₦airaland Forum

GboyegaD:
I do not agree with your position nonetheless, it is respected.

Fair enough. We agree to disagree. I'm not an idealist when it comes to real life.

emmaodet:
I Believe Nigerian Men that are Poor "BEGGED" their Wives before they Agree to MARRY Them.
If you are rich or wealthy and have to beg a woman to marry you, then the issue is not about financial situation rather esteem issues.
If you are financially stable and averagely social, you will always have atleast 2 ladies in your hand at every point in time.
Ladies are not hard to get nor scarce, main issue for men are financial and long time of scarcity.
When a man has been exposed for too long to scarcity - inability to date for a very long time or no girlfriend for a very long time, it makes him appreciate little or no gifts or efforts from ladies and he is scared of losing a lady even if she is bad mannered. He is ready to manage or endure her.
He will be ready to take her bullshits.
Just a little kiss, he will always remember it or a little gift of singlet. He will remember the gesture for years. Something no one has ever given him.

I saw a like in my earlier reply to this post. Another reason for this behaviour is religion. Our people have demonised relationships between the opposite sex for too long. So the moment, for a man, small money enter hand, he's compelled to marry. The lady who shines the most teeth gets worshipped as the best thing since sliced bread.

GboyegaD:
The responses I am reading are scary. Does this mean there can't be platonic friendship between a male and a female?

We're in a capitalist world where women have equal opportunities as men. Nigeria is too poor as a country for ladies to expect certain benevolent offers without offering something in return. The economy doesn't support such agape gifts.

franchasng:
Dubai is too far.
Before you allow a guy sponsor your trip from Lagos Mainland to Lagos Island, be prepared to also offer him something in return, talk more of Nigeria to Dubai.
I don't know who told our young ladies that you can get things for free from guys just because you are a lady, such reasoning is absurd
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The only people you should expect favors from for free are your blood relatives like your siblings, cousin, nieces, nephews, Aunts and Uncles. Outside your blood relatives, always have it at the back of your mind that there is no free thing in Freetown

It's an arrogant self entitlement. The belief that just because they're women, everything should be free.

What stops her from sponsoring herself to Dubai? Her working class mates in Nigeria and other countries do the same - they spoil themselves to girls trips. Even the recent migrants in the UK are doing the same.

mayorkent:
Even people way never handle pin for their life day shout business up and down....
The truth is that starting a business from scratch in this current economy and travelling abroad na almost the same risk. But everything depends on the individual....
Nobody know which one go work....na just to carry out personal analysis and make decision. At least in two - three years time the result go Don show clearly.
Inflation for this country no be Here. .
In 2022 I was selling this foreign heavy duty wheelbarrow for 35,000 as at today 3rd September 2025 ..
The wheelbarrow na 105,000...

Wheelbarrow is 100K? I never imagined wheelbarrow was even 10K or 20K, but it's now 100K+?

Why would a wheelbarrow cost more than minimum wage? E be like say naira don turn tissue paper o

moneylatalks:
You know why I like UK , you fit see your former oga .. dey do the same work u dey do..
Like una go dey offload container... U go trow cartoon for your oga or your oga go throw cartoon for you... Work go dey go on...

🤣🤣🤣🤣

It must be odd there.

1b8m:
I have a friend who wants to relocate to either Canada or UK. She has a PhD in chemical engineering, postgraduate diploma in business administration, 10years of work experience as business development manager of a waste management company and 20m naira budget.

Can she make it to the UK or Canada? If no, which other country can fall within her budget?

Honestly, with that experience, why has she not thought of playing in the sector? That's one hot and largely unregulated industry with minimal government's nose-poking. Except she has been directly affected by the worsening insecurity.

yesloaded:
Your gf abandoned her 4m per month biz
Whoever making 4m profit per month will never shot down her biz even if she's relocating
I have lots of people earning less than 4m per month but still travelled out of the country while running their business

How do they navigate this effectively?

ariesbull:
You are right...the more educated you are the more propensity to be poor not only in Nigeria all over the world... The less educated people make the whole money

Just get a basic degree and hustle like a street man

This is true. There was an article about it in the New York Times including a book about millionaires in the US. Most don't have advanced education, but have technical know to run mid-size businesses which made them millionaires.

