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LordVoldemort02:
I need some honest advice on a situation at my workplace. There’s this guy who has been constantly disturbing and harassing me. I’ve tried everything to avoid him—I’ve warned him multiple times, told him the implications of his actions, and I even have evidence of all his disturbances. I’ve even ask for a change of location.

The problem is, despite all my warnings, he recently tried to attack me. I’m really trying to keep things professional and avoid any 'police wahala' or ending up in a cell because of him.
At one point, I even thought about using a weapon just to protect myself if he lunges again, but I know how Nigerian law can be. I don't want to face a criminal case over a nuisance.

How do you guys handle a physical threat at work when you don't want to involve the police?

Is the management aware of this treath or you never ever reported him

If the management is aware and are doing nothing about it then make it a police report and let it be in police diary
So that the day he will Bleep up, that diary will be your evidence that you have reported it earlier

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone.

Just as everyday come and go,I Just can't help it but keep thinking about how hard drugs has turned my friend to a complete junkie.

This dude was my primary school classmate and at a time ago we were even considered as best friends. Somehow along the way we got admissions into different higher institutions. At first during holidays when we returned home from our different schools,I used to noticed how strange he had become. Someone who used to be very robust suddenly emaciated and I knew it wasn't as a result of hunger because his family made sure he got everything he needed in school,unlike myself who signed MoU with sapa.

Fast forward to 2019,after graduation,it all got worse. And he made his smoking habit public to the extent that he smoked on the streets. That was when his elder siblings and I had to advise him, about the damages weed and other drugs he was taking were doing to him. But it all seemed every advice we were giving him were falling upon deaf ears.

What really broke our friendship was when he was trying to lure me into weed. That was when I started to avoid him. The adage which says --"Show me your friend and I shall tell you who you are" kept ringing in my head and tho I did everything to talk him through,out of that bad habit but he wasn't getting any of it.

Just last week,when I paid my dad a visit,I saw this dude, now looking so unkept and rolling with street urchins. I only waived him and went my way.

Please guys out there,let's say no to hard drugs because it doesn't have any good effects on the human body.

#SAYNOTODRUGS.

Please let's help push this thread to the front page so that others can learn from it.

It is not too late to take him to rehabilitation centre, 6 months there his brain will reset to factory settings when he doesn't have access to weed that period

Beeron:
What you should get is hydrogen peroxide 3% for home use.

Pour little inside your ear hold the place up for close to 10 minutes. Do that morning and night.

It will kill the bacteria in there and fight off any infection and debris blockage.

Hydrogen peroxide cost about 15k now.

You are not an ENT Doctor why are you advicing him to self medications when you know that he is already in a bad situation

LordBiden:
Uppercut from wikes attack dog.

Wike really took time to select a media aide that resembles him.

I swear, honestly
Birds of the same feathers

Iamajike:
I cant remember the last time i had quality of sleep and this is the reason I am awake to write this, if you can see, the is almost 2am midnight...

In 2020, I got a car as a birthday gift from my brother. At that period, it was not that I could not afford a car, but I had another priority other than a car. Yeah, the car served me well until last year, when it kept giving me problem upon problem. The reality now is that I am not financially capable of getting a new car for myself, as I have health challenges that have drained me at the moment, and I pray God comes through fast.

So I recently called my brother to inform him about the current situation, and I told him I will be selling my car, but I need 3m to add to the car money to buy a nice, standard Nigerian used car to use in the meantime. I told him I have 1m naira cash, and if he can give me 1m or 1.5m to add to it, I can talk to one of my friends to get the balance, so he promised to give me the money by the end of January; however, I have spent the 1m I kept on medical again and can't meet up with my need.

The main problem I am having now is that I told him about it, and he said I should not worry, that he'll be coming to the country soon to spend 2 months, and the car he uses he'll drop it for me to use... This is where I get the issue, or call it mixed feelings.

He wanted to get a Benz, but I advised him to buy a Corolla since he'll be dropping it for me, but he said his standard can never use a Corolla. I told him to consider me since he promised to drop the car for me as my present condition would not make me able to maintain a Benz, and those who should help me might be calling me boss, and I would not want to be calling him for help or maintenance money every time.

I can maintain a Corolla on my own now, but this man does not see from my angle.

