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almarthins:
Huh!

U sure say that one na woman?

Women wey me I sabi no dey gree. Well, may be this one like to share. Na animashaun.

I some how agree with her idea of her ideal man.
Men that will cheat will definitely cheat

She just wants peace of mind

Louiscars:
I feel like the car actually has a halogen bulb currently installed but you’re referring to all those newer led bulbs they sell right?
I have included some pictures below of original and the one you’re contemplating installing. If that’s the case, yeah the Leds shine brighter but they also run extremely hotter so pls buy the right size led bulb nothing bigger than what it can handle or else you risk burning headlight housing

Thanks very much for your detailed explanations

Louiscars:
Another thing is I would suggest getting Mobil one of you would be using that specific brand ( preferably the one imported they are much more better compared to the ones sold at petrol stations

Ok thanks for the advice

Another question, that light that looks like Halogen light they put in the car or head lamp, does it shines brighter than head lamp bulb

Am contemplating putting it and remove the head lamp bulb

What's your advice

Louiscars:
You can use 5w30 for your Rav4, just try getting from a reputable brand.( make sure the mobil oil is legit there are a lot of fakes)
Also, there are reputable brands you can get 0w20 or 5w20, like this highlander, I used Liquimoly 0w20 because I’m getting it from a trusted source.

Thanks for your prompt response, if I should go for mobli 5W-30, I will definitely get it from a Mobil filling station, hope is OK for Rav4 2012

The one you mentioned, where do you usually get it for your highlander

advanceDNA:
But you get mind ooooo.....u gather 12 million buy Nigerian used car.....

I don't even know how to blame this guy

He could have just gone to a car slot or stand and buy foreign used one called Tokunbo and at least have peace at the beginning

I feel for him sha

Louiscars:
First thing first was an oil change, started by taking off oil filler cap and dipstick
- next loosening of drain bolt to allow engine oil drain
- next was removal of oil filter housing with the appropriate tool set required.

Can you advise me on the engine oil I can use on a Tokunbo Rav4 2012
The oil specification is 0W-20 or 5W-20 but I can't find it.
can I use 5W-30 or 5W-40 Mobil oil on it

tipsy242:
Please can anyone recommend a good and reliable trustworthy car tyre vendor in Lagos. Also what's your take on getting tokunbo tyres compared to buying a new one? Kindly advise...

I think I will rather buy a Tokunbo car tyre than to fall in those people that sells refurbished tyre and tag it a new tyre

People are so dubious now

Easyinfoguide:
That’s an unfortunate but very common experience — and you’re not alone.

Here’s what typically happens in Nigeria:

Many people try to apply for the tinted glass permit legally online, but the Police Portal often has issues: failed uploads, pending status that never updates, constant “error” messages.

Out of frustration, they walk into a police office, only to meet someone (sometimes at SCID or AIG’s office) who quotes them ridiculous amounts like ₦40k, ₦50k, or more — often for a process that should be free (except for legit documentation like a medical report).



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Why this keeps happening:

1. The portal isn't fully reliable, and not all officers are trained to assist applicants through it.


2. There’s poor awareness about the actual procedure and legal steps.


3. Some officers exploit that confusion to make people feel they must pay heavily or use a "connection."




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Here's a Better Approach:

If you’re still interested in getting it done without being extorted, I’ve put together a PDF info-guide that shows:

✅ What documents to prepare

✅ How to use the Police CMR portal without getting stuck

✅ What to do when it’s pending

✅ How to apply for free or at minimal cost

✅ How to spot and avoid overcharging officers or fake agents


It’s already helping a lot of people — I can send you the details if you’re interested.

My car came with factory tinted glass, do I need any police clearance or something
Is such factory fitted exempted

KiNg0G:
To be sincere I got disvirgined by prostitute while back when I was still in secondary school Jss2 to be precise. I still remember that day clearly I met with one of my class mate who took it upon himself to show me different joints since that day my life has never been the same.

