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I swear I'd divorce her, was I in your shoes.

Taah! For what? I will beat her blue black join, what rubbish!!

*Thinking in hindsight *
But wait o OP, she just started beating you, just like that? As in, she just hated you overnight.

Hmm, this one dey somehow sha.

iamJ:
who cares? Shut up and get lost

Or better still send me ur acct details let me send u feeding money

You do care enough to tell me never to mention you no more, the point is, I can and will mention you just whenever I like and guess what, you can't do squat about it, haha!

Oh! Please!! Feed yourself common sense first, cretinous bozo.

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dont mention me next time, get lost
https://img2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20131126185944/walkingdead/images/9/94/Dave-Chappelle-Pushes-Girl-Out-of-the-Way-In-Club.gif[/quote]Say what now? Point of correction boy, people in my grade won't talk to you, cos people in my grade, won't take a lowlife who looks down on people serious, don't kid yourself sucker.

Seun can't even tell me to not mention him, talk more you, my friend go grow some brain before coming on here to spew rubbish, if I ever catch you talking crap, especially about poor people, I'll let you have it, blawdy fvcktard.

iamJ:
[color=#59576F] That is why i hate poor women and people


When i see a poor girl i run for my life
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#No Filter Attitude

Shut your putrid gob, out here acting a f00l, talkin bout poor people like you are something yourself, nigga please!

Why wait 7 hours? Kai!

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HARDDON:
What a Night!

Freekoko? 11th wonders of the world!

Tot you eluped with an ethopian man and you've bn spending your time catching his dedicated shots n tending your brood?

What brings the tortoise out of its creepy cocoon?

say what now?

Story.

Some Nigerians sha, funny how you are thanking god for sending you to another man's country,when does the stupidity end?

This one resemble person wey don ever see 100k?mschew.

supersystemsnig:
Aiite ma'am... taking the blame for this, like from mum to son...

supersystemsnig:
I'm your fan and always listen/read your comments. Sorry i never told you till today...but i'm a huge fan...I admire your wisdom and intellect ma..I understand....

Feminism has no issues with it, i agree...


Thanks for knocking senses into me

Awww! No vex na, we are just only still talking ni and I see the sarcasm but still, you should have left offline things offline, you just have to take the blame for this one.

I believe somehow we have all been hurt one way or the other, when it comes to matters of the heart, but how we handle it is what makes us emotionally mature or whatnot. I must tell you, you didn't handle whatever happened well.

Lighten up anyway, it's NL, don't take it too seriously.

supersystemsnig:
Lol @ emotionally damaged... strong word...

Feminism is destroying relationships more than keeping it together, i've constantly maintained this position and won't change it

But come to think of it.

Will someone who is emotionally sound go mailing another, over quoting them online? Like she isn't supposed to disagree with you because you both have a thing offline? Makes no sense whatsoever.

Leave feminism alone, it is not what's your issue.

mrphysics:
It was totally wrong for op to have demanded the gifts back. He thought that's the things he could recover from the relationship having lost already.

Well, I can't walk out on you when you are talking sense. There is a difference between discussion and nagging. Nagging seems to also imply when an issue have been settled and you just want to keep talking about it. To this kind of talks, I will walk out. But if you have something you want us to talk about, its different and I will give you all the attention.

Thinking you own a copyright to men is what we hate dealing with. Respect the fact he told you he wants the issue to be forgotten. If something have been settled and you kept bringing it forward to be discussed again, I see the previous discussion as a waste of time. And I don't like wasting my time.


You should have asked what value her visiting add She didn't add any value, I did everything like she wasn't there. She had nothing to contribute, sitting down and just talking and looking at her phone was waste of useful energy for me to handle. The talking was boring me, she needed just to go. When no value is being added, then the presence is not required.

i guess you and I have a different understanding of what nagging is, only a mad person continues talking about an already resolved issue, like seriously?

