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OldBeer:
I agree totally.
Just the way your mother was passed around before settling for your poor father.

jesusbabe00:
it is called Whatscan for Whatsweb. It can be downloaded from Google playstore. After downloading it in your phone. Go to the WhatsApp account of the person who want to spy, open the WhatsApp Web and scan the QR code of this application in your phone. That way you monitor all his chats.

VeniJu:
My dear adam500hr, i know how such issues are. I know the psychological effects of such marital problems. However, all you need now is a concrete evidence before any decision is taken by you. I have handled such issues for over 4 people. Even on this platform.
Contact me via whatsapp 08129078105.. Let's get some proof if she's cheating or not.

Prettiepearlz:
Your points have made no sense at all. And as regards the bold, I take that as an insult and as a typical Nigerian and a typical nairalander you are always quick to refer to one's parent. Well for your information, I have had the BEST PARENTS you can ever think of. And if you don't know, apart from your parents who are your first teachers, the society also have a way of imparting knowledge on you and also the internet. You can get enlightened anywhere. Tell me you don't have a role model apart from your parents and I will tell you how hypocritical you are. We women have decided to be free from that societal and African beliefs of men treating us like slaves. From all your posts so far, you are one of those men affected by societal and African belief so don't come here preaching to me asking questions like should the societal belief have an impact on an individual because you are one of those products. And if you understand sarcasm, you would know Cococandy wasn't agreeing to your words in the real sense of it.
Yeah as regards War Room, tell a victim of domestic violence to sit and be going war room, so that when she dies, you would all come online to spill thrash about how she was stupid enough to cause her death. Your last paragraph should be referred to you and not me because I am more enlightened than you think but I can't say the same for you. Because you keep going back and forth saying the same thing and you keep on going on without knowing when to stop.
Ps: DON'T ever refer to my parents when making your points because I don't joke with them, I repeat Don't ever!. I wouldn't disrespect your parents, don't ever say anything about my parent's parenting because it's obvious, you can't even do half of what they have sacrificed for us to have a better life. Don't mention me again because at this point, your opinion matters less to me. Preach to those who are ready to hear your preaching, I am proud of the woman I have become and the woman I will be. And besides the op has gotten a solution to her situation, so case closed, stop the mentions so we can all rest, Bye!

Prettiepearlz:
I don't understand you sir.

oxypress:
From the informstion garthered surrounding the the condition of your child the first diagnosis is Cerebral palsy. The seconnd is Traumatic Brain Injury because of the fall from the storey building. The second injury complicates the first one.

Do not borther looking for diagnosis. Focus on treatment. It may save you time and resourses.

What you really have to do now is to consider the use of Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy (hbot). That is the best you can do for him to salvage the condition. The best facilities in the country will only offer Physiotherapy, Speech therapy, Neuropsychiatric, Pediatric and Laboratory referals. All these are limited and may not contribute to healing of the childs brain except they refer to hbot if they have the knowledge. We are ready to work with them.

HBOT has a very great potential to heal the brain. Its effects on the brain far exceeds anything that can be offered in the usual conventional medical practice. Because of the efficasy of hbot you begin to see improvement on daily basis. We know what we say because this is what we do.

People come with various suggestions, discard them because they will not add healing to the brain. They waste your time and resourses.

Your child has suffered brain damage due to hypoxia which is a low oxygen supply to the brain, because blood supply to some parts of the brain has been compromised. The blood tranports oxygen and nutrients through a network of blood vessels.

HBOT facilitates the builing of new blood vessels, it repaires damaged nerve tissues, it regenerates new neurones to replace dead ones by the effect of stem cells, it regulates the metabolic systems in the nerve tissues. There is no drug in medical practice that can achieve all these in one package.

This is the information you need. If we stepped on any ones toes please forgive. But this is the thruth, we have to say it wether it is affordable or not.

There is no better or safer way to send oxygen to the brain than hbot. It is for this reason even the teaching hospitals are helpless in treating people with brain damage.

Search for: hbot and brain damage, hbot and traumatic brain injury, hbot and tbi, hbot and post concussion syndrom. Then check on youtube videos.

