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ifyalways:
When did Freshvine become a troll bikonu? Na wao.

Babe, like someone asked, what's the meaning of "troll"?

@Salsera

What's the requisite indices to judge a real story on this board? Just because few of you on here are living the perfect life shouldn't disqualify real people with real problem from sharing their matrimonial challenges and seeking for solutions.

I understand the frustration and I hereby apologize to all and sundry over whatever my hubby must have done with this moniker. Aside his confessions of philandering during his bachelor days, I see no reason for this remarks.

This is a copy of the payment receipt. What has Jigawa State got to do with a payment in Trans Amadi area of Port Harcourt?

cococandy:
TV is the know it all.

He has a better idea what marriage is all about than anyone you can ever meet in this life.
Online or offline.
Why not stick to him to advice you.

What do you want from mere mortals with limited knowledge like us


Agbaya oshi.
Person go old finish but refuse to let childhood alone.
Tomorrow you will be a single person, next tomorrow a married man, today a married woman.

Leave foolishness alone.

Believe whatever you want to believe but I'll no longer condone this unwarranted virtuperation. I've been kind enough to allow common sense overwhelmed you but it looks like you're on a vendetta chase.

From a lady to another, maintain the decorum.

I went to Corporate Affairs Zonal headquarters in Port Harcourt for a business transactions and the transaction entails me depositing money in a bank through the federal government single account module. I walked to the nearest bank, filled the teller and paid the requisite fees. After my receipt was printed with the Remita logo and a confirmation Barcode, I discovered that jigawa state in northern Nigeria was used as a state of transaction. This could only mean it was preset from the system.

How can an igbo lady pay money in Rivers State only for it to be entered as jigawa catchment territory.

Chineke Okike Abiama, is this a human error or a calculated attempt to rob Peter and pay Paul?

Igbos don't need anything Muslim representing us.

Moana:
if you don't want to do these "dehumanizing" things as a wife let his girlfriend/ future wife do them for him please. Problem solved. You want royal treatment that you are not willing to give him in return abi

Are you for real or you've gotten a sex swap?

Please it's undeserving to compel a sister to accept compromising demeanor. Where's lie the equality?

Can you believe my husband instructs me never to be in the lounge whenever a male visitor came calling. All of a sudden listening to conversation and contributing to with his male friends has turn to disrespecting him.

cococandy:
And some people are wasting their MBs proffering a solution to this certified troll.

Go for a sex change and decide whether you want to be a man or woman. Then people will know what to tell you.

This is the point I call out my fellow woman for lack of moral decency. TV1 suggested you'd come up with suited solution but what you just displayed is nothing short of emotional delinquency but I'll overlook as the one with the thinking cap.

Next time, understand that civility is not a luxury but a standard moral obligation expected of higher animals in this ecosystem.

TV01:
Most certainly - they have the "final solution", and it's worse than the holocaust !


TV

This is epic.

You mean to say they share my standpoint?

You're funny dude... Give Ali Baba a run for his money in the comedy department

TV01:
Misogynist - a man who does not do exactly what a woman wants, when she wants, and how she wants . Whether he has changed or not, if it doesn't please you it's simply wrong on his part. You are in a shitty & abusive marriage. See Cococandy and Bukatyne for next steps.


I have summoned them for you. You are welcome .


TV

Observation!

The two lovable ladies you mention, can they proffer a headway?

There's this cynical mischief in your recommendation and I'd wonder if you're not been sarcastic with me.

An0nimus:
OP are you male or female?

Am she. I've blocked my husband out from using the handle.

He has been using it for his satirical fulfilment and am not comfortable with it anymore

Please where are the Family Section veterans?

Please endeavor to suggest probably guide as to contain this impending conflagration that's about to consume my territorial edifice.

Shiningmama:
Madam, obey before complain. Forget about serving breakfast on bed or wherever being romantic or not. Knee down and serve him his food, he will get tired I tell you.
Whenever you guys have visitor who are not his close friends , serve him anything and make sure you don't stand up till he finished his food. He will fee embarrassed.

Are you for real with this obsolete behavioral pattern?

Perhaps, the Beijing conference charter on women liberation and empowerment is a storyline to you or you've not access the document.

For how long do I have to humiliate myself to make him feel egocentric?

I love my marriage but I'll never condescend to any awkward maneuvering of insensitive attitude. I can't justify being a simpleton just to maintain my marriage.

waywardpikin:
You should realise that people don't stay the same, people change. The person you were when you where in school is not the person you are now. In the same manner, the man you married two years ago is not the same man you married now, he has changed. What you need to do is meet him halfway. Compromise.

What do you mean he is trying to experiment with what is unattainable? PDP said they would rule Nigeria for 60 years, but sometime in May, 2015 power changed hands. That's your current situation.

I do accept the fact that people change. But this is a calculated agenda designed to brittle my womanhood. As callous and unmitigated as it is, I'll never cow to any improper conduct of a draconian hubby.

I just need my hubby, home back.

misspicy:
Marriage a different ball game

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After reading this thread I just want to see it another way

your husband has been all romantic and loving,then he suddenly changes 2 years after and starts doing the opposite...
First question is why?

For every action there must be a reaction

and the truth is when a woman is over pampered it tends to go into her head. Most men don't show the level of care and love your husband has shown you as written by you

from your writeup you haven't mentioned anyway you reciprocated his romantic acts,so is it not possible that you are beginning to see his loving acts as your right? what if he feels dejected that you don't reciprocate and feels the only way to make you do it is commanding you?

maybe you have been so used to it that you demand for it?