The truth is that I can't go out without a car, I can't use public transport at the moment, and I can't maintain Benz with this condition. And I also don't want to be a burden on anyone.

Please, how can I convince him to reason in my way? I am 100 percent sure he'll help if I ask, but I don't want to be asking him every time so I don't lose the little respect I get while still alive.

Modified...
Attached is the screenshot of what I asked him to get. Corolla 2011 or Camry Spider...

You all can see we had 1hr 57min of conversation and another 1hr 19mins to convince him but failed.

Collect it and sell the car when he goes back, reason that you can't afford to maintain the car

Hmmmmm2024:
Source: https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2026/1/i-fell-in-love-with-her-from-the-day-she-was-born-nigerian-man-celebrates-as-he-marries-his-uncles-daughter.html

That will not stop him from marrying a second wife

Agozskey:
This is long...
My father died in 2017, I was 17years old and from that point, my life changed completely. I became the one carrying the responsibility of this family far earlier than I should have.
When it was time for me to go to school, my late father’s family agreed to sponsor my education. Instead of supporting it, my mother blocked it completely. Because of the hatred she had for my father and his family, she rejected their help and continued to paint my father in a bad light even after his death. That decision alone altered the course of my life.
Instead of school, she pushed me into serving an oga and learning sales against my will. I stayed there for about two years, and it did not work out. When I came back, I was 20 years old, already behind my mates.
From there, I started working in factories, struggling to earn money and bring it home. I denied myself basic things I didn’t buy clothes, didn’t enjoy my youth everything went into the house. At some point, she even wanted to be holding my salary, controlling it completely.
Eventually, I found a place where I started making a reasonable amount of money. At the time, where we were living was terrible, so with the little progress I made, I paid rent for a room-and-parlour apartment, bought furniture, bought her a big bed, bought a TV, and tried to give the family a better standard of living.
I was 22 years old, doing all of this.
I told my mother I wanted to save money and set myself up properly so I wouldn’t depend on one source of income forever. Instead of support, she insisted that I must “settle her” first before thinking about my future.
When I told her I wanted to leave the house to seek greener pastures, she refused unless I gave her money. Eventually, I counted ₦300,000 and gave it to her to start a business.
Mind you, at this point:
I was handling feeding
rent
clothing
and most household expenses
My brother was contributing nothing, and I never complained or pressured anyone. I carried everything alone.
Later, I lost my job and entered a broke phase again. I was still managing to make money online without structure, and we survived partly on the business I opened for her. That business eventually crashed, and as usual, she took no accountability for it.
After that, she went fully into farming. I clearly told her I hate farming and begged her not to involve me in it. Despite that, she kept forcing me, threatening that if I didn’t help, I would not eat from the farm produce.
This hurt me deeply, because when I was the one providing, I never once threatened my family with hunger.
THE INCIDENT THAT LED TO EVERYTHING
Today, she was pounding fufu. I was not in the mood and clearly told her I didn’t want to pound. I said she should find another means and I would help in other ways but pounding was a firm no.
Her response was that I would not eat from the food.
I stepped out to hustle for money as usual and came back later to eat. When I got to the kitchen, my mother stopped me from eating. At that point, everything inside me snapped. I told her that if I would not eat, then nobody would eat.
In anger and frustration built over years, I carried the pot of soup and threw it away.
She immediately started laying curses on me calling me a cursed child, saying I would never make it in life despite the fact that I have carried her and this family since my father died.
After struggling over the pot, she ran outside, called neighbors, and threatened to have me arrested. She told everyone I was wicked and cursed. As usual, it was me against her and the world. The neighbors only saw an angry son, not the years of sacrifice behind it.
She openly said she no longer wants anything to do with me.
The painful irony is this:
I am broke today largely because she has always made decisions for my life, blocked opportunities, and drained what little progress I made. My brother, who obeys everything she says, is also suffering silently but cannot speak.
HOW I FEEL NOW
I am exhausted.
I feel used, manipulated, and painted as a villain.
I feel like the more I sacrifice, the more control is taken from me.
I am fed up.
I don’t feel like I have a mother in this situation I feel like I have an opponent.

