EnuguDadImoMom:

Abooki nunu

All these IPOB charlatans roaming the streets, the biafra dream is snowflake; it will NEVER happen.

Instead of making your lives harder than it already is, join hands and let us make NIGERIA great.

I know poverty is sweeping your life away, but will you be any better with the MUMU BOY NNAMDI KANU? He does not even have a blueprint and has relocated his own immediate family of the UK.

Stay there and be doing mumu mumu

Mumu boy

EnuguDadImoMom:

What's the meaning of mumu? It sounds like your surname... it must be your middle name.

Mumu boy

EnuguDadImoMom:

Nnukwu ezikwo ka ikwuru nwanne. Chukwu gozie gi.

Mumu boy

LOL, these crazy people sha!!!
Instead of them to face their governors.
Adding another layer of national government filled with large-stomached buffoons like Rochas is not the way forward, it would lead to even more poverty and a beleaguered people.

erico2k2:

I was not talking about the OP I was talking about you and it is very evident that you failed to read btw the lines . I'm a parent to three . You are not . The university of life is a wonderful school of though and it's free . But there is no repeat . My advice plan well . Your savings of 10 years ago is worth a basket of tomatoes only mi et made during the times of needs make sense . Imagine if your Dad saved 500k 1998 and thought that's you sorted for Uni . What is it worth now ? U get where I'm coming from that ur savings might just mean nothing . You can only sustain yoyr commitment only if you are in employment or in Biz at said time.

Oga, saving does not mean keeping 500k under a pillow since 1998. Any decently managed portfolio with AuM of NGN500,000 in 1998 would be worth hundreds of millions right now.
We have two forms of Capital: Human Capital and Financial Capital. At the younger stages of our lives, we have more Human Capital that gradually converts to Financial Capital as we age till retirement. The main problem with Nigerian parents is that they consume the entirety of their Human capital instead of converting a portion to Financial capital in the form of a strong investment portfolio; that is recipe for future perpetual dependence on others.

Sirheny007:
@Op thanks for this exposing this fact..
I am 23, and the responsibilities on my shoulders no be here!
Being an Igbo, I am already expected to start preparations for building a house..and as the first male son of the family, I am forced to sacrifice my academic ambitions in order to provide for my younger brothers...
I had to drop out from a University to settle for a Polytechnic..I traded a 6 year course for a 2 year national diploma..
Anyway, I have learned to put one step at a time.

I am not ranting or exposing my predicaments, but parents might not know these things depresses us..
Parents should watch out lest we die before our time.

You are the one letting this happen to you.
Advise: you better pursue your dreams and ignore social expectations or you will look back in some decades and always wonder how far you could have gone if only you had pursued your own dreams.

Coldfeets:
I see so many firstborns complaining.

I am the firstborn.

But I don't just give a fück what the "society" expects from me.

I am on my own.

I let everyone around me to know they are also on their own.

Exactly!!

gypsey:
Absolutely! one of these people lives in one of my properties he hasn't paid me any rent for nearly 2 years he already has 4 children he can barely take care of and his wife is pregnant again. he tells me that he has no job therefore cannot pay rent. I don't know what to do with this guy i am fed up with him.

Hahaha...and if you kick them out, people will say you are wicked, not the useless couple who bring in children that will be totally disadvantaged in this increasingly competitive world.

gypsey:
yes! men are scum including your father, uncles, brothers grandfather that's if you have any, you are a lesbian because you have failed as a real woman and potential mother and a human being and no man wants you! you are disgusting and i think you will be better off slitting your wrists.

You are truly DEPLORABLE!

IJOBA2:
YOU MUST BE MADT BY INVOLVING HIS MOTHER IN THIS YOUR NONSENSE WRITE UP

She's just making an inference from the useless boy's warped comments. Stop being a buffoon.

