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I doubt he hanged himself

Jaqenhghar:
When they release Sowore its best he leaves that shithole amd leave the donkeys to their fate

I hope your parents (the donkeys) are not here?

Oga OP is it your migration? Or are they coming to eat in your house over there? Someone can not runaway and have peace again abi?

Ay04z:
Dis sex sha.
Will try it one day.

No try am o!!!

lalasticlala:
Joro and his fake, made up stories and chats

Na your fault. I no read am o.

As far as I'm concerned, power supply is worse off than during the PDP era in Tunga Minna, Niger state.

And our governor is busy junketeering.

A spade is a spade...

OTayobami:
Will keep on posting this...

The only solution to this country's problems is to reduce her President's, governor's, senator's, minister's, honourable's, chairman's, councillor's salary and allowances then you'll see patriotic people take over them sits and turn her situation around...... This is therefore called revolution

I think it has more to do with their powers

Somebody should call the Niger state government attention to this o. It's not as if Anambra has the worst roads neither is Anambra in the US.

If you lack initiative, at least copy abi na emulate from others like you did back in school.

Leadership no be rocket science...just follow your better conscience

pastie:
childish question with childish answer

Very childish I tell you

Awol1:
Are the minister-designates complaining or is premium times taking pills on someone else's migraine?

E tire me too

The law doesn't recognize the devil. Na you we know, na you do the deed.

Wickedfacts:
Innoson
Chicason
Ekeson
Gobison

Compare the names to
Orient Energy
Capital Oil

Once an illiterate opens a business, from the name, you would know.

hahahaha

Give it a simple logo instead of the full name and it's bae.

So proud of this!

But wait! The vehicle no get interior?

So that your embassy wouldn't advice her citizen to stay clear of such places. That's what they (US) would do if it's another man's land.

BlackPantherCri:
I personally don't want to believe she got down with her ex. It is a mere allegation, not substantiated by fact, he did not 'caught' her

Anyways, it is only normal for people to go through that phase, missing your ex. Him without sin cast the first stone. Can he prove he has not made contact with his ex? Does that mean he went ahead to sleep with them? . Personally all my exes were bastards, nothing to miss! Lolz! Until he has proof that she slept with her ex, it is just his anger speaking.

That his wife's ex was the first to wish her hbd ahead of him. The ex for whatever reason was reaching out to a married woman in her matrimonial home at 12am to wish her hbd!! Do you do that?

Formidable1:
On the contrary, I have a different advice: if you leave her for the USA, your marriage is done and dusted.

Many are advising you to ditch her, do a DNA test, don't go to the USA with her, etc. But I'll only tell you one thing: love her even more.

You're already married to her and what more? You have a child. I've always advised couples whose marriages are on the brink to work it out for the sake of their children. Trouble-laden marriages often have a ripple effect on the children; they grow up to have less honor for the sanctity of marriage, and they in turn start having problems too, spreading it to their own children and it spreads down to the next generations. The outcome?

I don't usually delve into issues like this without hearing from the other party. You can never get the full behind-the-scene story from one person. However, from all you've written in your post, OP, I failed to see the efforts you made to find out why your wife suddenly became aggressive to you. I doubt it's merely about the birthday as most people are suggesting. Have you tried to sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her? Have you tried to find out what it is that you do that makes her despise you? For all I know, you may have changed as well. You may no longer be the man she used to know. You may have stopped showering the love you used to shower her when you were still dating her.

I'm married for 6 years now with kids and I dated my wife for 5 years before we finally got married. I can tell you that marriage isn't a bed of roses. It takes two to tango. My wife on certain occasions have been angry or aggressive with me, but each time she did that, we talked and most times I looked inwards and understood that I was falling short in a way. And the only solution to that has always been to assure her of my love by giving her more attention, affection and care.

Nobody is perfect, and I'm not saying your wife is without a fault. But if you really want your marriage to work, you have to look inwards and ask yourself what you've been doing when you guys were crazily in love that you've stopped doing. You said you could work for 48 hrs straight without coming home; I'll be frank, no wife can cope with that. And then when you come home, what do you do? You start demanding for food? No, bro...what you do is to consider first how lonely she's been and the lack of attention, and try to make up for that. Play with her, tell her sweet things. In fact, once in a while, take her out for a treat, buy her some nice things on your way home after such long shifts. Show her that she may be lonely, but she's not alone. Make her understand that your absence/work is a necessity in order to give her a comfortable life, and assure her of a better future where you'd find a better source of income without having to absent from home.