You need a break to a place you will cool your head and start afresh

Meanwhile, go to God in prayers to block all evil intentions of her on you

Dzzzz:
Yes it touched her after everyone has shined her Congo..

Whatever she has done with her body is no one's business
No body is a saint

Gotocourt:
King Tonto don calm down, sapa don humble her 🤣😅😂

She was never poor the spirit of God touched her and made her to make peace for the sake of Christ

Freshandfitpod:
How will this help him while in sokoto?

It will still help his wife and children

KiNg0G:
I find that as a huge challenge, never had one. This is just my life patronising prostitutes and call girls since I was younger..stress free, pay and go in
I don't even know what step to take if I decide to get one, I get tired easily with people.

The issue here is that you so much love sex

So since you don't have a girl friend, get one of those your customers and take her home to reform her and what you love doing with be with you steadily and before you know it, she will be pregnant

Then your brain will reset and prepare you for fatherhood and after birth go and do the needful to be your wife

ReekyMass:
Hi, Guys!

Sincerely, I'm a bit confused here. My younger brother, the last born of the family wants to come over to the city to live with me.

My kid bro just graduated from secondary sch last year July. He is actually my step brother, as my mum had to remarry a year later after the passing of my dad many years ago. This brother is the only child my mum has for the Man.

The man is a retired state govt teacher, my mum is his second wife. He's not being responsible over the years and this has caused lots of issues between himself and my mum. Sometimes, if not most times, I'll always have to step in to broker peace between them.

My mum abandoned us to marry this man. At some point she even had to send my blood sister away from the man's house. My kid sister was just four years and needed the presence of a mother in her life, but since my mum so much cherished her new husband at the time, she said that my kid sister wouldn't live with her. So she had to send my sister to stay with our grandma(maternal). I felt so sad about this. Today same sister is married with two kids.

My mum never supported any of us through sch. We are four, plus this step brother of mine, five in total. As a matter of fact, while I was leaving for the city after the completion of my university education, she was nowhere to be found because I was in some financial mess at the time and I needed her to support me financially so I can go to city to hussle. I also wanted her to give me that motherly blessings and pray for my success as I embark on the journey for success. But she was nowhere to be found.

I managed to source for funds and left the village for the city. I'm not four years here. I send her money almost every week. I also send her mother(my grandma) money and ensure I take good care of her since she's the only grandparent I have now.

There's almost no time I speak with my mum that she doesn't come up with one financial complaint or the other. Sometimes I avoid her calls for weeks. It's not like I'm doing well here in the city, but I keep meeting her needs. I don't complain to her even when I'm down. I already know she can't help me, so what's the point complaining?. She can have money Hidden somewhere while you're in dire need of it, but she won't tell or give u. She can be doing business and making money secretly without telling you. Sometimes I only get to hear about such businesses from outsiders. She does this so we wouldn't ask her for any help. She never bought us even a notebook or Pen while we were in sch.

Now she wants my kid Bro to come live with me. Living with me isn't a problem. But my mum already spoilt my step brother. He was so pampered as a child and he often disrespects my mum. They asked him to learn Barbing. After sch, he would go there and return in the evenings. But this boy wasn't consistent. At some point, he even stopped. Our mum instructed him to go back and continue, but he refused. His father is so weak and can't discipline him. Four years back, same brother went to live with my immediate younger brother in Lagos and after two weeks he said he wants to go back to the village just like that.

I want him to further his studies but I don't have the resources yet. I want his father to take up that responsibility first, while I also support.
He knows I'm very strict and he can't be disrespectful to me. But my mum already corrupted him. If he comes and I start to discipline and disciple him, it would look like I'm antagonizing him because he's my step brother.

Again, and most importantly, I'm not working now, I'm just managing myself, hustling here and there just to survive. Sometimes I don't even get what to eat. I mange myself. Due to this, I wouldn't want to add another burden to myself. He eats a lot and if he comes here, it will now look like I'm starving him. My mum knows I'm just managing my life. I asked him to be a bit more patient and stay back in the village till I get something tangible to do, so I can take care of him when he comes to town, but he's insisting that he's already tired of staying in the village.

Considering what he did when he visited my immediate younger brother the other time, he wouldn't be able to go back there again.

