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this guy just wan trend by force


hear person name 'Skibii' .. e nor even sound well for ear no b small wahala before my fone gree me type d name

that fat dude for davido back nor fit dey with upcoming musician oo, dis one wey im own size Na double double

he go just wreck man pikin

if the real musician wear 6 yards, him go wear 18 yards

is that not gbese

if u say make dem close leg, dem go say u nor knw what's up
now, answer simple question, u nor fit
why do something u can't boldly say even in private??
must u fvck everyone u date?

undertaker style




I still prefer masterkraft style sha

but why she no fine Na?

and the mods nor go post my topics ooo

bobrisky go soon Begin beg fr money




cancer knocking

this kind person no go get d mind to kill ordinary chicken
social media giving fools an outlet

Na wa oo, dis girl nor even fine at all

Wizkid nor go congratulate am....I sure die

betafuture:
I am very sorry, it seems like anytime I post on Nairaland is actually the time I have great challenges in my life, however, my posts also reflect the chronicle of my life. You may wish to check out my last posting about how I was sacked in the Bank with a debt that was guaranteed by a junior staff, whose job was threatened by the loan I obtained and she guaranteed for me. please find the link https://www.nairaland.com/2282140/loan-incured-before-termination-appointment Like I mentioned in that post, I got a job as with a Rep member and he appointed me as the Special assistant on a salary of 80k monthly and my boss paid my rent, of which I engage with my lender to take 50k with me monthly and right off the excess interest and stop disturbing the junior colleague, an arrangement they agreed to and everybody was fine, save that I had to struggle to cope with 30k monthly as a family man, working in Abuja. My wife never complained. I just gave her 25k from the salary, once received, to buy food for the family why I tried to manage with the remaining 5k. It was tough! Luckily, a junior lady cousin who works in a bank was posted to Abuja and we had to accommodate her. She was very kind and understood my plight. Sometimes, she drops up to 50k for my wife to augment the house expenses. She would tell me and sometimes, I would take additional 10k to ad to my pocket money.

The home was running, my son, my wife and my cousin, including myself were very happy. As a banker, I had learned the skill of marketing and networking and negotiation. In the course of my sojourn in the national assembly I met a head of a parastatal wjo needed me to do some strategic alliance between his organization and my boss. We later became great friends, and i realized I could access a scholarship to study in the UK through him. To cut the story short, I pursued this opportunity to the latter and I got a Federal government scholarship to pursue a Masters degree in the UK. I saw this as an opportunity to rewrite the story of my life. Two months in the UK, I began to look for means to bring my wife and son to join me in the UK. While I was in UK, I made it a point of duty to send 150k to my wife in Nigeria on monthly basis (Remember I was on scholarship) and I also do student work in the UK. Because we did not sell our car during the crisis, I also gave the custody of the car to her.

FIRST SUSPICION

When she was about coming to the UK with my 7 years old son, we decided to give out some of our home appliances and sell most of them including the car. Since I was not in Nigeria, she was to manage the transactions. Because I opened her e-mail address, i do see her mails, so i could see the alert on her GTB. The first thing that prompted me was that the amount she received for the sales of our car was 100k higher than what she declared to me. (The fund was meant to buy the flight tickets for her and my son). There were other expense transactions that were over declared, but the actual amount debited to her account were quite low. I did not confront her on these issues until she arrived UK with my son. When I did, I could see the way she manipulatively and professionally lied her way out of the whole issue. I did not pick an offense, hence i made her to understand that I was never convinced. Since then my instinct told me that if she could lie to me so much on finance, maybe there are other things going on in her life that I never known. However, I opened her Facebook account for her years ago in Nigeria, but I never bothered to check it. Out of curiosity, I tried login into her Facebook account and I discovered she has changed the password. My first reaction was to check it, but had I done that, she would have been conscious, then I used my skill as an trained IT security expert to crack her password and then access her Facebook. I ran through all her messenger message and everything was fine. Apart from a certain guy who always beg her for assistance and prayer, there was nothing really suspicious about her messanger and then, we continued with our normal life.