The truth is that women would always crave attention and that feeling of being cared for, and believe me they could go anywhere to find it. It is how they're biologically wired, and we the men have to understand it to that extent. If you don't give your wife attention and care, she'd seek it elsewhere, including from an ex. Now, I'm not saying she's doing the right thing, but once a woman starts comparing you with her ex, it means you've started falling short and you need to up your game. It's usually hard to move on from a past relationship, esp one that didn't break up in bad terms, but with the right amount of care and love from a partner, one can get over it. If you dare leave her behind for the USA, you can kiss your marriage goodbye. It'd just give her the conclusive reason to go full time with her ex. In fact, going to the USA will give her the focus she needs to be with you. You guys will be far from the depression that comes with living in this country.

From your post, I observed that you're kind of saving your money for the 'bigger things' while she's the one providing the money for feeding. She may feel like you're using her. How about making an arrangement with her in such a way that there is a balance in the finances. You have to be the man now by providing more money than she does for expenses. At least, 65/35 would do. It's no longer back then in school when she used to give you money, and cater for you. You're now the head of your family, and if you're earning more than she does, you should provide more than she does.

As for the issue of insulting your mum, talk with her. Find out the reasons behind her disregard for your family. Forgive her and give her more chance. With love, all things are possible.

Please, and please, don't ever entertain the notion of doing a DNA test. Whether positive or negative, it'd do you no good. I'd bet with my last dime that that child is yours. Your wife doesn't seem to me like that kind of woman people are suggesting she is. Your post also shows that you believe in her faithfulness and fidelity. She's just probably frustrated with many things she's not getting from the marriage.

My advice is already taking up a page. But I'd stop here. I'd just ask you to:

1. Look inwards into yourself and find out what you've started doing or stopped doing that has made her change.

2. If you still really want your marriage to work, then work on it, at least for the sake of your little child.

3. Show more love, play with your wife, try to do those things you know got her attracted to you. Always forgive readily.

I wish you a happy married life, bro. May God bless your home.

Oga, has your wife ever insulted any of your parents?
And is she still in touch with her ex? Or gone as far as comparing the two of you because of birthday ish?
Has your wife for 'any' reason beside health and absenteeism stopped cooking for you?

That love dies the moment you insult my mom o!

lilmax:
well I didn't read your story

but the comments here says you're foolish

I believe those comments

Lolz...you don't need to read the story sef... You'd be p!ssed I assure you.

sholikay:
well i'm not married, but from what you typed,it seems she has given you clue of what you are doing to her,which is prompting her to act that way...that's the issue of not giving her enough attention, care and love...some ladies might be so funny and crazy when you tend to deny them some things..she knew she is married now and since she can't cheat on you,due to conscience or whatever. she expected you to be giving her all she needs,irrespective of your busy schedule... why not deal with that first by planning your time with her,then see if she will change... I believe she can be easily manipulated by you,since she is not giving you a silent and cold treatment.... her constant nagging shows she needs you to amend immediately... women can be so funny...
note:I'm currently in such with my fiancee presently.. due to my NYSC posting we have been on this LDR thing for now,and I have not really had time for her like before..we hardly see,and she complains,nags at my little mistakes.but when I started shifting my attention back to her,her head is calming back a bit....

just be calm and amend...she is your wife now and not a fiancee or girlfriend...

When you marry you'd understand the word 'understanding' in marriage, not courtship.

Attention or no attention is no reason to insult your hubby. I've always believed you have nothing to do with a spouse who doesn't respect you. She's married and comparing her husband with her ex? There's absolutely nothing to counsel about. Leave that woman or remain miserable and don't disturb us on NL if you can't handle your sh!t.

My mother?

Some of you can't distinguish between a wife and a girlfriend sef. Spits!

ennon92:
Government wey Sabi unlike one shithole govt.

We first set up a legislathief committee to do fact finding trip and another executive one to quickly assess the hazard and all the blah blah blah...then we presidency would use mouth to release money, somebody would divert it and keep quiet! Then maybe later we'd have the region's development commission.

Very rare breed honestly.

Naijafull19:
We are still struggling because we insist on price controls for the petroleum industry.

