If you have the money to fund these travels why not just give it to the Nigeria Red Cross society and save yourself the stress and risk. Just come out plane about your dream of touring African countries instead of using innocent NRC as an excuse just to give meaning to your meaningless adventure.

Despite the un- relentless effort of the Global community and the Nigerian government in the implementation of the Gender Policy which tends to protect the fundamental human rights of women and children. It is disheartening to know that some communities especially in Africa still engage in some barbaric acts which completely endangers the female gender. One of such communities is The Ancient City of Ehugbo ( The modern day Afikpo). Ehugbo is a small city situated at the southern part of Ebonyi State, Nigeria. The city of Ehugbo has always been known for her rich cultural heritage and as the home of great Political Leaders, Academic Achievers, Captains of Industries etc.
Out of the numerous cultural heritage of this great land of Ehugbo, there is one that needs urgent intervention by the Global, National and every other actor(s) responsible for building a Nation devoid of gender discrimination – GARI-GARI. GARI-GARI is a ritual by the elderly custodians and initiates to officially mark the beginning of the Dry season in Ehugbo land. The Ogo cult serve as the Deity of the Ehugbo people. The GARI-GARI is celebrated in the month of November of every year and on that day, women and non initiates of the Ogo Cult are not allowed to come out of their homes for 24hrs and if violated, results in violent attack to the victim. There have been reported cases of abuse and violation of Fundamental human rights where the perpetrators hide under the guise of GARI-GARI.
The attention of the Global community and the Nigerian Government who are fully committed to building a nation devoid of gender discrimination, guaranteeing equal access to political, social and economic wealth creation opportunities for women and men has to be drawn about this harmful practice that endangers the lives of women for 24hours every year so that proper modification can be made to this religious ritual to allow women to go about their business for the day. There are many what if’s associated with GARI-GARI, some which includes;
What if a pregnant woman goes into Labour on a GARI-GARI.
What if there is a domestic accident that needs urgent medical intervention.
What if there is a career defining journey to be embarked.
What if a stranger meanders into Ehugbo Land on the day of GARI-GARI etc.
If promoting gender equality is globally accepted as a development strategy for reducing poverty levels among women and men, improving health and living standards and enhancing efficiency in public investments, then i strongly believe that 24hours is too much to disenfranchise women and children of their fundamental human rights.

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nairagenone:
A woman is threatening a man that she will cancel the marriage in 2023 and the man is begging ?
Definitely, your brother will wear the skirt through out the life of that marriage.

For the wife to be to threaten him shows she is not into the marriage and marrying him out of pity. He will suffer in that marriage just like the f.ools before him who have enterred into a marriage without exerting authority and respect.

The lady already sees him as a weak and spineless man, what pains me most is the lady may even have body counts in the double digits.

Men, learn from this story, if a woman cannot respect you just like Sarah did to Abraham, dont put yourself in such bondage.

Go to shiloh, countless single women looking fpr husbands, men learn this, you are the prize.

Stop making a fool of yourselves like the OPs brother.

Thank you

henrimoto:
Where is your brother's current location ?

Can't your brother make arrangements to hand-over the vault keys to the bank management. ?

The lady is already doubting the marriage. In her mind, she is like, "is this what I will face in this marriage?" No Attention!

My brother is in Onitsha and he is the second in Hierarchy in their branch, if it's possible it wouldn't be a problem.

Kobojunkie:
Stay out of it let them deal with their relationship issue as they feel is best!

Thank you

Kobojunkie:
There are lots of Nigerian men in that situation. Nevermind what you read online. The reality is that men and women experience these same issues.

You can believe whatever you like but I can't come here and lie to people. If my brother can permit me, I will share the invite with you.

mariahAngel:
The question is, why is it so important to her that your brother travels with her, and she's not willing to reach a compromise?

Also, are they (your brother and his fiancee) from the same town?

We are not from same place.

Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

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Kobojunkie:
Think about what exactly? Committing a crime against the woman or against marriage since you believe bedding another man's wife is indeed adultery?

Did you expect me to tell him outright no, even after he has revealed his secret to me. I said that to make him feel a bit relaxed for the meantime. That's why i'm here .

Mindlog:


You have no business having sex with his wife, even if they both agree. Encourage them that if after extensive treatment and your cousin can't still father a child, they can either adopt or get the wife artificially inseminated with chosen sperm from a fertility clinic's sperm bank.

Should you get lured into impregnating the wife the natural way, what is the guarantee that they would want you to still be alive not fearing that you may want to blackmail them in the future, regarding their child's paternity?

Thank You so much, i really appreciate your candid advice

geez18:
You did not tell us if it is you being a sperm donor for artificial insemination or in vitro, or if he is asking you to come bang his wife?

When you provide these details, I'm sure nairalanders will proffer solutions to your situation.

I think he wants it to look normal , like he did the job himself. He is actually a proud man who wants to retain his respect and pride.
That is really my concern bcux for him to open up to me, i'm scared to tell him no, atleast for my life and safety .

decatalyst:
Hmmm...he shouldn't toll this lane I beg.

1. If he has medical issues around reproducing, he can keep treating himself and hope to get the desired result soon.

2. He can adopt a child, with the agreement of his wife.

3. He can go get a sperm donor, with the agreement of his wife.

I do not even think you should be a sperm donor to him...these things gets complicated later. Avoid unnecessary headache and heartache.

Thank You

Reinamaria:

What's his plan to get you to sleep with his wife without her consent?

we have not reached that stage, i told him that i needed upto two weeks to think about it.

Reinamaria:

What's his plan to get you to sleep with his wife without her consent?

We have not reached the stage of how, i told him i needed like two weeks to think about it .

Mindlog:


Is the wife even aware he has fertility issues?