I don't approach women not like I can't but I find it stressful when I could just go to a joint and pay to be serviced.

Years has gone pass I have graduated from arshawol joints to hook ups which we all know is very expensive. It's not like I can't keep up with the lifestyle but I am tired of having to live this way year in and year out with no changes.

Every morning when I wake up with a different girl beside me I feel emptiness within me like a loser. I might decide to stop but immediately as time goes I relapse.. it's almost like I have been programmed this way.

All my age groups are married with kids of their own but I keep on dumping mine in condoms every night.

Get a girl friend simple and start planning to settle down
Time waits for no one

fxexperts:
His father doesnt owe him anything the lazy dude should go and work for his money like his other age mates. First sign of laziness is a dude shifting blames to someone else.

I hope he doesn't follow his father's way

Aonkuuse:
Source: https://trendibase.com/man-louis-nwachukwu-des-during-sxual-activity-with-a-lady-helen-raymond/

He has a faithful woman at home but died with an unfaithful woman

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Your dad was just a lazy man, who can't help himself and can't plan for himself or his family there by subjecting the entire family to something else which has affected you some how

shibyc:
Guys, today I believe women are truly different creatures.

I opened a small business for my babe – just something modest. She's now pulling in about 100k monthly, but ever since the money started flowing, her attitude has changed completely.

Imagine, I sell her products sometimes and give old customers a small discount—like ₦100—and she starts fighting me. Argument upon argument.

Then if I borrow small money from her during emergencies (just like ₦2k or ₦5k), wahala go burst. Even when she knows I have money and I'm definitely paying back, the way she reacts eh, like I’m begging her.

She forgets one thing:
The capital is mine. 90% of the customers are mine and everything she’s using today, I handed it to her on a platter.

Now I’m realizing that, if this business grows bigger, she might not even want me anymore. She could decide to go solo and live her own life.

So now I’m asking you all:

Is the best solution to avoid empowering a woman financially ?

I was doing it with the mindset of being educated and forward-thinking, but now I dey reason am twice.

What do you all think?

For your self respect, since you are the one that raised her business up, she has forgotten so soon and at the same time she doesn't want to hear any stories on any penny

So what do you do,
Remove eys from her business, don't introduce any customers to her let her source it herself
Dont ask for a penny, it brings so much insult even if you have

Just be watching her let's see if she will realise that, everything about the business comes from you

By the time she comes to her senses and she comes to you for assistance, first of all demand for the capital you gave her to return it

Start from there let's see if she has been prudent with the business

Druski:
Contact Dru23 for all your oil needs..check is signature ... 0w20 is what you should use

Thanks, but I will prefer to go to reputable Fueling stations to get one rather than contacting someone or going to other stores to avoid adultreated oil

Pls house, advice me on the best engine oil for Toyota Rav 4 2012

It's a Tokunbo and about to be serviced for the first time

The oil specification is synthetic oil, 0W-20 AND 5W-20, but am finding it difficult to see it, rather I see more of 5W-30 which is Mobil oil

I need your advice on what to use

Those of you who have Rav 4 experience pls advice

MarvisPraise50:
The judgement will be sweep under carpet so Nigerians should just rest

Not true, they will be charged to court as it has become public, it can not be hidden.

The IG has to make sure the case is handled to the satisfaction of the public besides the amount involved is too much

Obavoh:
I came back from work yesterday to see my Wife’s younger Sister in my house.

I was surprised because no one told me she was coming. I greeted and welcomed her.

I later called my Wife aside and asked her why she did not inform me that her sister was coming to pay us a visit. That was when she broke the news to me that the girl was 3 months pregnant and had to leave the village because of shame.

My Wife begged me and even called the girl to come and kneel and beg me to allow her stay until she puts to bed.
I was very angry at my wife for that.

I would love to help the girl but the problem is

1) My Father-in-law is not aware that his Daughter is pregnant. Only my Wife and Mother-in-law knows.

