revenue services or medical doctors etc?

If 90% of mature ladies run after 5% of rich guys, this is outcome of such crazy action.

Back to your main problem. Since you didn't realise you came to this world and fulfil in all ramifications, career, marital, financial etc, you should leave with your singleness till thy kingdom. Did anybody suppose remind you Wen to start procreating not even women with biological time.

emmaodet:
I think the past experience of their mothers, grandmothers is what is making them to be more ruthless in their choices else, they will fall into the same pit.
Let's be frank, so many men out there are nothing to write home about.
They are very very irresponsible who just want to bang, no support for the woman's kids or pregnancy or upkeep.
Do you expect such men to procreate? And cause more wahala for us?

First person from the very first comment who is not bias, but also talking like person which his brain still intact.

Not until we men, know that, the monster we created out of women will surely find its way to wherever we run to.

The same guys here on nairaland who are cherishing and saying all sorts of thrash they are doing with drugs and also their sex escapades with different women, from gfs to olosho and even jumping from one brothels to another, will also be the first to come online and wail endlessly for ladies who are wayward.

Every guy wants to sleep with thousands of different girls and at same time, all of them want virgin as wife. What an absurd!

Pierocash:


So even my fellow gender dey gold dig too. I think say nah only women be gold diggers.

Marrying autistic woman, how you go dey take kiss am. Who go cook, who go take care of the house.

My gender, I hail thee.

Apostle should set up cbt exam to determine the winner

Maybe you will start reasoning and commenting rationally and devoid of prejudice towards any gender henceforth, that, particular behaviour is not restricted to specific gender in same society.

I imagine what you would have labelled female gender, because of that woman that married to autistic boy few days ago, and to make it worse, those who applied in Ur gender far-far outnumbered female gender.


Women don't know what they want

Women can do anything for money

That gender ehn etc

The best bet is Obi Kwankwaso in 2027, but they won't win but to build up for 2031, for Kwankwaso vs one strong south east politician.

Bayern Munich vs Atletico Madrid.


Very unfortunately Trouphl-ess FC already exhausted at very critical stage, and drought continues!

Even if BB travels to every nation including ICC headquarters, who will arrest him?

If they are deceiving you,pls stop deceiving yourself.