TooResilient:
She'd be 31 soon.

Looking for a life partner 31 to 35 years.

She's settling up her business.

She doesn't want yoruba and igbo men because somehow she's not been fortunate with them in the past.

She has big dreams and big life goals like becoming a CEO and also a citizen of a first world country, also promised that her children will be first world citizens to give them a good future.

She's already working towards achieving that.

She's a bit stubborn in terms of pursuing and achieving life goals which some men don't like about her.

She's quite ambitious.

Not an introvert but loves staying indoors.

She's tall/dark/averagely thick/on low cut because she doesn't like making her hair(maybe if cajoled by her lover she'd make hair).

Resides between Lagos/Ogun.

The email attached to this account has been deactivated but you can reach her on lovey.dovey93@protonmail.com for a serious relationship.

No jokes or play, she wants a man that really wants to get married.

I sent you a mail but no response.
Hope you're fine?

Britishcoins:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I am in confused state of mind right now... I am in my early 30. I am not super rich but I am financially comfortable, at least living in my own apartment and having a business that give me atleast 600k monthly.
I am equally the first son and my parents are late, so I am like the head of the family to my younger ones...
Age is no longer at my side and I have no reason why I am still single.. But there is a problem.
I have plenty female admires.. Even some which was suggested for me through families and friends.. But only 2 of them I will talk abt now

Let me call one of them Judith and the other one IFEOMA.
Judith is from from the same local government with me.. I knew her when she was still in secondary school and I was apprentice then... I don't even know what was called love then.. We only greet like brother and sisters because we are in far away north then.
I have relocated to another state and she too is now undergraduate, studying nursing at uni zik Awka. I normally call her because I was in good term with her mother.. She feel in love with me. But my own fear is that I am not sure if she will understand the language of hardship. She was only Dauther and last born, the family is average comfortable.
The only thing she always rely most is her beauty... She is so beautiful no wonder she just won a beauty queen competition, the sun newspaper even carry the news.. But her beauty is not what attracted me..
Last December I visited her parent with just one of my uncle and they welcomed us very well..
Another issue is that she still have abt 4 years to finish her education.. And I don't want to waste more than 2 years ahead.


Now let me talk abt IFEOMA. She is from Nsukka, very far from my local government.
She is living with her sister here in the same state I am staying...
She is 25 and years and Judith is 22 years.
She is NCE holder.. Based on my findings so far she is good in business and came from a poor family too.. She is equally a virgin, I am very sure of it..
She not too beautiful but have showed her love to me... The problem is that I have no feelings for her.. But I love her hard working..
I am planning to invite Judith to spend some weeks with me to understand her characters.

Pls I don't know how to write more..
Which one should I marry?

Bro, I will advice you go for Ifeoma. The feelings will come when you show her some love

absingle:
Abeg o

This guy self.

RealGboy:



My girlfriend called me one early morning to tell me that she's pregnant and without proper thinking the words that came out of my mouth was " pregnant for who ??"

Omo she blew hot hot curses on me after I asked her that question,..

But wait o ,did I do wrong asking her who is responsible for her pregnancy...

Although I was the one who dis flowered her and since we started having seggs , we've been doing it almost everyday ....

" But still that's not a guarantee that I'm the father of the baby now ?.. abi?". .. I asked my friend wale later that day

" Guy no let any women trap you with pregnancy, o ". ...wale blurted out while holding a big kpomo stuck in between semo ,

We were at someone's father burial , eating free food as usual ....

"You say you dis virgin her abi?...and that since then you people have been having seggs almost everyday ,what if she now likes it Soo much that whenever you're not around or maybe when she's back home with her parents she was doing it with someone else? "...

no go raise pikin wey no be your own o "...wale replied as he mount another big semo into his mouth ....
.

A part of me knew wale was wrong ,it was obvious that I was the father of the baby ,

I'm a graduate and I'm earning just enough to survive , while my girlfriend on the other hand is still in her finals....

Being a father wasn't something I was mentally ready for ...

How do we even tell her Mother who is a church deaconess and a highly respected personality in their church.....


Plus I'm not even ready for a baby now ....


Omo I was scared at the future that had suddenly become a present .....

I try to act normal that day and continue eating the free food with wale ...


I got home later that night and called my girlfriend, she was crying on the phone , I apologized to her for asking such stupid question..

" So what do we do now cos I can't have a baby now ?."" .. She said to me amidst tears

"Babe don't worry I'm thinking of something, Don't worry we'd be fine..... "....... I replied

For like 2 weeks we kept going back and forth on whether she should abort it or not , ....

She'd tell me every morning how she had a dream where she saw herself passing away during abortion, while I would dream of seeing the most beautiful baby girl ever ..

After going back and forth , I called her and told her that we should do it....