2) My Mother-in-law has not called to plead with me to let the Girl stay under my roof. My Wife asked me to call their mother to confirm but I think it should be the other way around.

3) I am currently managing a one room apartment with my Wife and 7 children. The place might not be conducive for a first time pregnant Girl. Feeding her is not a problem.

4) I am afraid I would be the one to pay her Medical bills, antenatal and all. When I asked my Wife she said her mother would pay but I don’t believe this judging from personal experience.

5) What if the girl suffers miscarriage or complications? God forbid. I might be held responsible.

Please advise me on what to do. My creator sees my heart that I would love to help but I am afraid. Should I let her stay or send her away?
How do I do this without losing the respect of my Wife and Mother-in-law. What is the best way to help the Girl?

You are afraid of loosing respect, when in actual sense, they didn't respect you by informing you about her pregnancy before planning to bring her to your house and now you don't know what to do, but they already know what to do by sending her to leave with you and probably take care of her indirectly

The main question now is, who pregnanted her

Is her dad aware of her movements and condition of his daughter

How will the news be delivered to him dad that her daughter whom he is not aware that she is pregnant has delivered in your house,, then he will ask, who's pregnancy is that

For how long do you intend to keep her, from conception to delivery or and till further notice, because you can't chase a nursing mother away

You said you live in one room with seven children, are you for real or you are joking

So feeding is not a problem, then you need to keep her and take care of her and play along with your wife

If you can't summon courage to call your inlaw and to inform him about her pregnancy and how to locate the family of the guy that pregnant her so that she can go to them and stay till she puts to bed then nurse her, that means that you will allow her to stay with you

And for you not to loose your respect, do anything your wife ask you to do

Double0h7:
I didn't know oranges had a seedless variety

So, how do they grow if there's no seed to plant

Is one of the GMO plants introduced by the white to feed the world population

They grow within 6 months and they keep producing more

But are not sweet like natural ones

AngelSlay:
I travelled to Italy by land and crossing the Mediterranean Sea twice but God saved me. I saved almost 8 million with my mother while in Europe and my father never knew about it. I was deported after 5 years and guess what; she squandered my money to the last kobo and she couldn’t even send me 30k to travel from Lagos to my state which made me slept everywhere possible in the streets of Lagos for 9 days till my father was able to send me transport fare and for the first time in my life I felt like I have over-wronged my dear and I knew I owe all the apologies. My mother on the other hand turned my 4 siblings against me especially the last born that’s not even half my age, attacking me wherever they see me because my mother told them I wanted to kill her but God knows I was really angry at her but I have no intention of hurting her, Never.


At some points I even forgave my younger brother without him apologizing and brought him to live with me because he was constituting nuisance in the village and after about 3 months of staying with me he took my ATM and cleared my account and left with my valuables and at first I didn’t believe my eyes and I immediately called my mother to tell what has happened and guess what; she connived with the rest of my siblings and her sister to tell the village that I have used my brother for rituals but he returned after a month. because I was deported with nothing and they knows how much I need money but I was 100% innocent and there was only one person who stood by me at the time and that was my FATHER. I left my family with her before traveling but she chose to dehumanize my children by sending them back to where I never wanted to be (in my in-laws house where worshipping idol is the norm). My children was fed with proceeds from the shrine which I never liked.

Since 2019 after my deportation till now I have proved them all wrong by acquiring an enviable mansion in the heart of the city and numerous landed properties and I currently have 2 SUVs one for outing with my kids and the other strictly for church and vacations. They dont know how to start apologizing…No need sha

Congratulations to you, you can forgive all of them but this time around be more careful as pulling you down maybe part of their plans

Just don't let them know your next plan at all

Exgee:
Sometimes I wish I could switch off my phone or change my line or even block them from reaching me.

I'm getting increasingly frustrated with the whole thing. I'm under intense pressure.

