ok forget about losing weight to please ur bobo or to be more attractive to other guys,. think about loosing weight for your health. That can go a long way to reinforce ur strengths in weight and fat watching. Think about how your bf approached u with the weight issue. Was he rude about it and actually threatened to dump u if u dont loose weight? If he did, i would say close ur mind and loose this weight. If u love him enough, pretend to leave him and he would chase u like a storm. If u dnt love him enough , find ur way o jare, he doesn't deserve u

I don't think there's anything wrong with paying for your trip. I think tho that he should be the one to visit you in lagos first of all. Then him saying he spent his money renting a house "cos of you", that is just bullshit. Guys should stop using that "cos of you language", its very annoying. It is his responsibility to provide a comfortable accommodation for his potential wife and he rented the house so much for himself as for you so he should cut off the "cos of you" language. I'd say pay for your transport fare, cos that would give you more strength as a woman, and u dont have to think "I'd do what ever he says cos afterall he paid this amount of money for me to come here and rented all this house". So take yourself there and he should provide every other thing, watch out tho,  if he is a good man he will pay ur fare back to lagos and he won't expect u to foot all ur bills in the future. Monitor him for signs of giving frequent excuses about money or asking u for money at all, dat one no go good, guys like that no be market

I think she should not worry too much. If the relationship was meant to be, it will be regardless of she lost her virginity to him or not. I agree with most people on the indirect pressure on her. It may also be her just reflecting on her being disvirgined, it will not be easy to accept the first time especially since she valued her virginity a lot. She will get over the worries, Tell your friend not to be worried or ashamed, she can talk to the man about her feelings, if he is a good man he would reassure her that he still respects her regardless.

just to comment on the topic, I'm glad this topic was created which is exactly the opposite of one that was created several months ago that claimed virginity was a lack of opportunity. I not against anyone that wants to have sex before marriage, whatever floats your boat. So im saying virginity is more a dignity than a lack of opportunity. First of all, is there anything as a lack of opportunity in the world of today with with the loose morals and sexually charged TV and movie displays? I know any lady (i'm gonna use a girls as an example, we got virgin males too) can set out to have sex one day and there are plenty of guys willing to jump her bones. For a more personal anecdote, I'm 21, female and a virgin, whats the big deal? I don't lack opportunities, and i consider myself very beautiful and well endowed ( thank you very much, No be me, na God). Lots of guys approach me and i dont think i lack opportunity, i know a lot of them would do me in a heart beat if i just say yes. I think personally its my value and i just love the power, i have with that. I dated this guy and i know his friends asked him if he had sex with me, and of course he did not. I see the way they approach me with so much respect and i think keeping yourself covered and leaving something to the imagination is more sexy, and romantic than being overexposed.

Again, this is my personal opinion and i would appeal to the non-virgin-community-always-trying-to-belittle-virgins to shut up and mind their beeswax and quit saying things like "virginity is lack of opportunity", who the hell even invented that line?

While i think the poster has some point with the women of today, i also think guys are not totally blameless. Its all part of the package of relationship, like when you expect a girl to have sex with you, then she also expects that the guys should damn well spend some good money on her. The society and environment plays a huge role too. In Nigeria now, lots of ladies are acting big and flaunting what they got from their rich guys, some ladies don't want to be left behind and they strive for the same status. I think finally it all lies in personal values and upbringing ( which may change with environment) . Environment is a big contextual factor in this issue cos when lots of people are doing it, it appears to be a norm and it goes that way.

First of all, i don't think this is a good place to be advertising your availability because many people will not take you seriously. As innocent and serious as your intentions may be, i believe some people ( well, me inclusive) find the specific time range given , well erhm suspicious, because with all these ritual killings going on, i think you may have to better present your proposal . You sounds like this "I desperately need a wife in 2 months, and two months it's gotta be cos i cant afford to add any more time to it "

I'm just saying , this is not the best place, and maybe you can use the word "soon" instead of "2 months". This is just my personal opinion and no disrespect intended, Goodluck with finding a wife.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080226/ap_on_re_us/disabled_woman_beaten



This story is so appalling . i wonder how wicked people can be and this is a sick woman.

CINCINNATI - Two teenagers hid overnight in a house and spent more than six hours torturing a disabled woman after her mother left in the morning, authorities said. Butler County Sheriff Richard Jones said the teenage boy and girl tied up the 18-year-old woman, clubbed her, kicked her, shaved her head and soaked her with water before making her walk barefoot outside in the snow.

They also ignored pleas from the woman, who had undergone brain surgery, not to hit her in the head, investigators said.

"This is one of the worst crimes I've ever seen," Jones said Monday. "They are sick animals, apparently just doing this for kicks and no other reason."

