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Criticaltemp:
Cos she stinks n disrespectful..

CHoccolaTE:
I asked this question before in another topic and I will ask it again;
What exactly do women gain from marriages apart from escaping societal pressure of getting married and having kids?

Men are the ones prolonging their lineage with marriage and kids,
Men are the ones in charge of whatever homes they set up after marriage, they have control, they have the final say. Everyone submits to them.
Men are the ones who get both a co-breadwinner and lifetime cook, cleaner, sex slave ( trust me many married women lack sexual satisfaction, sex after marriage is mostly for husband's benefit),
Men can even cheat with impunity and have children outside wedlock and go scot free, he basically maintains his freedom to have wanton sex just like when he was a bachelor, and he gets no blame and his wife is advised to stay with him because men are ' naturally polygamous'.


Yet society wants us to believe women benefit more from marriages.


With loss of freedom, loss of former identity ( changing surname even if the man you now bear his name cannot take care of you or provide for you), loss of beauty and youth after having children that belong to another mans lineage and family, horrible unsatisfying sex life in many cases, is forced to overlook cheating husbands behaviour, must balance greatest majority of housework and breadwinning while husband contributes barest minimum to housework. The man might even be jobless but the wife is advised to stay and support her husband and help him grow.

Infact the list of losses is endless.

Praizenewsgist:
Despite being denied and rejected by so many celebrities supporting Tacha before, Me 2kay insist and still stand to support Tacha after being disqualified for dighting with Merxy in Bbn house. In his lates post he said he belived Tacha will grow to be a bbetter woman.
He wrote

jagabanlewis:
God

There was a country

How did we gt dis low

Hedonisco:
You don't even know the sheer scale of this. Most people don't.

Hobbsandshaw:
I need mature advice from nairalanders.

I got married to my wife December,2015. The marriage is now blessed with two boys, the 2nd boy came last month.

The issue now is that I just discovered my wife is HIV positive during this 2nd pregnancy.The woman that I showed so much love tricked me into marrying her knowing fully well that she was HIV positive. I'm not really angry because she is HIV positive,I'm angry because she has been playing me all along.

She was in the Uni in another state while we were dating.Almost to the end of her study in 2014, she called that she was pregnant after I visited.She came to Lagos with PT and scan results to prove her claim.She then pressured me into paying her bride price before the pregnancy become public.We did our traditional marriage and went to the registry.Months after the marriage,my wife said the pregnancy has mysteriously disappeared, blaming it on "village people",but the gentle man in me didn't allow me to read any meaning to the movie.She tricked me into marrying her with the fake pregnancy after discovering she is HIV positive.

She eventually took in(for real this time),she came back from antenatal one afternoon crying, when I enquired what the issue was, she told me that they booked her for C-SECTION,that the doctor said the baby's weight is below 2kg and will almost be impossible for her to have the baby by herself,I was there consoling her not knowing that the doctor opted for C-SECTION because she is HIV positive.She actually told them not to disclose her status to me.The baby was 3.6kg at birth.My son was giving Nevirapine.I did some search and discovered that the drug is an antiretroviral drug,I became worried but I still played it down.

Her lid finally blew when she started antenatal for this my 2nd son in a different hospital, maybe she might have thought to herself that at this point there is nothing I will do any more, she told me that the doctor referred her to a government hospital for HIV confirmatory test.We went and did the test,I don't know the trick she played this time, the result was non reactive for her, me and our son.I went to the hospital and made Alot of noise,we went home and celebrated.Seven months later, she had an accident and was admitted, the doctor not satisfied with result of our confirmatory test,took her sample and send it to one of the best labs in Lagos,all the kits shows she was reactive.Because of the scene I created earlier, the doctor called me and showed me the result.That was when I started playing back to the first pregnancy scam, the rush for the marriage and the Nevirapine that was giving to my first son and I discovered I was being fooled by this woman all along.

This woman has hid her status from me and have been taking drugs under my nose for over five years without me knowing.I and my boy have gone for test twice at seven months interval and we are confirmed negative. I was told at one teaching hospitals I went for the test last month that maybe I'm just lucky or we are "discordant couple"
I have been expecting her to show remorse, and maybe apologize but she is still doing as if nothing happened.

I can't discuss this with my family or even hers, she will be stigmatize.I feel betrayed,I don't know how long I will stay in this marriage, but then I'm concerned about my boys. I'm afraid she might get desperate and try other means to infect me,I don't trust her.
What should I do?

victorian:
Hmmmmmm


Isn't that prayer too much?


I don't need my man to terrorize my thighs o!

Biko I'm too soft for such terror, Biko nu.

I will pass on it. I wan live long.

CapedBaldy:
I honestly need help. I try to suppress my anger but I always find myself reacting aggressively when provoked. when I'm reacting aggressively because of my anger I feel in my mind that I'm overreacting but then it's already too late and I can't stop myself. I like being alone and minding my business but there's always something that winds up triggering me. I don't know if this makes any sense because I don't really know how to explain how I feel.

brodalikeme:
She should get married or quit the job. At the meantime she should stop being emotionally available for the customers or colleagues.

I like Kate Henshaw very very well, but I couldnt jump and start kissing her when she walk pass me at the airport even when we waved and smiled at each other.

victorian:
Eeyah

Your mum truly stood by your dad.

That one u said thank God, no be Tonto born you is funny..

That Tonto is one crazy woman!

Wealthierboy:
iphone 11 Some girls go fvck tire for this phone

jarawa:
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victorian:
true well said ,we men don't talk much but women do , there were times when the men shouldered most in the home, and there will come times of financial weakness, the wisest of women cover the man's weakness while women with bad attitude and brought up who wreck home cause a stir or end the marriage, my father was once at this Stage and what my mother did was to sell her jewellery box and gave him the money , this was way back and it was a fortune , my father almost cried , he swore to never fall financially again, today my mother remains his jewel , I some times ask him why is he pampering my mum instead of his children , my old man still de buy chocolate, wine and roses for my mum , I actually feel jealous about this two people in public as they behave like teenage lovers, but thank god no be tonto born me o.









Because they don't understand how Nigerian marriages work, they think it's all about the wedding day.

Most men naturally are not the talking type. Women love to talk and share our everyday life with the one we love. In relationships, yea some men can bend a little and chat with you, but in marriage? Most men close up and behave like Oga and employee kind of relationship.

Nowadays marriages amongst the poor and average class, it's women that's the bread winners in homes. Sad but true. They work their assz out to keep the home running and avoid shame.
Anyways I wish all intending brides and grooms 100percent best of luck, cos y'all really need it.
Ain't easy.

CharlesJok3r:

Never hurt a man ego, but always play with it

Magnoliaa:
Of........?

LilMissFavvy:
..... So funny. The men are showing a good display of.......

illitrate:
Excuse me Ma, May I nyash you?

joshjc:
That's not the job of the army

AgentNairaland:
Who Next President To Die??