The tech and finance industries have distorted most people about the full picture of millionaires.

dollytino4real:
Yes o, my cousin sister traveled to UK last two year with dat money but she is still indebted to the agent. She studied biochem here did her master's here till now no job o, she dey do plenty tins to survive there

The UK has a laggard biotech/pharmaceutical industry considering the number of applicants. The salaries are also terribly low even by European standards. Worst still, your sister is indebted. So when will she pay off the debt, and save something for herself?

Too bad..

blesdman:
Nigerians are actually crazy people. I know an engineer in Nigeria who goes to sea that is now working in a nursing home in UK...I don't understand how we think

Sometimes I think such people were bewitched. Someone who works offshore japa only to end up working in a nursing home?

Ah!

emmaodet:
While i agree with some of your points bro, we need to also agree that most people can't/won't be able to do business because it requires -
1. Skills which many don't have
2. In some cases natural business talent which most don't have too.
Under normal condition and a good environment, people are meant to excel with their natural talent and skills like football, swimming, wrestling e.t.c if the environment is rich enough and ready enough.
Even knowing how to play football is not enough to guarantee you to survive and earn a career with it. There are so many footballers who never made it to the professional level.
Under normal condition, so many people in nigeria have no business trading or running a biz nor should we have a high number of pastors etc.
The business terrain in africa is another story entirely.
Only a fraction of people will excel in business under a favorable condition. Some will excel more as doctors, nurses, wrestlers, musicians, footballers etc

Fair analysis. Everyone cannot be an entrepreneur. Even if one has the idea and commences it, e get where e go reach, the person cannot run it effectively anymore. At that point, a seasoned manager should be employed to run the business.

The solution for those who can't run businesses but have the finances is to collaborate with like minds who have the business acumen and managerial skills. But would Nigerians be honest enough to collaborate amongst themselves?

The Nigerian definition of development is the issue, not whether there are developed cities or not.

- Are there pedestrian walkways?
- Does the city have piped water to residents?

Saladdin:
Even Kwara State University offers Aeronautics and Astronautics Engineering. The pioneer dean was an MIT professor or so, I believe.

Saraki established a flight school in the state. It was the only flight school in the country other than NCAT in Zaria. So, KWASU offering the course is expected.

ibechris:
These are statements that get people angry.

How can anyone say such.

Shey they are now planning to remove from that sit.

Only the north can remove Tinubu. If/when they are ready to do so, it will happen. Until then, Wike is correct.

Dude worked over almost a jubliee and became the head only to lose the job within one year!

Na to dey guide this preek wey person get. Imagine losing everything you toiled for just because of max ten - fifteen minutes pleasure?

No dey sheet for where you dey eat.

Teymanhenry:
That’s how our parents and wives try to play us — “Please just have kids quickly and rest. We need plenty of grandchildren.”

Next thing you know, they’re bringing out the Bible like, “God said you should fill the earth and multiply.”

Look, yes — God gives children. But let’s be real: God has also given us the ability to make them. If you decide to have kids, most times, it’ll happen.

But the real question is — do you have the money to take care of them?

Sometimes, timing is everything. Kids can wait. Build your career, invest, secure the bag — then have kids when you’re ready, and everyone can actually enjoy life.

As for me, one daughter is enough for now — at least until I start making ₦600k to ₦700k a month. Then we can talk!
And na Lafia I dey stay on. House no even cost for here

It goes beyond location. You too as the parent needs to enjoy yourself with the money you earn. Life isn't just about having too many children. You need to enjoy life as an adult even before being a parent.

Dirkcoyt:
We are too emotional in this part of the world ! This man told the honest harsh truth . Many of the problems we have today is due to poor decision making skills . Many of our parents in the past made a lot of error due to emotional decisions taken and reality set in and they keep on hoping on some miracle . They gave birth to lot of children they didn’t need .

But look at today ?! People are now making more smart choices when it comes to raising a family , no one wants to keep encircling poverty . There needs a change of approach to the way we do things if we need to move away from poverty as families . We need to make smart choices , hold ourselves accountable and question every choices we are about to make and know the impact it will make in future .

People now have less kids like 2 in this time cause they realize to make them live a quality life and for they also to enjoy themselves they need to have less .

This young man has questioned the past so we don’t all get drenched in same circle of poverty .

