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Kutunban:
OG

I can't say it better than Rollingdollar. Give your life to Jesus and your addition will be over. Pray for strength on daily basis to overcome temptation to give up. Refuse to give in and the Lord will help you. Change your moniker to Childofgreatness

Matthew 11:28 call Mom for me or you can labor and every lady I will give you rest may God give you rest in Jesus name.

Rollingdollar:
Addictions are demonic and is only Christ that can free you from such bondage. Sincerely give you life to Christ and change the course of your life , don't end up like your dad because you weren't proud of his lifestyle, self-realization is the beginning of freedom. Christ is the solution to your problems

I can't say it better than Rollingdollar. Give your life to Jesus and your addiction will be over. Pray for strength on daily basis to overcome temptation to give up. Refuse to give in and the Lord will help you. Change your moniker to Childofgreatness

Matthew 11:28 call Mom for me or you can labor and every lady I will give you rest may God give you rest in Jesus name.

Thundafireseun:
Validation seekers

Attention seekers

The Bible is no longer a standard for Christianity….

What Christians agree this days is only what their General overseer approves for them

It well with you. May God help you.

Host78:
Why do we lie to ourselves this much to the point we accept the lies as truth?

Like how does marriage make sex beautiful? One of the reason most men divorce their wives is because of poor sex.

Yet everyday we delude ourselves with this nonsense.

Sex is sex. Whether in marriage or outside of marriage. The results are the same for chrissake!

If you love someone, it doesn't matter whether or not you're married, you'll enjoy the second with them. Not all the time but most of the time.

Let's stop witg this utter garbage and redundant talks and start using our head for once

Why will you engage in a sexual act with a person with whom you are not married? Does it elevate your soul or spirit or does it dampen your spirit?

Melagros:
COMRADES, am I the only one who doesn't have interest in what this girl is doing at the moment?

Definitely not!. But whatever legit you can do to stay afloat financially, please let's jump at it, if it won't hurt anyone.

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you see many graduates that knows nothing , it’s a shame[/quote]It should have been "... you see many graduate that know nothing." not '... you see many graduates that knows nothing."

RevenuesBoost:
Marriage Is Not for the Weak, Selfish, or Irresponsible Man

Let’s speak truth:

You can marry beauty.
You can marry loyalty.
You can marry a woman with a heart of gold.

But if you’re immature, emotionally lazy, or careless with her trust—
You didn’t marry a wife. You took advantage of a gift you weren’t ready to receive.

Because most marriages don’t fall apart from the outside—
They fall when the man inside the house stops showing up fully.


1. WEAK MEN AVOID HARD THINGS

A weak man shuts down in conflict.
Avoids tough conversations.
Runs from responsibility.

He calls her “emotional” when she just wants clarity.
He calls her “too much” when she just needs effort.

A real man leads with humility, not ego.
He doesn’t just provide—he protects emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.

If pressure makes you disappear, you’re not leading—you’re escaping.



2. SELFISH MEN DRAIN THEIR WIVES

Marriage is not a one-way street.

If you expect peace but bring chaos…
If you demand respect but give none…
If you want her to submit while you do nothing worth following—
You’re not a husband. You’re a tyrant in disguise.

A selfish man wants a servant, not a soulmate.
But a great man? He lifts, leads, and listens.

Marriage requires sacrifice. If you're not ready to give, don’t expect to receive.




3. IRRESPONSIBILITY KILLS SECURITY

A woman can handle tough seasons.
She can handle less money, long hours, even failure.

What she can’t handle is instability—
– Financial recklessness
– Broken promises
– No vision, no plan, no consistency

Her respect dies the moment she realizes she has to carry what you keep dropping.

Responsibility isn’t glamorous—but it’s godly.
If you can't be trusted with pressure, don’t ask her to follow your lead.




4. MARRIAGE REQUIRES CHARACTER—NOT JUST CHARM

Being good to her when things are easy is the bare minimum.

Real character shows when: – She’s struggling
– You’re frustrated
– Life gets hard

If your first instinct is to withdraw, blame, or cheat—
You're not ready to lead. You're not even ready to love.

Marriage isn’t about control. It’s about commitment.
And that takes more than a smooth tongue and good intentions.




