₦airaland Forum

ReluctantAdult:
Well, while you can't blame one person for two people's action, you have to know that most women get lost in the pleasure during sex. You have to be sharp and alert so as to control the situation.

I mean I can't count how many times I've heard the following
'Don't use a condom please'
'Release inside me baby'

But as an alert guyman you have to stay woke and not let the pleasure cloud your thinking

But ladies never admit they say this when pregnancy show up.

Have a lady send you a message about her been pregnant beforeI swear she will shift the blame on you and play the victim card.

emperorAY:
why would any unmarried person have unprotected sex?
I totally agree that the blaming game should stop, it is archaic and outdated.

I tire ooo.....if you can't take the heat don't step in the kitchen.
what the women don't know this blame game only makes matter worst for them..

If you don't want to get pregnant don't have sex but the issh they can't do that because that means no money for them

Uzomacharles:
True sha...

Any Eye Wey Read This Pregnancy No Be By Mistake Take Note

Thank you.

Martinez39s:
Very true!


Don't mind them. It is fitting to ignore them when they start playing the victim. Despite all the contraceptive drugs and injections and abortion procedures available, they still blame men. Just ignore their infantile and manipulative tantrums.

Bro I wish I could record the program....this woman was blaming men for everything....a young lady get pregnant you are not blaming her for opening her legs.... you are saying it was the man that impregnated her that is wicked.

I don't still understand that sentence..."he impregnated her" people say...

Am listening to a radio program and this woman is blaming men calling them wicked etc....
She made it clear if a lady get pregnant is the man fault which is very funny.

How do you blame one person for two people actions.... using terms like a man impregnate Lady.
A lady get pregnant and you blaming the man alone saying the lady was innocent,naive etc.... was she raped this women are so naive to the fact that some ladies even demand for sex ,some stop you from using condom, some will even demand you release in them but when pregnancy shows they start playing victim.

As a lady once you start opening your legs you should no what it will result to and if you open your legs for irresponsible men that your headache.... don't come after and start playing victim.

Note- if you don't want to get pregnant abstain from sex but am very sure our ladies can't do that because of there unending demand from there bfs

seankafor:
I hope.. "CITATION" comes good as it's "OLOTURE" counterpart

please where can I download this movies

HalpyBee:
I've realized it's not good. Boredom and all. Social club/governmental agencies are good ideas.

You are in which state??

i guess you perfectly... living like this isn't too good.
U honestly need few friends around because of loneliness which isn't good for a lady....my advice is just try and engage in any social club in church or non governmental agencies...it will help alot.

Anyiiii:
please can you suggest some good/decent online dating sites? Thanks

which part of Nigeria are you staying

SILENTandSMART2:
Yeah you're kinda right


But did you think all the things wey mention beat money?

Nah.... no money no life

EmmaNuella77:
just one

Good

EmmaNuella77:
Ikr? Tho I don't know for others. But for me, I'll know if you really like me or I meet the one. I don't know what to call it but my instincts does magic

How many relationship have you been in

SILENTandSMART2:
Lol this man wanna prove shumtin to me SILENTandSMART ,


Nobody talk about that,


So nah poverty you go use get their love? Nobe money ?

You don't have to be poor bro but what you saying is loving someone because he/she is caring, intelligent, smart, godly is not available anymore....nah money be the only thing

EmmaNuella77:
For me ehn, true love still exists and is very much available.

You just need to find the right person.

But you know in the process of finding the right person many people have gotten hurt badly....infact is now very difficult to find the right .

SILENTandSMART2:
Love disappear of course,


Nah money full there coconut head

Then isn't there fault.... using money to attract a woman love is totally wrong.

SILENTandSMART2:
Why do we like recycling old things always,


Money and girls are like bread and groundnut


So with money true love emerges

Just hold money you go dey control dem like a goat on a rope,

And if the money finishes

jahguide2268:
The status quo has been altered. Women are no longer subjective, this generation believes in independency of ladies (feminism), it doesn't go well with true love

lol.....and what do you think is the solution to this

I will go first....I think the lack of finding true love for men is based on the orientation.... Every lady wants a rich husband and men don't want women who don't have source of income.

The solution for me is both genders should place less importance on money when choosing partners.

when I hear much older people talk about there love life back in the 80's ,90's is so different from ours....although some got it wrong but alot married the women/men of there dreams...most dated for years building things together before getting married but dating/courtship now is a mess...many men don't even have plans of getting married... ladies that still needs there mother to be coaching them about life are now mothers themselves (mostly single mums).
A close friend of mine just showed me the whatapp chat of his wife and a guy.... obviously she cheating with the guy but the husband isn't a saint either because he is cheating aswell....is just funny because I just didn't know what to tell him to do.
So am wondering why is it so hard to find true love this days and why is cheating so much among us ...

What is the cause of lack of finding true love on both side (male/female)...

Pls let discuss what we think is the cause and how we can solve it.

Bodyodour:
Everytime na girls matter for una.
First sign of a useless boyfriend, let's make out ...

What do expect??
after she have demanded for airtime, urgent 2k etc before you even meet in person.
Guys only demand that from cheap girls......if she classy and respect herself it will hard to ask such from her bro.