Useless boy

kratoss:


We ar not in america?? If u keep putting that ideology in mind u won't be able to right many wrongs... . Time have changed... We ar in the 21st century for fvck sakes..

Abi o,
Why not refuse to use the internet of drive a car as well, and say "we're not in America"?

ivolt:


I usually refrain from judging family issues because some wives hates to see
their in-laws anywhere their matrimonial home same for some men, so they
paint the in-laws black to justify their intolerance.

Not necessarily, most in-laws come around just too much. Always hovering around and looking to grab something in this tough economy.

erico2k2:

You truely think having three kids is a sure secured way of future? how about if you lose your Job after the 1st just got fru Uni and get a job and number two and three are in 200 and 300 level?
Life is difficult, no one knows 2morrow, You can never know what it is l ike to bring up a child until you are a parents.Its an xtreemly though work,you are investing without hoping to get anything back and you are demanded from, Life is though

Oga, that's why you have what is called "SAVINGS"
Even if you need help from the working child, it'll be highly limited since only two kids are involved. OP is not saying there should not be any help, it just should not be totally consuming and unbearable.

uglodoh:
Although the op may be saying the truth. Many parents do have plan for their children but end up finding themselves in difficult situation to cater for the children. Assuming such parents have first child who is financially bounyant what do expect them to do?

Not true at all. Most Nigerian parents do not have plans for their children. They just move along hoping "God will provide"

Mind their business, they will not. Nigerians, always trying to impose their personal values on others.

I don't know why stupid stories like this are on nairaland.

Billyonaire:


What you are saying comes from poverty of knowledge, your own very poverty of knowledge and I have no idea whether you are also financially poor, but look at that picture again. Any dummy can become the richest man in Africa is the import waivers given to Dangote is given to him/her. Again Any Dummy can become Africa's Richest Man if cheap FX worth several billions of dollars with fluctuational marginal difference worth several billions of Naira. And AGAIN, any Dummy can become the Richest Man in Africa in Africa if he decides to become surrogates of politicians who lodge their loot in his hedge for 20% net profit a 2% fees. One more time but not the last, ANY dummy can become Africa's Richest Man if you have the politicians in your pockets and have the capacity to influence bank lending rate to single digit percentile in a hostile business climate. I wanna add one more thing, ANY Dummy can become Africa's Richest Man if politicians are banning other importers of similar products as a return on investment of sponsoring them into Power. And Common men, the list isn't finishing ? Any Dummy can become Africa's Richest Man if his Trucks are allowed to Kill and go on the roads without liens, no repercussions and just above the laws. Any dummy can become Africa's Richest Man if the roads that his competitor in haulage, interstate transportation of goods are left deplorable, so his competitors can not move their products into the main business hubs. The list go on, I will not even like to mention the sharp practices of manipulating the trading rates when he headed SEC. And how he manipulates prices illegally to destroy his competition after all, he owns the politicians in his pocket.

If Dangote was actually smarter than he is, he is supposed to be the Richest Man in the world. This is not a no brainer.

They are gathered there for one reason and one reason alone. To show that they are united, and what unites them is FRAUD and the next step in the move to acquire more toxic wealth though it is legitimate in Nigeria is illegal in other climes.

I wish I had no conscience.

On the contrary, regardless of any favors he might have received, it is extremely difficult to hold such a conglomerate together. Very few can manage resources like Dang has. It takes a whole lot more than some ancient import licenses.

adecz:


They control how I spend my
dough, by increasing price of cement
& spaghetti..

No they do not!
They have not forced you to purchase their spaghetti or cement, you have done so freely.

ngwababe:
Until my muslim friends wishes me happy Christmas, then, i will start again to wish them eid whatever... Its well!

You reek of poverty!!

I've said religious strife and tribal sentiments is for poor people only; see as these guys are having a chill time from all parts of the country.

adecz:
These billionaires dey
remember poor ppl at all?

Instead of using the sallah to
remember those in need, they are
using it to remember themselves..

