₦airaland Forum

Melian:
Nope. I don't see marriage as an achievement if I did I'd have been married a long time. That said, whether or not it's an achievement, men should learn to zip up or use protection.

ifyalways:
Communication break down. All this problem started because of how you told her you don't have money . Since the child stays with the mother, there are some concessions you'd have to make (even if you don't really like it) just for peace to reign. example, the incident of starting school much earlier than agreed. You could have handled it better by either sending them a token of whatever u have or gently tell her you are broke for now but will send whatever u have later as opposed to sticking your feet down and insisting on September. It's not stupidity, it's called wisdom aka stooping to conquer.

From your story, the lady and/or her family can comfortably take care of the toddler. I don't know any court that will grant you custody of the child but you'd get visitation rights for sure if that's what you're fighting for. And also the mandatory monthly child support that you'd have to pay.

Im not sure going to court now is the best idea. Can you take a back seat from visiting and communicating with the lady directly and have either or both of your parents visit hers and have a chat with her parents( not her) i believe your parents will be calm and handle hers well no matter the level of provocation,if any, by the girls Mother. Please don't send only your mom o, we women are known to be petty.

No mother will like you or support you after you knocked up her daughter and refused to marry her so don't be surprised the mom did not caution the daughter while she was exchanging words with you. If you married her properly, her reaction to that incident would have been the opposite. I'm not making excuses for her moms behaviour Please, just trying to see things from a typical Naija moms angle.

If that fails then head to court. Since they stay in Delta, I presume the issue can only be sorted at family welfare courts in Delta state. Obviously,The lady wanted marriage from you and since that is not forthcoming, she's acting out.

Factfinder1:

princfred:
Depends on what happens after the last whistle. If no yellow or red card why continue?

princfred:
You dont understand. I mean getting the drugs prior to exposure by claiming to be already exposed (since one may likely get exposed anyway) abi are they there when you where exposed?

DBlackCeazer:
Any side effects?

princfred:
I know but who wants to be taking it like everyday. Why not take the PEP just before kick off?

princfred:
Why not take the PEP drugs before?

Legionx:
1. Take PEP Drugs (for HIV)
2. Take all Hepatitis Vaccines
3. Take Anti-bacterial drugs (for gonorrhea)

When having sex and you notice a condom burst, the best advice is to pull out immediately and do not ejaculate. Those who do not ejaculate have a reduced risk of catching HIV virus.

Next

1. Take PEP Drugs (within 72 hours after the condom burst or no hope again)

Go to any government (general) hospital around you and request for PEP drugs, you will be given counseling and a HIV Test will be conducted on you to know your status. If its negative you will be given the drugs for FREE

It's possible you wouldn't be given the PEP drugs for a condom burst but it will depend on the doctor available. Some of them are nice enough to understand while others follow strict protocol.

Remember these people don't work on Saturdays

2 and 3 are self-explanatory.

habsydiamond:
why not tell me why it's hard to catch

castro316:
Omoge87: I apologize on this man's behalf

monikmotivatioa:
Hmm,what a matter of ''Do this to please me if you want us in together.'' 'He said if I don't lose weight he will break up with me should I?'

What do you think? Should this big and beautiful full lady lessen weight just to safe her relationship? While many say NO,others,just very few suggest that she do as her boyfriend says.

Well for me,it is a two way things.It could be YES and It could also be NO depending on whom this boyfriend of hers really is. Is he a claimed suitor or a genuine one? Does he really mean marriage or is he just a passerby?

I mean,if this fat and beautiful lady is just an ordinary girlfriend to this man, doing whatever he suggests even against her wish is simply pure stupidity since he is not a meaningful boyfriend to her. Such a man doesn't have a huge interest or great plan for future with her and so why ask her to reduce her weight as if he owns her?

But if the man in question is Mr Right and not Mr Right now to the lady,yes,he has every right to ask or tell his lady things to correct in herself.

It is not wrong! While some people argue that a man who loves you would accept you the way you are I say yes,that is true but it is not also bad if he sees some part of you not suitable for him and he asks you to work on it. It is only a man who genuinely loves you and has good intentions for you that could boldly tell you all that! Passerby would see things that would hurt you but won't tell after all they would never have to carry your cross or ever share part of it with you in future.

