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Dpharmacist:
Theme: “Access to Services — Mental Health in Catastrophes and Emergencies”

Let’s be honest — life itself feels like a constant emergency these days.
Everywhere you turn, there’s chaos — from rising costs to insecurity, floods, job losses, and uncertainty about tomorrow.

And yet, in all this, very few people ever stop to ask:
👉 “How are you really holding up?”

This year’s theme hits home because mental health struggles don’t only happen to people in war zones or disaster areas.
They happen to the woman who lost her shop in a fire.
To the man who got laid off after years of service.
To the student drowning in anxiety because of school pressure.
To the mother who can’t sleep because her child is sick and hospitals are too expensive.
To the survivor of violence who smiles outside but is breaking inside.

For many Nigerians (and people around the world), there’s no one to talk to, no safe place to heal, no real access to help.
Therapy is expensive, government support is almost non-existent, and even friends sometimes say, “Just pray about it.”

But mental health isn’t something to pray away or ignore — it’s health.
And just like malaria or diabetes, it needs attention, care, and understanding.

We all go through storms — some visible, some hidden.
So today, let’s remind ourselves and everyone around us:
💚 It’s okay not to be okay.
💬 It’s okay to ask for help.
🤝 It’s okay to rest, cry, or take a break when it gets too heavy.

Most importantly, let’s stop judging and start supporting.
Because sometimes, a listening ear can save a life.

So:

How are you really doing — mentally and emotionally?
Have you ever gone through something that affected your mental health, but you had no access to help?
Share your thoughts — someone out there might need to hear your story today. 🌿

#WorldMentalHealthDay #MentalHealthAwareness #ItsOkayNotToBeOkay #YouAreNotAlone #MentalHealthInEmergencies

What can you do in a world that only recognizes physical health problem as the only problem?
What can you do when you don't have money to fix your mental health?
What can you do when friends call you lazy because you are struggling mentally and you could not hold down a job or even take a new job?
What can you do when people closest to you do not understand your struggles but you can only pray and wish that one day, a miracle will come from the sky?

The only thing you can do is to pray that the miracle comes and if it doesn't, pray that the father takes you home. Whichever one comes you will be fine. It is well.

[quote author=Dpharmacist post=137076571]Theme: “Access to Services — Mental Health in Catastrophes and Emergencies”

Let’s be honest — life itself feels like a constant emergency these days.
Everywhere you turn, there’s chaos — from rising costs to insecurity, floods, job losses, and uncertainty about tomorrow.

And yet, in all this, very few people ever stop to ask:
👉 “How are you really holding up?”

This year’s theme hits home because mental health struggles don’t only happen to people in war zones or disaster areas.
They happen to the woman who lost her shop in a fire.
To the man who got laid off after years of service.
To the student drowning in anxiety because of school pressure.
To the mother who can’t sleep because her child is sick and hospitals are too expensive.
To the survivor of violence who smiles outside but is breaking inside.

For many Nigerians (and people around the world), there’s no one to talk to, no safe place to heal, no real access to help.
Therapy is expensive, government support is almost non-existent, and even friends sometimes say, “Just pray about it.”

But mental health isn’t something to pray away or ignore — it’s health.
And just like malaria or diabetes, it needs attention, care, and understanding.

We all go through storms — some visible, some hidden.
So today, let’s remind ourselves and everyone around us:
💚 It’s okay not to be okay.
💬 It’s okay to ask for help.
🤝 It’s okay to rest, cry, or take a break when it gets too heavy.

Most importantly, let’s stop judging and start supporting.
Because sometimes, a listening ear can save a life.

So:

How are you really doing — mentally and emotionally?
Have you ever gone through something that affected your mental health, but you had no access to help?
Share your thoughts — someone out there might need to hear your story today. 🌿

#WorldMentalHealthDay #MentalHealthAwareness #ItsOkayNotToBeOkay #YouAreNotAlone #MentalHealthInEmergencies[/quote

What can you do in a world that only recognizes physical health problem as the only problem?
What can you do when you don't have money to fix your mental health?
What can you do when friends call you lazy because you are struggling mentally and you could not hold down a job or even take a new job?
What can you do when people closest to you do not understand your struggles but you can only pray and wish that one day, a miracle will come from the sky?

