Ebony-Silk:

Wonderful, you work on that.
Atleast when things gets tough, you know you're not only doing it for yourself.
I wish you the best of luck in everything you do. . . .

Thanks Ebony. With God by my side and determination, I know that nothing at all is insurmountable in my life. Tnx 4 ur encouragement. God bless u!

I wont really advise some1 to be dating online or on the phone. There's nothing like face 2 face to communication. Besides a guy can be dating you and many others online, and vice versa. It's always good not to get carried away. I have met a whole lot of great friends online, so i agree that u can meet people anywhere. On the other hand, its not very advisable to be dating some1 online, you can meet the person online, but don't start dating him/her till u see face 2 face. Pictures are very misleading u know, and it's insanity to be dating a voice, fine voice might not be fine person; so like i said and i'll say it again, meet someone offline before you start dating him/her and don't get carried away. Emotions as we well know are fickle, so thread carefully!

Ebony-Silk:

I am not here to rebuke you lol, but damn!! Tenn Love. . . .were you still in high school or freshman at a uni?
Ok, that was scary!!

Awww, the gift of a child. . . .mind if I ask if the father of the baby was present?

Lol@Ebony-Silk, My dear let's say it was puppy love or d result of too many mills and boon novels. I actually got preggy d 1st time i had sex@16, in my final year in high school. Shocked Shocked Shocked Lips sealed Lips sealed
The father of the child was very absent and didn't see his daughter till a week later. If u think that's bad enough, 13 years down the line, he hasn't seen his daughter in years-but that's another story. Fact is I'm very grateful to God for blessing me with a wonderful child and being with me all through for sincerely God has never failed; He has been with me all through and meets me @ every point of my needs; let's say I am God's Special project. Suffice it to say i won't trade my daughter or my relationship with God 4 anything in the world! Grin Grin Grin

Ebony-Silk:

I am not here to rebuke you lol, but damn!! Tenn Love. . . .were you still in high school or freshman at a uni?
Lol@Ebony-Silk, My dear let's say it was puppy love or d result of too many mills and boon novels. I actually got preggy d 1st time i had sex@16, in my final year in high school.

Ok, that was scary!!
Awww, the gift of a child. . . .mind if I ask if the father of the baby was present?

The father of the child was very absent and didn't see his daughter till a week later. If u think that's bad enough, 13 years down the line, he hasn't seen his daughter in years-but that's another story. Fact is I'm very grateful to God for blessing me with a wonderful child and being with me all through for sincerely God has never failed; He has been with me all through and meets me @ every point of my needs; let's say I am God's Special project. Suffice it to say i won't trade my daughter or my relationship with God 4 anything in the world!

I had my baby 2 weeks to my 17th birthday. I didn't experience morning sickness, spitting and all those other first signs of pregnancy. At 5 months, i was already lactating. I remember the heart burns, my God, nothing quite like it. Didn't start ante natal till pregnancy was around 7months plus. And then it was a teaching hospital so had to go in for tests every week since it was considered a high risk pregnancy cos i was really young. I hated needles, but they became my companions then; i did all the tests imaginable, scans, etc. I started feeling some contractions and went to the mat. home where i had her, but was told it was false labour. I remember i had cravings for yogurt and boiled eggs; and that was what i ate for 3months straight. The day of the labour, i woke up feeling really energetic, cleaned the whole house, went to the market, cooked food i never ate, washed even clean clothes, mopped the whole house, cleaned windows, iin short i was really feeling like super woman till i suddenly felt one sharp pain, there's nothing that can ever describe the pains of contractions; i started walking, running, jumping, crying, dancing, i was in a frenzy like a mad woman. When the pains became super duper unbearable after my waters broke, i was praying for death and just laid on the floor with my tummy, to cut a long story short, the labour lasted for about 6hrs. I pushed and pushed and with one final push, my baby popped out or rather flew out, screamed with all her lungs and put all four fingers in her mouth; i don starve d babe cos i had not eaten for nearly 48hrs before her delivery. Well, that was 13years ago, but i still remember it like it was yesterday. Yeah and i remember the stitching up of the incisions made down there, the pains were so bloody unbearable i didn't allow them stitch everything up-for real. I refused, clamped shut my legs and so out of four incisions, only 2 were stitched. I thank God because she was a very healthy baby, though funny enough she didnt really like breast milk, but preferred feeding bottles, maybe becos i had sores all around my nipples, so i used 2 do do a lot of extractions-very painful, force breastfed her for 3months cos my breast milk ran like a tap, am sure i would have easily breastfed sextuplets with the way the thing used to flow out. All my cloths, no matter the breastpads or foam bras i used were everly soaked and after going through all that for 3months, i just decided to stop breastfeeding and faced the bottle. Well, i am seriously looking forward to having more kids and pray my kids will be like my daughter. She's such a joy- full of life, beautiful, still very healthy, playful and you name it- i know i am mightily blessed. I love kids a whole lot, pregnancy is an interesting stage in a woman's life. You see different changes, You dont know what to even expect from yourself the next day. My skin glowed when i was pregnant, i was really beautiful, hair and nails grew longer and i didn't really have a big bulge so was surprised when i had a big baby. I know i am not following any sequence in my writing, i just dey write as e dey flow and as i remember things. Yeah and the advantage of having kids early, when i go to see my daughter in school, her classmates argue, no she aint ur mom, and she's always like yeah i know my mom is a babe can u beat that? )

