₦airaland Forum

Wakatumbit:
My wife is very insecure and it's making me tired.
She's always suspicious of everything, I can't go out, I can't answer calls.
The worst part is that she will be keeping malice with me cus she's suspecting me, she won't even say anything to me.

If a someone who I don't want to talk to calls me on my phone, and I decline the call, she will take offense. There was a day my mum was calling me and I didn't answer the call on time, she became mad that it was a woman calling and I don't want to answer the call.

If I tell her I'm going to the gym in the evening she will become suspicious. I can't even talk to my clients who are females in her presence because she Will be always jealous.

As I write this, she isn't talking to me cus I went to the gym yesterday evening.

I'm tired. She has never caught me cheating before because it's something I don't do

Build her up emotionally, mentally, intellectually, physically with love, respect, openness and tete-a-tete (heart to heart loving discussions). Take her to gym with you, to church with you, to social meetings with you, introduce her with joy to your clients and female friends. Let her have unlimited access to your phone and phone conversations.

Then, you and she should make God number 1, in your life.

bolabizzle:
Just got word from a friend about someone who made the move from being a bank manager in Nigeria to working as a skyscraper cleaner in the UK. 😕

Smart move or not?

Bank managing job could be more time consuming and stress inducing than cleaning job. Sometimes in life, we need to take life easy and live a stressless life.

JasOnKruegEr:
Is this job worth it ? I am the manager of a betting shop and my monthly salary is 40,000.

I have been on the job for four years now and I'm thinking I'm not getting younger anymore . I joined the work with the aim of saving and sending myself to school I've tried for years now but it was unsuccessful.

I got promoted as a manager earlier this year, I felt it was the perfect opportunity for me to send myself to school as I will have the time and opportunity. To be able to go to school while also working.

The problem here is the cost of expenses . Transportation and food I spend a minimum of 1500 everyday and as a manager I have to go everyday Sunday to Saturday without off. If you calculate it I spend a minimum of 46000 which is more than my monthly salary for just food and transport. There are small perks like in terms of winning, people can give you a share inside but that doesn't happen always, sometimes I can go a week without getting 5 naira from anyone

. I haven't added other personal expenses to this, how much will remain that I am going to even save for school? Talk more of other shortages expected in the job.

What's the gain of stressing myself working from 8am to 9pm everyday only to spend more than my monthly salary on food and transport ?

I'm thinking of finding a better job but where is the work ?

Run to a village of your choice and start life as a farmer, if you can. Find out the perennial crops to plant on a rented land, pay your rent after harvest. Start small until you get enough money to buy your own land.

Bliss52:
Good one

Jagaban of borgu outlines his objectives

Tackle poverty and insecurity would reduce

Tackling the current political structure, the mindset of the citizens about patriotism above tribal and religious considerations, preaching integrity among the citizens, and leaders themselves showing examples of integrity, engaging traditional and religious leaders about the way forward, investing in infrastructures, boosting and supporting agro and allied activities, making security men accountable with enough support and motivation, maybe all these will help in reducing poverty and insecurity. May God give them the courage to act.

ImoleNaija:
For weeks, I have lost interest in sex. Even when I try to force the erection, I lose it before mounting, as there's no strength to sustain it at all. All her words of encouragement/motivation hold no water. She's so pitiful.


Experienced husbands, how do you manage your sex drives & financial depression?

How to make yourself happy

1. Reduce your food intake. Stop eating before you are full

2. Eat your first food by 12pm and second by 7pm, if you must eat twice.

3. Eat nature based foods like fruits, vegetables, nuts, seed

4. Shun processed foods

5. Read about deep breathing and practise it

6. Read about meditation and practise it

7. Get active often

8. Go outdoors often

9. Drink water at the first sign of hunger. Most hunger pangs are habits, especially the first ones. Just seeing someone eating food can make you salivate or get hungry

10. Socialize

11. Praise God and people a lot

12. Stop criticizing people

13. Read and study Bible regularly

14. Fellowship with God's people

15. Read good books

16. Do what you love for a living

17. Obey your conscience

18. Shun immoral life

19. Develop habits of being funny and making people happy around you

20. Replace negative thoughts about yourself and about others with positive thoughts

FarmBusinessNG:
They won't invest. Yet would discourage people from investing. When you knew you had such a negative mind, you could have kept it to yourself not to try to go against the objective of this thread.


I stay in a 20,000 - 40,000 acres community in Oyo state. Been year since two years now


You people should stop lacing peoples thread with negative vibes. If you won't invest, quietly vacate peoples threads without polluting it.

This is my whatsapp number 08088414431.

Let's talk.

Vintage9999:
Nice. How did you do it? Maths scared sh** out of me back then and I'll like to learn it all over again. Infact it's the only dent I had in my internal WAEC

I like to overcome any thing that scares me in life and Maths happens to be one of them.


These are the things I did:

1.Get good textbooks like Hidden Facts For SSCE Mathematics by M. A. Otumudia and Teach Yourself Mathematics by Vincent Nwankpa and pour over them every day or at any available time.

