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Lovelink1991:
With today kind of men it is difficult to get a good man. A lot of them just want to take advantage of her by sleeping with her with the promise that I wants to marry you. There are no good men

Don’t. Forget those stories. That’s a template learned from the internet. Don’t get involved with bums and failures. Choose a partner based on your real value. It’s very simple.
Think about what you give and offer, and what you are asking for.Think about who you are, what you are, and what kind of person you are, and who he is, what he is, and what kind of person he is.
So that tomorrow there’s no argument over three pieces of chicken from that lousy KFC.

With your actions, you only confirm your bad thinking and your miserable character.

kenuoyibo:
Fa fa fa , foul! Its a big fat lie! There is no lady that didnt see a serious guy in their 20s. A friend of mine when we were in the bank, he toasted one ajebutter girl from covenant university. She started asking for data rvery now and then. Few years later he got married. Most of u especially in Nigeria . U will spend ur 20s broke shaming men, and jumping from bed to bed with bad boys and parties. The moment u clock 30. U will soft pedal and start looking for mircacle husband from church to church. I know one stupid yellow fine igbo girl that didnt want me . She came from east to visit Lagos and was rolling with people shorter and uglier than me. I asked her why she didnt inform me she was in Lagos . She blocked me and deleted by number . 5 years down the line ( 2026 ) she travels to Lagos to pray for husband (ZION MINISTRIES ) . Now she is calling me "baby" after having a 2 year old girl. Her trap is waiting for her . Me too i will cut my own share of the cake, in the fullness of time. Let him fall into my trap

What trap of yours? What a pathetic man you are. You have a bad character. You’re still not married? That’s because you’re a quality man. Women run away from quality men, right?
Not for a single second did it occur to you to do something with yourself. How could it, with a character like yours?😏😏😏😏

WiseBizInvestor:
but why did you say he doesn't know what he's saying? 🤔Would you like to make him and other readers know what he doesn't know or haven't realised?

I replied to you, but it seems someone deleted my response. Obviously, they don’t like the truth.

I’m sick of listening to her whining. They’re all basically the same.
From the first angle: when a woman says she needs a man, she doesn’t mean she needs a bum, a lazy slob, someone who will abuse her, some backward Muslim, some animal. Someone she’ll fight over a piece of stinking KFC chicken with. She means a quality man.
From the second angle, for quality men she’s an old woman with all the attributes of an old woman. Those are facts nothing can change.
Her fate is sealed.

Too much ego crap and self-praise.

What primitive beasts.🤮
I would buy her five roasted chickens every day and a scale for weighing.
You’ll weigh yourself once a month. When you gain two kilograms, I’ll break up with you and leave you. Now go ahead.🙂

(KFC is junk food.)

Osiris12:
I wish enter that Germany soon go work. Anyone with ideas

I'm not sure you know what you're talking about.

Samantha125:
I blame our mothers, the only thing that they've ever told us from a young age was that a girl must always keep neat, but they never went into detail about it.

They never attempted to sit us down and educate us on genital hygiene... Because even if as a woman, you bathe three times a day, but don't properly clean yourself down there, it'll still be not clean.

I first learnt about genital hygiene from my Life Orientation subject in high school and then from this local youth educational show which was called Sisterhood back when I was still a teenager... My mother never bothered to have the talk with me. As long as I was bathing twice a day, she was happy, but at least my sisters tried their best to educate me.

So sad.

WiseBizInvestor:
What is that?

Human doll for entertainment.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWV7zbKE0eF/?igsh=dGhoN3h4cXNlcGtr

Here it is.

floss:
It’s gradually, the entire world will get to this level… men have always been the prize 🏆… if only all men will stay away from women for a month minimum, you’ll see the confessions of women everywhere

Do you know why they say a man is a reward?
And what kind of man is a reward?
Which traits of a man make him a reward?