Left for me, she has never been responsible for anything so she should be responsible for that boy's upkeep or training

While you find your bearing

You can't add another task to yourself whereas you are not standing well

Abbeytoy:
In the last two years, things have not been going well with my brother and his wife. My brother will call me and lament about his wife's behaviour, he told me that anytime they have a misunderstanding, this lady changes the key and locks him out in the cold. Though he's the one who pays the rent and all the bills, the lady gets child support and spends lavishly on unnecessary things while the apartment is given to his wife by the government.

But the last one she did, my brother left the house and swore never to have anything to do with her again. Even my brother did it to the extent that he requested the DNA of the son; unfortunately, he's the owner.

This lady has been begging everyone, and both her parents and some family members have travelled down to our place to plead on her behalf, but my brother insisted he's not interested in the marriage again.

He was scouting with one of our cousins before, and we thought that when he got tired, he'd move back home as usual, but this man has gotten an apartment and does not let anyone know the location.

The worst of it all is that he did not talk to his 7-year-old son and didn't take on any responsibilities for him again.

The boy keeps crying to see his dad, but my brother keeps saying her mother is only using him to get his attention, saying the boy will see him when it's the right time.

This lady called me last week and said he wanted to pack from the house and my brother should come move all his belongings, but my brother sent me back to her that she should throw everything away, he mentioned that the lady can frame him up or call the police for him and turn to legal battles.

I believe whatever happened between them, the boy did not cause it, and cutting off his only child emotionally and financially is not self-protection but abandonment.

I know marriage can end, but fatherhood should not. You can abandon marriage and still fully show up as a father. The two are not the same contract

All the family are tired, and even I, his closest brother, am tired. I only want him to be a responsible dad to his only child.

Please, what can I do? I really love my brother and want peace for him, however I pity his child.

Your brother is running for his dear life, he has had enough and doesn't care if she and the son survives, as a matter of fact, he has lost anything that will attract him to her

He may have found someone that has been giving him peace and because of that, he will not look back

I think the way forward is, for you to go to the boy's school, find out the cost of his schooling and the cost of his educational materials

Take it to your brother notice, let him be giving you money to pay that on his behalf and the mother should be the one feeding him

If the mother thinks she can't take care of the boy, then she should return the boy to your parents

Some ladies will be acting as if they are truly naughty, not every man can tolerate that

Most men wants peace and respect in marriage but the moment you trouble them with everything they will run and leave the house for you

Kunlebayo12:
I’m on the verge of being rusticated in school

October when I was writing my final exams, something happened just 1 day to end the exam. So me and my friend wrote on our question paper and we exchanged it between ourselves. When I was writing this initiator started searching everyone he got to me and he search me there was nothing on me, he search my booklet yet nothing, he ask me where is my question paper and I showed him just the front because it was the back we wrote on, when he saw it he flipped the back and saw the question paper and ask me who wrote this and what is all this I told him I wrote it with all the back and font he told me to sit down

Minute later he went outside and bought exam malpractice form and gave me and others those who were using chukuli, phones, book and other material to write.

I beg him that I wrote it, all pleading fell to deaf ear, when I saw he was yielding and time was going and no time to beg I just had to fill the paper. I filled it so I can beg him later so I would be able to write something

To get the long story short, 3 days later I was invigated to the student disciplinary board to explain what happened Which I did, I pleaded and beg that it won’t happen again, thry told me I will be punished but not expelled
In my school examination malpractice is straight expulsion no matter who you may know.

2 days later I got I call from my classrep that I was given 2years rustication. I called the Hod and course adviser and they said it true, I check the name of student expelled my name wasn’t there, I confirm from the student discplinary board and truly I was recommended 2 years suspension but the result will be out on February 17th this year, and when it out my student portal will be shutdown immediately

Even since then I have been sad, depressed and lonely and I can’t even tell my parents because they will be disappointed in me, I have been carrying a burden since early November and now it January, I have been thinking none stop, I have been contemplating suicide to be honest, I don’t pray this kind of situation for my worst enemies and those who haven’t been will never truly knows the pain it cause till you’re in the situation

Please i need help and words of encouragement
Even if you blame me, the dead has already been done, I Bleep up and I accepted my mistake

Please guys I’m dying In silence, I can’t even wait till February 17th, it killing me knowing few days to graduation I was rusticated, what will I tell my parent, or people that have help me one way or another in school. I’m devastated to be honest

I might be ending it any moment from now because this pain is unbearable for me, I just want it to end so I can live a normal life again but I can’t keep living like this. Ignore my typo error

Please someone should help me push it to front page

Pls calm down, life did not end with the suspension

Tell your mum what you are passing through and let them see that you are very sober about it

They will definitely be angry but you have to man up

Use that two years to develop yourself in other areas of your life

The two years will be over and you will bounce back

You are still better than those that were expelled

jmoore:
How much is life jacket?

