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Rapmoney:
This is just a piece of my opinion which is based on the realities on ground. Nigerian men should not lower their guard when it comes to dating and marriage. We compromise too much when it involves romance, especially among our Eastern brothers.

Arinze, you dey hustle since you graduate in 2010. You don toil sotay the skin for your palms don hard like Okpella granite. Now, Baba God don show you love small, come bless you with comfortable life. The first thing you did was to pick a girl from a financially weak background for dating or marriage because of big yansh and breasts. You polished her and has also done a lot for her family. Let me tell you, that same girl and her family would not accept you if you weren't comfortable.

In Nigeria, it's only bad for a man to be broke and not a lady. Broke men are useless while broke women are angels.

If you are a man who has struggled very hard to achieve comfort for yourself, you need a class of woman who will complement your status and not just anybody because that same anybody no go send you if you no get bread.

The only women that should be deserving of your financial generosity should be your mum and sisters. Except she is a girl who has supported you of which I know it is very scarce to see in Nigeria. Getting a Nigeria girl who can support you, even if it is shikini these days is like betting on Enugu Rangers to beat Manchester City and still expecting to win.

Na as e be me for mind I talk am. I know say this post fit vex some people.

All that glitters is not gold. Beware of rich ladies! To see wife material among them may be a little bit hard.

HRHQueenPhil:
Fit of anger is an opening for the devil to cause mayhem
I pray his soul rest in peace and madam is granted liniency

Hmmmmmmm! Put yourself in the shoes of the deceased's family.

[quote author= post=126048392]A Man has begged for forgiveness after he was allegedly caught stealing bunches of plantain in Sagamu, Ogun State.

One Ologe Clement said the suspect was caught on Wednesday morning, September 27, 2023.

According to him, the suspect claimed he hadn't eaten for days.

“THE COUNTRY IS HARD... PLANTAIN THIEF WAS CAUGHT THIS MORNING IN SAGAMU, CLAIMING HE HASN'T EATING FOR DAY'S... what should be his punishment Drop your comment in the the comments section,” he wrote.

See Photos And Reaction As Obtained By Below:

Source: . COM[/quote]Imagine the stolen immature plantain. It's well. We can go to the village instead of stealing in the city. I think that is more honorable.

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years.

He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night.

But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.

Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work.

Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.

The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.

She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.

I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.

He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.

HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

My opinion: call him for a meeting, open your heart to him just as you are opening it to us now.

Start going to a Bible believing church where you can get sound biblical words and counsel.

Listen to your spirit if you know you are on the Lord's side. God will speak to you.

Pray for him, counsel him, show him unconditional love, go to the internet to learn how to "seduce your husband the Christian way" Do all these and thank me later!

BoldBrainz:
Dear Tonto Dikeh:

He who comes to equity must do so with clean hands.

You have no iota of moral standing to chastise someone else, mostly on the issue of promiscuity. You're a stark epitome of sexual indecency, a repulsive testament to feminine toxicity and the very representation of condemnable societal immorality.

It beggars laughter that a character of your classification can find words to call a man to societal judgement when your pants are hardly ever sitting on your waist to cover the putrid contents of your never-closing legs.

So on this issue, you're "he" who ought to be stoned, if Tunde Bakare is to be the comparative yardstick.

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Interesting15:
Since I was born and up until now, I've been receiving different gifts from different sources. However, I will talk about the greatest gift I received many years ago when I was still a very young teenager, that changed my life forever.

First of all, this gift was given to me by GOD Himself, and is best summarized in John 3:16 -

"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life."

So, God has been loving me way before I was born. And what is the proof of His love for me? He gave me His pleasant Gift! The greatest Gift ever! What's the Gift? THE GIFT OF SALVATION THROUGH FAITH IN JESUS CHRIST!
Wow!

The greatest decision I made that transformed my life was when I decided to embrace His gift and surrender my life genuinely to Jesus Christ years back as a young teenager, making the decision to serve HIM and maintain a good relationship with HIM in spirit and in truth.