I think you should search yourself and see where you have missed it,discuss with your husband respectfully and reciprocate his romantic ways...












Am just thinking outside the box

I hold your response and suggestions in high esteem.

However the bone of contention is not what I am doing wrong but his overzealous but threatened ego to relegate me to an 18th century substance. This is practically unacceptable and a charade of maladjusted caprice.

raumdeuter:
The juju you used on him expired

When he was doing all those mumu work for you, you no complain, Now he wants a reversal. Either do it or get out of his house

Point of order, I'm a born again. I've given my life to christ so juju is a needless talk.

Let's discuss in the ambit of civility and commonsense!

agarawu23:
be bold to ask him yourself, nlders can't give u that answer cos we don't know his mind

My fear is that some of his negative friends might have prep him with misogynistic tendencies.

I'll beginning to suspect they'd been cajoling him with being pussywhipped, woman wrapper and those loose words branded by insecure men.

EroticAngelina:
talk to him about it. and he should not be the only one showing romantic gestures, you too should.

You mean I should held the washing water like a senior househelp waiting for him to finish gobbling his meals.

You don't get it. Serving me break fast on bed is quite romantic for a wife but dehumanizing me with archaic fantasy of his is another kettle of fish entirely.

Emmaus12:
I guess your signature says it all.......

Please leave him for another man who can fulfill the fantasy, I am sure 2 yrs from now you will leave that one too for the next one.

Let me spread and watch how far this goes...nairaland mods have wet dreams with threads like this

Can you be serious for all its worth.

How can a lovable man before now trying to experiment with what is unattainable, Is it that he's tired and want out?

A serious contributions is anticipated please

We met precisely 2 years ago and he was perfectly an answered prayer for a prince charming I'd ever hoped and pray for. It seem God decided to compensate me for the numerous heartbreak I'd suffer prior to meeting him.

Here was a tall handsome rich guy and equally a ladies magnate. He have everything rolled into one I'd sometimes imagine if he was a divine prototype among humans because of his flawless personality. He was a near perfect being to wrap the description of his humble charisma and social demeanor.

What actually attracted me to him was his humility and romantic gestures. He was never tired of being a gentleman as our love story coaster rolled into romance and the knack to be with each other.

This man swept me off my feet with selfless gestures. He opens every door for me which includes house and cars, he cooks and feed me. The most amazing being breakfast on bed, such wonderful lovable man. He buckle my shoes, strapped my fitted jeans and gave up seats for me where there's one reserved. Some period he help Polish my nails, take out my braids and all sort of romantic adventures and truth is that he continued showing being a God sent even past our marriage until now.

For 2 weeks now, war war 3 has been raging in my home as My husband had stopped being romantic and insist on role reversal. He want me to serve his meals now on bended knees, put his bath water as at when due, wash his clothes and compliment every of his stance. In actual fact he want to replicate the marriage style of the oldies in this digital generation.

I'm getting fed up and my 2 years marriage is on the line. Please suggest ways I could tame him back to the status quo. I can't compromise my fantasy for want of archaic standard.

Sensational journalism by oshodi expressway printers including their laptop social media partners with no physical address.

advocates:
If failure entails cutting down the excesses of IPOB, stamping KANU and closing down the criminal practices of Biafrans a failure, we trues Nigerians are forever grateful.

Proverbs: When a nobody refers to a King as a fool, his word is taken as one of the sons of the possessed.

Sharrap!
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diva90:
Don't give him money. The moment you give him money, he will ask for more and keep black mailing you. Don't tell your husband about what happened either( you already know he won't forgive you and you will use your hand to scatter your marriage)... Spoil his so called friend's image/reputation first by telling your husband that his friend made sexual advances at you and that you want him to leave the house because you don't feel comfortable with his presence anymore. Men don't like it when their territory is being threatened so u know that telling him something like that will quickly alert his senses....If your husband trusts you, he will believe you and act fast by then you have already made his friend handicapped and he cannot carry out his blackmail or soil your image any more. The only way that you will be In serious trouble is if you two have a sex tape or he secretly recorded you carrying out the deed. Other than that you should be fine... Just speak out first and fast

And you think a man with such devilish and sinister plan won't have an evidence in this age and time?

Have you ruled out the possibility of a recording device like phone, wristwatch, pen, hidden camera etc.

My dear think

If a dullard like let him sit in front of the class or come to school before everyone else, failure is forever his signature

Beremx:
He will remain your president for four years and if you're not careful for another four years. Keep searching for his certificates if it makes you feel good.

IMF has visited the country, very soon there'll be an international outcry on his economic policies. The Western Power that put him there will sponsor his impeachment sooner than you'd expect.

Take it or leave it, Buhari is a mistake and just as they displaced him in 1984 so shall it happen soonest.

Substantive VP deceiving Ceremonial VP

Bros even if you're working and contributing in his house, you must still do the dishes.

Don't scatter your sister marriage ooo.

Devil is just ministering to you and you're mistaking it for the voice of the Holy Spirit.

silent10:
ur foolishness is epic. Iranu

Sorry... Maybe a potential terrorist

So she decided to marry a terrorist.

Jail him and appoint a saint, Alhaji Abdullah Maidungu to replace him.

A lawyer might consider to stand for Liar Mohammed on the last day of judgment before christ but this man... No no nooooooo