2. Also, look for someone to teach you anyone you don't understand.

3. You can also learn faster by reading with the mind to teach anyone that comes to you for help.

4. In fact, look for someone to teach. It will help you a lot.

immortalcrown:
[sup][/sup]Na so your own righteousness dey do you?

Point out the deception in my comment or admit that you are a false accuser. I said, "May God...". I didn't say, "God will...". Does my comment support her action?

Too much of everything is bad. You now think everything you say is correct just because you are preaching. Preaching is good but should be guided by reasoning.

It looks like you are neither here nor there and you don't want to be corrected. If someone dare correct you, you attack the person. No neutral ground. No offense, please. I come and go in peace.
🏃🏃 🏃

Laird:
Did.the job force or make the person work.on the job 24 hours a day, 7 days a week


Did the company stop the person from resigning or changing jobs


If where you buy food shuts down, won't You find an option

Please it's good for opinions to be balanced

Even the Founders and.Owners of Businesses Pass on too

Don't they pass on and Business still.continues

I entered a mortuary and saw a picture.of.the Founder who is now late

So.the mortuary Should close down because the founder.is.Late

A place nearby had the owner pass on

The place is still.running

Businesses would continue even if the founders or staff are no more

Even.overseas, many companies are still running even though the founders are no more alive

I once worked in a company where I heard that the company produced the highest number of cases of soft drink the very day of the Chairman's demise. What a way to celebrate 🎉 the owner's death! Spend time with yourself, not just with your family and friends. Life is short.

LadyRosa2:
Oooh!

That's bad. Unfortunately, she will get the kids because they are still too small.

But who the hell leaves a marriage that produces triplet?You don't abandon such rare miracle, but I will never understand why people do somethings you know.

I am shocked 😲 to know that a marriage couple 👫 that birthed such a miracle could divorce so fast. The devil 👿 is really evil and wicked. Those bundles of joy 😂 don't deserve this immature and irresponsible behavior. I am sorry 🙏, I have to sound like this, you guys should retrace your steps to when the going was going good. Please and please, remember the good old days. I PLEAD.

budaatum:
You perhaps have not yet looked hard enough or you been looking in the wrong places or you just can't see.

It's well. God will help all of us.

Uyi168:
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the same Nigerian universities where people bagged first class??

most times, people often become more serious with their life when they relocate.
its not everytime we blame the system. The fault can also come from the individuals.

She even hinted that the fault was hers and not the lecturers', if not she wouldn't be carrying emotional burdens of OLODO Label.

budaatum:
As in, other girls will value the opinion of the inexperienced kids in here who will come and announce their wife's virgin state on Nairaland?

If chastity is a thing, I too want to marry a virgin.

Any virgin men available please? Kids, do not apply!

I am yet to see such a woman.

opicgif:
i want to go back to school
to study law
ive always wanted to do this but felt i would be too old
as of last year, ive seen a lot of older people graduating or in law school
rotimi amaechi is an example

which private university can i go to, and still live off campus with my family
i am in rivers state
i am excluding RSU and Uniport,
i would want to carry out this endeavour without delay from ASUU strikes

any suggestions?

One man's food, another's poison. I don't envy you at all. My own dream is to read Maths in a Higher Institution after Mathematics almost scared me out of secondary school. Even though I read English Language and Literature, I have demystified Mathematics. Today, I even teach Maths in different homes for a living.

AntiChristian:
See the crowd he dey preach to!

Do you know the Bible didn't record almost anything about Jesus from just after birth till he reached 30 years?

Do you know Jesus preached while he was a few days old in the Qur'an and not the Bible?

I remember attacking a church that came to my village in the 90's, only to be a staunch member of the church I was previously attacking. God of Mercy, have mercy on those of us who talk, when we don't even know a jack of what we are talking about!

budaatum:
By sharing what privately happens between himself and the wife I hope he loves and respects.

Or does god mind in 2022 suggest he cleave unto the entertainment of a Nairaland audience?

My opinion is that other girls in the house may copy his wife's example of chastity, knowing that chastity is still a thing to be proud of.

budaatum:
You may think you are talking about your wife whom you hope becomes the mother of your child but I must warn you that you are actually presenting yourself so satan meddles in your future which will be shortened thereby.

Negative mindset! How is he presenting himself for Satan to meddle with his marriage, by sharing a testimony of chastity?

Redomi:
There is this big rat that comes every night to eat our cocoa pods. We have two cocoa trees in our compound. I killed the male rat last week and I killed the female today.
It is forbidden for any Ondo ekimogun born to eat the big rat. So I'm going to sell it off.

Do people still forbid to eat some meat in this 21st century? If you say you don't like it, that's understandable. Well, What if you eat it without telling any soul? Sure nothing would happen.

27yo:


It’s really tough honestly
Same applies to an entrepreneur.

I’m currently into transportation business and honestly I wake up and I just wish I’ll vanish.

I’ve totally lost interest in everything

Hmmmmmmm! 🥱 😲 Transportation business is not your passion. Call upon your own mind and discover what you really like to do for a living!

beekind:
I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me .
I have met her family and she has met mine, we are already planning marriage and have started counselling sessions in her church.