That decision changed everything about me, and my relationship with God empowered me in all important ways. Despite being a very young person, I could live above sin, the devil and hell. Hence, I couldn't even relate with addictions and heartaches and headaches that are prominent in the circle of many young folks.

I received the gift of the Holy Spirit, which is the prominent gift God is eager to give His begotten children (those who have received the gift of salvation) as a loving Father (Luke 11:13).

The greatest gift God is eager to give an unbeliever is salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. The greatest gift God is eager to give a child of His (i.e. a baby Christian) is the Holy Spirit. The greatest gift God is eager to commit to His sons (a mature believer who has received and is faithful with the gifts of salvation and the Holy Spirit) is the keys of His kingdom.

By accepting the gifts of God, I embraced a relationship with Jesus which set me on the pathway of destiny and purpose fulfillment early enough. Hence, I don't experience idleness, hopelessness, and helplessness. I've never been stranded in my life. The Holy Ghost empowered me for dominion.

Jesus is sweet.

The greatest decision you can make today is to accept the gift God has been offering you too. It starts by embracing Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, and you nurturing an intimate relationship with God your Father. This is what will empower you to live a life of complete dominion here on earth, and make you a sure candidate of Heaven (the rapture will take place anytime soon).

Run away from sin, and live your life for GOD. It is your destiny to live inside GOD through Jesus Christ Who is the Way, the Truth and the Life. Only Jesus Christ could boldly proclaim: "I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." (John 14:6).

If you want to submit to Jesus, simply say this prayer:

"LORD JESUS, I believe in my heart that You died for me and You raised on the third day for my justification. And so I confess with my mouth that You are my Lord and Savior. From today, I belong to the family of God. Thank You for giving me eternal life."

God bless you.

https://www.sundayakanni.com/2023/09/the-gift-i-received-that-changed-my.html?m=1

Great! Keep it up!

fadilaMaikiriki:
Whenever I take milk, I tend to fart uncontrollably, like non-stop farting. Imagine you being with someone and the person is farting every three or five minutes. Honestly, this can be so annoying for the fartee and embarrassing for the farter.

The farts is the type that make the "ssshhhhhhhhhhh" sound. And sometimes the fart becomes noisy or vibrates.

Please, what can I do to remedy this? What can I do to stop the fart? It happens whenever I take milk. I take pap alot( infact I prefer pap to tea), and I take the pap with milk because I don't use sugar. Please, is there any alternative? Maybe a better milk that I can use for the pap.

Please, is there any one here who has/is experiencing this?

Or is it because of that particular company's product (milk)?

Has anyone here experienced this?

I would really appreciate your inputs, suggestions/opinions.

Thanks.

Why do you take cow milk when you are not a baby cow? Why do you take human breast milk, when you are not a baby? Listen to your body alarm clock and thank me later. Take plant milk like almond, coconut- the immature one, especially, and soya and tigernut milk, not animal milk. As you grow older, the less animal products, the better for you!

englishmart:
Lagos is the only southwestern state that can produce non-indigenous wealthy people. You see osun, ondo, kwara, Oyo, ogun, and Ekiti, those ones have no indigenous millionaires let alone non-indigenous ones. Lagos is their UK. I remember lodging in Ekiti in January, I was told to bathe in a nearby river if I needed to have a bath. I was given dirty wrapper, bucket and soap. While we were still discussing, I saw an army of bedbugs dancing around the corner. I had to forfeit the #1500 per night I already paid and left before they mined my skul.
Ogun state is so backward that they call primary school college:

Lagos is built by the colonialists and non-indigenes. Yorubas contribution to the growth of Lagos is puny and can easily go unnoticed

Edited: kwara is north central, but a former Yoruba state that was forcefully snatched from the loudspeaking cowards

You mean no good hotel in Ekiti State? I guess it depends on where you went to lodge.