After a week in UK, she started to work as a carer (her visa permitted her to work fully), and she began to make money. I know how much enters her account and we decide how to spend. My son also start schooling and life began to have meaning again. I finished my masters with a distinction and the best graduating student in my department and my University offered me automatic admission for PhD, with part scholarship.l To remain, we needed to source funds to show evidence that my family can stay with me in the UK and show evidence of the balance of school fees. We sourced for money everywhere. She brought all she had and we had to borrow both from UK and Nigeria. My boss was very supportive and I commenced the PhD this September. As a family, we have a problem. My son is now 8 years and we have been trying to make another baby but it does not seem to be forthcoming. We have been to hospitals in the UK, we were both tested and once told my sperm motility was low, treated, but later we were considered both ok.

Since her arrival in the UK, I noticed that my wife suddenly repel sexxx. Sometimes, we had sexxxx just once in a month, she would find a way of brushing away by advances. At a level, i had to ask if there was any problem, but she said it was because of the new environment, her jobs and what have you. This further told me that all was not well in my marriage. She knows I love her and I would do anything for her. While we were yet trying to pay my tuition, her mum got a US visa and all the children were making contributions for her journey, I had to take from my school fees and send to Nigeria and manage my school to give us more time. I tried to ensure that we continually live like one happy family.

Do not let me sound like one perfect good guy. I had also lived a rough bad life in the past and she is aware. During my days in the bank, I had been sexually reckless and irresponsible. There was a time I left office to a gal house, fckked her and I never knew that the condom we used was stick to my shoe. I drove with it home, entered home very late at night, my wife was already angrily waiting for me in the house, only to see a used condom with sperm inside attached to the soul of my shoe. It was an issue that we had to battle with for weeks, even though I never confess it was from, I told a story that it must have got gummed to me at the mechanic village where I had gone to pick my car in the evening (She was aware that someone has accused my mechanic of having sexxx in his car, leaving condom at the back seat). after few weeks, we resolved the issue and we continued leaving normal life. However, there was also a time I suspected her activities on Facebook and I realised a guy whom she has known in the past has been pestering her and she seems to be encouraging him (That was during our period of financial crisis). I had confronted her, she had denied they never had anything but the guy was just pestering her. I apologised and went sober. I called the guy (who was also married) and lived in another faraway city. The guy denied having anything to do with her that she just knew her while growing up. The guy originally blasted me, but later called back and apologized and promised never to disturb her again. I was hurting for months, after which I forgave, forgot and moved on. Let me also state that during the period of my financial crisis, I made a covenant with God, after listening to a message, that whatever the case maybe, I will remain faithful to my wife. This I have manage to keep despite advances from both married and single friends and acquaintances.

THE REAL ISSUE

Now, we are living in the UK and very happy, she is working full-time, while I pursue my PhD full-time, work part-time and my son schools full-time and we were all happy, save the issue of delayed pregnancy and (to me, the poor sex life from her). Let me also state that I bought her a Samsung phone (when she arrived last year), which I have full access to because I know her password. Few months ago, she told me she wanted a bigger phone that she would send the one I bought her to my younger brother in Nigeria who had been disturbing her for a phone. Even though, I thought we did not need to spend money on a new phone at that crucial time because of the looming school expenses, I consented just for her to be happy and she got herself a Samsung galaxy s8 plus for 700pounds, which she would repay of 2 years. The first thing that prompted me about the phone was that she changed her password, but I never mind because I thought she was preventing my son, who always loved to play game on her phone from accessing the phone. However, after few weeks, I began to feel very uncomfortable about the whole stuff. My instinct just told me all was not well. Whatever was it, I could not place my finger on it. But after reviewing my work with my supervisor in the University yesterday, I just felt like going home to rest, instead of studying in the school and then, I met wife in the house with my son. She was trying to order some items online for my son for Christmas and on arrival, she gave her phone to select what we should buy for him, and then, the FB message came into her phone and I could read...'it is not what you think, I have been very busy'

