ChildOfDoom: My dad is currently in a miserable state. One of his legs is swollen. He is having issues urinating properly. A man who once looked sturdy and active, now looks lean and feeble.
In earlier years, he was known for constant womanising and drinking. He was always in debt from gambling too (fled past location).
Health complications have meant that he now spends anything he solicits on drug.
Here I am, a boy of 33, doing worse atrocities than him. I feel I am young now and I can fight off any challenge, unknowingly I am complicating issues for myself. I long to stop but hard.
I started a 33 days abstinence plan which I have failed to keep. I squandered around 70k yesterday in a brothel after getting an alert of six digits.
My addictions are: std and loperamide drugs regular intake (one to fight std and the other to fight regular stooling), up to 3 carbonated drinks daily, betting, womanising, borrowing when unable to pay, junk food and masturbation.
God help us
I go again
Day 1 - 25th September
Womanising free
Day 4 - betting-free
God will give you the grace to fight this battle
Get married and all these nonsense will stop
Women have a way of resetting a man's life for good
RevenuesBoost: How do people do this gentle parenting thing?🤦 Because honestly, I haven’t even started and I’m already raising my voice!🙆
I’ve had to stop Baby Light so many times from unintentionally hurting her cat. Sometimes I’m screaming for the cat’s safety, other times, for my daughter’s.
Wherever you find Baby Light and Kitty together, just know that some rough play is about to begin. They’re inseparable—even when I try to keep them apart. But Light can get a bit too rough, and I often find myself yelling—not out of anger, but from panic. I have a fearless daughter who sees loud noises as music. Sounds that should startle most kids? Baby Light hears them and starts dancing, smiling wide like it's a celebration.
Some people say I share stories about my family for attention. That made me laugh. The truth? I use Nairaland as an archive. I've even recovered lost images from it before.
I still wonder why some people are so quick to judge and downgrade others. But I guess that's how they are.
dboY1123: Good morning all I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc. A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.
They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat. The SS1 performed excellently So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.
The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs. Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.
I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.
Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.
Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum
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I think beret is fine for them to use
For the one that failed entrance to SS2, just allow her to continue, you are not the one to mark the WAEC Script
The parents may not understand the value for that child to repeat
So let it go like that, if they want let them get special teacher to handle the children
The faith base school they took the children to didn't favour them that's why they came back
ZaraArewa: There is something that has been bothering me. I have been dating this guy for a year and he's not really committed to the relationship, he has not introduced me to any of his family members nor his friends, each time i ask he will brush it off with his sweet talking skills and kissing. One of the main problems i have is his high demands for sex. He's always in the mood to have sex. Pls house do you thing it's normal for someone to love sex that much?
Feel free to criticise or throw insults at me.
You should know by now that all he wants from you is steady sex and not to settle down
As a matter of fact, he us not settling down soon
You can find your way out if the relationship if you feel that's not what you want from the relationship
Men will always love and demand sex, they don't attach meaning to such
Not like women that consider many things before giving out sex
Hemanwel: I have a single mother I am befriending at my workplace. This lady has a personal business she's running. Recently, she got a business proposal from one of the companies she sells their product. The business proposal has the capability of giving her a breakthrough in the sales business, because if her turnover is seen to be impressive, the company will make her the sole distributor of the product in her locality. However, She's required to commit about N4m into the business according to the proposal.
Now, the challenge is that, she ain't got the dough; and she's been singing it to my hearing cos she knows I have the money. How did she know I have the money? I did a transaction a certain night; I then mistakenly sent the debit alert to her as a proof of payment for the transaction before editing the balance.
I do not plan to marry this lady, neither do I plan to be with her for long. I am only using her to cure konji until I finally get the girl I want to settle with. Besides, I have other plans for the money she saw in my account. Now, how do I convince her that she's NEVER in my plans with respect to that money she saw? This is a lady who thinks because she's single and I am also single, and that we are 'chopping' each other, it automatically means she's my woman. In fact, she'd once asked me about my plans of wife-ing her.
I will blame you for everything because you have shown her that the relationship is going to another level, then though the receipt you sent is by error, you do t have to risk your hard earned money onto someone that you have not married, not to talk about not having intentions to marry
So seat her down and let her know that you have plans for the money and you will appreciate she remove her mind on it
Secondly you can as well let her know that you are just having relationship with each other and you don't have the intentions of going into marriage
Worst case she will get angry and pull out, you too help yourself and if possible reduce the level of the relationship
You can't date a girl for long no matter the time frame, give her all the signal she wants and later dump her
Let her know know how you feel about your relationship with her before she starts acting in a way you don't want
JackDaAlienz: 2 fine yellow sissi living in opposite me. Tonight for some reason they decided to quarrel serious quarrel and in the process started exposing their dark secrets.