Why would a man who loves you enough to make you his wife not ask you to change certain things about yourself for his likes? If you really understand the point and relevance of courtship part of which is that it is a period in which two lovers interested in each other for marriage have a close relationship to see whether each of them is acceptable to themselves.

In courtship which is a step higher than dating,both parties talk about future,aspirations and goals together. If you have interest in someone you love and you find out that he or she has an attitude that will make future difficult for both of you would you not say it and suggest that he or she changes it? If that party really has interest in you surely he or she will change for compatibility purposes.

Read more here: List Of Different Needs In Relationship. Which Is Yours?

So what is wrong if a man wants his woman to add or reduce weight for his likes? Is it not for his pleasure after all? Will it not be ...https://www.monikmotivational.com/2019/01/he-said-if-i-dont-lose-weight-he-will.html

Omoge87:
Dear OP.

I don’t really understand this philosophy myself. I am a Nigerian lady. I currently work, I bought and drive my own car. Have almost completed my MSc which I paid for myself. My point being as a Nigerian lady I have never cared about what material thing a guy has. What girls think a guy can provide for them- they can actually provide for themselves if they work hard.

I have only been in two relationships in my life - but in those relationships I never cared about anything material. I cared about their long term vision and goals etc... I remember my first ex didn’t drive. I am the one that would drop him home after church etc.. When they had a need I would help. When I had need they would offer to help and I would politely decline - if it was monetary - simply cos I don’t want any guy to be saying he did xyz for me. Also I noticed Nigerian men associate helping their girlfriends with sex - so far as they are gifting you and giving you money they expect sex in return and as I am not a prostitute - I decline such things. I would rather ask my parents if I had any monetary needs. I don’t believe boyfriend should become your driver or your bank when courtship and vice versa. When you are husband and wife - then yes I can accept financial assistance from my husband - but not boyfriend. Why should a boyfriend be paying my fees or rent? I just don’t understand it at all. A girl should learn to be self - sufficient - when she has her own she won’t care if a guy has BMW or plenty money. She will rather want someone who is compatible with her vision and life long goals.

Bottom line my philosophy is if a girl works hard she won’t have to rely on a man for anything- she will not care if he has a car or money as her first port of call. She will be interested in - does he have a Job, is he a Christian, family background etc... because she wants someone likeminded and compatible with her also.

I think it is laziness that makes some girls want to live off a man. I just don’t understand it at all. My brain cannot comphrend the thought. There is nothing like having your own independence as a woman. I am not a feminist oooo. I just believe in hard work so you don’t have to rely on anyone or beg anyone for anything in this life.

On this same forum there was a post that asked would you rather a rich husband that cheats but provides or a poor husband that is faithful but can’t provide. I just shook my head. Why can’t one just have a hardworking husband and a hard working wife who are both faithful and provide for each other’s needs ?

Stewart83:
@op don't mind all those ignorant fools commenting up there. Most of thses prostitutes are way more disease free that those undercover Oloshos/everyday girls u see on the streets that u think are clean. I'm telling u for a fact.

habsydiamond:
the girl can't release inside the guy na.....after the condom don burst as long as the dick is exposed to the fluids from the pussy, there is no remedy....one can easily acquire the disease

lilmax:
smh

guys how do you open your eyes and sleep with a prostitute? it's unimaginable

czarina:
Better go and take that pre-HIV drug. I've forgotten what it's called. And also take hepatitis vaccine if you haven't.


May God have mercy on you. Leave prostitutes alone una no go hear. Una even dey do "styles" with ashi. It is well.

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Airforce01:
So I brought my baby home to meet her other families in the village .

Lol .. she's scared of everyone and fussing non stop almost the whole of yesterday .

She's just a baby and it's her first time of meeting this people so was expected she would be uncomfortable with them .

I usually travel home when I'm less busy and I love the life here .
I love the fresh air , less noisy environment, the evening life , my usual joint for fresh palm wine and Nkwobi

My family over here in the village just love my baby
.. everyone wants to carry her
She's such a darling .

See you guys in Lagos soon. Everyone want to carry her. Village people syndrome..
Hope dem never type ur baby destiny oooo??

Lavoca:
I think this lady only makes "noise". She has to be the one in the Nigeria music industry with the most meaningless and unreasonable lyrics