I selected the item I thought was ok, gave returned her phone, picked my laptop and logged in to her Facebook. My wife pretended she was enganging me in discussion, but was responding to the message from a guy, who obviously was her lover and she wrote (I was reading from my computer without her knowledge) 'You know I will ALWAYS LOVE YOU'. and the other guy responded 'I love you more baby' (By this time, I was already burning on the seat, but I somehow managed to keep my calm). She wrote 'But you don't call me' ...and she stood up and went to the kitchen (I wanted to gather enough evidence before I reacted), but immediately she got to the kitchen, she deleted the conversation. At this time, I could not take it. My son was in the sitting room, watching cartoon. I went to her in the kitchen and aggressively confronted her. She originally pretended she did not know what I was saying, but when she say the aggression and seriousness in me she started begging and crying. I lost control of my emotion. I was angry and shouting. My son was there. He was too young, but very intelligent. he understood everything and began to blame his mum, at the same time asking me ti give mum a second chance. I was bitterly hurting. I felt like tearing her into pieces, but if I tried that in UK, it will be straight to jail. She could not state the reason behind her action. She was still trying to lie. She said the guy was her ex and they recently became friends on Facebook and the guy is trying to rekindle the old relationship. The guy is based in Nigeria, they do not even see. Everything she said was incoherently sense. All she wanted was that I should forgive her. I should not tell anybody. She cried, wept and what have you. I was hurting. If it were to by Nigeria, she would have left my house yesetrday, but in UK, it is difficult. The love turned to hatred. She managed to convince me to enter room with her, so that she will discuss the issue with me, without getting our son involved. In the room, it was the same crying and plea for forgiveness and a promise it would never happen again. I told her i was ok, but she would not let me out. I had to angrily shove her away from the door and she hit her head against the wardrobe. i was too angry, too sad, and too hateful to care. i called her all manners of unprintable names. I cursed her, I was just too angry. She kept begging. I left for the sitting room and she came back, knelt down before me and kept begging. My son was crying that two of us were making him sad. The young boy even threatened to tell his teacher in the school on monday. I was too angry to listen. I just told her to let me be. She stood up with tears in her eyes to enter the toilet, I checked her Facebook account again and realised that the lover had sent another message thus: "My dear I don't call you always to protect your home, but I always check your pictures every night before I go to bed" As I was reading, she stupidly deleted that again in the toilet. (Please note that my wife always post our family pictures on facebook, stating how I am the best husband in the world).

My anger erupted again and I rushed to meet her in the bathroom and asked her why she deleted the last message of the guy and she tearfully answered that she did not want me to see anything that could aggravate my anger the more. I angrily snatched the phone from her and smashed it on the floor. She knelt down at my feet and continued to cry and beg for forgiveness, but I was hurting so badly. I left for sitting room again and my son was confusedly crying. She came back and knelt before me and continued begging and weeping and begged we should go back to the room to discuss, at least to protect our son. After a while, i followed her. There was nothing to say; the same weeping, crying and promises to not do it again and swearing that they never had anything together. I told her I needed to talk to the guy and she pleaded I should not. I told her she is giving me an impression that she is protecting the guy so that she could continue her illicit affairs with him and told her it would not work. The can change tactics, but its is only a matter of time. I told her, I would forgive her, but I cannot trust her again and when there is no trust in marriage, the marriage is gone. I also told her I must engage that guy that she should give me his number, but she said her phone is no longer working. I made her feel comfortable that I have forgiven her, but honestly I am hurting. I went back to my laptop, continued chat with the guy on her messenger, but he was now online. We both slept on the same bed, i realised she could not sleep. In the middle of the night she woke me up to beg again, she was offering a make-up sexxx, but I was not interested. I told her i had forgiven her, but I am still hurting and there is no way i could have erection with her. In the morning, I checked her messanger, i discovered the iddiot has responded, still claiming to love her. I checked his profile, I realised he is a muslim, who has a wife with two kids. His location was not shown, but most of his pics her in Nigeria apart from two which have foreign background. I also realize he has limited posts on FB, but the phone number on his FB page is US phone number.

From my wife's FB account, I sent a message thus:

Hi, Mr Farouq, my name is Adams, I am Grace husband
I just wish to inform you that all the rubbish you have been doing with my wife are now exposed to me
I advise you in the name of whatever thing you believe, STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

I also realize you are a married man. If you have any moral integrity and respect for family values, you will know that
responsible men do not run after married women or break homes.

I do not care whatever you claim you think of her, just heed this warning STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

He read it an never respond. I went to her facebook setting and unfriended him.