How much is casket+ burial expenses?

They always believe that nothing will happen

ENIGMA11:
How una take select the first baby of the year?

Is basically for any child born at the time the clock is 12am of any new year

So any child born from that time is the baby of the year.

But it must be in the Government hospital not private hospital

Oyinbogyal:
I’m mixed and living abroad. My mother is European and my father is Nigerian. My parents separated over 10 years ago, but they never officially divorced — they were legally separated.

The separation happened because my father did something very serious to my mother. In Europe, you cannot be removed from the family home simply because of marital problems. A married person is only forced out by the courts if something very severe happens. That is all I can say for privacy reasons, but it’s important context.

About a year after they separated, my father started begging my mother to take him back. This wasn’t occasional — it went on for years. At the same time, he was involved with a Nigerian woman from his own tribe. Behind that Nigerian woman’s back, he was still pressuring my mother to reconcile. My mum refused, but he never stopped trying.

Fast-forward to December 2025. Even this year, my father again went to my mother and asked her to get back together with him.

Then on Christmas Day, he finally admitted — not to me, not to my mother, not to all of us directly — but to my youngest sister, that he has a 9-year-old son he has been hiding from everyone. He then made my sister pass the message on to the rest of us. He could not say it to our faces himself.

What shocked me most is that this child was born about a two years after my parents separated — meaning that all the years my father was begging my mother to reconcile, he already knew he had a child elsewhere. He deliberately never told her… bear in mind this child lives in the same country as us in Europe but he is just been hidden.

When I called him to confront him, he confirmed everything. He also said something that disturbed me deeply: that he feels no real affection for the child and that the boy will never replace his “real family,” meaning us. Hearing a man speak that way about his own biological child was horrifying.

This is a fully Nigerian boy, same tribe as my father. Knowing my father’s own childhood — where he suffered badly under a cruel stepmother — I would have thought he might see himself in that child. But instead, he has completely compartmentalised him.

Meanwhile, the child’s mother still wants to marry my father. From what I can see, he continues to keep her hopeful without fully committing, while still fantasising about getting back with his legal “European wife” who doesn’t want him. He seems to keep multiple realities open at once.

What made everything click for my mother — and for me — is this:
If my mother had agreed to reconcile, my father could have moved back into the house legally as her husband. Because he would not repeat physical violence, she would have had no immediate way to remove him again via legal system/court. Only after securing his place back in the home could he then reveal that he had a child all along — effectively trapping her in a marriage built on deception.

That realisation is terrifying.

I also feel deep cultural dissonance. I told my father plainly: my mother is European. This kind of secrecy is not culturally acceptable where we live. It’s not “family affairs” or something to be normalised. Trust matters differently. Consent matters differently. So he cannot assume my mother will want him after hearing the news, she is not like the Nigerian ex you had a child with - in Nigeria it is normal for a woman to beg or wait for a man to marry you, in Europe it is shameful so he needs to stop thinking my mom will accept this.

This entire situation has destroyed my respect for him. I don’t feel anger as much as disgust and shame. I’m embarrassed to even explain this to my European friends. I feel like I’ve lost faith not just in him, but in my ability to trust what I thought were shared values.

I’m now engaged to marry a loving European man, and if I’m honest, this experience has made me afraid. Afraid of repeating cycles if I marry a Nigerian man. Afraid of normalising things I don’t believe in. I don’t reject my Nigerian heritage — I love the food, the music, the culture — but when it comes to marriage, honesty, and responsibility, I feel completely disconnected from what I’ve seen modeled.

Right now, I don’t even want to be around my father. I feel like something fundamental has collapsed, and I don’t know how to rebuild respect where trust no longer exists.