Have experience that on few occasions lol....I don't think any man will respect such ladies... imagining a fine lady well dressed but can't afford to pay 100naira bike fare is pathetic.

Ugmama:
If you must cohabit then, let it be on record there will be no sex what so ever.

I'm tired of seeing ladies cry and regret already

That the problems we are facing....u ladies make it seems sex is a the thing like ladies don't demand or ask for it ....sex is two people actions hope you know

DimplesLikeWow:
Likewise, my post was directed towards serious couples with the united goal of marriage.

Parents don't encourage their children to live together before marriage. In the Nigerian context alone with the dominant religions of Christianity and Islam, your assertion is false. Cohabitation contradicts the most fundamental doctrines of the Christian faith, thus, I know for sure that practicing Christians are against it. Similarly, in Islam, trial marriage, which is basically what it is, is not permissible. Islam doesn't allow any type of living in or living together before marriage.

keep deceiving yourself....look around you and see the number of singles living together... Christian faith indeed apostle Paul

dorin27:
True. But I don't remember telling you I don't have my own flaws too.

So what do you mean by saying you are different

dorin27:
beating my chest and telling you I am different is not necessary. You don't know me offline. So there's nothing I'll tell you that you'll believe.

Everybody is different....no one will come out to admit he/she a bad characters.
That word "am different" is a cliche...

Sixfeetbelle:
I don't know how you see engagements but for me, it's like a mini wedding. By this time, half of your relatives already know you're marrying this person and is already praying for the success of the marriage. If a guy engages me, my parents are meeting him straight away. At this point, he's already my husband and we're just waiting for the official ceremony. So it doesn't make sense for me to agree to marry a man I don't know that well. And for me to know him that well, I must have lived with him at least for a while to decide he's the one.

Asides, I believe that a man who has engaged a lady already chose her to be his wife after weighing his pros and cons. He's not "still looking" for a wife. He has already found her. So cohabiting with her to discover whatever else is just the actions of a selfish man in full display.

Dating/courtship is there for you to discover who you want to be with and then make a decision you'll stand by. Once you propose, you've stamped on it. Any other thing after that is unnecessary and will lead to more problems than solution for the couple.

please can you explain what you think my thread is all about?? because honestly I don't know if my English is that bad to understand.
Do you know there are people who get married without even staying 24hrs under the same roof before.. some religion don't permit it..you spending weekend with him isn't enough..and I don't think is sensible to live with man during dating and courtship the lady most likely will have several abortion....Why do most couple have issues first few months of marriage
cohabiting after engagement is mainly for adjustment to each other life style and way of doing things and understanding the challenges, demand before things start proper my dear.

Sixfeetbelle:
As if engagements don't break up before the wedding date itself. He still has a point. Intending couples living together before marriage can suddenly discover they aren't compatible and call off the wedding a month to the D-day.

It's not advisable to cohabit with your intended. You may while dating but not after proposal cause by then, both of you should already be in sync.

so you prefer they cohabit during the bf and gf rather when things are serious....first all before you engage a lady you 80% sure u want to marry so breaking up an engagement must be for a tangible reasons.
Only a lady with bad characters/have secrets will be scared of this....the reason am supporting this is for a man to know what he is getting into.
There are something can only know about each other when you live under same roof eg the type of food she like to eat might not go well with you so during this time you start adapting just to mention a few.

Fussion1000:
I knw what am saying, if you my own very well I said if you married such woman its ur 6th wife.


You are with a woman for a whole 1 yr (366 days) test run her, is she not ur wife already, oga you are a wicked, in fact spiritually u re husband n wife


Before you say some you considered it, if it were your daughters, sister ,ur own wife...
Don't be selfish because you are a man.

oooo don't know you a pastor.....nobody holy not even you bro...

DimplesLikeWow:
Living together before marriage is unnecessary. You can easily know your potential spouse by taking the time to court, study (their personality, habits, beliefs), and ask them the right questions. In the words of Nietzsche, “When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory". If you answer in the affirmative, there's no need to cohabitate. If not, then you need to go back to the drawing board.

Well my point is directed towards intending couples.
I no what am saying.....all you wrote up there things don't work that way...even parent encourage cohabiting this days....I just feel it prepares you into knowing what marriage is about before the really thing.

Fussion1000:
How will you feel, if the woman you married as wife, had stayed together with 5 different men before you eventually married her.

(If you married such a lady, you are her 6th husband)

Nobody can knw ALL characters his/her partner is portrayed and can display in future.


Boyfriend that don't use to drink may become drunkard after 10 yrs of marriage.

Ur girlfriend who wasn't a nagging girl, may become nagging after into marriage, perhaps because of lack of job or otherwise.


The only antidote for break up in marriage is that

*The two should continuing struggle to bring income to the family.

*They should learn how to quickly reach compromise on issues bothering their differences.

check the thread well....my point is intending couples not bf and gf.
once the marriage is set I feel is necessary you live together "6month or 1yr" before you marry each other....is like warm excecise before a football match despite all the training you must excecise few minutes before the main match...you just don't jump on the pitch

dorin27:
Congratulations in advance is all I'll say to you. As for other things you wrote, I'll pretend I did not see them.

Thanks saint Mary