" Let's have a baby ...lets go for this !!..."... I told her ...


What about my mother ?? how do I tell her" .....she replied

I have a plan.....

My plan was dumb but it was all i could come up with ....

I told her to message her mom on WhatsApp and let her know that she's pregnant while she's still in school which she did ...

Sure enough hell was let loose when the mom saw the message, she called her immediately and insulted her ,she told her not to come home again and just live in school...

The mom was disappointed obviously,she wished more for her daughter and couldn't see that future again now that she's pregnant.....

Plus it would dent her mother's image , a whole deaconess that could not raise a responsible daughter....



She couldn't go home so she came to my place to stay ... thankfully she was done with her final exams then....

Omo it wasn't easy ,I had to exhaust all my savings on medical bills till she put to bed at some point sef I had to borrow but for some reason I was happy doing it.. ....


She finally put to bed ...


I remember that day I saw my baby for the first time, she was Soo beautiful just as she was in my dreams ....


I was Soo glad that we didn't abort such an angel..



I remember the first day we took her home from the hospital....


Omo she started crying ....our baby started crying , she cried and cried and cried ....

We gave her food ,toys, everything but the baby would not stop crying....and before I could say jack my girlfriend started crying too....

Baby is crying , mommy too is crying...


Omo I bursted into uncontrollable laughter and just like that the both of them stopped crying and was looking at me in a funny way ....

" Like mother like daughter".....I replied with another rounds of laughter but this time with my baby and girlfriend....


My girlfriend was new to motherhood just as I was new to fatherhood and probably the baby was crying cos she was new to Life -hood

Over time the baby got used to real life and was adjusting very well


My baby was growing up so beautifully, sometimes I just stare at her and wonder what I did to deserve this creature....

To top it off ,I got a new job where I earn 3 x my former job and my girlfriend too was able to complete her finals and is now a certified medical student ....

Omo fatherhood made me change so many things about me , my thinking,my focus ,my life ....


I'm so grateful for this life and for you......


Happy new year from me and my baby girl .....

Congratulations bro. Your baby girl paved way for you financially. Try go settle with your gf's mom and do the needful ooo. E get why.

Rajman45:
Is not easy living with such a lady, especially the ones with bad parenting. Please don't rush into marriage with such a lady , if she's not ready to change.
Don't allow her to blackmail you with your daughter, take care of her.....if the lady is doing anyhow, take her court. She has no right to keep your child away from you, if you're a responsible father.

I just want her to finish nursing my daughter until after a year or so before I will go for her and if she refused, I will let her be. Thank you for your advice. I really do appreciate your response.

Uptheante:

Are you even sure the so-called daughter is yours?
Have you conducted DNA test to be sure the daughter is yours?

No I haven't done DNA test.

ForChrist1:


Sometimes it is advisable to still hear from the other party before passing a judgement or advice on relationship matters because when people narrate their side, they paint themselves as the saint and the other as the devil.

For example do you abuse the said lady in any way? emotionally or physically? Are you difficult to live with, controlling; do you pick offence at the slightest provocation hence making her depressed and needing comfort by reaching out to her family? Is she going through post partum depression? These are typical questions I would throw at you before giving an advise.

But if all you have stated is entire picture, then I think it may have been the best decision on your path to move on since you are both not compatible enough and there are elements of violence and third party medleys involved.
I would say good luck to you on your next dating experience but try your best to keep looking after that child and providing for his upkeep.
Cheers.

I don't abuse her physically but I was forced to talk to her harshly after she keeps pestering my friends to talk to me for reunion and when given the chance, she will misuse it. I am not difficult to live with and I don't pick offense easily. It's very sad seeing my daughter not raised under my care. It's well. Thank you very much .

Westerhoffe:
Most of you jump into marriage and jump out because you don't look before you leap.

Bro, them no dey understand women finish. If she's not your woman, she's not. There's nothing one can do.

Wainey:
I will like to hear her own part of the story.

One thing is for certain, falling in love takes little or no effort but staying in love takes emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence, self control and commitment.

Happily married people also face issues but they understand that commitment and compromise to your spouse is a foundation to a healthy relationship.

I think you and your wife should issue out your problems for the sake of ur child

I have tried to make things works but I feel her family is manipulating her maybe because of jealousy.

Starz825:
this is just one reason I don't sleep with ladies anyhow.....

someone I don't love or wouldn't love will carry my baby. God forbid


you just have to be the one I like, cherish, and would marry....


I no go give you my sperm if I no like you....would rather double my cd

Op...your decision is ok.. she's now ur baby mama......

Hmmm

illicit:
The fb chat

Is it true that she knows ur parents?


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At first, she said she doesn’t know them but when when chat became deep after some days, she confessed she knows my parents.