My opinion? It all depends on what a woman wants and how much she is worth.
Either adapt to the new society and environment or disappear.
Beauty standards are incomparably stricter.
Everything is on a much higher level. What choice does a Black woman have in Europe? 90% of them have no chance at all to achieve a serious relationship with a quality white man.
What remains for them are Black men who cannot even help themselves, let alone form a family and be even remotely decent husbands. Black men are known for the fact that their ultimate success in life is to get some stupid white woke loser pregnant and run away because they are not capable of anything more. They simply do not have the capacity. And of course what remains for them are migrants, Muslims, who will beat and abuse them. That is all.
That is the reality and that is the truth. The 10% who have the possibility to enter a marriage with some quality white man — that is like me now going to the store and finding a suitcase with a million dollars on the street. Considering the terrible situation in Europe and the overall rise of anger among ordinary people because of migration, the situation will only get worse. That’s it.
White people make up 7% of the world’s population. If anyone is endangered, they are endangered. That makes things even more difficult. When dating, that should also be kept in mind.

QuinQQ:
The answer is rather obvious: ALL women are fake. So question of real woman doesn't arise

right🫤

Jistibiri:
There’s a running joke many Nigerian women can relate to: Naija men will proudly beat their chest and declare themselves “real men,” but when it comes to doing something genuinely romantic, suddenly it’s like you’re asking them to climb Mount Kilimanjaro without water 😩.

Now, let’s be honest being a “real man” is often associated with responsibility, provision, and strength. And yes, those things matter. But somewhere along the line, a lot of men started acting like romance is optional… or worse, unnecessary. As if love should be understood without ever being expressed.

How did we get here?

For many Naija men, romance wasn’t something they grew up seeing. Our fathers weren’t exactly writing love notes or planning candlelit dinners. Love, in their time, was more about duty than expression. So a lot of men today genuinely don’t know how to be romantic, they just know how to “be there” and expect that to be enough.

But here’s the thing: times have changed.

Women today don’t just want presence; they want effort. And not even anything extreme. Nobody is asking for private jets and Dubai trips every weekend. Sometimes, it’s the little things, a thoughtful message, a surprise visit, remembering the small details, or planning something sweet without being reminded 10 times.

Yet somehow, it becomes a struggle.

You’ll hear things like, “You know I love you, why do I have to prove it?” Or “I’m not that kind of guy.” And that’s where the frustration comes in. Because love isn’t just something you feel, it’s something you show. Consistently.

The irony is, many of these same men can go all out at the beginning. When they’re trying to impress you, they suddenly know how to text good morning paragraphs, send random gifts, and say all the right things. But once they’re comfortable, everything drops. The effort fades, and romance becomes something you have to beg for.

And honestly? That’s exhausting.

No one wants to feel like they’re forcing someone to love them properly. Romance shouldn’t feel like a chore or a favour—it should come naturally when you truly care about someone. It’s not about grand gestures every day; it’s about intention. It’s about making your partner feel seen, valued, and special without being prompted.

To be fair, not all Naija men are like this. Some understand that romance is part of emotional connection, not weakness. They know that being soft, attentive, and expressive doesn’t make them any less of a man—it actually makes them better partners.

At the end of the day, being a “real man” isn’t just about providing or protecting. It’s also about emotional intelligence. It’s about knowing that love needs to be nurtured, not assumed.

Because truthfully, if someone has to beg you for the bare minimum, then maybe the issue isn’t romance… it’s effort.

And love without effort? That one no dey last.

And what does it mean to be a real woman
Why does no one ever start a topic like that?

Double0h7:
How do you feel about the women from your country?