I'm not yet a father to anyone, yet I'm being overwhelmed with responsibilities. Its not like I have. I'm just struggling to survive but no one seems to understand.
I've tried to explain to my mum but it seems she's not getting it. Whenever they call, demands must be made. I hate to hear the unending complaints all the time.
There was a time I decided not to pick their calls for two months and I was reported to other family members, I was severely scolded and I had to repent.
I sincerely don't know if being a first born is a crime. I don't. Probably a curse. At age 26, I'm already now having grey hair, I've gone bald too, due to lofty and enormous responsibilities. Its not I have a good job. My salary can barely sustain me in terms of feeding.
Whenever I see their calls coming in, my heart jumps. God knows I wouldn't have any issues helping my own blood but in a situation where they know I'm still struggling and they seem not to understand simply because I don't complain is what is annoying me.
Anxiety is killing me.
My blood pressure is now higher than it should be.
I'm always having one-corner headache due to overthinking.
I'm just fed up with life completely.
I can't even save. I've deprived myself of everything. Even the basic things that I should have as a young man.

Nlfpmod

Pls take it easy as they will definitely survive with or without you

Though you didn't mention what they are requesting for

If it's feeding just try your best

If it's for stupid purpose don't promise them, just ignore after listening

For people who don't make complaints, people will always believe you have

As it is now, your mental health is your paramount value

If anything happens to you, honestly they don't have a penny yo contribute for you

Slimyoung1991:
Is there no remedy, am still young to have bald hair

I think you should go on skin cut so that it will not be noticeable

Okeytech:
I've caught my wife cheating more than 3 times but I forgave her. There was a time I caught her sending nude to someone and I still forgave her. After that I still caught her cheating again but right now I'm finding it to forgive but she's still in my house, it keep ringing in my head everyday.

At this point I honestly wanna send her packing. What do you think guys? I wouldnt say I'm a saint. I've cheated before and she has caught me severally in the past too but that was in the past which i've stopped like 4 years ago.

There is no way you can cope with such attitude that you have caught her several times, just return her to her family and explain to them what happened

Listen to what her family will say, of course they will apologise to you for doing so, you can still leave her with them and go back to town and move on with your life

Use this opportunity to reason well on what you want, either to start another relationship or to continue tolerating her till the end

Every one cheats in one way or the other, but for you catching her steadily, then her own is chronical

If you already have children, consider taking them for DNA test if you can afford it

EverydayTipsfor:
Why do so many African fathers neglect their children, especially after a divorce or separation? Does divorcing the mother also mean divorcing the children?

How can you be at peace knowing your children are not feeding well? Just because they’re with their mother, you think it's no longer your concern? How do you sleep well, eat well, and laugh with friends, knowing that a part of you — your own flesh and blood — is out there suffering?

Just to avoid responsibilities on the child, if not why not take care of the child you brought to life even if you no longer wants the mum

Chram:
Ok.
Than you Ma 🙏

Welcome Bros, this life no balance at times what people do can provoke you

Chram:
Humm.
I just feel like leaving this world right now 😭

Then she won and you loose

Start thinking of how to sort things out leave her to do what is in her mind

Chram:
Second wife for that matter

Like I said, she wants a man that will look after her not the children that will stress her life to start training them after the death of your dad

So leave her let her do what she wants

A time will come you guys too will leave her to face the choice that she is making today

Chram:
I write with Pains in my heart.
I wish to ask God why some certain events occur in life.
I have lots of questions to ask, but nobody to give me answers.

I describe as Selfish, inconsiderate and egoistical the decision of my mum to remarry.

So, I lost my lovely and caring dad six years ago. We had lived in Port Harcourt prior to his death. When we were traveling to the village, we packed all the little properties we had cos we were not going to return back to PH again since my mum would not be able to cater for myself and little siblings.
After the burial and funeral ceremony, we all stayed in the village. I mean a typical village where there's no good road, no electricity, no mobile network. I stayed for a few months, then left them to go squat with my friends in port Harcourt so I could hustle with my muscles and return back to sch at least because it had always been my dad's desire for all of us to go to sch, so I beat my chest and vowed that I would go to sch and graduate. Thank God, I'm done with sch now.