A BIT LONG BUT PLEASE ENDURE
She initiated the chat on Facebook about two years ago, I wondered why a lady would just chat up someone she doesn’t know. During our chats I questioned her if she ever knew me and her response was no. After some days, she confessed that she knew my parents, siblings and I. I was angry because she lied to me. Thereafter, I asked her what her intentions were but she said nothing. We became friends and later started dating same year. Sincerely, since we started dating, things weren’t working too well for me. I increased my hustle as a man from job hunting, even to a point I wanted to travel abroad but all to no avail. I started afresh hunting for job until I saw one I was managing. August last year, she became pregnant for me. I informed my parents and we went to see her people and the ‘Marriage List’ was given earlier this year waiting till she delivers before doing the necessary. By His Grace, she gave birth on May this year. It’s been hell for me after she gave birth. She lies countlessly, she involves third parties a lot and does not give me peace of mind. I talked to her how important I value my peace of mind, hate third parties and lies. She discuss every atom of us to her family and she prefers to please her family and displease me. Her family tells her what to do and wants her to manipulate me. June 29th, I told her that I wouldn’t want her sisters to visit my house again for now because of their attitudes but before I knew it, she called the sisters (three of them including her and the mom) and they bombarded my house with threats and fight. I was shocked but held myself not to act otherwise, I called my mom and when she sighted the scene, she fumed but no one was hurt. My parents and I insisted she must leave that day and she left with my daughter of a month plus. After some days she came begging but my parents zeroed their minds because of the insults and disgraced caused. This is a family where her parents (though dad is late) gave birth to eight (3 boys and 5 girls), she happens to be the 7th child and none of them is married. I wonder the kind of marriage advice they want to give her and the only person (her mom) that would have given her ruined it. She’s been begging but my family does not want her anymore. I see my daughter anytime I want to and send her money, monthly for my baby’s upkeep. Now, she came to a conclusion that she will disallow me from seeing my baby and was raining curses. This is a lady I provide for without her telling me, gave her all attention, emotion and others but she never appreciated it. I saw so many red flags but never knew I would be emotionally and financially traumatized and depressed this way. After the ordeal, I tried to make sure everything work out but NO, she brings up silly characters at any time and boom, I will regret ever wanting things to work out. I want to delete her entirely come this 2024, hope I won’t make any costly mistake in future because of my daughter?
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@ chatinent, please i want you to coach me on how to be a freelance writer. What's your digit sir?

When the Federal and State government have failed to provide security for her citizens, what do you expect the masses to do? The gates are for security reasons. I would suggest the government regulate the timing of the gates.

Extension of phase two eased lockdown, Please how many phase does the lockdown have?

Kitanayo:
I will start from the beginning so that i will be better understood, soo sorry if it is too long


I and my husband met in one of our ICAN classes so we hit it off immediately, became friends, dated then got married. It was blissful, we had our kids, to me life was perfect till one day he changed.

He started picking fights on irrelevant things, wouldnt talk to me for days, i thought it was just a phase until one day he didnt come back home, after so much calls to family members, friends collegues at work, we found out he left the country with another woman, this was 4 years ago, we later found out he paid for the house rent for two years and he vowed never to have anything to do with me and my kids anymore.

Even after pleadings from family members he still refused so i moved on, believing that one day he would come back to me because i believe his actions was not normal, he asked for divorce, i refused cos my bible is against it (luke 16:18). Since then God has been soo good to me, i've moved into my own home(a working mom) and God has been taking care of my kids for me.


Now 2 years ago, i met this lady who was serving(nysc), i see her as my younger sister so we talk alot, so she knows all about me, she helps me at home, with my kids and all.

One day we were talking about sex generally, so she said she can satisfy my urge, i was shocked, i dont want to go into details but that was how it started.

Mind you i do not insert anything into my "VJ", what she does is the normal licking and sucking till i "CUM" she's in a serious relationship with a man so i do not do same act to her and she doesnt ask for anything in return(from a wealthy home).I dont see myself as a lesbian since i dont indulge in it moreso i still love my husband.

I agreed to it because it's safer than having sex and contacting std in the process, i am human, i have needs and i dont want to commit adultery cos i'm still married and i believe my husband would come back to me, i feel no guilt whatsoever for this act.

Reason why i brought this here is to know your views about this act, i want to have diff. opinions from matured minds so no insults please, thank you.



Mods please help take this to FP

Plz seek for divorce and remarry instead of sinning against God with your frd.

Betting and Procrastination. I want God to bless me spiritually, financially and with a wife material come this 2018. Amen.

Will I say this is 'near New Year syndrome'. RIP

Is this d change we voted for? Calamities happening on daily basis n d masses are frustrated to death.

Good Development

kimbraa:
I don't have one but if you buy for me, I go take am.

Invite me for your wedding then, u will get a massive one.