I will only excuse a bit them then due to lack of access to information compared to now . But they didn’t do enough . And don’t even talk about me cause I’ve already done enough before kids started showing up .

Well done!

I've been preaching this for almost a decade, dem no gree listen. Just dey born born upandown!

gforce5:
It's not controversial. It's a fact. One unfortunately cannot say it online but it's true. Majority of Nigerians are educated illiterates. That's why I stopped engaging them on social media.They can defend, argue and talk nonsense. They are so stupid that they don't realize that the elites have purposely destroyed the education, health and infrastructure of the country so that only they (the elite) can have access to such services via overseas trips. The middle-class is an endangered species due to Government policies of the last ten years but many are still praising this government.

Two important aspects to emphasise.

It beats me sometimes; there will be more to steal if the cake is bigger. So, why not make the cake bigger so that the average person can get some and live a decent life? Tackle the insecurity head-on without fear or bias.

Raalsalghul:
Controversial opinion but I'll say it anyways: a vast majority of Nigerians are unintelligent, might include me too.

A very hard pill I've had to swallow as an adult

If you say this on Twitter, Ndi intellectwats would pounce on you . Big academic titles and certificates have done so much harm to our people. Anyway, assessing a people's intelligence is very simple: check their environment, is it well cared for? If they are wealthy, do their surroundings have basic amenities and facilities? The roads they build, are they open gutters or properly closed walkways? Streetlights dey? Dem dey work? Road markings dey? Traffic lights dey work?

I am trying to be as basic as possible here.

Eriokanmi:
That emergencies aren't taken seriously here shouldn't be a reason people don't research on, and go for such a lucrative career, that's capable of writing off poverty in their lineage. On the contrary, ordinary LASU runs Aeronautical and Astronautical Engineering and their fees are cheap, you see? Likewise OAU. My Biomedical Engineer travels the world, for trainings. His colleague works for a top hospital in the UK as I speak. Every hospital needs a Biomedical Engineer as well, home and abroad. Information is very key. If you're well informed, you'd definitely get whatever you want. Even if you studied the best course and you're not informed, it's useless.

I remember a guy who studied in FG's Kaduna college of aviation and complaining of joblessness. I introduced Archer aviation to him and he applied, today he's in the US, doing great. That's the power of Information. Once you had that right degree and you're well informed, the sky is your starting point . Those professions may not be appreciated locally but out there, theyre never enough.

When I graduated, I didn't know anyone who could help me. It's been stories upon stories. I got all the jobs I had through the then guardian newspapers of Tuesdays' and Thursdays' editions, without knowing anyone whereas, my colleagues were busy counting on people who later disappointed them. Till this morning as i speak to you, none of them could near.me in achievement. All glory to God. I've researched before posting those professions and based in my personal experience. Air ambulance exists but how many are qualified as nurses to work in this very lucrative sector?

You are right that information is powerful. I find it interesting that LASU offers Aeronautical Engineering.

Eriokanmi:
You made sense. Chevron had one air ambulance. I once announced the opportunity here when they needed a certified air ambulance nurse. I shared same vacancy on major social media platform but I was unable to get one for chevron, for months. In a country of over 200m population(official) fa, no single air ambulance nurse could be found. I wonder which kain course our people dey study sef.

Air ambulance nurses,
Emergency Response Personnel,
Aeronautical and Astronautical Engineers,
Biomedical Engineers, etc are hot cakes.

Sadly, people are too blind to see them. Instead, they'd be going for anyhow courses just because they want to enter a university. Time is invaluable fa

The bold is the only viable course there, but it is very expensive and not administered by many universities. Biomedical engineering exists, but the jobs are fewer, so many don't opt for it, and even if they do, it is "JAMB that gave them", not out of passion.

Emergencies are not taken seriously across the country aside from a few MNCs, so the demand cannot entice a supply.

AreaFada2:
Thank you my brother.
The thing is, we don't know how much blood she lost internally. She could have have had a pelvic bone fracture, and it appears at least a long bone was fractured, to loose that limb. These can cause massive blood loss and affect organs. How good and soon was the initial trauma care?

It's a miracle she didn't die of shock soon after. Perhaps because she was young, fit and vital organs were in top shape.

As for infection risk, antibiotics available to use might even be fake. And you think doctors' exodus has no serious impact on the quality of trauma management and surgical hands available?

