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Sammy07:
OP, what's his financial status when you met him and now?

You are the only one who just asked the most intelligent question

Respect and have reasonable expectation if you want to have a good marriage and relationship.

doggedfighter:
Another boy is whining again

Look around you.......compare number of failed relationship/marriage to number of successful one that is if are above 20yrs because that when you understand what am talking about

SenorFax:
This is funny

Just because you are not good at something doesn't mean everybody is bad at it too. Speak for yourself bro

Well, I like that word you frequently used in the write-up "Most.

bro am speaking for myself..... unfortunately what I wrote is a fact judging by number of failed relationship and marriage in the whole world.

You may be lucky but trust me millions of people aren't

Olunmercy56:
why not tell us how people can help you

Lol.........did you see the news of the channels man that beat is wife on FP
This might not make sense to you now but .......

I found out most relationship now are based on interest ...
Most people are in relationship based on what the man/woman have to offer ....once he/she stop offering those things complain start.
Is easy to know someone who is dating you for a particular reason because once that thing is missing he/she will change towards you.

Most Ladies date for financial reasons this days while most guys date for sex.

Note : Only very few people are in relationship with no interest or gains attached....Eg As a man you must no once you are dating someone and most of the quarrel you have is about money just no you are in for big trouble or if the only time she is happy with you is when you give her money or buy gifts just know that person doesn't love you.....infact once you can't give this things the weapon you will use against you is no sex.

As a lady if you dating someone who isn't interested in anything apart from sex or just try to exploit you that person doesn't love you.

The worst person you can date/marry is one who only be there with you during good times but will neglect you during bad times.

Never expect much from whoever you dating currently trust me practically speaking nothing like true love in this generation...most people are just decieving and lieing to one another.

If you luck to find someone who loves like your mother then you should be really grateful.

Bennysam:
Them bitch have written things to buy this season without having any money

Unending list..lol
Some of them are just totally insensitive...Im this hard economy some still want to buy expensive hair ,bags,shoes calling themselves diva with no kobo in there ACC

simplepee:
Too many little boys on this forum.

I know this will be painful for leech....Why are ladies always angry when guys are told to spend wisely....we all know the answer most of you are financial parasite.

Guys be wise don't waste your money on this Ladies....if you do they will later mock.
It is common sense when u take a lady out on a date she request for something moderate but trust me most of them are hungry this an opportunity to eat what they can't afford....Most of them are insensitive because no man needs to tell you is pocket before you are considerate.
Most of them blame us when we complain saying they don't know the type of ladies we meet infact some fellow she-male join them to call we guys names like they aren't aware of what going on....they are aware but will rather play the ignorant or dumb card ....is there nature and they were brought up to take from men without giving back.

I wish I can upload my FB chat,whatapp so you can know what this ladies have become....they refuse to work but rather beg or trade there body. instead of we coming to condemn this act they we say I don't do it,my friends don't it but I guess the ladies doing it her ghost.
Until this ladies now get there men that when you will hear them speak up.

How many ladies have open thread to praise there men but will rather broke shame them....you are broke shaming someone you are begging for money #smh#

We head into the festive period real guys spend your money on family and friends....this ladies have started billing there main bf ,side bf and sugar daddies just to get useless things.
Trust me if you don't give her....she have some fools they are willing to and even if you give her she will collect from them....so why not use your money for better things

As for the she-male you are just guys who are insecure some of you can't even woo a woman physically that why you behave like slave ....I won't call you SIMPS but rather Losers.... Only foolish men make excuses for every ladies bleep up.

So guys put your money into better use....if you take her out and she order for what her generation haven't eating before it your fault....if she can't afford to pay her own tfare is your fault,if she can't work to earn a living is fault oooo.

WrittyWritter:
Omo see my geng ..wat we mean is dat we can survive without ur money and will not be demanding like some ladies..but dat doesn't not mean u won't give us something occasionally...d same way we can also get something 4 u..honestly I don't believe in asking guys 4 money..I believe d guy is d one dat is supposed to give me..plus he is d one dat knows how much he can afford...plus I don't know how to do it.. ask 4 money..maybe because all d guys I meet usually give me without me asking

That because it is mutual.......

Romanoff:
And I'm telling you that if a lady you're in a relationship can't buy you a gift especially if she's working or gainfully employed, that love selfish.

mine buy me gift ooo..... but have dated few who never even bought me fruit or 10naria sweet.
imagine dating a lady and she comes to your house empty handed all time but when u visit her she be angry u didn't buy her anything while coming.

