₦airaland Forum

daveyjay:
Good day NLers, please I need your take on this.
I'm a student in one of Nigeria's prominent public universities.

A girl decided to vie for admission in my school via the predigree programme but she had no accommodation. Because of the relationship between my parents and hers, I offered to take her in from January till now

I offered a roof over her head.

The first night she came, she slept on the floor and I wasn't okay with that, the following night, I told her she could have the bed, I vacated my bed and relegated myself to sleeping on the floor, we can't share same bed since she's neither my babe nor sister. And this sleeping routine has continued ever since then. The floor is my new bed

I gave her my spare key, uncensored access to my kitchen and everything within my legal occupancy.
Cut long story short, last week Tuesday she woke up, had her bath, ate then stepped out briefly, when she returned we were outta water. Tap water of course. She called my attention to it to which I remained calm. Meanwhile I hadn't eaten neither had I bathed. At noon, she came to me that she was hungry but couldn't cook due to unavailability of water, I then asked her if I am to fetch her water??!.

She said she was gonn take food stuff to her friend's place (upstairs) to cook.
I replied by asking how many of her friends had lacked water and brought food stuff to cook here??!


She got angry and took some money and left


That same Tuesday, I went to see Chelsea game, when I returned, I asked her if she cooked but she didn't dignify me with her attention talk more of a response.
I thought it was rude but considered it as one of the many tantrums of ladies

The following morning, she woke up, acted like I don't exist, couldn't greet... had her bathe and left. Returned, unlocked the door, walked in like I wasn't there, ate, left to her friend's place.

On Thursday she repeated the routine, I called her back when she was going out, I asked her if she considered me as her father, brother or boyfriend that she'd wake up and start throwing attitudes...
I made her understand that I am her benefactor.
Hardly did I finish before she left. She returned and continued in same path and that has continued till this very moment...

Last night she didn't sleep at home, when she returned in the morning, she unlocked the door with her spare, walked in, ate, brushed, dressed and walked out without a single word e come be like say I be ghost.

What I did, I changed the locks, took some stuff, sealed my door with strict instructions to the caretaker then moved to a friends place outside my lodge and I've been there ever since.

She has returned and has been calling my line but I've been ignoring...

Now, is my action too harsh or still in line??!

You should have reported her to the parents and if she didn't imorove on her attitude then you send her out of your space officially and communicate that to the parents ..
Do it the right and proper way coz anything aside this, her parents would definitely ask you questions ..

Mustiboy:
May a permanent curse be on you.

What's with Nigerians and this sickening hypocrisy?

Oga, don't ever quote me again. You're sick.

I blame myself for sharing my story.

Lol.. dem dn provoke my guy

luminouz:
K

Bro why nah .. why you wicked like this.. see as you quote em epistle and replied with a capital letter K.. this your reply gannn.. LMFAO

FarahAideed:
Captured? You saw them hoisting their flag right inside Aso rock and they even had a ceremony for it but as usual gullible southerners though it was a capture..if it was a capture it would have been burnt and not folded with such honour

Thou art so wise..
Nairaland don't deserve you

Magae:
The construction industry is widely considered to be one of the world’s largest industrial employers of labour, and is linked to all other sectors of countries’ economies. It presents a path to empower women economically but it tends to be dominated by men.

In spite of past initiatives in many parts of the world to increase their participation in the construction industry at all levels, women remain a minority.

This is not only an issue of equitable gender representation but one of meeting the industry’s needs.

Researchers have identified skills shortages as a problem in construction. Attracting more women to careers in the industry could help bridge these gaps.

In Nigeria, women make up only 16.3% of the construction profession. Research on this is scarce but one 2006 study of the informal housing delivery sector found that women’s participation was extremely low.

This was presumed to be due to certain cultural ethics and values in Nigeria.
In our study, we investigated the current level of women’s participation, challenges faced by professional women and the factors that influence them in the course of developing careers in construction.

We found that gender discrimination and dominance of male culture were among the top constraints. The top strategy suggested for changing this was to make young women aware of opportunities that exist for them in the industry.

Who locked them out ??
Why is the key kept??
Make dem go protest nah...
Clowns..

TarOrfeeek:
Have you also noticed the imbalance of genders in the Military?

Can you push the FG to reduce male quotas in thr military to 10% so that women will take the remaining 90%.

If you cannot push for this legislatively, you are an unwise dolt.

Thank you for this reply to the Op..

Tell them ..
Dem go shout patriarchy but if ned nwoko talk am now or say em want another wife dem go rush go join queue ..

Amotolongbo:
It was a contract now. Since contract has been perfectly executed and money paid for the job well done, Na make everybody dey go him papa house remain.

Mbaka was paid by the APC to divert the people’s mind away from a fixed judgement and political coup by using prophecy.
Mbaka was used to first to make a proclamation of Uzodinma becoming the state Governor so that there wouldn’t be chaos when the Supreme Court announces the abracadabra

Thou art wise Sir/Ma ...
Exactly my thoughts..
He was like a fore runner of the political coup..
Just to give it a Divine Twist of Fate, especially since the easterners are mostly Christians..
Mbaka na fool and em dn cast since 2015

Mbaka...
Very useless idiot ..
Who ever takes this clown serious is a slowpoke like him..
This fool follow bring this untold sufferings on nigerians ..
Religious hustler.. Apc agent..
Onye Nzuzu

leicestercamper:
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Envious bitter frustrated fellow. How does the thing concern you? Is that the reason terrorists are ravaging your state?

Igbo mocking a fellow igbo on insecurity issues ..
No wonder other regions don't take you people serious..

doggedfighter:
This man should be arrested too.

He knows a lot about Baba Ijesha and his sexual atrocities.