The good news is the one that is my spec was accused of doing Hooks and in the process she accepted and they both started exposing each other. It's over and hour and they are still yell at each other cursing each other. I'm just enjoying the whole secret spillage with my ear glued to the window.
Now I know my neighbour is a Hooks ambassador how do I approach her now that her matter don cast fir open?
If possible ignore them, let them be in their own world
You will not like to get yourself involve with anyone of them to avoid a bigger drama that my bring public shame on you
Auxtan: My salesgirl understands my business to the point I am considering to just make her my family.
I don't do an easy business and I am looking to scale, which means someone that understands this business is vital for that to happen and preferably a family member.
Now I am thinking of marrying her and also in the process leaving the relationship/dating market that is a distraction.
I don't have issues whatsoever with this my salesgirl in terms of character and even accountability, she's just perfect in those aspects, but my problem is her age.
Right now, I am just thinking of taking this decision of killing 2 birds with a stone might just be the best for me, one is settling down and two is marrying someone that understands my business.
Is a 29 year old man too big for an 18 year old girl? What's the general public perception of it?
PS: For the main time, I haven't made moves on her. But my interviews on her so far shows she's not looking to enter the high institution anytime soon (probably due to funds). But if I become comfortable with the age gap that is my major concern, I'd make moves on her and see if it will be possible. I'm trying to assess general views on marrying girls in their teen like her.
Your idea is good at that age she is now an adult though she may look like a small girly to you
I think you can tell her you want to visit her family so thst they will know who she is working with
Study the family on your visit day and start taking it up from there, but just let them know that you want to be sure who her family is and let the family know you
From there you can talk about dating her and it may be a successful move and attempt
But I think you don't date her for long so that you will have value for the relationship
I hope some of you all might had forgotten me, Actually am the guy that made a post title About to wed a prostitute.
Some months back.
After the set and done she abort the baby. Ever since then I promise to be by her side
She has stopped being a sex worker ever since then and do come and spend some months with me here in rano
Our relationship is being known by the both families although I didn't open up to any of my relatives how I meet her, only my friends and area people knows about her past
Jeweltz: I introduced this guy to her in 2022. A year after he travelled to Canada 🇨🇦 on an express entry visa. I had interest in him before I introduced him to my friend tho I never told him the because he always talk about how he loves women with big ass, big this big that..so I knew I didn’t have a chance there. We were just cool and since he didn’t signify any interest in me, I play low.
So when he met my friend, she started doing too much around him, ask me if he can collect his number since I told her we were not dating, I said yes even when I didn’t like the idea.
Now they already broke up since he was in Canada and he stopped talking to her. She also told me how he’s very arrogant and all this all that.
So, now me and the guy were trying to rekindle our lost connection and I made it known to him that I actually have interest in him. He was okay with this. And it’s something I’ll be willing to explore if he came to Nigeria later this year.
My friend saw his message on my phone the other day when she was checking stuffs on my phone. He curiosity got the worst of her and she read through our iMessage chats. Since then she’s been refusing to talk to me. She talked to our other friends and no one listen to my side or the story.
You didn’t even know this guy, I do.
Just ignore them and follow your heart, they don't know how it all started
Tekashi89: Hey guys I recently had an injury on my eyebrows so I'm afraid that it'll leave a scar and hair will probably not grow back on it so guys how do I regrow hair on the injury as it's still healing is the any drug I can take or substance that I can apply?
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That scar reminds you that God use it to save your life, so if it may not grow back because the hair follicles has been stitched inside, just leave it so
Grupo: Sorry to break it to you. But any Mobil 1 full synthetic oil you get for that price is fake or China made.
Before you say you got it from a Mobil station, do note that most Mobil stations are not owned and operated by Mobil. They are mostly franchise holders who use the brand name of Mobil to sell their products.
Original Mobil full synthetic oils are always from around 80k and above. Depending on where you are buying.
Hope you know that we have Nigeria fully synthetic Mobil oil produced by Mobil in Nigeria
And there is Mobil 1 fully synthetic produced in USA
So far I got it from mobil filling station am satisfied and it was written made by Mobil Nigerian on it.