Final Thought: Women Don’t Leave Because They’re Cold—They Leave Because They’re Exhausted

Fellas:
If you think love is maintenance-free,
If you treat submission like superiority,
If you demand loyalty but give instability—
You’re not ready for marriage.

Because a woman doesn’t need a perfect man.
She needs a consistent one.
One who protects, provides, and pursues—with humility and honor.

If leadership to you means dominance—not service—
You don’t want a wife.
You want a servant.

And that’s not marriage—it’s manipulation.



Marriage is for men—not boys in grown-up clothes.
Show up.
Take responsibility.
Lead in love.
And build something worth keeping.

Have a blessed day.



Note: This write-up focuses primarily on men. Check out my thread for the perspective on women.

https://www.nairaland.com/8516244/wwww-marriage-not-unteachable-combative

The problem in many marriages is lack of Godly foundation. When both parties are into God, all agents of discord fall apart.

People committing themselves into relationship without first committing themselves to God and His principles is the genesis of many divorce cases.

Peace in our homes would always be hard without the presence of the Prince of Peace in the home.

Kaliningrad:
Gross incompetence from US security services. The kind of incompetence that makes Burundi police look like super stars. What a disgrace.

It took them almost 2 days to even identify him. He could have been anywhere out of the country by that time, if he was smart. Turned out he wasn't.

The clowns who call themselves the world police can't even police their own country. They had to arrest 2 innocent people just to save face.

Even Nigerian police would have done a better job. If not the killers father who handed him to the Police, they might have never caught him.

Shame! 🇺🇸 🇺🇸

It is easy to criticize.

DrRasheed:
See Previous thread
https://www.nairaland.com/8513830/why-northern-food-mostly-disliked

There's nothing to argue about. There is this thing in all of us that makes us to think that whatever originates from us is better than what comes from others - From marrying my tribal person, preferring my children to others', and so on and so forth.

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.


My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

If I understand what you mean by putting all your cards on the table, I believe you mean you are honest and that is the best in marriage. So, do not regret putting all your cards on the table. Maybe you married a wrong person and that is why you are regretting. Please, don't regret doing the right thing. Keep on being honest, keep on being transparent, keep on being open until your husband begins to appreciate it. In addition, the two of you should embrace God in your relationship and in your life. I wish you the best.

Script!

Some men can't even respect themselves. No morals! No self-esteem.

The world has really really gone so bad that people don't have limits anymore.

SHIVA001:
Yes And it's also Very Nice For Massaging gbola , During Masturbating, He without sin should be the first to Throw stone.

As you consider masturbating a sin, keep away from it.

Constant guilt will definitely ruin your mental health. Specifically speaking, it can lead you to depression.

SHIVA001:
Yes And it's also Very Nice For Massaging gbola , During Masturbating, He without sin should be the first to Throw stone.

As you consider masturbating a sin, keep away from it.

Constant guilt will definitely ruin your mental health. Specifically speaking, it can lead you to depression.

It could be that South West prefer University education while some regions prefer college of education where basic education teaching qualification is obtained.

Who would (in his or her right mind) dare say South West is backward when it comes to education?

Mrchippychappy:
Dress like rag but with hearts filled with hate.

Deeper life na jump and pass.

Your words betray your ignorance and sweeping generalization.

Not everyone pays in my community, even some that have the means, in the name of whatever is known to them.

And there are those finding it hard to live, who would even prefer to die because they own next to nothing a thief would come for. These people who can barely feed themselves are also expected to pay the same security fees everyone is paying.

My take: let every person who wants security get a personal security guard to his or her house.

helinues:
The rotation is between the political parties not Nigerians. Stop getting things twisted

Most times, partues' choice becomes the people's choice.

Merry100:
In Scripture, women were treated with dignity; Jesus Himself uplifted and respected women regardless of their past. There isn't a single verse in the Bible where God rewarded a woman simply for being a virgin.

Mary being chosen wasn't a reward for her virginity; it was to fulfill prophecy, align with the lineage of David, and emphasize a miraculous birth.

If your logic held, Mary Magdalene wouldn't have been the first to witness the risen Christ. Virginity has never been presented as a qualification to be valued, blessed, or favoured by God.