She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

I am at crossroads now, its not too late but walking away at this point will be very costly for me since we have already started plans towards the wedding and our families are already in touch.

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

Don't marry her if you REALLY WANT YOUR OWN BIOLOGICAL CHILDREN.

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[quote author=Meerahbel post=127140007][/quote]It's not easy but try your best.
Stoop to conquer. Massage her ego. Show her compassion. Make her feel important. Make her your friend. You can't genuinely want to help someone and she will still be a torn in your flesh.

Authoreety:
Simple, face your work and refuse to be stressed by any body..

Me na baba for that style... But when I'm ready to resign, i will give you back your dose in full quantity, pressed down and shaken together..

Some bosses can be crazy Sha,but silence is golden

The best way is to "stoop to conquer" and knowing that the way up 👆 is down 👇, let him beg, negotiate and pray. If that doesn't help, let him save himself the stress and quit alive. A living dog is better than a dead lion. Not everyone has negative spirit for fighting. He who fights and runs, lives to fight another day.

advanceDNA:
Everytime I don't want to believe in village pple.... Some weird story like this pops up

Why don't white people accuse village people like Africans?!!! Just tired! 🥱 😲 🤣 😂

pdppower:
If you have experienced the bad side of Nigerian police, it may be too hard to pray for a dead one to rest in peace, but then we should learn to forgive and pray for them to RIP

There are good people in Nigerian Police, but the bad outnumbers the good.

[quote author= post=126803214]Update From . COM

A Female worshipper identified as Bisi Adewumi of the Mountain of Fire and Miracles Ministries reportedly slumped during a prayer session at the church auditorium in the Ibafo area of Ogun State.

The Worshipper, who was described as a 75-year-old woman by the Ogun State Police Command, was said to have later lost her life while receiving treatment at a government hospital in Sagamu.

The Police said the incident was reported to its Ibafo division by the Head of Security, Pastor Ekikere Esiere, attached to the prayer city, located along the Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, on Friday.

The Command stated that Esiere claimed the deceased was immediately rushed to the church clinic for medical attention after she slumped at about 5:30 p.m. on Thursday.

Subsequently, the deceased was said to have been further referred to the Sagamu General Hospital, where she was said to have been later pronounced dead while receiving treatment on Friday.

Meanwhile, in a chat with PUNCH Metro on Saturday, the State Police Public Relations Officer, Omolola Odutola, said the corpse had been deposited at the hospital morgue.

“No relatives of the deceased had come to claim the body yet. She’s suspected to be a 75-year-old woman. In the meantime, the investigation is still ongoing,” she stated in a WhatsApp message on Saturday.

Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/worshiper-slumps-dies-during-prayer-in-ogun-church/%3famp[/quote]Blaming the church for this is myopic. Death can occur any time, anywhere, anyhow when your time is due.

richiemcgold:
It is very easy to identify a fake ministry;
Except you're a gullible Christian.

On point!

Herdsmen:
As long as there are people benefiting and living large under the government, through the political class..
... and there are others hoping to benefit if and when their own person enter ..

You’re just wasting time with this article ..

Restructure Nigeria .. and Nigeria will be great..

They current structure is the basis of everything wrong .

They pay us to use us against ourselves. They rent us to fight ourselves. They know we are hungry, and not all hungry people us their brains. Ironically, hunger is supposed to make someone wise. Summary: it's not politicians' fault - they are paying us for using us!

officialwdhtv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FnptmurmPBo

Your job is secured- President Tinubu tells his aides after receiving news the Supreme Court affirmed him as Nigeria’s president.

So, it's a job and not a service. I need that kind of too o!

SoNature:
Why would you want to retire when you are busy enjoying the good things of life after deceiving your members not to enjoy them for several decades?

Fallacious statement. Can not be substantiated. The best route to passion, happiness, wealth and sound health is selfless service to humanity! Kumuyi began his ministry work when preaching was never a promising career. Go and verify!

Lamanii22:
Okay so uh… I have been reading a lot about men complaining about how their wives wouldn’t have sex with them after having kids…. The truth is… sex is harder to have after birthing a baby or more babies, it’s even more harder to feel aroused when you have a toddler to care for, a baby that wants to feed all time, the lack of sleep you get, doing the cookings, making the house clean….

Men please pity your wives too, try to be discipline your p***s….. it’s not easy on the woman too… thank you…

No woman can resist a loving and caring husband. Impossible!

crystalmoon:
They claim to have figure everything out about raising children into respectable and good adults
I guess those politicians are from mars
They claim to have figured everything out about god and religion I guess those wrecking havoc and causing unrest are from Pluto
They claim to have figured everything out about marriage
Seems the highest rate of spousal abandonment was brought out of thin air

You don't believe what others are saying, right? Must you tell us about your unbelief about what others are saying? Life is about individuals. I think it's a good thing to be- and let others be! BE POSITIVE ALWAYS ANYWHERE YOU FIND YOURSELF.