Cheyenne Blanton, 17, and Joseph Nagle, 16, both of Hamilton, were arraigned Monday on juvenile delinquency charges that include aggravated burglary, aggravated robbery, kidnapping, felonious assault and vandalism, according to juvenile court officials.

They were ordered held in the county's juvenile detention center pending a court appearance later this week. Neither entered a plea, and both requested court-appointed attorneys. Those attorneys had not been named Monday.

The teens are accused of physically abusing Ashley Clark, 18, for more than six hours Friday at her home in Hanover Township, about 35 miles northwest of Cincinnati.

Both Jones and the woman's mother, Sheila Clark, want the teenagers tried as adults, and Jones said the two could get 75 years to life in prison if tried and convicted as adults.

"I want full justice for my daughter," Clark said Monday. "Those two never need to walk the streets again."

Clark would not comment on details of the case or provide specifics on her daughter's disabilities or injuries, other than to say that her daughter was doing as well as possible.

"I can't understand how anyone could do this to anyone, but especially to someone with such a beautiful, loving heart," Sheila Clark said.

Messages seeking comment on whether adult charges would be pursued were left at the prosecutor's office Monday. There was no answer at telephone listing for a Joseph Nagel in Hamilton. There was no listing for Cheyenne Blanton.

Jones said the teenagers hid overnight in the basement of the Clark home, intending to steal the car and leave town before an upcoming juvenile court appearance date for one of the suspects.

They apparently missed their chance to get the car when Sheila Clark left the house in it Friday morning, and they went into the kitchen to get something to eat before going upstairs and waking her daughter, Jones said. The pair then spent the next six to eight hours torturing Ashley Clark, he said.

The mother realized something had happened when she came home, saw the house ransacked and called 911. A neighbor also called the sheriff's department to report two juveniles in the neighbor's yard.

Detectives apprehended the teenagers a few minutes later in nearby woods after following their footprints in the snow, Jones said.

koko master is very much OVERATED, very annoying when on tv (he's so loud n kip fileing n shit) . I jut like why me song , even d koko song sucks

ok thanks u guys for ur input, made me see things more clearly

prince_onx:

Stories in long distance relationships are all the same whether in real life or in movies!

you better face you school than come here dey argue with us whether you old enough or not! if them call you adult you ma go answer!

wasnt tryna argue, was just seeking opinon. nway thnks

Uche2nna:

Ol girl, You r not smelling rats oooo. Thats just the way the cookie crumbles in long distance relationship. The long distance leaves a lot of room for distrust. You just have to take the time and talk to him, let him know what you expect or expected. This all comes with time.
As for, the rate of calling, I assure u it is expensive. I personally do not expect any of my friends back home to call me, if they do then it is a big honor to me. I do most of the calling. That is not to say that he is right for going two months without giving u a call. However, it all depends on his income. If the guy is struggling to make both ends meet, then making long distance calls will be tghe last thing on his mind. You just have to figure out what his problem is before u pass judgement.

I understand calling may be expensive, but u kno little things that would make someone happy like calling on christmas or new year ( u kno waiting up till the time its 12 am wherever ur partner is n calling ) he doesnt do that. I was saying ok he didnt call on christmas maybe he will call on new year but then that didnt happen. im gonna let yáll kno if he calls on vals day ( dat i doubt very much), but i'll give him the benefit of a doubt.

4Him:

if its true that ginger1 is 19 then i'd say u have no business smelling anything; rats, eagles or elephants.

is 19 too young to be in a r/ship? well i'll b 20 so that can b considered rite

thnks y'all , i kno i deserve beta  dis guy is prolly not serious. Oh breakng up is something i'd hate to do n y are r/ships so hard? I'll b 20  this yr n staying in a r/ship or handling one really scares me. Do i stop , but then guys r always on ur back  . i  think im going crazy.

uspry1:

From your profile I read, is this same guy who have sex you without penetration, just fingering with precum on you a year ago?

Where do you live at? Why don't you visit seeing your guy surprisely? Visit his job if you knew where he work at?

If i was your shoe at age 19 years old today, FORGET ABOUT HIM and focus on school FIRST for 4 years or whatever! Then upon college graduation, go finding a real job yourself to settle down SECOND and finally AT LAST come back checking on him if he still loves you or not!