Ebubu:
What do you think?




Reno Omokri

How come part of the Kano form was not completely displayed in the capture? Why? To misinform the public? God knows!

Yankiss:
Sure. There are too many for this space. A summary of one or two would suffice. When I lost my dad, I became the Regent to the vacant throne as he was a king. I was young. Ambitious chiefs saw me as vulnerable and easily dispensable. I had nothing. The chiefs surrounding me were pliable and easily betrayed me because they felt I was very vulnerable to the array of strong forces lined against me. God took over. I found courage I didn't know I had. Each time there was an oncoming challenge, God showed me everything in a vision. The weaknesses of the fomenters and how to overcome them. If I had no money, enough money to solve all issues came my way inexplicably. Thus, I found myself winning unprecedented battles for which no one gave me a single chance. If I give a blow by blow account, you would be really shocked. When I was young and read how God intervened among the Israelites, I thought it was fairy tales. Now, I know better!! God is real and works for good for them who place their trust in Him.

Thanks for sharing this. God bless you real good.

TheMaterialist:
Only when the strict parents show the children
love and care.

Without that it's pointless.

Point nailed. Balance is the key. End of discussion.

Zonefree:
Everybody don dey form writer on top mohbad's demise. Una no write all these epistles when e dey alive.

There are lots of artist alive going through same predicament now, una no go see something write about them, na until they kick bucket na when una go begin write nonsense!

World people love to celebrate the dead more than the living. Mad world!

Good point there! Don't blame people. You can start the good work if you observe people aren't doing the right thing now! Start writing about emotionally troubled artists NOW! SARCASM NOT IMPLIED PLEASE!

ResidentSnitch:
Honestly, I didn't read the details but I know that he's indirectly trying to blame Buhari

We all know where the rain began to beat us. However, we don't need to mention the place. Mentioning it would amount to scratching the wound!

Yankiss:
That's our big God in action. I utterly believe you because I can relate. Those who keep their trust in Him are never let down! Some doubting Thomases may not believe this. But it is REAL! I had a similar experience, though not exactly this way. Congratulations!!! God is GOOD.

God is real. Please, if you don't mind, kindly share your testimony with me.

boltwings:
this was a job that I was not 100% qualified for but by God's grace I got the job. Let me just say I was 50% qualified and have not handled the kind of job before but have an idea about it. The task was huge and the salary was over 200k few years back. I was wondering how I could handle the whole thing and I was managing the whole branches under me and others.

But God came into the picture.

Each time I sleep, I ask God to help me do my job well. Then as I sleep, I begin to see excell spread sheet tables on how the job is to be done, how it's supposed to be arranged. Sometimes I will sleep and begin to see different analysis reports, the corporate management processes involved. As I was seeing all these, I was implementing them live and suggesting new things to the company and providing solutions to problems.

There was no kind of inventory analysis I didn't do and submitted all kinds of reports.

God too much jare, what ever you are currently facing just put God into the equation, even if you fail, then it's God's will.

Renkasediyaba
Shalom.

Thanks for sharing this to motivate people. I like this kind of testimonies.

NwaAmaikpe:



Where's the testimony here, her life is an unrewritable tragedy and she's stuck in denial.

I understand men being sexually attracted to their first cousins, their mom's younger sister or their wife's mother because I've been in that boat.

But I'd never understand how someone will find his own daughter sexually attractive.

Common on! This lady is healed. If not, you can't be reading her story. She would have kept it a top secret. And that's what the devil ( the die-hard enemy of our souls) wants.

CandidAdmin:
As the question goes, how many people have you said I love you to?

For me it's zero.

Question for the day - How many of them did you mean?

I don't think this statement should be used with someone for whom we have emotional attachment to only. It could be used freely among family members- siblings, platonic friends, parents to children and vice versa and so on.