The only thing you can do is to pray that the miracle comes and if it doesn't, pray that the father takes you home. Whichever one comes you will be fine. It is well.

Manny21:
Good thread. I have lived with this for close to twenty years with no known solution

I have lived with athletes foot for more than a decade, if I can remember exactly.

Let her be. Move on with your life. You don't have a wife. You have a shameless and an unremorseful cheat.

casdoruche:
*Flie photo attached by admiin for illustration.

Let us not be quick to blame them there is much poverty in the land. It takes a lot of courage to beg. People should not be ashamed to beg if that is an alternative to stealing or to do something more horrible than that.
On the flip side, it is not bad to give tips to those people you have mentioned. Tips are common everywhere in the world but it is just that I doubt if those in the advanced countries, (where getting daily meal is not a problem) ask for tips before they are given.

ChildOfDoom:
My dad is currently in a miserable state. One of his legs is swollen. He is having issues urinating properly. A man who once looked sturdy and active, now looks lean and feeble.

In earlier years, he was known for constant womanising and drinking. He was always in debt from gambling too (fled past location).

Health complications have meant that he now spends anything he solicits on drug.

Here I am, a boy of 33, doing worse atrocities than him. I feel I am young now and I can fight off any challenge, unknowingly I am complicating issues for myself. I long to stop but hard.

I started a 33 days abstinence plan which I have failed to keep. I squandered around 70k yesterday in a brothel after getting an alert of six digits.

My addictions are: std and loperamide drugs regular intake (one to fight std and the other to fight regular stooling), up to 3 carbonated drinks daily, betting, womanising, borrowing when unable to pay, junk food and masturbation.

God help us


I go again

Day 1 - 25th September

Womanising free


Day 4 - betting-free

I can't say it better than Rollingdollar. Give your life to Jesus and your addition will be over. Pray for strength on daily basis to overcome temptation to give up. Refuse to give in and the Lord will help you. Change your moniker to Childofgreatness

Matthew 11:28 call Mom for me or you can labor and every lady I will give you rest may God give you rest in Jesus name.

Kutunban:
OG

I can't say it better than Rollingdollar. Give your life to Jesus and your addition will be over. Pray for strength on daily basis to overcome temptation to give up. Refuse to give in and the Lord will help you. Change your moniker to Childofgreatness

Matthew 11:28 call Mom for me or you can labor and every lady I will give you rest may God give you rest in Jesus name.

Rollingdollar:
Addictions are demonic and is only Christ that can free you from such bondage. Sincerely give you life to Christ and change the course of your life , don't end up like your dad because you weren't proud of his lifestyle, self-realization is the beginning of freedom. Christ is the solution to your problems

I can't say it better than Rollingdollar. Give your life to Jesus and your addiction will be over. Pray for strength on daily basis to overcome temptation to give up. Refuse to give in and the Lord will help you. Change your moniker to Childofgreatness

Matthew 11:28 call Mom for me or you can labor and every lady I will give you rest may God give you rest in Jesus name.

Thundafireseun:
Validation seekers

Attention seekers

The Bible is no longer a standard for Christianity….

What Christians agree this days is only what their General overseer approves for them

It well with you. May God help you.

Host78:
Why do we lie to ourselves this much to the point we accept the lies as truth?

Like how does marriage make sex beautiful? One of the reason most men divorce their wives is because of poor sex.

Yet everyday we delude ourselves with this nonsense.

Sex is sex. Whether in marriage or outside of marriage. The results are the same for chrissake!

If you love someone, it doesn't matter whether or not you're married, you'll enjoy the second with them. Not all the time but most of the time.

Let's stop witg this utter garbage and redundant talks and start using our head for once

Why will you engage in a sexual act with a person with whom you are not married? Does it elevate your soul or spirit or does it dampen your spirit?

Melagros:
COMRADES, am I the only one who doesn't have interest in what this girl is doing at the moment?