I am sure your guy will be gone by then!!! He is not into you!!!

this is not the same guy

i need contributions to this post

ok, i met my bf in naija when i travelled last year, judging from the time i spent with him(july -august), he seemed to b a nice guy n really cool. he asked that we b frnds n dat he loves me. After i left Nigeria, the first couple of weeks we really talked on d phone a lot, u kno feeling happy with ourselves. the problem now is that he doesnt call me anymore, expects me to b d one to send mails everytime n all he does is to read n say some mails r borng cos i dnt discuss spicy things. he did not call me on christmas eve but i was awake till it was 12:00 nigerian time to usher him into chrismas day with a phone call. No phone call on new year n no mails at all, yet everytime i call he says how much he misses me, asking when ill come to naija again. As of this moment i called him cos its been a month I called him last( i made the last three phone calls n he none, im a student n dis guy freaking works!) n all he was saying was u kno how naija is , work work work n shit. so u guys tell me pls

Is it really that work work work in naija, do ppl on the average find it hard to call their gfs abroad n is the call rate really expensive. this is my frst r/ship n i dnt kno if not calling ur girl for more than 2 months sometimes ( at least for distance r/ships) is the norm.
im not even expecting him to call on vals day but he ought to kno better, at least phone communication is the main instrument for ppl nt together in one place. question is

Is this guy serious?
What do u think may b going on with him?
Am i expecting too much from him?

my boyfriend is from Edo ( thos he's fucking up now) but he's really a great guy and respects himself n odas most of the time. I 'd love to know all Edo guys r like dat. peace to Edoshians or what u guys call urselves.

the shoes dont appeal to me at all, i saw it at the mall today n i was like "what d heck".

plz i've so much heard of this Olu maintain 419 thing. Plz can someone tell me what part of the song( lyrics) that suggests his patronizing 419ers .abeg if in yoruba make una write and then translate cos i cant understand yoruba. i 've listened to d song but cant find any 419 thing there,

pls can someone post the link for onyeka owenus "älleluyah" thanks

Gosh cant u guys just answer the poor guys question, he's in a delimma, and the last theing he needs now is non-constructive critisism. He released on the girls viginal area as he said in his posting. WHy do u guys act lke he didnt tell the whole story or u want step by step narration of wht he did with his babe. na wah oo !!. Anyway in response to the post, i think if u released on the girl without penetration, theres is a lesser chance of getting pregnant ( which is not impossible ) just a lesser chance. Also shes is prolly just worried and nervous cos it's d first tym she got semen on her privates. Just go for a test to be sure.
Good luck!

why is it d guys dat always moves in with the girls in a r/ship, n get kicked out when it all turns sour, dats d funny part, kicking ém out

@ scorpio
I'm serous about whats going on in here, if i wasn't, i wouldnt be wasting my time setting up post that i have no business with. i've recieved some pretty good advices here n talks which i appericiate. All i do now is to give feedback which i did. ok dats all just saying tha this is for real n no messing wid pple.

i took the preg test , twas negative , but i'll still check again to make sure i did it right. The problem was i was too sacred to take the test. having the test is not the problem is dippin it inot ur urine and watching that horrible purple colour pass thru uh uh ( shivering) . i'll take another one to be sure, i still have hunches

Ok now i have a feed back,

I'm having my periods now (red visitor as some ppl called it). It's been 3 days and it's already thinning out . Normally it's 5 days but thins out on the 5th day, so now i'm worried it might be "Implanation bleeding" . The fetus might have made its way to my uterus to attatch. I'm waiting for the SUPPOSED period to stop completely so i can have my HPT. i'm trying to kip my worries low so the periods wont cease halfway cos i'm worked up.

Thanks for all ur comments, and this story is not made up by the way. I feel really serious about it. I never knew it'll be a laughing matter or a post that sounds stupid. I appericiate d comments anyway

About exactly what my bf and i did was that, i had my panties, he was masturbating with his hand, and (i read once there is erection , there also is precum), he fingered me( dats what scares me cos he might have precum on his hand). I also feel intermittent abdominal pain (dnt kno if it's cos my period is approaching cos i never really follow my period dates cos i kno dat everly, it'll come ( i just know it come early in the month 1st to 5th ). After the first week of being with my bf, i dint have any worries or symptoms, but ever since i read about precum n became aware of it, i started having those symptoms i listed above.

i'm 18 and i've never been with a guy , but recently i was with a guy. There was no sex, but when i started feeling weird, i read something online about precum. That scared me cos i think he might have had precum on his fingers when he touched me. My period is not due yet but will bw soon in about 3 days. I have been experincing belching/burping, sometimes i feel so full even tho i didnot eat, and sick. I dont have nausea, but i feel my food is trying to go up in my head instead of down to the stomach ( i dnt feel the gag reflex , u kno to throw up). i bought a home pregnancy test but will use it when i suspect i missed my period(my period is due in about 3 days or so). If i'm pregnant i cannot kip the baby and i'd need to kno if there is any GOOD abortion clinic in nigeria and the location. Next week is my awards ceremony in skool cos i won an academic award and my parents are so excited about it.They 'll feel so devastated if i tell them i'm pregnant. i dnt know what to do , i need help, Pls dont judge me or blame me cos it's gonna make me feel worse