Check on our writeups on nairaland /health.

HBOT Providers, in Port Harcourt

msbyao:
I don't want to share any personal stories on the forum just yet, but medication and supplementation are different. I am strongly against Medications except it is absolutely necessary.

shaybebaby:
My son was in nappies till 3 months before his fifth birthday.
It didn't bother me, he is autistic. Whilst my peers were potty training their kids, I focussed on giving him the skills he would need should he ever become ready.

I used hand on hand encouragement to teach him to pull his trousers down.
I by passed potty and would sit him in the loo even if it was for 2 secs. To get him used to it.

I let him watch me( kids on the spectrum are very visual learners) whilst I used the loo.

All these I did without actually trying to get him out of nappies.

Im not very good at typing,(lazy) but send your digits and I'll add you up.

He can make progress but he is going to need his parents every step of the way.

phillips1959:
Hey, take my advise KEEP COOL, DONT MAKE ANY MOVE,HOLD YOUR SIDE, let your wife and her family make the first move.Then you will know her mind.
You married her for the sake of your son and they know that. Now you must pretend you are not desperate to keep the boy.Let them expose their game plan then you decide what to do.If they come with trouble to take the boy,dont offer any resistance.It will shock them.
If you are desperate to keep a family just for the sake of your son,you will regret the marriage.Dont head for divorse.Remain separated till she starts to reason on her own without external influence.Just wait and see.She will surely seek you and when she does accept her back.But PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE,dont initiate reconciliation no matter how long.Dont speak to third parties about it .Just keep cool.It will turn out good al last.Be positive.Good luck.

Onegai:
She didn't handle it well. I have seen a wife handle a side chic so beautifully that the side chic washed her face free of makeup, plaited all back (she was flaunting to the wife when the wife verbally confronted her that "your husband paid for my human weave" ), wore Ankara dress from neck to ankle and went to the wife's customer in Balogun and knelt down and told her to beg the wife to leave her alone.

Before any battle, choose your ground and tactics wisely. Think like a General and plan a good attack or lure into the best trap.

Why will I go to a hostel filled with hungry single girls, half of them depending on a man somewhere, to fight? Does that babe not go out alone elsewhere? Someone else I know had her friend create job advertisement to lure the side chic to fake interview. She pranced there unsuspectingly (worse, carrying handbag Oga bought her). She met the beating of her life, they stripped her nekkid, took pics of her and promised to share flyers of her pics to her church. The gist went round and every singleton whom had collected the husband's number gave themselves brain . and the wife calmly made sure Oga knew why girls were no longer returning his calls, whilst serving him dinner. He too gave himself brain.

To be honest, sometimes a wife is fighting for more than a man. When you see your kids being neglected because your husband is lost to all except pleasure and you know he's being encouraged by someone who should know better, you run mad. Both husband and side chic should be punished. And there are clever ways to do so.

PaulKillerman:
. And u will be foolish to think the man won't go out to get more girls for himself (as long as the money is there). ; u girls that think battering other ladies for ur husband or BF sake is appropos are just asinine and foolish..

If u cannot tame your husband's rabidness and he marauds around unleashing it on various girls outside, spending his resources on them and promising them more fortune, how does it concern the girls in question? ; it only tells u have no control over your home and your man as well, and the fight should be with your husband not the girl as That man will definitely get more girls , even if the index one chooses to leave (as long as the money remains constant) ; it can be likened to managing the symptoms of a malady, while abandoning the real cause of it; which in essence will amount to an exercise in futility .
Same with me; I will never go to fight a boy who is forking my wife or GF on the side ; it shows I have no control over my wife. Where I can come in, is when he keeps literally bugging and disturbing her despite several shunning from her. Then u have a ground to act.


Women !! Learn how to be civil and sagacious in your act and actions it tells a lot about you and your esteem as human bring; do not ridicule yourself and paint yourself stupid because of a marriage you are forcing yourself in.

I'm out; Paulkillerman remains my name..

shadeyinka:
I think I am close enough to the so called drug in development by Sheda Science and Technology Complex, Abuja (SHESTCO).