What do I feel… indifference without mercy. If you happen to read my journal, then you can probably guess what phase I’m in. It’s not my fault. I used to be a very, very good and honest man. Whether I could be like that again—I don’t know, I’m not sure. A woman who would bring me back to that kind of behavior and relationship would have to put in a lot of effort. And women don’t like to struggle.Broken and ruined by feminism. Feminism is an incurable disease.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DWGwH9th0dG/?igsh=MWdhZTF5bm4yY2ptcg==

cr7lomo:
Nigerian girls no follow for the big leagues ...dem be 3rd division.... na y naija boys no de send dem once them go abroad.... Caucasian, especially the blondes, Latino, Koreans, Japanese, Indians, ...how u go see Mercedes, BMW, range , Ferrari, lamboghini, maserati,dodge, cadillac ,Tesla , jaguar ...u come talk say na Isuzu or suzuki u wan drive ..... or u see house for ikoyi, lekki, vi. Maitama, asokoro , ikeja ...u talk say na Mushin olosa , ikorodu, iyana ipaja, okoko , makoko u wan stay... make it make sense.... u see rice and chicken...u talk say na garri and salt u wan drink

Funy😏

TITOPE:
Internet Reacts: 50-Year-Old Man With No Marriage History Sets Age Limit for Wife

Reactions as 50-year-old man who has never been married and has no wife seeks wife below age 30.

https://www.titopeblog.com/2026/03/internet-reacts-50-year-old-man-with-no.html?m=1

What I see in him is that he trains and uses testosterone. That means he falls into the 2% of the male population over 50.

Diamond098454:
He's 50 and should marry a 40 to 35 years old lady

The difference in age and appearance between 30 and 35 is very small. But inside the body, the difference is very large.
A woman up to 30 years old, and at 30, can have children. A woman at 35 already faces a very serious problem when it comes to having offspring.

Prophit:
I recently started talking to a fine young lady. She should be 28 yrs tops.

I didn't know her dating history cos I moved into the area like last year.

We just started talking this year, she manages a bet 9ja shop. I normally withdraw using the pos near her bet shop, and that was how we met and started talking.

There is a laundry guy in that area, I seldom patronize him, but the guy is chill. We greet and have discussions here and there whenever we cross paths. He doesn't mind that I rarely patronize him.


This guy's sister is about 21, in the university. She likes me a whole lot, but I have a policy not to date students (it's a long story. Don't ask me why)

He knows that his sister likes me and he knows I'm not giving her a chance. In fact one day he joked about it. And probably that's why he respects me a great deal.

So B4 we dive into the gist for today, let's call d guy Oba, let's call the bet naija manager Ego. Let's call Oba's Sister Anita.


I was standing with Ego today just gisting.

(I honestly like her, she is pretty, but I can't date her. I can't date a lady who is not on a trajectory to the top. No offence, but being a worker in all these bet shops affects the mindset. I think people that work there need to be rehabilitated. Both male and female.
Again no offence)

So Oba passed by, as usual we shook hands and talked a bit, then he passed.

I noticed the weird energy between Oba and Ego.

It was visible to the blind that these guys shared a past.

"Seems like there is a story you'd like to share" I said
"What story?" She retorted.

"Is he your ex?" I went straight for the jugular.

She stood silent for a bit. She tried to force a smile. "There isn't any story please." She said finally.

I didn't press further.

Just then someone called her into the bet shop to settle and issue or whatever that was.

So I turned to the pos lady who is her friend.
It's like the lady was waiting for the opportunity to spill the tea.

She didn't even wait for me to ask.

"Men are wicked o. God forbid. To see better man na by connection." Said the pos lady.

(I forgot to give the pos lady her alte. So let's call her Agatha. I chose the name because she has a wide mouth, and which name do you have to say with your mouth open wide?)

So Agatha started talking.

"They used to date o. For like 2 years. Before they started dating, the guy was jobless. Ego used her money to open that laundry shop for him, spent so much money on him for 2 years, then one day he beat her up and broke up with her."

Now anyone with even a brain functioning below 2 percent will know that the story isn't complete. Agatha obviously skipped a lot of details to just present Oba as the devil.

And don't get it twisted I'm not saying he isn't the devil either.
I'm just saying I don't have enough information from that gist to know who the villain was or is.

First, nobody beats up a woman for nothing.
Second, nobody beats up a woman who is his girlfriend for nothing.
Third, nobody beats up a woman who is his girlfriend, who opened a laundry shop for him, for nothing.