his_grace:

i like women i meet online - they r sweet to do in bed - u know wetin i dey yearn?

his grace abeg explain
Quote from: DIAMONDAY on January 04, 2008, 03:25 PM
i found my girlfreind online and she was so cool, we've been together since last year and we are doing pretty fine not until she mess up, it's real for those who want to make it real, you can ask me how it happened. i will explain

diamonday am still waiting oh

Well, it actually depends you and your intentions. I know some people who met online and are married now; but that's a very small statistic as compared to those that dont work out. Everything in life as i have seen is a risk; but its very wise 2 think with ur head and love with your heart. Meanwhile diamonday pls can u tell me how it happened; i love stories u know

I will definately kiss my bf/husband in public. If i am not in2 him or proud of hanging out with him; y am i with him? Well, i dont see anything wrong with PDA as long as it doesnt go beyond hugging and kissing!

Guys will always be guys. No matter how open - minded he claims 2 be; show him much love and guy that said he's open minded will start taking u for granted; next thing he'll say is she's desperate. 1 thing i have discovered is that generally men are hunters; so for me I'll rather allow the guy do the toasting and hunting; afterall, from experience, i have realised that feelings are just that feelings- and they are subject 2 change!

Guys will always be guys. No matter how open - minded he claims 2 be; show him much love and guy that said he's open minded will start taking u for granted; next thing he'll say is she's desperate. 1 thing i have discovered is that generally men are hunters; so for me I'll rather allow the guy do the toasting and hunting; afterall, from experience, i have realised that feelings are just that feelings- and they are subject 2 change!

4 d fact that you have met cheap girls, doesnt necessarily give you the right to generalise, though i believe we are all entitled to our own views and opinions. Like the bible says in proverbs 31, who can find a virtuos woman, for her price is far above rubies; so the question to ask yourself is can you afford a virtuos woman; knowing that you require a whole lot of patience 2 find her and you also have to have some qualities before she agrees 2 be a part of your life. A virtuos woman cannot be found just anywhere and the sooner you realise this the better. most guys aint ready to patiently seek for a woman of virtue, they just make do with whats available everywhere. you should realise that something of much value is always very scarce!

my dreams about the future is to be married with 3 more beautiful kids;
have a profitable buisiness of my own
form a meeting forum/fellowship/organisation where women can meet and pray as well as share their challenges, ideas etc
to be more grounded and have deeper roots in Christ
to live a life worthy and pleasing to God and propagate the goodnews of Christ

u know d problem most of us have? generalisation.
$ammy how did u arrive at that logical conclusion?

u know d problem most of us have? generalisation.
$ammy how did u arrive at that logical conclusion?

yes now; an ex players is no different from an ex prostitute. despite their motives, both have had multiple sex partners- uncountable sex partnes in fact

@presido very funny!
u dey fear to father other men children.
so what about girls that marry retired players?

a real true sister makes the best wife; but the so called sister- at least you know she is an hypocrite, what else do u expect? well we all have a past; some good, some bad, but the past should be the past shikena

Posted on: September 14, 2007, 05:40 PMPosted by: bLacK GoLd
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@ Afam

i really would not like to join issues with you on this discussion but;

i doubt if you know what 'coming from the gutters' feels like

i doubt if you know how it feels to know that you can't pay for your son's school fees with the rate at which they continually rise

i doubt if you know how it feels to know that you may remain a slave for the rest of your life with a system like Nigeria that encourages the likes of em 'Dangotes'

I doubt if you know how it feels to be owed for 3 months and don't have a clue where your next meal would come from.