The average 9ja has no idea just how deep the mess in all sectors is.

RIP to her.

Its been a while.

Good to see you here again.

dollypi:
This is Nigeria.

Apart from equipment, the doctors are overwhelmingly incompetent and on top of that they do not give a shit about their patients.

Visit public hospitals, observe and weep. Even Evercare in Lekki, with the millions they charge is a piece of garbage.

I know what I am saying.

Wahala dey o!

No wonder religion is a potent force in the country, because with the lack of medical facilities and personnel, how person wan take console him/herself?

BRATISLAVA:
Men are hypergamous, otherwise we wouldn't have this thread.

We've to agree to disagree.

Do have a nice day.

BRATISLAVA:
50%?

Where? Worldwide?

Men are hypergamous, otherwise we wouldn't have this thread.

In most liberal parts of the world, women have equalled the employment rate. For instance, in Nigeria, Zenith Bank employs more women than men. Today's women have more opportunities than their forebearers. In some industries, women constitute over 70% of the employees. Women have so much freedom, money and opportunities today than ever before.

The bold is untrue, and you know it. Women are hypergamous. It's innate and this applies across all cultures, racial groups, religions and counties. If men are hypergamous, it's because men are now playing in women's fields. Two can play the game.

Just as I predicted, before 2030, expect the Mother of all Japada! Na those wey sell all their propati I pity pass. So they would have to tussle it out with the Ndi real estate agents we've in the country?

BRATISLAVA:
Men are hypergamous, otherwise we wouldn't have this thread.

Because women have taken up 50% of the jobs in the labour market, yet women have maintained their hypergamy. So men are now playing in women's fields. Just as women are now being polygamous in nature.

May the best gender win.

emmaodet:

Just leave them.
They will sit in Nigeria, read some things online about a country and post it as facts.
Many African countries are more shit holes than Nigeria

Honestly, I had high hopes for the country and its neighbour, Namibia. We should tackle our security issues, and we would be much more at ease. Truly, only South Africa is better than us in Africa. Why should a country with a small population and had booming years of diamond sales lack funds to purchase essential medicines?

babakb:
Yeah it's a new law, I have searched a couple of Language schools in Japan and it's stated on their sites that you must present a minimum of JPLT N5 or show evidence of at least 150 hours of Japanese Language studies before you obtain their COE 🤨🤨

New policy then.

Just as the new changes in funding doctoral and postdoctoral students. Before the changes, both foreign and Japanese academic scholars enjoyed the same benefits. But a lawmaker complained that more foreigners obtained the scholarship than Japanese students. Japanese aren't fond of a PhD or a postdoc, as most opt to end at an MSc and get into paid employment. Expectedly, Chinese students garnered more scholarships than other foreigners or Japanese themselves. Chinese students made up a third of the awardees.

So, the changes have it that Japanese students get tuition waivers and monthly living stipend. However, unlike before, foreign students would only get their tuition waived. Foreign students should fund their living costs. And this category of scholarship was extremely generous. There are so many of such scholarships as a graduate student here. Extremely munificent. Your own na just to study and perform research.

Another change is the business visa. By October, applicants would be required to present ￥30m to obtain the visa. As of last month, it was 5m. The argument is that the previous fee was way too low compared to peer nations. As usual, Chinese citizens obtained the highest, but Indians, Pakistanis, Sri Lankans, and other Southeast Asians found it as an easy and affordable route to get into Japan, and in the long run, obtain permanent resident status.

In summary, in anything one wants to do, do it on time. Time waits for no one and change is constant.

kingsavage:
oga I have seen yahoo boys who made huge money. Mostly during covid 19 pandemic.
$1m is nothing

Wow! Those boys must have made a lot of money. No wonder so many things have been disrupted. The complaints by most average men have doubled. I see why. Yahoo boys have changed everything in the country.

BRATISLAVA:
Then why call women billers?

Women across all economic classes are hypergamous. They seek men who are financially higher than they. It is natural for a woman. Billing here means a woman desires her man or a man spends on her in one way or the other.
Do women earn their money? Yes.
Do they spend this money on themselves? Yes.
Do they still wish/want/desire their men or men to spend on them? Yes. This spending comes in many ways, but men have to spend. That is just the koko.