A desperate parent volunteered (not as a test/clinical trial)to use the drug/herbal mixture (at his own risk) for a child of his who was almost sent out of school because of daily epileptic fit in the class (4-5 times). I can tell you that the suppliment works.

Its still far from the stage of clinical trials but toxicity tests has been done and the result is favourable.

The FG came out too early to make the announcement. They should have done the needful before going to the press/media.

For now, SHESTCO treats it as a herbal/food supliment. It might take 10-15 years to certify it as a DRUG following the normal protocol.

My take is, if it works and it is better than the western alternative, let's use it like the Chinese acupuncture.

bonjovi12:
I am literally standing in awe of you and your life experience.
Like I feel you completely. I am a very spiritual person and if not for that my marriage would have ended since and I wouldn't have been where I am today.But Gods grace has always been sufficient for me.
I.pray God gives me the grace to go back to my fervent prayer life.
Somehow I know I am going to have kids. That's sure and I would let u guys know.
For all those who are compassionate about every couple going through a waiting period,pls.pray for us.Lift us up before the throne of God.May God break every yoke preventing the manifestation of our children.
Keep in touch. Regards

mashin:
Those that say Benue Governor is not doing well are liars I challenge any body for an online debate with pictorial evidence

whiteraven:
I just have hope I just have hope

anonimi:
You should learn about SEPARATION of powers in a democracy.
The senate is a law making body not an executive arm of government.
It cannot order the arrest of anyone.
There are other ways to deal with a recalcitrant agent of the executive.
If the SINators are serious they should use those other ways to LEGITIMATELY address their grievances with Col. Ali.
We should stop being easily excitable mumus.
#OurMumudonDo.



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Hotfreeze:
Congrats bro.

You escaped marrying someone who didn't love you and she missed marrying someone who truly loved her.

Ladies at her age choose swag over class. In a decade, she would see you and be hiding in shame.

My ex left me for a guy in Zenith cos I was a student back then. When I got to my final year on school, he lost his job and couldn't get others so quickly. Then, I was preparing to go to Law School.

When I started working, she started calling me and all. She was crying, begging me to forgive her. This was someone who had already done introduction with the other guy. I told her I accepted, we hung out, had sex a couple of times (na my pension) before I told her off.

Now, I show love to my parents and my siblings' kids and I'm so happy. I remember when I called my mom and told her 'Mommy, I love you', she was crying. She thought I was going to die.

My brother, leave those girls o. In 5 years time, she'll know the difference between swag and class.

Nwakannaya1:
Well I dont see it from the angle that most people do.
A married woman giving out her number is not wrong, no big deal there. Your husband should grow up.
Again, that man is a Doctor whom u might need his help, and you don't even know why he was requesting for your number.
It mustn't be always for sexual advances that men do request for women's numbers.
I think that giving a wrong number is wrong too, you should either give or don't give.
Your husband is overreacting, he won't be there to help in all situations, he shouldn't scare everyone away.
Because you are married, just apologise to keep your family.
However, your husband needs to get mature.

AZeD1:
Her action doesn't signify anything. Only shallow minded people think like that.

Ujoan:
I believe the lady is an adult and capable of making the right decisions for herself and her home. Did he give any reasons here why she shouldn't have friends over? Apart from the fact that he's just doesn't like the idea. It's her home too and she reserves the right to invite her guests whenever she likes, without having someone telling her not to.

Most people are not comfortable with what their spouses do, but they don't martial out rules and regulations, they present their case in a meaningful way and hope the other party reasons with them. The way I see it, I can go wherever I like, whenever I like, as far as it doesn't endanger my life and that of my family. If my spouse, for some reason thinks I shouldn't, then I need a good reason, thought out objectively. Not an order to cease and desist! And even then, I reserve the right to make my own choice, because I'm an ADULT who is not in PRISON!

Or do you think a lady should 'sacrific' her friends to Please husband? Is that what you would call 'compromise'? The real question here is, why does she have to? I understand i have to make sacrifices but not for something as harmless as this. It just isn't worth the attention the OP is demanding for it. This just shows he could be a bit controlling.

Also, if he sleeps with any of her friends because she invited them for a visit, then that's on him not her. I can't imagine telling my friends (single or married) not to come visiting because my husband 'banned' it. It's so degrading and belittling!