Please i assume we are all educated to whatever level and irrespective of the field of study any correct judgement be it socially or scientifically must follow this principle, CETERIS PARIBUS

blackgold, i do not agree with you that you should compromise because of all the issues facing you; some people have gone through worse and their moralties are still intact.
be a man and try to make God your 1st priority.
you are just giving excuses; so putting the little money you have into a ponzi scheme is justifed because you've got bills 2 pay?
lets learn how to re-prioritize.

you know i started this post and really didnt come back 2 read it, 4giv me.
tnx 2 all those who gave their opinions. if a lady can marry a retired player, i see no reason why a man cannot marry an ex or retired prostitute.
though its really food for thought!

Maybe i am still old school, but i really dont support the no finance no romance notion most women hold these days. Money sure makes life a whole lot easier, but it shouldnt be the basis or prerequisite for a relationship. you need to consider a whole lot of other factors before going into a relationship especially a really committed one. I have a belief that money doesnt really make you happy; its all about being content with what you have now and enjoying where you are on the way to where you are going. money cannot buy you love- it sure can buy you sex; you can spend all your money on a woman or a man but that doesnt get the person to love you.
we ladies should shift from the mentality of a man spending all his hard earned money because he wants a relationship wiith you. How will you feel if after you have forced him to spend his money on you; he wants to force you to sleep with him.
Why dont you as a woman work hard to make your own money and plan towards a future together with that romantic partner of yours where you both put your resources together?,
infact i have written more than i intended 2

I agree with your views Afam. People should be principled enough not to fall for all these ridiculous promises made by all these wonder banks. Where has an honest pay for an honest day's job gone to?

Guys you really need to think before answering this one- can you marry a lady who used to be a prostitute but has now decided to quit prostitution and is like the best lady you have ever met- treats you well, the best cook you can imagine, etc? I know some aristo-chics and prostitutes those days in school who are now happily married; though i dont know if their husbands are aware of their past lifestyle.

A poor man can love and find true love. A man who has no money today can become rich tomorrow through hardwork, God's favor and persistence. true love is mostly always illusive and shouldnt be based on 1 thing-money, sex, looks or whatever because the only constant thing in life is change. That flashy rich guy today can become poor tomorrow. Real love is a thing of the heart and mind- when you make up your mind to stay committed to each other come what may. Most guys i know who are in sucessful and happy marriages always say they met their wives when they had nothing. I for one would rather prefer a deep relationship with some1 i have an history with(as in been with through good and bad times) than a trivial superflous relationship based on money or whatever!

like the bible says guard your heart with all diligence. when you are dating the wrong guy, even though your instincts and his behaviour tell u 2 let him go, your heart might just keep decieving u, so 1st things 1st; love with your heart and think with your head, tell yourself you deserve someone better and let him go.
dont call or text him even when all emotions tell u 2 and dont try 2 see him 2 talk things over!

you dont make a person fall in love with you. you can make some1 like u. When you try too hard to make a guy fall for you, he either gives in outta pity or just scrams- takes a hike and avoid u like the plague. i believe its better to just be yourself. treat guys like you would treat your brothers. Its quite faustrating for a lady loving some1 and trying to make him notice her. just try and get 2 be friendly with people and that special some1 will see that special thing about you; afterall its better not 2 venture in2 a relationship in d 1st place than 2 get so heartbroken u feel like a mess! i for 1 feel you dont need 2 date every1 u feel u are in love with-most times its just a crush and feelings change! been there, done that!

i dont think she loves you. just let her be. no1 has the right to play with your mind like that. a girl that loves you will respect you and not insult you!

i love reading-thats my passion. i have got so many books it could make up a bookshop i
i love cooking; music- it makes me think. i love dancing, most of all i love swimming!
i also love talking -guess thats y i read mass comm in school and work as a customer care agent!