. You kind of shifted my line of thinking after reading your contribution. Keep it up.

You can not say it better. You are right. May God help us.

Thundafireseun:
Hahahhhahaa very very funny 😄
Meanwhile a proud father and son moment…

I can’t wait to see the pictures of Peter Obi and his only son

I'm suspecting the son's course of study is not in his father's University or he attended the University of London for an experience.

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

Do the right thing. Please God, please yourself. Listen to people, if their criticism is correct, amend your ways and if not, forget about their criticism. Appreciate their concern and move on.

Tell her shouting damages our vital organs like heart, brain, digestive organs etc. It's also not good for the emotional health of the kids. Tell her to Google the side effects of yelling. Tell her to "Say no to yelling".

helinues:
Okay..when would he start washing plates at parties?

It's the Obidients that will retire Peter Obi from politics with their over doing of things and not knowing when to ignore some certain things

How does this post demarket Obi?
In my own opinion, the post is a testament to the fact that Obi didn't just start leadership by servanthood now. He has built an attitude of service for years.

ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do?

End it all?

You are not omniscient to know how your life will end up. So, don't end it up by your own hands.

Keep doing what you love. Associate with people of good Christian faith. Find a way to make money. Be your own boss, be it farming, teaching etc. Work on your character.

If you can feed yourself and also pay house rent, you will surely meet a woman that will love you for you.

Never say never!

Any direct beneficiary of Buhari government must praise him, but this shows the character of the praise singer.

whatmoreng:
You people are super funny. The country is at the edge of total economic collapse and extreme poverty brought upon us by the APC. instead of you people to plot the best course to rescue the country, you are busy talking about southern turn.

If not that common sense is not common, you would have understood that no southern politician stand a chance against Tinubu.

Wait ooo... Atiku spent his time, money and effort to form a coalition, you think he will allow that nosense PDP zoning thingy. Come and test your popularity at the primary when the time is right

You mean Atiku has the solution to the current economic woes of Nigeria?

In what way?
How has he proved his competence in the past?

obembet:
It's now official that Mr Buhari died on Sunday at a London hospital according to his spokesperson, Garba Shehu.

He said “The family of the former president has announced the passing of the former president, Muhammadu Buhari, GCFR, this afternoon in a clinic in London. May Allah accept him in Aljannatul Firdaus, Amin,” Mr Shehu wrote on X.
The former president has been abroad since April. According to sources close to his family, Mr Buhari initially travelled to the United Kingdom for what was described as a routine medical check-up, but subsequently took ill.

Mr Buhari was Nigeria’s president between 2015 and 2023. He stepped down on 29 May 2023 after serving his constitutionally permitted two terms

Muhammadu Buhari also served as Nigeria's president twice: first as military head of state from 1983 to 1985

Some people rate BUHARI as best president ever while some believe that's there are some lapses, so as for you how will you rate BUHARI and what are you going to remember him for?

Source: obembet

The worst Nigerian president to date.

Everything about economy of Nigeria started nosediving the moment Bihari became the president.


I remember vividly praying to survive his era.

I also remember being scared for the next president after him, owing to the zero level Buhari has dragged Nigeria to, economically.

Firstorderwizard:
Back in the days, not attending church for just 1 sunday in a month makes one feel so guilty and incomplete but nowadays, one can stay months without attending church or any church program.
It is even getting more worst as one gets more learned and exposed.
Can I maintain my relationship with God without attending church on Sundays?
Could this affect my faith?if yes, how can I rekindle my zeal for attending church on Sundays?

Since it gives you concerns, you know it's not good for you missing church services.

From my experience, as a regular church attendance absentee, it's not good for you emotionally, socially and most importantly, spiritually.

Start going. Just do it.

Ask a trusted and committed member to come pick you up each time it's church time, if you can't achieve this on your own.

Don't believe the lie of a lone ranger Christian. It's a ploy from the master evil strategist- the devil.

heracles1:
no lies bro its like this always due to unemployment

It's well.

Mariangeles:
Plant another one. (Even more than one)
They don't take long to grow and bear fruits.



What do the ashes do?

The ashes serves as pesticide. It would stop the spoilage immediately.