Basically, fuel is supposed to be costing N200 and above per liter. But government forces marketers to charge N145 and pays the difference between that and the actual price which varies from month to month depending on the world oil prices

As a result, the oil compnaies cannot make a profit (and result to making false subsidy claims because that's the only way they can earn enough cash...also smuggling)...and this means that

1.We cannot build more refienreis, and maintain exisiting ones adequately..because who is going to sell refined products like petrol below production costs?

2.We cannot attract foregin investment because no one wants to come and find it hard to make a profit.

3.Jobs are scarce, and oil companies like Chevorn have to sack workers to keep their heads above water.

The solution is simple. Remove subsidy, allow prices to rise and fall according to the market. If it hasn't devastated the economies of Benin , Niger and Cameroon who pay N300 and above per liter of fuel...I doubt it would affect our economy.


To anyone who wants to abuse me...if you are running a business, and you buy things at N2000 and you want to sell at N2700 making a profit of N700, and government comes in, forces you to sell at N1800 and pays you N150 as subsidy, would you agree?

That is how we have been treating our petrol sector...and that is why we have issues with supply, and jobs.

And you think if enough money is available to these rare breed of vampires, Nigeria would be like Dubai abi? Yes or No?

Tomorrow they'd tell you they want to hike electricity costs because they spend exactly what to generate power? Especially the hydro stations that use water.

Lastly, Government mustn't build refineries: individuals and companies should be encouraged; so the cost
of ferrying these fuels and other factors related to importation that jack up the costs can be eliminated.

But then what do I know?

teelarryberry:
Bros I offend you before ,,no carry ur frustration near me aberg ,,
If life taya ,no be me cos,am.,, you day even answer desame na me with my bust stop ,, no wonder ,,now I know better

hahahaha... Nothing o

teelarryberry:
I can relate too everything ,,but I still dont think am de smartest ,,cos some people here relates to two or one ,,but I can relate too all ,, but I am sure dose dat could,relate to two or one myt be smarter dan me

Abeggy

earthsync:
No it not Nigerians fault that you're the son of a rich daddy and it's also not Nigerians fault you can't sing

Lolz

mrvitalis:
Im from imo used to believe in the buhari and APC gospel

Basically western media tries to paint it like Igbos hate APC for their selfish 2023 agenda which wont work

Igbos only hate tinubu and buhari case closed

What about VP Osinbajo?

Arabiandude:
I applaud you Kwarians for fighting for a just course and seeing it through to the end. But let me and you this question and i want you to ask yourself also, do you think it would have been possible to uproot Saraki and his dynasty in the last election if he had contested against a mushroom party like APM? And do you also think if Saraki had remained in APC and with FG backing it would have been possible for PDP to uproot him and his dynasty in the last election?
My guy, you guys played a major role no doubt but APC and its leaders played a bigger role and deserve all commendations they ask for.
Digest this, you cant uproot a dynasty with an empty stomach, what this means is that APC leaders were the ones sponsoring the O TO GE movement with their and party money and that movement cost a lot mhen

My thoughts too. People think 'movements' in Nigeria are voluntary like some nations. Could've been in the past but not now when the masses have been deliberately impoverished by denying them a lot.

lifezone247:
Messi and baca fans right now.

Funny enough I'm a fan of Messi and my admiration for CR7 is divine. He CR7 represents hardwork, dedication and success. Messi on the other hand is a phenomenon.

Both players have good humility and both are humans. I love them and seriously don't like it when people draw comparisons amongst them...but then, people are humans too.

So it's wrong to be poor now or the poor can't relate with one of their's again abi? Ever since that mama tomato boy won bbn, they've been avoiding solidarity votes of the poor such that the class of people in that house doesn't really cut across our society. The average naija youth is hungry, poor and many times deceitful. You honestly don't want examples.

Secondly, I've been trying so hard to like this bbn show but just can't find any intelligent purpose...somebody abeg help me with one.

And finally, If you have any opinion contrary to mine, pls becareful how you put it to me o. I'm not feeling too well.

Honestly if Fela come now ba, him fit commit suicide for wetin Naija don become.

Sorry to digress but the #819 million salary is for how many decades of hardwork or did he supply anything to the KgSG and wasn't paid?

Somebody should breakdown that 819mulla for me please

Aikon:
Nice one. although you didn't mention some key points such as African Time, paying ones way through, asking for tips for any little favour and so on

Or O' level examination miracle centers

gaby:
Op it is called straw and not strall.

And i don't think that's "a" straw....can't be that long