Every thing comes with a risk, if you succeed, then good luck
Rrchrd: I'm a young man of 30+ searching for a serious relationship, recently I met this Damsel in the hope of starting a relationship with her, my instinct told me to invite her to a church first which i did, she told me that she is a traditionalist that she doesn't go to church I thought she was joking until she sent me her picture she tight white garmet while practicing the stuff that she is an Ezewanyi.
She said though that her parents are christian but if she dare go to church that she must fall sick.
Dey play, you may end up serving the same deity like her
izaac23: Thank you much, but I cant afford that real mobil 1, they call it 82k, anyone you can recommend that has limited fakes, yet very good synthetic oil?
For my new Rav 4, after much research and extensions questions that I asked from people and on the net, I settled for 5W-40 fully synthetic oil and I bought it from mobil filling station myself
Though I got it for #32,900 Its cheaper for me to buy expensive oil than to buy another Engine of about 2ml
Ozzyk: I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.
Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats... So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.
Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....
I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister... This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.
I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.
I am very displeased.
Don't be displeased, get close to her sister so that whatever she tell her, you are already close to her sister and you are covered
Iceking1: Thank you so very much, I did reported the matter on Twitter and I'm on the verge of getting my money back, I got a contact of on ASP on that particular station yesterday, and he asked me to come and meet me today, with the assurance that I will be getting my money back in full.
That's a good move and if they deny you already know where the POS operator is because am sure is the same location
Iceking1: I did told them that I wanted to call who sold the car to me, but they refused, the didn't give me a single space to make that call.
And yes, you're absolutely right. What you stated Is exactly what my friend told me, he said that if I had gotten the "authority to sell" document, they would have created another one, just as you rightly said here.
Be bold next time, if they insist on taking you to police station go with them after all you didn't steal the car
That will be an opportunity to tell the those that stole 80k from you and tell them the exact spot it happened and insist on seeing the DPO
Once you are allowed to see the DPO politely explain in details what you have passed through from his men and you just want to let him know that you are going to the media to say everything that happens with his boys on the road and now for them to bring you to the station
And that you will explain again to social media how you insisted on reporting the matter to the DPO
You know what, this last one will bring am end to all those nonsense because he will not want his station to be on the news for negative news and he will talk to his men
Get his contact make friend with him and anyone that stops you, tell the you will call. Mr DPO by mentioning his name and phone contact they will leave you immediately because he ma have warmed his boys earlier
I was driving yesterday afternoon, when I was stopped by the police, they inspected my papers and noticed that I bought my car at a car stand "used" so they asked me for a document named "authority to sell" I was surprised because I haven't ever had of that before, even though this Is my 4th car. They then proceeded to ask me for agreement paper between the first owner and the previous owner that sold to me. Which I don't have, but I have every other documents from the immediate owner, and have none from the very first owner, except the motor receipt, that they used to buy the motor from car stand.
They took my car to the station, and demanded 400k, I pleaded with them for almost an hour until they accepted 80,000. They told me they need cash, I withdrew the money and gave them the cash.
When I got out of the station I confided with a friend and narrated everything to him as it happened and asked him for help In other to avoid such a scenario from happening again.
He told me that, the paper that I wrote and signed on the car stand before leaving with the car, on the day I bought the car "aggremenr paper" was what led them asking for the "authority to sell" paper. He told me that nevertheless, they have no business asking me for the agreement paper between the old, and immediate seller that sold to me and the other previous owner.
He then advised me to go and re_do another agreement paper, the ones they normally type with old type writer, and take it to who sold the car to me to sign, so that when next they see me they won't ask me for authority to sell, as my agreement papers won't indicate that I bought the car from a car stand "used" but it would seem like I bought the car directly from a regular user.
I did as he told me but I'm still worried, as they would still stop me to take more money from me in the future because I don't have the agreement paper between the immediate previous owner and the former owner that sold to him. They're always fond of asking for such, all my previous cars I have the aggrement papers of previous owners to current owners that sold to me, please I need advice on how to go about this agreement papers, I have gone to the car stand severely and they gave me the contact of whom they bought the vehicle from before selling to me, I called and he told me that he had traveled out, I need help please, help me.
Would an affidavit of "loss of agreement paper from who sold to me directly and the first user solve this issue? Please help I'm so worried.