I’m sharing this here because I genuinely don’t know how to process it alone, and I want perspectives — especially from people who understand Nigerian family dynamics — without judgement.

Anyman that have a woman outside his ex family and still pregnant her and she birth that child and still wants to come back to reconcile with his ex wife and children never had respect for the family from onset

We in Nigeria frown at such but at times it do happen and it's painful to accept

As for your dad, he doesn't deserve what he is asking for from your mom he has already started another family let him continue

But if he did a DNA test and thr boy is not his child, then you can forgive him and accept him

But if thr boy is his child, then the mom is not ready to leave him for your mom

Left for me, let him stay where he is let everyone have peace

DiamondsAreFore:
https://www.pulse.com.gh/story/81-year-old-father-of-ucc-acting-vice-chancellor-bags-mba-im-excited-my-son-is-graduating-me-2025122316093827041

Determination to succeed is the key to life

cupcup:
I am married for 4 years now and dated her for over a years,

She nd her parent don’t let me live in peace … she Carrie’s her family along about everything happening at home , now we have a smart daugter..

I picked up a pen nd paper to calculate my bills every month nd yearly including school fees for our child , nd house rent

2026 bills will be 70k monthly nd 2,190,000 yearly

Breakdown


Child’s school fees 151k
House rent 900k
Utility , Water 3k monthly
Pure water 4k monthly 10 bags
Security 650 monthly
Cleaner for compound 1200 monthly
Child lesson fee 25k monthly
Phcn band A 35k monthly now December is going to 70k already

How much am I earning monthly? It’s not enoug to cover this bills but she kept using my daugter to cage me at home not to be able to go bd hussle .

Now here comes the wicked part her parent will not talk to her but support her in disturbing my mental health !


I cleared microwave , water heater to reduce this high cost of power supply … she forcing her way to keep using it nd yet she doesn’t contribute to the bills…


We had an account opened for our child nd it’s a two signatory account… I discovered she had been moving money in nd out personally without my knowledge even borrowing her friend from the money .

Abeg make una advice me

1) I want to have the account closed nd move all the money away

2) I want to work on my mental health ,

3) 2026 that’s on the way… O Ma LOUD

You may go gaga if she continues not to be prudent and keep wasting without being economical

Just go to her parents report her and if possible tell them that you need a break from the marriage as your mental health is now affecting you

Meanwhile go to bank and discuss with the bank to freeze the account because she alone has been withdrawing the money there without your permission

Kcash200:
Hi guys,

I have a problem i have been dealing with since i was 12. I am from a large family and when i was 12, my mum told me my Dad is not my biological father and for me to make it a secret. I did not know what to do with such an information at that age but i knew it was wrong but i couldnt talk so i am not the one who destroys the family. Everyone lives in peace but i always wonder what will happen if only they know the truth. My biological father has other children and some of them know me that i am outside. He was involved in my life financially from 12years as far as i am aware of. He sent me money then and i kept quiet too and also supported me financially a couple of times though we have no personal relationship asides 2-3mins phone calls here and there and it is been like that for years.

I know my biological father and we kept in touch while i was in secondary school. Now that i am an adult now, i feel really sad about the whole thing and sometimes i even cry on my bed. I have been living in secret and a double life and fearing i might be outed one day. Some people in my mother's family are aware which is very strange and i find it shameful as a man now but i did not choose my fate. I have always tried to forget it and just leave my life but it is always just there especially when i think about starting my own family. I am striving hard for it not to define the way i see marriage and life as i am trying to write a different story for myself.

I grew up with my father who is not my biological father and i have been a good son to him as well and still taking care of him but it bothers that my whole life is a lie and it is hard knowing what i know and i can't say anything as that will scatter the family. I met some girls from a very good home who i can marry but i am scared if i tell her or other girls, that her parent will not let me marry her with that secret.

I am scared of getting married publicly as someone can take the news to my biological father as i do not intend to invite him as my biological father but i always feel heavy anytime i think about it. I want to start a new life for myself but i don't know how to handle this. I do not plan to tell my father as he is getting old and this can kill him at his old age as he has been through a lot in life. He is finally enjoying and i am taking care of him very well and he prays for me all the time.