If you are attracting a woman that adds no value, who's to say you bring any value to her as well? Oga we can go on about it forever but the truth remains the truth, any man who would walk a woman out over one little misunderstanding, shouldn't be in a relationship, hoo ha!

mrphysics:
The fact that its been working for you doesn't make it right If you nag here, I will just walk out on you shikena .

Seriously, women should count their words. Nagging is only preempting the man to say something you have been waiting to hear.

Call me for a discussion and I will listen attentively. Nag and I won't reply your mention.

Its very easy for a woman to say she is not respected in a relationship. Why is it that nagging happens when the man don't want to talk, or when the man just want to be left alone? Must you always talk at such time ?

Nagging can happen anytime, there's no set time for it and fyi men nag too so, stop assuming only women do.

Nagging can happen during a discussion, in fact that's how it mostly starts so I don't know what you are saying.

Toh! If your woman likes being walked out on, good for you too, I sha know I don't get walked out on, over just saying my mind.

pidgintutor:
. Do you know some would even try to apologize to get you to stop talking?

so you like men apologizing to stop you from talking.... mehn, this world has ended...

i can guess almost guess that when you mad with your guy.. he apologises..

when he is mad with you... he apologises...


btw




i see you have started to do what you do best.. NAG
you have even resorted to use of offensive words...

Lemme leave you alone to keep talking to yourself as i would in real life

Running with your tail inbetween your legs, we know your kind.

Relationships aren't a one size fits all, whatever works for each couple, let them be.

Small and immature men thinking they know sh1t about how a relationship should be, go sleep jare. ,

jhudit:
Na advice o, he should take prognose advice. Him and babe argue about a rape topic on Nairaland, him run offline to send mail...him still come share the mails on Nairaland. He shared it with us on another thread.



They should go and grow up. Two of them...

just imagine.

Some men are just overly emotionally damaged.

I didn't not mention anyone's name o, nobody should attack me cos I'm very fragile o.

pidgintutor:
smiles...how should a guy react to such rants..

1. listen attentively.
2. Walk away.
3. Physical Assault.


the reason why it has been working for you is cos you control ya men.... except by nagging you mean a diff thing... there was a thread which graced frontpage about a woman who kept nagging endlessly and stopped the man from entering his own house because he didnt wash his feet then the man threw a punch.. she lost a tooth and went to the hospital only for the nurses to condemn the man without hearing the full story..




if she didn't hit you, don't hit


this is laughable.... the man is still blamed..



any man yu can control as a woman is not worthy to be called your husband.. he can be controlled by any other woman.. by the way, i see an over bloated ego in you.. u had better watch it my dear...... there can only be one caption on this ship and certainly not a lady...

Hahaha

Leave it to a Nigerian man to label a man who respects his woman weak as Or being controlled by her, na today?

See where you get It wrong, who says a man can't get in a word when a woman nags? Like he can't say anything because I'm talking? Even if he doesn't even utter a word, that makes him weak? A man who has his emotions in check is weak to you? I can see how mature you are. Do you even know that some men laugh nagging off? Do you know some would even try to hold you while you go on supposedly ranting? Do you know some would even try to apologize to get you to stop talking? All these men are weak according to you, only women batterers like yourself are deserving to be called strong/worthy of the title husband, my friend gtfoh!

Let me control him o, I like it like that, which man woman no dey control one way or the other sef? Phew!

How is locking your husband out of the house the same as just talking? As If men too don't nag, keep deceiving yourself.

What you think of my ego doesn't affect me, I love me like that.

pidgintutor:
i aint rationalizing beating as you put it.. i am just saying.... there are 3 types of guys... and i explained why any of the 3 would do...... if you are just making a request for somthg..... that isnt nagging... it is what it is.. a request.... all requestees talks mildly and are patient.. playful disturbance is even sexy.. but nagging my friend is on a whole different level....

guys tolerate such in different ways... even amongst your gender.... most females would never take such from another lady..... a fracas must ensue which would eventually lead to a fight.


beating is physical assault...
nagging is psychological assault...


physical pain and psycholohical.. which is milder my dear?