Its their wealth to spend in whatever way they deem fit. I don't see them telling you how to spend your money.

whitering:
All I can see is arrogant & lazy Man. instead of asking for job by stating what you can do. I'm sure some naira landers would want to help out. You are here complaining of Ordinary Milk & asking for who can accommodate you.

I wonder!
Maybe the milk is not so "ordinary" if you do not have unfettered access to it.

stressedout:
thanks for the advice. it is clear. i have to leave that house. i will pack my things today and leave for calabar first things tomorrow. Why i say ordinary is because these people are not suffering at all, they live well. i did not live there free. i did various jobs for the man and even stayed in the wifes store where she sells provisions. This is someone i senior with over 5 yrs. such behaviour was not so at the beginning now i am almost treated as if i came to do househelp. so i will never rely on anyone again as man can fail, but God never fails.

Stay there and be waiting for God, like most Nigerians do.
God has become such a convenient excuse for everything nowadays.
Also, you are talking about seniority? what a joke!!

jieta:
your reply is full of arrogance, i won't be surprise if people like you control their husband.

Lol. Who else should be controlling her husband for her?
You're kinda crazy

This is totally crazy.

Forcing people to have sex in public is wrong, whatever way you look at it.

Consensual sex, regardless of marital status, is absolutely not a crime.

It is people that think in such barbaric fashion that are holding Nigeria back!

javijabor1:
Gov. Ambode, please its not only Lekki, Vi, Ikeja that makes up Lagos state.
Badagry, Ikorodu and the likes are still under Lagos, if you fail there you fail generally...

Hahaha...jealousy!

Everyday a new stupid post comes up.

How did op arrive at this conclusion that there has been an increase in "Women above 28 who are not married"? What was the null hypothesis? sample size? where was this study carried out? sampling method? He probably just overhead the crazy thought in a drunken beer parlour discussion and brought it on here.

Even if more Women are choosing to join the workforce and develop careers, is that not a fantastic thing. It is sure better to have Women contributing to the absolute GDP figures as opposed to reducing per capita GDP by becoming baby factories.

All these illiterate men that only think about marriage and babies are the ones pulling preventing national development.

From what I gather, it was consensual sex. What is the big deal?
Nigerians should learn to mind their own business.

And as most of it is done with Men, then;

Daboomb:



What womenmen of today do sexually, even before they are 16yrs, our MothersFathers never even attempted half of it, with 10yrs of marriage!

As pertinent as that question is, can we live 'Instruments' out of this discussion please.

tiger28:
these are fact!!!especially in the western world, majority of feminist are LESBIANS and those ones that are married out of them are in "agreement" relationship.

Oga, you have to decide what your argument is. Is it against lesbians as a sexual minority, or against equal opportunity for women?

In case you do not know, Men can and are Feminists as well. A Feminist is anyone who believes that Women, just as much as Men, deserve the same rights and opportunities socially, economically, politically, and in every facet of our existence.

I am a Nigerian Man, and a proud Feminist as well. When I have my daughter, I certainly will not be paying for the best schools just so she can be earning only 70% of what her male counterparts make. No No No!

AyilaraFingar:
. Guy,Madeleine Albright no be God,forget that one
You are talking as if you don't know how easily women misinterpret things,..I believe 80% of nairalanders can relate to what gender equality means,its what it is in forums,but most women misinterpret the concept and apply it into their marital life,which is not possible...a woman can never be equal with a man in his home...we may be equal in having a say in the society (which may never happen in years to come as long as Nigeria is concerned),we may both have the same opportunities to our dreams and goals,..but its better for women (that still cling to the fantasy of wanting to be equals with their husbands in HIS HOUSE) to just stay single and stop arguing around when topics like this come up

So only you can interpret things correctly? Classic mansplaining!
"his house", "his home"...have you considered that it is "their home"? A marriage is a consensus arrangement, not a superiority contest.