I am building a good life for myself as a professional and have a lot of girls around me but i don't know what to do. Should i keep quiet and tell the girl i marry after marriage ? Isn't that me building my marriage on deceit. It is a shameful thing to talk about if you look at it.

Sometimes, i feel like they caused me trauma putting me in this position but i am an adult now and will bear responsibility for how i live my life and cant continue to blame any trauma or anyone. I am the one who has to keep quiet for peace to reign in the family.

I don't want to wait too long just incase it is a dealbreaker for someone but i also don't want to be disclosing to anyone.

Aside from marriage, i still do not know what to do with that information.

I think it's something you can't open the can or warn because of the problem it will cause

As for you planing for your marriage, just go ahead and marry but do it in a very quiet way

Dont tell your wife to be if anything, it's not her to decide on it for now, just continue your life at the end of the day, anywhere you face that's where she will follow you

Being a woman, if you tell her now it will affect your marriage plans, after marriage once you notice that the bubble wants to bust then you let her know

After all, those in orphanage home, I mean the men do get married and they don't even know thier roots but you know your root

Mopolchi:
This Chidiebere Amakaeze is really a mean person to have done this to Obi Cubana.

He is just a nuisance

SonOfWords:
Everybody wey comment above me dey actually struggle to understand the story😭.

I don't even understand the story and still wondering why Obi cubana should allow himself to be dragged

Xso666:
You are very right on this

Thanks

AlphaBoy:
Nairaland, abeg help me judge this matter because I no wan deceive myself.

There’s this female friend of mine in school. We read together, buy snacks for each other, gist, and I usually walk her home after night class. Cool friendship, nothing serious… or so I thought.

But recently, she has been acting somehow:
One day she told me she feels blessed to have me and even called me her role model.
Anytime we finish reading late, she insists I must walk her home.

One night, she pointed at a bus stop and said she once saw a couple kissing there. Then she faced me and dropped this line: “It’s you that don’t want to love.”

If I ghost her small, na she go enter my DM first like, “You no wan talk to me again?”
And one day she directly asked me: “Why are you running from me?”

Make una no forget — I liked her initially but didn't want to push it yet , I don’t know if she’s catching feelings.

So nairalanders, make una talk true:
This girl like me abi she just dey whine me?
Or na me dey overthink am?

Am surprise that a lady is giving you a green light and you don't want to recognise it

[quote author=Xso666 post=137778557][/quote]That their little brain picks up dirty things quickly because they don't have any responsibility so the brain picks up nonsense things

Xso666:
Hello guys, please I want to know if it’s okay for a daughter to see her fathers unclothedness because she is so attached to me and I take care of her alone so I don’t know if it’s okay for me to change my dress while she is In the room because I do send her out and she doesn’t like going outside to wait due to the nature of my compound, so I need matured advice on this issue and please she’s just 4 years old.

Please help move to front page so I get more opinions on this🙏

Of what benefits is your unclothedness to her

Pls send her out anytime you want to change

Once she starts seeing your unclothedness the devil will advice her on what to do with it

So when she gets in contact with a bad guy using it on get will be easy because she has seen it in you and may accept it on her by another

After all you have it and it's not new to you

Samantha125:
Ever since I moved away from home few years back, my eldest sister's children finally visited me for the first time during their spring holidays in October and we had a great time together, as a result, they had a lot of things to say to their cousins.

Now their 3 cousins, who are also my niblings have been begging me to come over for the festive period, but there's one issue, their father is the same man who shot my husband two times last year, murdered his little niece, and made an attempt on my life... Personally, I've never held what happened against them, in fact, they saved me, had they not been present during the shooting, I don't think I'd have been still around. My love for them has never changed and we still have a decent aunt and niblings relationship, but I wouldn't want to put my husband in an uncomfortable position by allowing them to come over without his full approval as he's still dealing with the trauma of everything that transpired.

Last time we spoke about the incident, he made it clear how he never wanted to hear anything related to my brother-in-law ever again.

So I'm in dilemma as to what I should do, should I try to convince my husband to reconsider? Because those children had no hand in their father's evil deeds, in fact, some people, specifically guys, came forth after his arrest and started speaking up about how he's been intimidating them with his work pistol as well, or should I just come up with a flimsy excuse to decline their request to visit me during this festive period for peace's sake?