How is nagging on a whole different level/psychological assault? So if he likes to leave the seat up or won't wash the leather from the soap on the tiles away, after bathing, and I give him intense/aggressive lecture on why he should for say, 15 minutes, that's after having said it over and over before to no effect before, that is psychological assault?

Fracas must not always ensure from nagging my friend, say what you are sure of please, mind you, I'm not asking anybody to nag anybody o, I'm just telling you what has worked for me most times, and remember, all women aren't the same, so I don't know what you hear, when you hear nagging.

Plus it's not even like nagging is something one does every damn time, I know when it's necessary and I employ it then, however you decide to interpret that, is your kettle of fish.

BTW, there's nothing like 3 types of guys, any guy that would hit a woman because she was talking, is an @ss, if she didn't hit you, don't hit her and vice versa, that's how I see it.

And na for outside their gate them dey play ludo? Issorrai!

mrphysics:
I will walk away. You can slap me and I will understand but when you keep talking, talking, and talking, its enough to walk away from you.

I detest nagging, anything that will shift my focus irritates me. So better learn how not to nag. You might meet the wrong people who doesn't take nagging.

As far as I'm not insulting you, if you walk away, you definitely don't respect me, if we ever find ourselves in a situation where talking happens, nigga if you care about that relationship, you ain't going nowhere, but if you do, like I would expect an immature man to, then I'm prolly better off without a man who can't stand a little heat.

Shift focus from what exactly? Is a misunderstanding with your partner, not worth focusing on? So many times, women have gotten men who wouldn't ordinarily engage, to talk by nagging them. I still maintain that how your woman goes about her nagging is Key, I know my man doesn't feel insulted when I do, if anything, he only ends up feeling bad, that he had to make me upset /talk that much, but I can understand you, most men don't know that relationships take work and they just can't be bothered, rubbish!

mrphysics:
At the bold sentences
1. I was a very good guy. I just don't like when you want to challenge my intelligence by thinking I am a fool. If you want to act, act as though you are dealing with a human. But ladies just want to act as if they are dealing with a fool. That was what op saw and got angry. Demanding for what he gave her was his weakness.
2. She didn't collect it because she was a good girl. I did because I wanted her to leave the house. Anything that will disrupt my thoughts gets me weak. I just needed her to go and go for good. She begged and begged me to see her off, my sister, I do ear like say I dey train pig.
3. Nagging solves no problem. You don't get me to listen to you but nagging. You only do that by talking sense. When you start nagging, it gets me weak and I begin to see the nagger as someone who doesn't know anything. I don't like talking too much, same, I don't like when you talk to me too much. Except we are talking about politics and money, every other talks should be short and simple.

Wish I can get a nagging pill for Nigerian ladies to take. Most ladies think that a guy is their right and they own copyright to him yet they don't want to be owned, they want you to allow her to make as many photocopy of guys and keep to herself. Ladies should try to understand guys, our lives are simple. Our burden are light and our cross easy

OP is way beyond childish and that says a lot about how he's acted In the relationship. I just can't see how a sensible grown man would ask for a gift back because there's a fight, in fact that girl tried by even agreeing to marry him, nonsense!

If you acted like you should, I don't see how a woman would nag you in the first place, you men are just overgrown babies at the end of the day, so it makes sense to nag your a$$es sometimes, though I must say, how she goes about it, matter a whole lot. I try my best not to yell or use abusive language, it's more like giving cogent reasons why I expect you to do what you didn't do, which brings us to the nagging, what it does for me is that, it makes him see that he's not living up to expectations, thus further making him want to step up his game, of course when I start going there, he'd rather I stop, but if I don't persist, the issue might just get swept under the rug, abeg whether you all agree or not, you men need a little push most times, excuse me for recognising that and using it to my advantage.

I can tell you wouldn't even listen either way, I mean, you turned a deaf ear to ordinary seeing her off, what else can you do if you can't manage that small task?

Men, SMH, I hail women o, we are really trying.

pidgintutor:
you had better be careful with the guys you nag... sending her away is what a cool headed guy would do.. a calm guy would leave the house for you and not return until he is sure you have left the house. whereas the last group would give you the beating of your life... not every guy tolerates such. its so annoying thinking about important stuffs and a lady just cant shut her trap...


your guys have been cool-headed thats y you think it is a win win for you....