I don't think she knows, but i encouraged him to open up to her.
What if both agrees to the idea , what do you suggest i do ?

Hello everyone ,

Three years ago, a very close cousin of mine offered me the privilege to be his bestman during his wedding.
The wedding went as planned, beautiful and everyone was happy.
Few days ago , he called and said he had something really important to discuss with me, we met and this guy is passionately begging me to help him get his wife pregnant .
His reasons:
1- We look alike.
2- We related .
3- That instinct directed him to me and bla bla bla.
I didn't want to even give it a thought, but i have not been myself . The very thought of what this man might have been going through for the past three years and that anyone can be in this situation. The fact that he overcame the shame to ask for help makes me want to think about it, but i'm scared because it means me committing adultery which i would never wish to do.
I asked him if the wife was aware of the plan, he said no.
please guys, what do you think i should do?

Beautiful

Hunger can make you do or say anything.
How did we get here abeg?
How these people have totally killed their conscience because of hunger.
What can someone as old as TINUBU still offer Nigeria, he just want to be recorded as one time president of Nigeria.
I pity youths that can't look past the election money because all their children are flexing the real money abroad.
They can't empower you beyond chop money and the bitter truth is that their children will still come home sooner or later to occupy those positions and guess who will campaign for them Alaye, it is you ���.

Why not do the right thing because deep inside every Human being in Nigeria, we know who the right person is.
Remember, this was the same desperation that brought this CALAMITY called BUHARI upon Nigerians.

Election is just a day and your services ends and reality will surely set in and I pray we don't end up enduring another 8years.

Salem

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Bro teaching job is cool, the atmosphere, the love and the fulfilment you derive from impacting lives.

But believe me, outside the school environment, nobody really cares about you and your welfare. I will advise you take up one of the options that your instinct goes for and make a meaning outta your life.

Please, don't forget to pass the other offer to me��.

Prechgold1180:


Mr op I have been in same position before
I resigned last 3 years
They accused me of something I know nothing about forgetting all I have been doing for the company
Do work on all department to make sure everything goes well and getting peanut pay
I left the job cried almost all thru my way home. Thou it was raining

But I can tell you resigning was one of the best decisions I took in my life

I worth close to 100 million Naira now
I have buildings and going on tour
If. Things can work out for me ; a poor with no connection God will certainly answer u


All the best

Thank you my friend.
This is exactly what the op needs right now, not abuse and insults. For him to have summoned the courage to leave shows that he has a dream to chase. I really wonder what people get trying to instigate depression on others. If everyone insults and blame him and he gets depressed and kills himself, those people will still run here looking for ftc space to type rip.
God bless you real good for your kind words.

Nigerialabalaba:
Mr Poor & Proud, I sabi employees like u, lazy bones wey go blame everyone except hinself like say hin perfect. abeg if u no want any superior to hold u to account, go start ur own company and do anyhow. shikena. Shiorr.

Work plenty for town but na una lazy entitlement mentality yoots wey prefer to dey waste time for social media and nairaland full everywhere. I don tire to dey beg for lazy yoot wey go con work to con charge phone & yeye laptop, use company wifi to dey watch film and social media.Wen u corrrect dem, instead make dem take correction, dem go dey trash talk with yeye poor man pride.. Na hunger go teach una sense wey una no get , and dat humility and forebearance to learn to grow sumol sumol wey una no get or ur parents teach u but u no collect d hometraining, u go learn am by force las las. shiorr.
Dem go dey misbehave and wen u ask dem to calm down, dem go say make u go chop ur work dem go do crypto as full time job So so Lazy bunch of proud empty headed yoots just full everywhere!

N:B. All ur mentions no worth my response. U be one of dem wey no get job and if u get job, u no serious becos u suppose dey face ur work now but dey use company internet for nonsense.Dem go still sack you las las like OP. And if because of crypto ponzi u dey carry shoulder, na ur old age u go suffer to use ur grey hair con do d same work u no wan do now with black hair today.

Wishing him hunger like say u na the custodian of blessings. I see you Assistant God. So after frustrating the young man out of his job, you still followed him here to instigate the spirit of heaviness on him. I really wish and hope he knows who he truly is, if he does I am certain that one day, he will actually employ you, make you the manager for you to continue having the arrival mentality and pay you to continue living other people's dream.

My prayer for him though, he should really seek his maker to know his true calling so as not to get frustrated out of another job. He should also allow God prune him. This might be a blessing in disguise for him if he rebukes the spirit of bitterness and see the good in it.

But as for you my friend, you haven't changed a bit, remember the LABOUR OF THE FOOLISH, the bible says it weareth them all.
Contend for genuine transformation, else that happiness you are looking for when you oppress or bully people, you will never find.

Does this mean that these men knows they have failed us. How can you be seeking another chance to make things right when you guys are still in power. Use the remaining time you have on sit to correct your mistake and not bring upon us another CALAMITY.

People change, the heart is deceitful even to the owner. What you channel your thoughts and energy on tend to take hold of you.

Fashionista01:
Try and study who you want to spend your life with before marriage.

Do not be decieved, your problem is deeper than you think. The enemy won't stop until your whole family has been wiped out. You need to build your spiritual life and deliver your family. Stop viewing your problem with a carnal mind and build your spiritual intelligence. I pray the Holy spirit reveals more to you.

I Remember by Nathaniel Bassey

Congratulations man.
You are a lucky man.
Hold on to her, cherish and adore her.
Man you're lucky, in this immoral world, you find such a woman and you are complaining.
Wait until you marry ndi "harder harder", only then you will scream "ANWUAMUO".

Go make her happy, try surprising her, buy her gift, play with her... Please make sure she is very happy, then try going with her pace.

Come back with your Thanksgiving offering.
Shalom.