RiyaGoddess:
Uhmmm Okafor law is so real to some extent or let me say 90%.

Let me tell you all a story.

Before I traveled, I use to have a very good friend. This babe was so beautiful and a girl with the brain as in very intelligent. Every man wanted her especially married men. She met a married man whose marriage had nosedived. This man was separated and everyone knew he was separated. Las las, she started dating this married man. I call him married man because he was not legally divorced or was in process but as at then, he was separated from his wife. This man and his separated wife lived apart in different states.
The man showered my friend with love and care. They were the talk of the town and won best couple award. Every one wanted these two new love birds together except for this my friend family who objected to their relationship because they didn't want their daughter to marry a second hand man. These two were so in love that they listened to nobody. They went places together, traveled out of the country together, built house together etc.
Now my friend got pregnant after about 3 years of being together and just when her family thought they should get married since there's a child between them already, my friend started acting strange. She objected to the idea of them getting married. Everyone wondered why, after all that's what they have always wanted.
Then she opened up to we her friends and families that the man former wife has a son who is few month older than her child for this same man.
We were shocked!!!
So all these while that this man has been going to see his 2 kids in the name of I don't want these children to suffer, he has been having unprotected sexual affair with his separated wife.
With all the "God delivered me from a wicked and evil wife", yet he was having sexual intercourse with the evil woman.
His separated wife took in and gave birth to a boy though he had a son before.
What shocks us most is that each time this man kids calls him, this man will always ask of this baby boy and one day, my friend asked him 'who is this boy that you always ask of?' This man said it was his nephew son not knowing that it was his own son flesh and blood. He was so perfect that he never kept any of this boy pictures on his phone except for the other two kids.
She got to know through his sister. His sister exposed his brother to her. The sister was like she can't be part of the game. My friend did her findings and found out it was true. She confronted this man and he confessed though apologized but my friend cancelled the wedding and left to abroad with her child. For 10 years, this man haven't set his eyes on the child...

What I want to bring out here is that, Children brings parents together and it takes the grace of God for them to be sexually disciplined not to allow Okafors Law.
Baby Daddy and Mama drama isn't an easy one. If you can't stand the heat, don't go in there. It comes with lots of emotional pains and fear of the unknown. It can even lead to high BP for any of the party involved especially for the women. It even makes the women become monsters when they can no longer handle it, they go into voodoo...
Like the case of Sophia and Davido and the other women, you can't separate the father from the children. You can't take the love of the children away from their father except with the help of voodoo. Those comparing wizkid bla bla bla, Put Shola, wizkid and Bolu in the same house for some days then come back to tell us what happened...
When these separated parents visits their kids, they tend to develop some old time feelings even when they know that it's impossible for them to be together again but they don't mind releasing that moment feelings into one another thereby resulting into sex then you begin to hear one thing led to another then I missed my period story.
That's why I hate Divorce/Separation, it comes with a whole lot of mess and pains...
Some women even now see it as a way to pepper the new lady in the picture.

May God help everyone caught in this messy web...

Sniper101:


My ex once told me how a guy once tried this style on her with hopes that she'll be impressed...

According to her, he's been asking her out so she decided to pay him a visit, for the first time.
Some minutes after she got to his place, dude decided to go take a shower, came out with a towel around his waist and BOOM...he knowingly dropped the towel in front of her, revealing his very massive gbola, hoping it will "impress" her & turn her on. Lol.

She said she practically ran out of his apartment within minutes cos she's always been scared of big pricks.
{ur story up there made me have a rethink about how that her own incident might have ACTUALLY PLAYED OUT. Lol.}



PS: back to the matter at hand.

In my Uni days, a certain very handsome fair complexion lodge mate of mine who was a known Player, confided in me that the best way to impress a lady is in bed.
Till date, I don't joke with that advice.


Correct guy

Frankicent:




Your wife hmmm.. make I no talk.

Shibaraba:
Analysed the last picture. The look on the robber's face..... Regret, pain and resignation. He knows he is as good as dead. In as much as he is the devil himself for delving into crime when all his mates are hustling, I'll still blame the land in which he was born. A land who never gave him a chance.
Rip thief. Latest before night or tomorrow he Don meet him maker. No be Nigerian police?

When you reach heaven try contact that angel wey carry you come naija. Nack am one or two slaps. Na him make you blame.

Raptor15:
. You are talking as if they are the cause of your poverty and frustration. Becareful make jealousy no kill you o.

Dottore:

Jealousy is a sin. You can't prove that she sleeps around, your points are based on speculations. You don't know how and what she has invested her time and money in.
Have a liberal mindset and be happy with others over their achievements so the same angel of blessings may locate you.

tchidi066:
Seriously all these constant marital issues on nl is getting me scared, i'm beginning to think twice about marriage...Maybe i should remain single n raise kids as a single mom or wat... but last last my people no go gree being the only daughter... Chai

IAmStrange:
I have come to notice that most times when human beings fall in love, we lose our willpower. People mistake it for sense - meaning we lose our sense but it's not true in many cases.