IyaTola:
What makes you wake up everyday and sit at your desk & continue being happy st what you do?
A. Feeling Valued
B. Career progression
C. Pay
D. Other benefits

Having a place to go in the morning, to contribute, to share what I know, to help, to be and of course getting paid for doing so at the end of day is a big privilege.

BluntCrazeMan:
From @General_Oluchi on X-(Formerly-Twitter)


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Source:
https://twitter.com/General_Oluchi/status/1694899224083677230

Teach the petitioner and respondent the joy in sharing, and the ripple effect of making another human to be happy.

jackmrandy:
ask for past note. once school resume, look for the best student in that school, that is a class above the one you will be teaching and collect his or note or get in touch with the principal and collect their old lesson note. And all in all , read to get your self equipped in that subject area that you will be teaching in.

Including asking other teachers for help, then ask God to forgive you and go and sin no more.

jackmrandy:
So this morning I left my house going out to MY place of hustle. Boarded one of those commercial bus, and off we go. On getting to my bus stop close to a bridge, I saw crowd looking at a sack of waste bin. the look on their face, you could tell something was wrong. I got out from the bus and went and view for myself, behold a dead baby (about 8 or 9 months) placed in the sack and no clothes, not cleaned, unblical cord dangling out. I would have snapped but the site rolled tears from my eyes and as such no need to bring out my phone to snap.

what could make a woman after carrying pregnancy for over six months, and still end up killing or dumping the baby in waste bin ?

secondly, even if that baby was dead on delivery, are dead babies supposed to be dumped in the waste bin like normal waste?

We all know the economy is hard on everyone, but its not a yardstick for a man/woman to have unprotected sex, resulting in pregnancy and at the end start looking for where to do abortion.


this act could have been done by young girl/lady who probably didn't know what to do or the person who impregnated her absconded.

Babies are gift from God if you can't take care of a baby, no need carrying a pregnancy. and even if you will carry the pregnancy, make arrangement with an orphanage home and keep the baby there.

So many women in their 30's and 40's are still looking for this gift, but they are yet to get it.

Church, Mosque, Traditionalists, and Institutions of learning should educate more on this. And most especially, parents train your girl child in the right way so that society will not be seeing things like this.

Photo: used for illustration

It's well.

Rapmoney:
It seems as if private school owners in Nigeria belong to a secret cult that is hidden from the public, and which is different from the usual private school owners association that we know of. It's as if anyone who opens a school is forced to join this 'evil association' with utmost alacrity. Why do I feel so? There is a laid down pattern which almost everyone of them follows. To suck you, use you and drain the youthfulness out of your soul.

All over the world, July/August is usually a long holiday when teachers take out time to rest, go on vacations or engage in acquiring new skills that could even be outside their field. What we usually observe in Nigeria is different from this. In Nigeria, it is a time where school owners engage teachers in fruitless and vain holiday lesson just to suck money from gullible parents and prevent the teachers from engaging in other endeavours that can improve their lives and wellbeing.

If you're a young person and you work in a private school, I beg you, have different plans for yourself and set targets for the duration you wish to work in the school, if you don't want your life to become wasted. There is no career growth in Nigerian private schools. The highest that will be offered you when you work for 10/12 years is the post of a principal/headmaster/headmistress and with a salary of 70k - 80k. After that, what happens? Of course, you can't be promoted to occupy the school owner's position.

Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that working in a private school is bad. What I am saying is that as a young person, don't stay too long on the job. Lest you waste your life.

Dem say 'dey do am till better job come, dey do am till better job come, na so Brother Okrimona take turn 58 years for inside teaching job.

Would you do differently if you were a private school owner? Let's turn the table around. Hope you no go vex. A no own a private school, please.

[quote [code][/code][i][/i]author=SocialJustice post=125259361]There's no need limiting anything. Poverty will teach any unwise family a bitter lesson. This is not even a time to get married, talk of having children.