Below is the 80,000 I withdrew and used in settling the police yest afternoon, I paid 2800 as charges to the POS girl.
This is just an embarrassment and another way created to extort people
Since you have all documents and except the one they requested, even is you have that, they will create a name for another request
I think at this stage, you need the contact of the original owner of the car so that when next they stop you and ask for irrelevant documents, ask the m to speak with the first owner as he is aware that you are the one that bought the car he sold at the car slot
Gmone: So here's my dilemma — two amazing women, one heart, and definitely one wedding o. I can’t marry both.
Lady 1: 33-year-old Virgin from Kaduna She’s kind, mature, and very giving. If I buy her biscuit, she go cook full pot of soup. If I say I’m not hungry, wahala don start. She's respectful, but sometimes her love feels transactional — every kind gesture must return with food or gift. Virginity still intact like unopened bottle of wine. Sweet lady.
Lady 2: 23-year-old Non-Virgin from the South East She's sharp, focused, full of initiative. She doesn't wait for instructions — she sees problem, she solves it. Very supportive and loyal, at least so far. Yes, she’s not a virgin, but she’s confident with GenZ vibes
Now here’s the problem — with the way infidelity dey fly up and down these days, I dey wonder:
Does marrying a virgin guarantee faithfulness? Or should I go with the one who already has experience that has GenZ vibes
To be honest, both of them like me, and I like both of them. But I must choose.
So my people, help a brother — who should I marry?
I think you can go for the non virgin
She has gotten the exposure that would help her build the future with you and have also gotten some experience that helps her solve problems
The most important thing is that she can take good decisions in your absence and still get it right
She has been exposed so nothing trips her and experienced life as well
The virgin on may be your choice because she is a virgin
So after you get in and break the virginity what else
Nothing again, you have to start teaching her things of life as she lacks knowledge and experience about things of life
She has to keep waiting for your approval or validations to take decisions
I can't really guarantee you of her loyalty because it can change when she has the opportunity to know that you are not treating her well and may have been privileged to get such else's where then she has to make comparison and that's the beginning of another level
Ballotelle: Good day please... i have a small poultry at my backyard, but unfortunately have seen snake twice inside my house.... what can i do about it to put a stop to the snake issue.
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Snakes sniffs around for poultry feaces and once they sense any they locate the spot and come around, they love to swallow eggs and strangle the chickens
So her a wire mesh called Bokoharam and place all places that's needs to protect the snakes from getting in to the chicken house
They will keep coming so kill them when you see them
The native fowls are always quicker to see the snake and they normally make noise to alert you
Agric doesn't make noise and they are always been eaten by snakes
Clean your environment and anytime you hear noise at midnight, know that the snakes have come
But if you guide it with that tinny wire mesh they can never have access into the poultry house
WowSweetGuy: I do alcohol very much before but lately my foot feel like everything heavy sedimented there... Lost my step, I'm limping and again I find it hard to eat and wake up to a sick shaking human in the morning
Pls for the sake of God and your family especially your mum, can you start withdrawing from all substances
I know it may be difficult but you have to considering the fact that, if anything happens to you, you will be forgotten as you are nit having any child that will continue your lineage
Go close to God in prayers and surrender your life to him
Louiscars: I feel like the car actually has a halogen bulb currently installed but you’re referring to all those newer led bulbs they sell right? I have included some pictures below of original and the one you’re contemplating installing. If that’s the case, yeah the Leds shine brighter but they also run extremely hotter so pls buy the right size led bulb nothing bigger than what it can handle or else you risk burning headlight housing
I will forget about it, let me go with what came with it
Am not a night crawler and it will still burn the battery faster
Besides it only add beauty at night and not day time
I will go with the headlights lamp and have peace of mind
Bestman241: Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.
So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).
I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.
Tired. I don’t know what to do from here
Sorry about the whole issue
I think she is getta better attention somewhere and because of that, she msy no longer be interested in you and the society where she lives protects women
Do you have kids, if yes then start adjusting to suit her style and find a way to penetrate her to find out the problem, but don't be surprise the problem has been there for long
If you don't have children yet, both of you have to work towards how to get more united
If she is the one that brought you there, there us nothing you can do
If you are the one that brought here there, she has joined those that wants to be a naughty person
In all seat down with her to solve the problem that has lingered to this point
Her next plan maybe for your deportation if you are not careful her
Romance › Re: I Might End Up Miserable Like My Dad by frozen70(f): 9:18am On Sep 27, 2025