My current challenge now is my mum is in her mid forties and wants to remarry to a man in the village. She hasn't told me yet. But my paternal aunt called to inform me. I'm really worried because if she gets remarried, she will abandon my younger siblings who are there with her because she won't be allowed to take my siblings to her new husband's house as it is an abomination based on the customs and traditions of our place. If my siblings must live with her in that place, then they will have to start bearing the new husband's name as his children. Why ?

Also, as a male child, I'm not allowed to go visit here and eat or sleep over in her new house. If I do this, I might die. Why is this?

Based on reports, my grandfather(mum's dad) is the one mounting pressure on my mum to get married. I'm really worried about the whole situation because the ties between my mum and my siblings are about to be severed. Since my dad died, my mum has been living in her father's house instead of my dad's place. Though both places aren't far from each other. Its trekkable. I feel really hurt and betrayed, I can't even imagine my mum in the arms of another man. If I was stable in monetary and economic terms, I would have taken her out of that dungeon to come live with me, and also bring siblings along. I'm really pained as I type. Tears.. my dad died at age 47.

I wish u guys can beg my mum not to remarry please. What's the difference between me and someone from a Broken background?
Life is not fair to me and my siblings. Not fair at all. I know how I'm feeling right now.

Let me make it clear at this point that if her plans of remarrying goes through, I will dis-mother her. I'll cut all ties and destroy every bond that ever existed between herself and us the children.

File photo used for illustration

This is a very disturbing situation but you have to take it the way it's coming and accept the reality

First of all, your mum is a very lazy woman, she lacks the zeal to take up responsibility after the demise of your dad

She will rather remarry as a second or third wife than to hustle and train your sibblings she is not the struggling type that will preserve her late husband's family or name

You on your own side, you can't kill yourself as it's painful to you, just face your front if you know that you can't provide for your sibblings and can't put them under your roof

When you think you are now man enough to take the responsibilities of your sibblings, you can negotiate with her new husband, reward him financially and return back your sibblings to your father's house

Your mother no send anyone of you because she is just self centred and for her not to starve, she will accept any type of marriage proposals not minding if she will find peace in an already made home of another woman

Just let it be, no one is going to care for your sibblings if she leaves them behind, and leaving them behind means starvations and you will still be the one they will be calling upon, while she is enjoying herself in her new home

Ondopress1:
https://saharareporters.com/2025/06/07/breaking-south-east-traders-ogun-state-close-shops-protest-brutal-killing-igbo-woman

Very lazy set of people, extorting from the people struggling daily to make a living for their family's

May her soul rest in peace

Ibime2004:
I want to buy my wife her first car. I need a car that can save fuel, have low maintenance and will not be attractive to car snatchers.

Currently I only have two cars on my list which is Toyota camry 1999 model and Nissan Micra. I am also currently open to other suggestions of cars that can meet the above specifications.

Kindly advise me on which car I should get for her, I prefer to buy her a Tokunbo and not Nigerian used, I ll also appreciate it if you let me know the current Tokunbo price of the car you recommend for me. Thanks.

She is a first timer, I suggest you go for Micra, it's just a moderate car, she can fuel it and maintain it with less assistance for her

It doesn't occupy parking space

It could be easier to maintain

Its a good compact car for her

Let her start with small size

bernardluccky:
Yes she is my first girlfriend and we started from secondary school.
All she's saying now is that she love me but I never gave her hope and assurance by asking such question.