Those who can afford it, please carry on but those that are assuming starting a family will bring financial breakthrough, safe journey too.[/quote]Marry, then you and your wife, head to your village or any of your choice, beg, rent or whatever for farmland, then, plant both annual crops and fruit trees. Thank me years later

Brokeness:
Good day nairalanders. I believe this is a great forum with lots of intelligent folks.. and that is why I have come to seek your counsel. Even though I haven't met anyone here but nairaland is like my online family


I think these are some key facts to note before you dish your advice (s). Here we go;


-I am a 23 years old male.
-I am the only son and eldest in a family of 2 and my dad is late.
-I am in 100 level (sponsored by my mum's relations) doing a 4 years course but sorry to say this, I don't rate school at all.. just there for the certificate (even though the course is highly rated)
-I am a pump attendant on a 25k salary (night work 7PM to 6AM) with one night off in a week.
-I have a nice USA used HP laptop that is laying idle in my room and my strong Tecno camon which can be used to learn some valuable skills.
-Lastly, I have the zeal to learn an online skill that can be very profitable in 3 to 6 months time and would stand the test of time in a long time to come; but I don't know which, how or where to start from. I seriously need to add another source of income (online) as this my current work is exhausting coupled with my schooling. No rest at all.


Pls my elders in the house, I sincerely need your advice at this critical point in my life. I don't want to make a grave mistake of not learning an online skill and be left out in the digital word. I don't want to continue forever in paid employment. It's no fun. I want to help myself and my family. I don't want to explain tire..


Kindly feel free to ask me whatever you may need to know. I will be reading from the comments. Thanks.

Please, don't get it twisted, the word "brokenness" doesn't mean being broke, but it is a positive word that means being gentle, godly, meek, humble, gracious etc. So, don't give the word a negative meaning.

Shalommy:
Over stressed... Chaiii...

On point. Painful! Beware of stress.

Higherthan:
The most useless and lazy people we have in THIS economy are those supporting that fraudulent man called OBI, they will soon flood this thread to rant as usual, they don't see anything positive with their eyes 👀 foolish 🐷.

Good guy- you are very intelligent!

Hollyharjii:
I know one day I'll get an offer letter, so I can understand all these parlance, but before then... I'll keep applying and applying

Your desire shall come to pass. But please if your employer doesn't agree with your opinion, please don't fight or shed blood!

[quote author=IyaTola post=125330110][/quote]Hmmmmmmmmm! Thanks Sir for sharing this!

TemplarLandry:
I'd withdraw my child from that Ellupee type of school. Straight up.

Then I would dedicate “Teacher Don't Teach Me Noņsense” by Fela to the school. Great jam!

It's disappointing! But what if it could happen to anyone?! Just thinking loud, though.

imoh4king:
Guys, please what causes this disgusting and irritating habits.
I have met people and friends on streets, construction sites that keep clearing their throat and later spit saliva at every short interval.
I actually thought this is because some of them live around dirty environment. Other reasons should be frequent alcohol drinking or guys who are induced to taking snuff.

How do you feel when you are around this people with such irritating habits.

Not how do I feel, but how do I help?
Not a sickness, a symptom of


Too much Animal products
Too much chemical food,drinks, smoke and drugs etc

Advise with wisdom.

jogojogo:
My younger brother passed on almost a month ago after being admitted for 3 month at UCH Ibadan. The young man was in his twenties who just wrote is last paper in February. He was diagnosed of aplastic anaemia and was under medical attention untill he passed on.

The death came to us with deep sorrow and pain. I have tried to move on even though it's difficult. I still cry every day secretly but my biggest concern right now is how to get my mother to move on. She has remain unconsolable as every morning I could hear her cries as early as 4.00am daily. I had to be with her in her room talking to her.

Soon, I will be travelling and I am worried she may never find any reason to be happy.

I have spoken to her in my little wisdom and don't even know what else to be telling her.

I need our advice please on how better to handle this and what can be done to effectively help the situation

Console her from all the verses from the bible like Rom8:28 on hope, the goodness of God in all circumstances and omniscience of God.