Romanoff:
If you read my comment, you'll see I wasn't exactly gender specific. It goes both ways.

If you get money and you no fit see something wey go fit guy wey you love or something wey you go like him wear buy for am.

That love get K leg.

Love is an action word and it goes both ways. Na love God love humanity wey make am "GIVE" him only son.

to be honest u have said it all but only few ladies reciprocate this gesture.....most just have this mind set of they just have to receive and not give.
They will say he is the man.

Romanoff:
You've gotten it all wrong. I'm not asking you to gift cause of fear of another man taking her.

I'm saying gifting is a way of showing love.

If you don't do it, someone else will. It's not enough to say you care or love someone. Your action can show it.

It can be taking her to have her nails done. It could be a treat to the Spa.

Little things that makes a girl gush and giggle in her spare time.

what does she do back in return.... what is her own responsibilities and duties towards the man or isn't meant to be vice versa.

Romanoff:
They are afraid to tell you so you won't shame them.

Once a while, give them money to do hair, if you see a hair you like, buy it for them.

Show them that even though they earn enough to take care of themselves, they can also trust you to not be stingy.

Na one relationship teach me lesson like this o.

I no dey ask bros for money, not even 100 naira recharge card cause I dey work.


Even when bros need financial support, I dey give am steady till I discover say na scam bros dey scam me.

there no shame in it....why not come out straight and tell him.......those word responsibilities and duties always sound awkward to me ooo.

I have met many Ladies who tell me this,.....i don't really need my bf money because am also working but I expect him to know his responsibility, duties and i expect him do them without been told

Anytime I ask what are the responsibilities and duties they go dumb...can anyone help explain this.

moneyshop:
From people's experiences, most marriages do pass through this stage. After first child, there's always this rejection by the woman in MANY marriages.

I don't want you to see this little challenge as if you're passing through hell... No!

It's a phase that will soon pass. Whatever you do or plan doing, don't cheat on her. That will cause the main problem that you think you have now, and then it'll rain brim stones and fire. Be patient.

Don't follow the advice of any unmarried little kid that will come here to shout "SIMP," overlook them, they'll understand when it gets to their turn.

Keep treating your wife well, don't take the car away from her, don't punish her in any way, so long as it's only sex that is the issue, it'll soon pass.

Try and control your sexual urge, whatever you do at this trying time, will decide how peaceful your home will be. Be cool and handle everything in a matured way, she'll change by herself.

Hear me again bro, this too shall pass. It only needs patience.

she has no right to deny him sex..... your phase EXPLANATION is no justification.
He should keep treating her right while she treating him like trash....his wife isn't even cooking for him again !!! telling him to control is urge

He should wait till she change herself..... Really

what is bad Is bad......no good woman deny her husband sex

Mimiey:
As a lady, all my female friends are hustlers. I see females hustling big time. All my friends are independent and have been dating there boyfriends for sometime and believe that the hustle will pay for both of them someday.

Women around me love with their all and hustle big time. Women around me sweat it out. Staring businesses, learning skills, others going for 2nd degrees and matters.

Personally, I am the one who even give to my friends that are guy. I believe in humanism.

In one of the neighborhood I lived recently, I see girls coming to do wife duties; advicing the guys, cooking and cleaning and they are the ones that even give them money and what do these guys do; mock them behind.

I am surrounded by females that ground. Even social media is a proof, so many ladies out there selling shoes, bags, wigs, alot into make-up and catering.

More than 50% of these businesses online are directly linked to females.

Now, it baffles me, where do u guys get the crazy girls you all wail about? Then your background and values are shaky as well.

Just like there are senseless guys, there are stupid girls as well who just want your money, there are girls who trade sex and there are senseless boys with no direction in life as well.

So many guys hustling hard! Despite all the bashings, everyday guys still keep proposing to ladies. Isn't it funny?

Why do u keep meeting bad girls? Your own head block?

Open your eyes, there are so many girls really hustling hard for themselves!

I don't even see any reason why a cool, collected, sophisticated guy will come online and start writing stinking words.

Respect your space.

No man pays my bills! I run my stuff and made my first million at 20 There are so many ladies like that out there.

Be human and classy!

My dear you are sounding like my fiancee..... Until she started hang out more with me and started seeing things herself that when she started speaking for herself....I guess you are the type that don't really go out and it depends on the city you are in......it is fact now that 8 out of 10 ladies live solely on men so the possibility of meeting someone like you out of 10 ladies is just 2... Only speak for yourself ooo trust me u might be amazed with what that your friends are doing.