Definitely not!. But whatever legit you can do to stay afloat financially, please let's jump at it, if it won't hurt anyone.

[quote author=FutureFocus post=

you see many graduates that knows nothing , it’s a shame[/quote]It should have been "... you see many graduate that know nothing." not '... you see many graduates that knows nothing."

RevenuesBoost:
Marriage Is Not for the Weak, Selfish, or Irresponsible Man

Let’s speak truth:

You can marry beauty.
You can marry loyalty.
You can marry a woman with a heart of gold.

But if you’re immature, emotionally lazy, or careless with her trust—
You didn’t marry a wife. You took advantage of a gift you weren’t ready to receive.

Because most marriages don’t fall apart from the outside—
They fall when the man inside the house stops showing up fully.


1. WEAK MEN AVOID HARD THINGS

A weak man shuts down in conflict.
Avoids tough conversations.
Runs from responsibility.

He calls her “emotional” when she just wants clarity.
He calls her “too much” when she just needs effort.

A real man leads with humility, not ego.
He doesn’t just provide—he protects emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.

If pressure makes you disappear, you’re not leading—you’re escaping.



2. SELFISH MEN DRAIN THEIR WIVES

Marriage is not a one-way street.

If you expect peace but bring chaos…
If you demand respect but give none…
If you want her to submit while you do nothing worth following—
You’re not a husband. You’re a tyrant in disguise.

A selfish man wants a servant, not a soulmate.
But a great man? He lifts, leads, and listens.

Marriage requires sacrifice. If you're not ready to give, don’t expect to receive.




3. IRRESPONSIBILITY KILLS SECURITY

A woman can handle tough seasons.
She can handle less money, long hours, even failure.

What she can’t handle is instability—
– Financial recklessness
– Broken promises
– No vision, no plan, no consistency

Her respect dies the moment she realizes she has to carry what you keep dropping.

Responsibility isn’t glamorous—but it’s godly.
If you can't be trusted with pressure, don’t ask her to follow your lead.




4. MARRIAGE REQUIRES CHARACTER—NOT JUST CHARM

Being good to her when things are easy is the bare minimum.

Real character shows when: – She’s struggling
– You’re frustrated
– Life gets hard

If your first instinct is to withdraw, blame, or cheat—
You're not ready to lead. You're not even ready to love.

Marriage isn’t about control. It’s about commitment.
And that takes more than a smooth tongue and good intentions.




Final Thought: Women Don’t Leave Because They’re Cold—They Leave Because They’re Exhausted

Fellas:
If you think love is maintenance-free,
If you treat submission like superiority,
If you demand loyalty but give instability—
You’re not ready for marriage.

Because a woman doesn’t need a perfect man.
She needs a consistent one.
One who protects, provides, and pursues—with humility and honor.

If leadership to you means dominance—not service—
You don’t want a wife.
You want a servant.

And that’s not marriage—it’s manipulation.



Marriage is for men—not boys in grown-up clothes.
Show up.
Take responsibility.
Lead in love.
And build something worth keeping.

Have a blessed day.



Note: This write-up focuses primarily on men. Check out my thread for the perspective on women.

https://www.nairaland.com/8516244/wwww-marriage-not-unteachable-combative

The problem in many marriages is lack of Godly foundation. When both parties are into God, all agents of discord fall apart.

People committing themselves into relationship without first committing themselves to God and His principles is the genesis of many divorce cases.

Peace in our homes would always be hard without the presence of the Prince of Peace in the home.

Kaliningrad:
Gross incompetence from US security services. The kind of incompetence that makes Burundi police look like super stars. What a disgrace.

It took them almost 2 days to even identify him. He could have been anywhere out of the country by that time, if he was smart. Turned out he wasn't.

The clowns who call themselves the world police can't even police their own country. They had to arrest 2 innocent people just to save face.

Even Nigerian police would have done a better job. If not the killers father who handed him to the Police, they might have never caught him.

Shame! 🇺🇸 🇺🇸

It is easy to criticize.