I left home in the morning to go study in the library, but honestly, I could not assimilate anything. I am so emotionally broken down, so psychologically disturbed. The whole event kept playing in my head. I found it difficult to rationalise it. I continued to find fault in my being and my personality. I know I am very attractive handsome young man. Despite showing I am married, ladies still flock around me. I am also a passionate lovemaker. I dress well and look neat. I don't seem to understand where I have failed. Sometimes I just close my eyes and i feel tears dripping, but I have got to be strong. As for her, she has remained in the room since morning, hiding her head in shame and crying profusely. I have cut off communication with her since I came back from school and I have enganged myself in drinking spirit maybe my spirit will be strenghtened.

This is my story, this is my ordeal. Please I need advice.

Thanks.

Sorry Man, I feel ur pain ..av been down that road.. but I
feel u should have spoken with the guy only after u have
made ur wife reprimand him herself. this should be done
on phone in ur presence as well. If she shows any form
of hesitation, it means she isn't ready to keep her
marriage. its not too late tho..make her do it herself and
henceforth, always check her phone since she has
become unpredictable

Sorry Man, I feel ur pain ..av been down that road.. but I feel u should have spoken with the guy only after u have made ur wife reprimand him herself. this should be done on phone in ur presence as well. If she shows any form of hesitation, it means she isn't ready to keep her marriage. its not too late tho..make her do it herself and henceforth, always check her phone since she has become unpredictable.

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Exactly the same word that killed Tagbo. Now we dunno what killed Chime and DJ Olu. Mr Shayo, are u responsible?[/quote]if I say shayo dey, I talk say make only u com drink two buckets of liquor, even if person nor tel u, u suppose sabi use ur brain na

okerekeikpo:
Which kind ugly girl be this na?

learn how to appreciate gud things
mumu

Onlywoman92:
The babe looks like Kehinde Ajao. Your brother go born twins be that

no be lie, Na she and Amen to ur prophecy

Madeu:
I sabi this ya brother from way back. Finally him don see him True love. Send my congratulation.

thanks chairman
how I go deliver ur msg?

ishowdotgmail:
Oyo is big na. Tell us where precisely is the venue. Let me move my guys in

Congrats to ur bro

No worry, I go post the iv
thanks

soberdrunk:
See as husband and wife fine like Italian salad!! My own future wife fit dey one place this minute dey shout "harder" "harder"!! I just hope the 'radiator' of her engine will still be working when I finally pay for the Naija used' vehicle........

Ps-Op if I show and I don't see "Gulder" way cold, I will just go and sit on the Mother of the brides lap.....

bros, Na me n my jotter dey follow dis thread, I don book one crate for only you

bigerboy200:
lol...what do u take nairalanders for?? do u think we are hungry people? lol

lol, Na joke. u fit carry cooler come

eni4real:
Congrats to your brother. He is a legend of our dear hospital!

u seem to knw him
thanks all the same.

Stevengerd:
This wan sha one reach frontpage by all means

Na ur uncle mate u dey call " this one"
shioor.. children of nowadays... SMH

NwaChibuzor3:
That your brother must be a very lucky boy. That girl looks like someone that will be able to ride a good dick well but she is yoruba and afonja. They have zero bedmatics thats why most of their husbands always cheat outside.

ah...u dey jonx b dat o
e get one afonja babe wey I dey shine her Congo dat year
dat babe gymnastics nor get rival

Mods abeg make Una help me move am enter front page
cc: lalasticlala , mynd44

at least make I grace front page for the first time

That's my cute brother and his lovely wife. Their wedding will be taking place this month in Oyo state. Every Nairalander in Oyo state is invited. Enough food and Shayo go dey for those of Una wey no gree slim fit Una belle. please note that you can't com inside the venue with any type of polythene bag. This Na because of people wey fit collect 12 people food once.

Afam4eva:
The topic is really funny...

People who fail to do their due diligence are bound to have problems in the long run. This is a lady you hadn't met physically but fell in love with her on facebook. I'm beginning to agree with Pastor Adeboye when he said that "If you meet your wife on facebook, it will crash on youtube" or something along those lines. Meeting someone on social media still requires that you meet them physically before making any kind of commitment with them.

As far as her having saggy breasts, i think it's not so much of a big deal but if you think it is, i don't think asking her about her past will make the b00bs to grow back. Whatever may have happened in the past that contributed to the downward trajectory of her b00bs is a thing of the past. Make your decision as it relates to her present reality. If it's too big a deal for yout= then leave her alone and go find someone with a mor e healthy mammary gland.

pastor Adeboye lie for that one

that's why she nor dey husband house

Immediately I heard that Wizkid's "sounds from the other side" album has been released, I started google searching my brains for ways to get enough data to download the album and also update some of my apps. As a normal Naija boy that will always think of a cheaper way out, I found the end to my search as my brains started flashing red. Everything was red, so I smiled to my self and said, its only Airtel that can complete this job.