I know isn't all ladies that do this begging thing but like I can convinently say out of 10 ladies you meet 8 does this.
The most annoying thing is we are both in this bad economy together, we are both giving the same opportunity yet a lady will feel she has a right to demand from a man at will and if you don't obliged you are broke or not man enough.

If you are not doing this as a lady know you are just one of the lil few.

MhisTahrah:
It's wrong she dated a married man and vice versa.I don't know if you have comprehension issues or maybe you intentionally skipped the part where it was reported that the married man locked the both of them inside her room and torched the house because she tried to break-up.Perhaps, you need to go back tomorrow the original post and read it slowly this time.

if u are dull enough not to know she brought what happened to her on herself then you are an unredeemable fool.....she was dating another woman husband and her God took judgement on both of them.
harbouring a married man in her house is what foolish ladies like you do.

MhisTahrah:
The man is a fool.He had his own wife, cheated on her but tried to stop his side chick from getting married by trying to kill her.I pray she survives.The man should be resurrected and killed over and over again.Good riddance.

So there nothing wrong with the lady dating a married man

Victim mentality Is a disease

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Fountainofyouth:
I like the fact that you are portraying males as the weaker sex, go on

you just plain stupid not to know some ladies love feeling the cum inside them....u can ask your friends and I pity the man who will end up with a cretin like you.

Fountainofyouth:
Only an everlasting stupid and dumb person will say what you just said, stop disgracing your gender pls,

Or better yet, school me on how ladies force men to release inside them, I want to learn

so if a lady is riding me and am about cumming but she refuses to get up what will the guy do..... forcefully push her away??....that just one instant....the rest u can figure out with ur dead brain.

Fountainofyouth:
How about a man not releasing inside her regardless of her safe period or pills or whatever, isn't that rather safe than sorry dumbo?

The man will blame the woman, the woman will blame the man, no one will blame themselves cos it makes them feel better, that is humans for you, get that into your brain.

and you are still plain stupid to the fact some Ladies will force you to release inside them.... just try and use your brain most men will be glad to not release inside.

Queenttoast01:
He broke up with her because he is irresponsible,and doesn't want to take up his responsibility, how will such a person become responsible on hearing this

She's just sad

take up which responsibility he is not giving her Money abi.

she just said replied am right.....You see why I warn guys against dating liability..
this another leech....she broke up with him because he refused to carry her burden....smh

Fountainofyouth:
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You lack understanding, as a man, during sex, the man is in control,(which i dont condone anyway) you the one thrusting in and out, therefore you control the sex, if a man doesnt want pregnancy or be blamed, he should master the act of withdrawal or using condom, it's very simple.


And how the hell can a woman absolve herself from a pregnancy when she's the one carrying it for 9 months? Something that everyone can see

how about a lady knowing her cycle well.... knowing when is safe and not safe to have sex or use birth control pills like sensible ladies in other countries do Dumbo.....team is always the man fault

Wetin concern some women with investment...they just want to spend spend until is finish.
A lady won't complain to her father about there standard of living but will be complaining everyday to her bf about things.....she grew up in face me I face you that her father could afford but will be complaining her bf mini flat is too small.

Only a foolish man will want to please a woman.

not surprised the Op is already terming the man wicked.
just let the man know you are pregnant and if he ready to take the responsibility.....both of had sex and you got pregnant..... two people actions....two people responsibility.

Don't base your decision on him and you can't force things on him......he isn't your husband.

ReluctantAdult:
Arresting the man usually happens in cases where the man is far older than the woman and doesn't want to share the responsibilities.

oooo so you see nothing wrong in that right.....I hope you are intoxicated or high.... so the didn't know the man is much older before legs.....I just know the meaning of your moniker.

Martinez39s:
Ah! Finally! I knew it! Your true self!

JONNYSPUTE and Godoverevery come and see.

Am sure he/she isn't a Nigerian...... ln this country that some guys where even locked up becos there gf got pregnant.

ReluctantAdult:
I haven't seen where the man only, is blamed for a girl's pregnancy. What I know is the woman is always the one shamed, ridiculed and scolded. So I don't know where this victim mentality you guys are talking about comes from.

Like I said, I'm not here to fight gender wars.

Are you kidding ...... like are you a Nigerian cos u are not.

Some parents even go as far as arresting there daughter bf when pregnancy shows up.....which gender are you??