Marriage is a partnership and if truly your spouse is your partner, you'd find the idea that you have to give her 'directives' a bit odd.

hedonistic:
Wonderful development.

But this is just the beginning. I am currently compiling a long list of civilian brutalisation/human rights abuse incidents perpetrated by these unprofessional and undisciplined animals in the Nigerian Armed Forces, and would publicise them via a well-structured and heavily funded social media platform, with the support of international agencies that I'm currently establishing contacts with.

The already battered image of the Nigerian Armed Forces is just about to get more battered than ever before. This ridiculous sense of superiority and disdain for civilians by Nigerian soldiers has reached its apogee. It's time to take the fight to their doorstep. In a constitutional democracy, the military is SUBORDINATE to civil authority and derives its legitimacy from civil authority. Nigeria's case cannot be different.

Enough is enough.

three:
Are you yet too be convinced that these guys have redefined 'cluelessness' and don't intend to be respsnisble in any way?

We need to redefine our actions on Social Media, Join A Political Party and Raise Competent Candidates for 2019 and get these misfits out.

The problems can't be solved overnight but they can be solved nonetheless .
A chief criteria of Politics is foresight and patience, we tend to forget the little seeds and look for big revolutions then get frustrated cos it seems this 'revolution' won't come.

Political revolutions begin with as little as a mosquito bite and swirl into a whirlwind.

2 Years from now most people will wish they had started today.

When do you think Tinubu started plotting the demise of the PDP with his grand mega party plan, do you realise he was scoffed at?

You reading this, do you not think you're more intelligent than some of these leaders? so how come you're reading this and not vying for political office?

Get UP!

WAKE UP!!!

...or you think you can't be governor, senator or president? then don't complain when misfits lord it over you

#NigeriaElections2019DoItYourself
#NigeriaElections2019StartNow

merrywheels:
Driving is an art mastered overtime through experience and hardwork. When you begin to drive professionally,then you will understand better. And there are ways if such art is wrongly applied, will result to fatality or death.
So today we are going to learn how not to abuse that art by sticking to the rules.
Rule number :


1. Never overtake at a bend. It is the surest way to get involved in a head on collision. No matter how expert you think you are,you will only have about 2 seconds to respond to the shock of seeing a vehicle right before you. So don't!


2.Always underestimate the driver in front of you and the driver behind you,that way you will respond better to their mistakes if any.And if non,thank God!


3.Have accurate knowledge of your cars acceleration and braking power. It helps you overtake swiftly and let's you know from where to begin applying your brakes when necessary. Such knowledge is very important.



4.To be a professional driver you must be a very fast thinker and sharp initiator. Several situations which have caused fatal accidents presented options to the driver involved and he must choose one.But choosing the wrong option results in an accident. So be alert!



5.Never take alcohol or any such stimulants cause they reduce your alertness a great deal. Alcohol and stimulants relax the body and reduces concentration.




6.Playing loud music isn't wise because you don't hear what's going on in and around your car. And we know this is very necessary for a smooth journey,so please reduce the sound of that music and save a life.




7.Always indicate the direction you want to go with your trafficators and do so on time to warn the driver behind you and the driver on the other side of the intersection.



8. Make any conversation brief. As conversations while driving hinders concentration. So stop the Chit chat unless you are just on cruise mode.




9.View your dash board indicators every five minutes and view your mirrors as often as possible. View attentively while driving for any mechanical or technical faults as this helps salvage a situation which can lead to engine knock or an accident due to faulty brakes.




10. Never overspeed, and stop praising your driving skill as a driver because many have gone this way.

chronique:
There are... Indiscipline isn't as a result of conditions or situations; it has a lot to do with character modeling and upbringing. There's a link between wisdom,good character and discipline. Anyone who would be honest and trustworthy, must possess all three qualities. People aren't honest or disciplined cos they don't want to make efforts to be responsible. We all face the same challenges but not all of us are thieves. It's very easy and convenient to be bad and irresponsible but takes a lot of sacrifice and efforts to be responsible. That's something most people aren't ready to do.