DrRasheed:
See Previous thread
https://www.nairaland.com/8513830/why-northern-food-mostly-disliked

There's nothing to argue about. There is this thing in all of us that makes us to think that whatever originates from us is better than what comes from others - From marrying my tribal person, preferring my children to others', and so on and so forth.

SisterAnn:
Well, I'm a woman and I have an opinion on this.


My only regret is putting all my cards on the table from the beginning. Nobody should put all their cards on the table no matter the relationship.

If I understand what you mean by putting all your cards on the table, I believe you mean you are honest and that is the best in marriage. So, do not regret putting all your cards on the table. Maybe you married a wrong person and that is why you are regretting. Please, don't regret doing the right thing. Keep on being honest, keep on being transparent, keep on being open until your husband begins to appreciate it. In addition, the two of you should embrace God in your relationship and in your life. I wish you the best.

Script!

Some men can't even respect themselves. No morals! No self-esteem.

The world has really really gone so bad that people don't have limits anymore.

SHIVA001:
Yes And it's also Very Nice For Massaging gbola , During Masturbating, He without sin should be the first to Throw stone.

As you consider masturbating a sin, keep away from it.

Constant guilt will definitely ruin your mental health. Specifically speaking, it can lead you to depression.

SHIVA001:
Yes And it's also Very Nice For Massaging gbola , During Masturbating, He without sin should be the first to Throw stone.

As you consider masturbating a sin, keep away from it.

Constant guilt will definitely ruin your mental health. Specifically speaking, it can lead you to depression.

It could be that South West prefer University education while some regions prefer college of education where basic education teaching qualification is obtained.

Who would (in his or her right mind) dare say South West is backward when it comes to education?

Mrchippychappy:
Dress like rag but with hearts filled with hate.

Deeper life na jump and pass.

Your words betray your ignorance and sweeping generalization.

Not everyone pays in my community, even some that have the means, in the name of whatever is known to them.

And there are those finding it hard to live, who would even prefer to die because they own next to nothing a thief would come for. These people who can barely feed themselves are also expected to pay the same security fees everyone is paying.

My take: let every person who wants security get a personal security guard to his or her house.

helinues:
The rotation is between the political parties not Nigerians. Stop getting things twisted

Most times, partues' choice becomes the people's choice.

Merry100:
In Scripture, women were treated with dignity; Jesus Himself uplifted and respected women regardless of their past. There isn't a single verse in the Bible where God rewarded a woman simply for being a virgin.

Mary being chosen wasn't a reward for her virginity; it was to fulfill prophecy, align with the lineage of David, and emphasize a miraculous birth.

If your logic held, Mary Magdalene wouldn't have been the first to witness the risen Christ. Virginity has never been presented as a qualification to be valued, blessed, or favoured by God.

. You kind of shifted my line of thinking after reading your contribution. Keep it up.

You can not say it better. You are right. May God help us.

Thundafireseun:
Hahahhhahaa very very funny 😄
Meanwhile a proud father and son moment…

I can’t wait to see the pictures of Peter Obi and his only son

I'm suspecting the son's course of study is not in his father's University or he attended the University of London for an experience.

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

Do the right thing. Please God, please yourself. Listen to people, if their criticism is correct, amend your ways and if not, forget about their criticism. Appreciate their concern and move on.

Tell her shouting damages our vital organs like heart, brain, digestive organs etc. It's also not good for the emotional health of the kids. Tell her to Google the side effects of yelling. Tell her to "Say no to yelling".

helinues:
Okay..when would he start washing plates at parties?

It's the Obidients that will retire Peter Obi from politics with their over doing of things and not knowing when to ignore some certain things

How does this post demarket Obi?
In my own opinion, the post is a testament to the fact that Obi didn't just start leadership by servanthood now. He has built an attitude of service for years.

ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do?

End it all?

You are not omniscient to know how your life will end up. So, don't end it up by your own hands.

Keep doing what you love. Associate with people of good Christian faith. Find a way to make money. Be your own boss, be it farming, teaching etc. Work on your character.

If you can feed yourself and also pay house rent, you will surely meet a woman that will love you for you.

Never say never!