For him to come out boldly in his defence.

Go and arrest him now.. what are you waiting for ??
Ana akogheri

BabaJoe001:
Is from your Previous Thread I discovered how very Foolish and Stupid you are. I wasn't surprised when nitwits like you were giving you advises. It's mother F***kers like you that mess these ladies up. You knew you were not going to marry her. Why did you start the friendship in the first place. You just want to sleep with her and dump her right? Probably same thing her baby daddy did for her. This is a lady that want to be loved. She is not even asking for too much, but your idiotic self came on to social media to be seeking advices from some senseless niggas here. I was even surprised majority were abusing the Lady and not the Guy. Am happy she didn't End up with you. For she deserve better. From the Narrative her Love is so Genuine. And that's all what matters. Keep searching for your spec okay.. and when you start having problem with your so called spec, come to nairaland again for those in your category to advice you. ODE!!


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There is nothing wrong if she is Loving you so much. She love sincerely and she will surely respect you. That's all what you need. You might keep on looking for your spec and you regret it later on. You are only hesitant because she is a single mother. Which I see it's not a crime. It's you that really needs to grow up. She doesn't deserve you though. She deserves someone much better and matured.

Advice to all Ladies.
Don't be obsessed to any Man. It doesn't worth it. They will eventually take you for granted. If if you be Oloshi, you still deserve some respect.

Seems like the lady is your mother
Na by force to marry single mom?? Go and marry as much as you want..

Only if women would learn...
One of the reason why you dropped her is because she is a single mom... Me sef, I go run Usain bolt if I were you..
If you tell them to be properly married before giving birth, them feminist would tell you it is thier body and can do whatever with it.. for every lady that is a single mom that got her dream man and settled down with after, there are thousands that was rejected by the heir dream men coz they are single mothers.. a word is enough for the wise..

Tajbol4splend:
No be even say I don teach for there, but I don go for the interview many times, na our agreement no reach, one of them offer me 20k, but my tfare almost pass 20k, na hin I go organize tutorial, collect teacher but them students sabi owe money and them no dey pay you once, na hin the thing tire the teachers wey I collect na hin the thing tire me too,

I feel you baba. E no easy

Nonexistent:
I dey tells you brother. Upon all that has been done for them, "the FUTURE IS HOE" gang are still bitter around here.

Future is hoe..
You no get joy ooo...
Happy weekend bro jareeh

Na Una vote them .. make una suffer am

FarahAideed:
Note how this Man equates education as a ticket to get a shot at looting a govt parastatal or ministry as against being a gateway to knowledge for enlightenment ...By missing a life changing opportunity he means he missed the opportunity to loot silly a govt treasury .

You are too smart ...
Nairaland don't deserve you..

I pity the locals

Nnamdi Kanu is faraway from the zoo and instigating his aminals to go and die..
Ndi Ara

tydi:
That yellow skirt might profile them as unserious but mehn let’s don’t lie to ourselves the shape of the bum bum and pant that skirt normally draw when worn by a curvleous ukwu of lady is second to none on planet earth.

Tajbol4splend:
If you have a job of your own, you can take a day off if you feel the need, but them no born you well to take a minute off in Salary job, yamayama job like teaching in private school

Teaching in private school..
E be like say you (my guy) dn suffer well well for this life oo

Yet Nigeria is patriarchal according to our bitter, ugly, pained and Frustrated Feminist Mgbekes..

Draslo:
Relationship na poverty alleviation scheme for most Nigerian women. Give them an inch and they'll just take a mile.

I remember inviting one nice girl to a family function because I didn't want to go alone. After scanning and sizing up my family, next thing this vagina told me was how her car is always developing problems and how she needs a new one and that she had only 30% of the money. I asked her to go to any recognized dealership and get a deal where she can pay in installments from her salary. Next thing this girl told me was to borrow her the money. This is someone we've been together less than a month. I told her I'm not her father and our relationship was purely for benefits. She said she doesn't care. I jejely continued eating the coochie occasionally and treating her like a side chic while postponing the remaining 70% loan.

People dey record .
You sef wn record ..
E go shock you.. were others dance collect money na Koboko you go collect.. if you like go misbehave for aboki man land.. Dem go clear your doubt..

Anyi gears ha hapu violence ha aju..
It has been pulled down cos they are linked to recent attack on policmen and security agents in the region..
Ndewo nu ndi IPOB na ESN

BlessedNuel:
I so much respect this man

He came to our school some weeks back for Joshua Generation International Youth conference and I must confess,his speech was so inspirational.

You are a UNN student and you attend Anglican Church

Ti
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Boys

Maobichek:
I'm not happy that they are yet to bury him but had conducted election when he is yet to be led to rest.

The governor confirmed that Ossy Prestige was a man of the masses. I know that Chimaobi Obisike will try but can't fill the vacuum left behind by Ossy Prestige.

Thank God that they are working on Ngwa road now. Rest in peace my Pristige .

Nigerian constitution is a national and federal one and doesn't care about what a tribe or people want to do or is keeping them from burying their loved ones..
There is a time frame in the constitution for bye election(s) to be conducted when a lawmaker(s) dies..
What about the muslim faithfuls that bury same day or next day after someone dies??
Moreover, I am Abian..

clarocuzioo:
Same question I always ask. I onced asked this question in our family meeting and my uncles wanted to eat me up alive.

I told them in the meeting that all the good people in our family are dying but the bad ones are still alive.

Lol

Uncharted56:
learn to appreciate what you have today tmrw is not assured

You get time to reply that useless fellow..
Abia wey Kalu and Orji messed up for 16yrs na em Dem wn Okezie to do instant miracle on..