The person who is in love can actually have His sense intact and functioning and in every event, he knows the right thing to do... But he just doesn't do it because he has lost his willpower and his resolve has become weak so he runs around seeking advice from people so that their comments can serve as a sort of motivation to carry on with what he already thinks or knows he should do.

Secondly, you were saying he loves you to a fault. I don't want to dispute that. But I want you to know that "love" is not the only thing to be considered when choosing a spouse. You must not - I repeat - you must not marry someone JUST because he loves you. Love is not the only thing that guarantees happiness in a marriage.

There are more important things to be considered.

Do you really think those husbands that send their wives to the hospital after beating them thoroughly do not love their wives? in fact, they sometimes do that due to extreme love and protective jealousy for their wives?

Do you think all those men who womanize and cheat on their wives do not love their wives? In fact, in many cases, they do love their wives and give her all respect and love she deserves and would never allow any man come near her. Yet, they are serious cheats!!!

You are going to live with the character of your man and the character of your man is one of the major factors that will determine if he will make a good husband, father, in law to your people and if he will make a good "head of the family".

So cancel out that idea that "he loves me to a fault" if you think that that's enough for you to give in to him.

It's better for you to marry someone who loves you averagely and he treats you like the "queen" you are than get married to someone who "loves you to a fault" and he treats you like you are "serving a sentence as a prisoner" in his house.

Then thirdly, I want you to know that, that man has serious issues and if I were you, I will flee from entering into a marriage with such a person.

Please open your mind - that guy is going to cage you. He's probably going to make your life miserable.

- He has anger issues.
- He has trust issues
- He is uncultured (calling your sister a prostitute and hurling insults at you)
- He is a wife beater
- he jumps to stupid conclusions hastily (calling you a prostitute and going to the extent of taking your pictures)
- He checks your phone and wrongly accuses you of different things
- His jealousy is overboard

Believe me, A man who has all the above will probably make life miserable for you.

He may be the kind of man that will make you sit at home and cut you off the world. Then he maltreats you and doesn't take care of you, making you age faster and weaker as time goes on. Then he will be giving outsiders the impression that he is taking care of you and when you try to complain, they listen to him and not you.

And when you now start looking miserable, he ends up cheating on you with more beautiful girls out there while he leaves you at home to your misery.

There are men like this out there - that guy may be one.

So I advise you to flee from him. Do not listen to anyone. Don't let anyone pressure you into accepting him. They are not the ones to bear the pain and when you die and they get to know the true story, they will still blame you for accepting him.

That's life!

Then, please, do not also think low of yourself and pressure yourself into accepting him just because single men are not coming or because of your age.

Marrisge is a beAutiful thing but that's only when it's with the right person.

Being happily single is better than being miserably married

If you listen to the stories of many married women out there, you will thank your Lord and consider your single status a blessing, thanking God for saving you from what those married women have experienced.

I don't know your age but I think you are probably "not too old" yet.

Please, think positively of your God, yourself and aim for good.

Leave that man and after you have done that, pray to your Lord to bring you a good man you can settle down with.

And while you are still waiting, please be patient and understand that our major purpose on earth is to serve God. That's the major and true success.

Being single doesn't mean that you are a failure, don't let society pressure you into believing that.

The one who is married doesn't necessarily have more superiority in the eyes of God than the single one. The level of superiority is measured by how much you are close to God, how much of righteousness you achieve on earth and how much you do things that matter to the whole world - things that affect people positively.

Being single may turn out to be a blessing on its own. I know some people who went to very great heights of which it would have been difficult to achieve if they got married. What matters is your happiness, your wellbeing and how much your Creator is pleased with you.

So pray to your Lord and hope for good and be positive that he will send you a good man. But while you are waiting, try to do other meaningful things in your life that will bring you happiness.

Don't settle for a bad man who will make your life miserable.


May God soften your heart and grant you your desires.

dannyla

healthserve:
Someone says the boyfriend should be hanged already. Nigerians don't ask for facts. We just like to pin things on people to ease the pain not necessarily to get real justice.

I like to be told why the boyfriend was arrested and why its so automatic that its the boyfriend. Rather the investigators to move in with U. V lights scan the room collect biological samples and then conduct scientific forensic investigation, they've started with the usual guerrilla tactics.


I'm a big fan of justice but not the one where innocent people are sacrificed so some agencies don't look stupid.

There are many ways to do this. If I were on the legal team of the guy, this move can be cou there's of he's innocent


1. The sperm of the offenders one way or the other would be either on clothes around, the body of the corpse or in the body, one way or the other extracting the sperm cells would spearhead Intelligent investigation


2. In the process of the scuffle, hair/body parts could have dropped in the apartment


3.even handprints. Using a UV light would give lots of clues not available to the bare eyes.


First investigative search before arrests. Some persons in the area should have been the first to be questioned so they can describe the males they saw in the area that day/week