Agatha kept talking.

How Ego is still traumatised and hurt and broken, and devastated, and dejected, and...

She kept going.

I told Agatha to stop.

"I really sympathize with Ego, but I don't want to have this discussion with you or with her. Relationships fail all the time."

"Guys send ladies to school and the ladies end up marrying other people. Life goes on."

"Guys open businesses for ladies and the ladies still leave them. Even marriages break up. It just the way of life."

"I have been engaged to a lady. 2 weeks before our indoor marriage rites, after I had bought everything, she called it quits. I never laid my hands on her, never cheated on her. But that doesn't make her the bad guy."

Relationships are a bit more nuanced than many people believe.

That is why the best thing you can do for yourself as an individual is to invest in yourself.

Maybe you can invest in your spouse, but you see boyfriend and girlfriend, invest at your own risk.

As for Anita, I just got a couple more reasons to distance myself from her. Imagine having an elder brother who beats people up. For her, violence will just be a normal thing. I pity her boyfriend.


As for Ego, if I had even the faintest of feelings for her, such feelings died when I heard that story.

I can't be with another man's garbage. I too, deserve someone who hasn't been victimized and vandalized.

Imagine the distrust she will have for her next boyfriend or husband. No body deserves such level of damage done to them.

She would be okay for me.
She’s capable and selfless. Even though I don’t need anything in life, it’s good to have someone like that by your side. People don’t change. She has value. She’s not stupid. She’s not weak.

ManknowThyself:
Why coming here to disgrace a girl that took you months to chase to be your girlfriend? Are you now proud to tell us your girlfriend pussy is smelling?

From your comment you never discussed it with her direct or indirectly when she left your place. She might not even know about it herself, a real heart talk can save both of you the embarrassment forever.

Treat people with respect, when they take it for granted is when you ghost them for good.

Anyway am perplexed with your patience to chase a girl for months, as a man you can only attract the quality of your standard in women.

It is always better to know the quality of what you are buying before payment.

Testing is always allowed with the right quality!!!!!!!!

Do you think he should have told her to her face that she smells between her legs?
Wonderful idea. How do you think she would have reacted?
The guy avoided that situation politely.
I’m not inclined to believe she isn’t aware of her own smell.
He didn’t disgrace her—he didn’t post her photo or personal details. And he didn’t disgrace himself either.

ublight:
One girl I have been toasting for a few months now finally agreed.

She just called me on Saturday that she was coming to the house to see me.

Normally I don't do pre marital copulation and that is the reason my relationships don't last. Girls nowadays want to taste the cucumber before committing long term.

Like I said, I don't do pre marital copulation, but I was willing to compromise just to make this one stay.


Ladies and gentlemen, I went and bought some protection. Guys I was really ashamed to ask the lady selling to give me condoms.
But that is a story for another day.


The lady finally came, very pretty, smelling very nice.

I gave her food and after eating she came straight for some action. Maybe she was Hot.

I felt terrible as I kissed her and touched her, but I let it continue.

Then she pulled her trousers and her pants.

Ladies and gentlemen, you won't believe what my nose perceived.

It was like something had died down there.

My erection quickly flattened.
I had to just tell her that I don't engage in pre maritals. I apologized and she wore her cloth.

We just sat there watching a movie on my laptop until she finally decided to go.

She has been calling since then, but I haven't answered.

Ladies stop being unhygienic.

Why would you allow your domain to smell like it's rotten.

I have been reading such things online but I felt it wasn't true.

Goodness. I wonder how guys go ahead with such smelly domains.

May God help us all

Hell. Horrible. I can imagine how it must have been for you. I’ve never experienced that, but I can imagine how I would feel. I really don’t know what to say. I’m disgusted. Oh God.
During the summer, showering every morning and evening is a must. Changing underwear every day.
That’s a basic standard of civilization.

Who knows what kind of sexually transmitted disease she probably has.