Abegi make I hear something. You think cos you hear say woman nag, means what exactly? Abi you don't know that nagging has variations ati formula?

See you see so annoying, so somehow you can rationalize beating up someone simply because they are talking? Abi did they tell you that nagging means verbally abusing him ni? In fact let me even tell you, any man I've ever been with knew it was a big eff up to walk away while I was talking, for what na?

See the way you even say sending her away, no iota of respect, smh
Oga not every woman attracts a psycho, so best understand how nagging has worked for and respect it, tanx.

jhudit:
Read how to be a man on google too. Some of these males supporting you, can never descend as low as you did. You came too low and displayed your vulnerability for NL. Let me be too.

Hehehe,you wicked o.

No be small "read how to be a man on google "

Una wee not kee us o.

mrphysics:
Guys hate that nagging. When he is thinking of something important, someone will just nag those God sent points off his head. Instead of walking her out, I refused seeing her off. She came alone, she must leave alone. You know what is like walking stupidly alone to where you will get a cab, she felt I was joking. I was kind enough to give transport that is twice higher than the actual amount. You ladies can be annoying too.

The op just escaped a timed bomb. Bring the issue to nairaland is a major problem he has. That is why I have been telling these two lovers to settle out of the High Court of Nairaland presided by the Honourable Judge Seun Osewa.

But both of them have Abraham as father here.

See the way you paint the whole picture like say you nice well well, If we check well now, you are the one at fault, cos for her to quietly collect the money and leave with no drama, she is a good girl.

The problem with you men is that you expect what you cannot give, you guys mostly already have this the-world-is-ours mentality, therefore you misbehave, expecting the lady to just suck it up, take for instance the way the OP has been sounding, as if he did the lass a favour, he even went as far as returning her belongings same night and asking her to return the phone he gave her, and you tell me he is not the one with the faults? I hear o. The way he has been going on really has me feeling for that lady kinda, tbh(though I still leave small room for doubt cos I don't know what really happened for a fact) but still, he has given himself away.

Anyone who would walk away from a relationship already headed for marriage just like that, over her not petting you when you felt you needed it, regardless, shouldn't be talking marriage.

This OP needs to work on himself o jare.

Oh! And on the nagging ish, I know that's the fastest way to get him to listen and act cos then he just wants me to stop talking, therefore he goes, "oya what do you want me to do now" ? Win-win for me.

mrphysics:
I wanted to ask why men do this alot. One got me angry on saturday, I almost walked her out but its not who I am. I just let her carry her bag of wahala and leave my room. I also gave her transport .

On a serious note, this is bad and should be condemned. Men ought to control themselves when they are angry. Telling one to leave is just very archaic and unnecessary. Allow her to go for good.

Seems like someone have walked you out of his house Remember, i am having catarrh, I can't talk very well on nairaland

Lol, nobody has walked me out, the only person who ever said something close to leaving said "I will leave this house for you o" and I was like shuu, leave na, I dey beg you? the guy just weak for me, went to seat down and I kuku just continue with my nagging.

Seriously though, you guys are very annoying but don't seem to know it. Many fail to realise how serious an offense it is to walk her out, that's like a deal breaker, as far as I'm concerned, it doesn't show respect at all.

This OP isn't faultless and he knows it.

This OP sha.

Are you sure you are not like a certain someone of mine who starts shivering after making me vex, as a way to get my attention? Cos I know you men can sabi like to manipulate someone into pitying you when you don't deserve it, cos I don't understand this kind of high grade fever that allowed you the strength to pursue someone out of your house o, just saying sha.

E sha pain them.

johnydon22:
hahahahahahahahaha this guy dey craze.

my honeybunny freecocoa is a big time atheist chick here. But seriously atheist chicks dey dey very strong headed that it scares the shit out of you.

Really Jay, like really.

Mumu girl.