I brought out my Airtel Sim, I checked my balance to see how much i have there, even though I knew I had just 56kobo on the Sim. Who knows? Someone might just mistakenly transfer 100 naira to your line. To my surprise, nothing like that. Well e nor pain me sha, based on the fact that I know that the odd for such to occur in this change era na 1.01. Even this days, I observed people no longer lost money, I nor even fit remember the last time wey I see money for ground.

Sharply, I hustled ₦100 and bought Airtel recharge card and sharply loaded it, getting ready for the ₦25 night browsing. I set my alarm and quickly went to sleep around 8:30 pm hoping to wake up early since they say, "early to bed, early to rise". By God's grace, I woke up at 6am. Immediately, I checked my phone to see why I didn't hear when my alarm rang, but after my investigations, I discovered it rang, but only God can tell when it rang and also, the person that put it off.

Well I decided to try again the next night. Around 8pm, I started putting my tools in place. I decided to check my balance before sleeping, Lo and behold na ₦80 greet me. Na so I vex call customer care. After someone picked, it got worse, the spoken English of the aboki that picked was heavily adulterated with the Hausa intonation.

Thanks to being an ardent follower of our missing president, I was able to pick out all he said. The aboki said I was charged for one French learning service. Abeg wetin concern me and French ?, why did they forcefully subscribe me ?, abeg how person wan take learn French with text message, wen i no even pass the one wey dem teach me for class ?, why them no notify me say dem go soon comot my money ?, why them no notify me say dem don charge me for French ?.

All this were the questions I asked the aboki, even though I knew he won't be able to answer. I angrily ended the call and planned towards the next night. By this time, I had 80 naira remaining in the Sim. I went to sleep around 10pm with my alarm on and my phone right beside me. Finally the alarm rang at 12 midnight. I woke up but one voice kept telling me to sleep for one more hour since everything I want to do won't even take an hour. The voice kept telling me to relax for an hour more.

I reasoned with the voice and agreed. I went back to sleep, forgetting to reset my alarm. The aftermath was that I woke up 8 hours after. I was just hissing when I woke up, but since I had ₦80 remaining, the thing nor too pain me. But based on what happened the previous day, I decided to check my balance. Hmmmm na so I
discover say those people don delete ₦50 from my ₦80.
I removed my battery and checked to see if it was actually my Sim card but unfortunately it was. The thing pain me die. Na small remain make I cry, but as a man and the first son of my family, I shook it off and decided to make enquiries. Finally one of their agents picked and we discussed. The guy just they calm me but me I just dey tell am make dey return my ₦50 if they no want trouble.

So I decided to ask why they deducted ₦50 this time and he said I registered for personalized Bible. Why would I want to personalized the Bible when am not mad ?, Why would I pay for a Bible I have in my phone ?, Even if my phone is off, I still have the hard copy Bible, so why on earth will I be so foolish to pay for a personalized Bible ?, well I told him to unsubscribe me and I ended the call.

At this point I had just ₦30 remaining from the ₦100 I loaded and I haven't even done anything. Since I don't know how much I might be owing them the next time I check my balance, I decided to quickly do the subscription before I lose out totally. i subscribed for the night browsing service around 9am and also set my alarm so I won't forget to wake up.

But I discovered something, just ₦20 was deducted instead of ₦25 so I smiled and said to myself "so this man don sharply report my case, e be like say na like this dem go dey compensate me small small". I didn't know I was deceiving myself until I woke up at exactly 12am and my phone refused to browse. First, I thought it was network so I decided to test freebasics, na so dat one just dey open like say na 6g I dey use.

I didn't want to believe that I have been scammed again so I decided to go to sleep and wake up by 3am to try again. At exactly 3am my alarm woke me up, immediately I reached for my phone and started trying again, this time freebasics opened very fast as if I was using 8g while I still couldn't browse. At this point I knew Airtel Nigeria have successfully scammed me again. Wizkid, I couldn't download, Apps, I couldn't update, but airtime vanished.

make I investigate first