Ok since she is your first, are you ready in two years time

Have you experienced the sense and maturity of handling relationship

Do you have the capability of taking care of your family when the time reaches or you want to do trial and error

If I may advise you, leave her to sort her way out before she will hold you responsible for delaying her if which there is the tendency you may drop her

Women matures more than men and they don't ha e enough time to wait like men

If you delay they and later do not marry them, they will make life miserable for you and at than point you will be at a stand where you will be trapped

So let her go of she wants to go, go and find your bearing first

Marriage is different from friendship

They are two different things entirely

bernardluccky:
I have issues with my girlfriend.

We have being dating since 2021 so 2022 I enter school but I discover the school have no certificate so I write jamb last year to enter uni but I ask my girlfriend if she can bear with me for another 4 years but she refuse to answer me due to I keep asking she suggest we Break up but I did not say no nor yes.

I just ignore her and did not call her for 2 months but I do write her on WhatsApp and fb because I love her so much base on we are not in the same state. It's being 2 years since we see each other
And now I done dey beg her for 2 weeks now.

Note: we have being dating for 4 years no intimacy no kiss no photo together.
The aim was till after marriage and we both 22.

Please I need advice.

Dey play is like you just started dating for the first time in your life

Connected1:
A Coursemate Friend gave me the number of a certain girl about 3 years ago saying that she needed a friend to talk with, so I started getting along with her based on my easy going personality, so at a point she needed finance and myself not giving money anyhow I gave her my goods to sell and take the profit whilst she bring back my capital, she failed at it and I went to take back my goods, after that I bought goods for her to sell based on a business she said her friend told her about, the business failed and I barely got my capital I gave her.


I was doing the best I can for her but then she brought talks about having feelings for me and how she knows I do too but I kept hiding mine, so I shunned her about it, we quarreled and I deleted her phone number & blocked her everywhere, after a very short while, she began using her friends to call me and beg me, I completely ignored everything because i don't have any feelings for her nor am I even interested in sleeping with her when she offered me sex despite saying she was sacred about all that.

Alas I unblocked her when she lost her mum and she wrote me, I felt I needed to assist in consoling her by unblocking and chatting her up, then I offered some financial help too because both her parents are now gone and I told her not to bother me about dating her and focus on offers she receives which she agreed on, she's 29 and I understand time is telling on her.

Then some months got past and everything was going well, then she came again with the love jargon again and began saying how she prayed on the day I gave her money around when she lost her mum, she said she told God that whichever man she knows that sent her money is the one going to marry her and I was the only one who sent money and a huge one at that bla bla bla, I was infuriated and told her I unblocked her because she lost her mum, she kept explaining and I wasn't having any of it, then she agreed and swore not to disturb me about dating or marrying her I recommended she blocked me so that it will help her to forget about me but she never agreed.

We got talking again and living our lives until this week when she brought up issues about dating and marrying her again, how she saw me in her dreams that I was the one, how 2 other guys were asking her out and she prayed to God to know the right one and i suddenly appeared in her dreams, at this point I think I am sick of it and might go mad anytime soon if I continue like this, the reason I haven't blocked her everywhere this time around is because she gave me a job connect which one of her elder brothers was involved in as an exco member and I paid some money like others did only that it was cheaper so I have been hesitant, since it seems the job is about to taking shape and they may start paying this month or next, around 150k -200k for 2 weeks and I intend using it as a side hustle along side my business and normal job.

Please I need your advice, because whilst I have no intentions to date her or have sex out of pity, I can't just let this job opportunity go like that because I feel she may tell her brother to jeopardise the whole thing for me now if I chase her away angrily.

I will appreciate your inputs, regardless of how I feel about it.

Your first attempt of escape was the initial blocking and it was successful

Now because of her mom's death, you unblock her, gift her condolence money, went further to invest in her brother business, well you are close to he trap

The only way to escape is to avoid anything sex, once you can avoid her pulling you to sex, half of the problems is solved

The major thing now is that, you have to be ready to forfit that deal with his brother incase you don't get your profit and or your capital

That's when you will realize everything, but for now keep your to yourself discipline and avoid that sex if you know that you are not interested