Simply obey your husband and avoid them also don't approve their coming

Their father is evil as far as he is still alive, that wickedness runs in him

Untill he apologise to your husband or make peace with him, don't bring his family to visit you

dollytino4real:
i don't know how it came into my home. I guess from public transport it followed me home unknownly, na neighbors are scared to enter my room and it really disturbs me greatly

You need to get those people that fumigates homes, the day they will fumigate, you have to find where you guys will sleep for two days

Do that for 3/6 months and you are free

Max31700:
Hello everybody ! I’m French and live in France. I was married with a Nigerian woman in France( she is Edo woman) . We made a traditional wedding in France but I gave bride price and also money to her family to make a traditional wedding in Nigeria too. But their family never made any celebration with the money that I gave them and now my wife broke up with me. Can I demand to the family to refund me all the money ?

Just forget about any refund it's not even possible

If you are fed up with your marriage just walk away

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders, Please there's this issue that has been bothering me for a while now. There's this lady whom I met and have been dating for about 3 years now.

Though we've been doing alright all these while but suddenly she started having dreams concerning my family. Last night, she had a dream and she said inside the dream, my elder sister was berating her why she hasn't gotten pregnant for me all these while.

The truth of the matter is that we've only been cohabiting for 8 months and she hasn't for once missed her period.

Whenever we made love, I always noticed that she'd go the bathroom to pee and wash her private part. I have asked many elderly people around what that means and they keep telling me she doesn't want to get pregnant. Is that even possible at all?

The other disturbing part is that her mother is a traditional religious woman who worships the gods of her village and my woman also does the same. Recently I've been considering on how to marry her and have even been working towards it, and would be around March, next year.

Please, Nairalanders, what could be the problem. Should I go ahead with the whole relationship, considering how her family background is surrounded by the traditional religious practices of her family and how fetish she's. Could that also be the reason she has been finding it very difficult to take in?


Please mods, help me push this to the front page so that I can hear from others experiences and get a wider advise on how to go about this.

You already know much about her family and their traditional settings which the mum is on top of her game and the daughter will definitely practice or take over from her when the time comes

If you love traditional practices and don't mind joining them then you are good to go

But if you know that if your family finds out about all these things and may not approve your marriage with her, the think twice

God1000:
Hmm, you see life, she was enjoying all the money from the guy oo, and now because her boyfriend has been apprehended, she's trying to extricate herself

Why not appreciate her for being truthful
Was he stealing to please her or he was just a thief

She said she already warned him against such

Jackanda1:
I mentioned medical student because I know that medicine requires a high jamb score. I am seeking for admission into medicine. it has been my dream for some time now, but jamb had been making it very difficult. It has been more than 6 years. I had to settle for a course I do not like. I'm a graduate now and done with Nysc. However my dreams remain. I attended three times and give up. I want to try it again with the determination to get it this time. I am seeking advice from people who have pass this stage successfully.

So I am making another attempt at jamb next year. I have started studying with jamb syllables and past questions but my problems are:

1. The textbooks are just too bulky. There are too many things to study if you are following the syllabus. It is very frustrating. Too many things to study in a very short period of time.

2. Tendency to forget easily. Things I studied last month I have forgotten more than 50% of it, because of it bulkiness.So I have to go back to revise them which is time consuming especially when I have new topics to study.

3. I'm currently studying organic compounds in chemistry. And it is it is painful that I couldn't answer all the past questions on that topic. I had to go back to revise the topic. It seems jamb questions are hidden in corners of the textbooks. And you can't find them no matter how hard you cram.

4. I do not know if my brain is a little bit slow because I can spend time on one particular topic and in 3 days time I end up forgetting 70% of what I read in that topic.so Did you people go through this problems cuz I'm tired.

5. Medicine for me is a do or die. I don't intend to give up. I always see myself as a medical doctor. But jamb is jamming me too much.

I need help and encouragement from you guys. How did you do it.

Should I just focus on past questions. Tell me how you did it. if possible break it down summarize it. Even if it's a hard Way. Tell me, I need your help.

I love your zeal, giving up is not an option for you
Keep it up, you can try pharmacy maybe it can work out
Being a Doctor shouldn't be a do or die issue

You don't have to be desperate about it because your life is in God's hand