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When you’re bold enough to post such an insolent topic, here I am being bold enough to put money on the table that’s right within my reach. Now you be brave enough to show yourself so I can see you.
Or maybe it’s better that I first present the standards.
If you don’t look at least roughly like this, please spare us from showing yourself.
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Goodlady:
I am sorry to say this to ya face. I can't date a broke man.
Can't respect a man that's not earning more than me. Reality has proven money's the engine if love so don't preach to me.

What will be used in taking care of my skin, my needs and all the stuff? The answer is money.
It's an aberration for a man to approach someone richer than him.
That's why it's good to do profile check before dating.
A times if numbers weren't given out after sizing the guy's destiny they d say she's rude, she's bla bla bla yenyenyen.
Who nor like better thing?
When there are eligible Bachelors like Paddy Adenug, Okoyya boys, Dantalta family, Danghote family and co to marry from.
Abeg make no sapahead boy disturb me today. I am not responsible for ya hardship. Make you you make legit money before you impregnate or marry any woman.

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Are you virgin young slim and cute?!

What an awful feeling this was.

I’m trying to imagine myself as a woman and look at things from that angle.
It’s hard. It’s very hard for me to do.
I’m really trying.
Reliability.
He has to be reliable.
Loyal. Very loyal.
There must not be too many former women in his life. I need to know he’s loyal to me.
He has to be sensible.
Not stubborn.
Brave.
I need to see that he is capable.
Capable of everything.

https://youtube.com/shorts/5CgTWe6YHLg?si=JyOD_yl18pe9J0Zx 🙂

And now a look outside religion.
And from the white angle of view.
And I think this is probably the universal male angle of view.

Men haven’t changed for at least the last 5,000 years, and in a woman they value three things.
Youth. Beauty. Virginity.

Through the centuries, for such women people paid with gold.
With golden ducats.
And the amount of golden ducats depended on the girl’s origin.
Because of such women people were killed.
And died.
They went to duels.
Shot in the back.
Wars were started.
That’s how much they are worth.

And what do we have today?
Feminism and “modern” society have destroyed the value of women first, and then of men.
Today’s women compared to those of the past are ordinary worthless sluts.
And men?
Seventy percent of today’s men, by old standards, would be unworthy to marry and have offspring.

Should the US have decided to intervene militarily for the government to take action?
Now it’s too late. You’re already on the radar. It’s no longer a question of whether there will be military interventions, only when. First Venezuela. After that, Nigeria.
For the government to prevent a military intervention, it would have to arrest 3,000–4,000 militant Muslims and prosecute them for terrorism, sentencing them to long prison terms. Completely disarm the militants and destroy terrorist organizations. Rebuild the demolished religious sites. Compensate the families of the victims. Actively create a climate of tolerance among the Muslim population.

None of that will happen. The government neither wants to do it nor is capable of doing it.

After Venezuela, Nigeria is next. Here’s what that will look like — from personal experience:

When a Tomahawk missile strikes about 11 kilometers away in a straight line, if you’re sitting in complete darkness, you have about three seconds to read, say, a book. That’s how long the blinding white light lasts. Immediately after comes the shockwave that will shatter your windows if they aren’t open. The bombs can pierce up to five floors before detonating.

To cut the story short — that’s how it looks.
You will go through all of this because of your intolerance toward other religions.
I can’t say that I feel sorry for you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GaxhDp_vOys?si=ohe3XI73vZvSafVW




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYEyKt_jmAM?si=HsR9ve1PMynPrO6A



We still had a serious, capable army and plenty of weapons.
And you? You won't know what hit you.

I can’t imagine myself — not even in the worst nightmare — being married or in any kind of relationship with a woman who has a child.
She can’t possibly look that good, be that good of a person, be that smart, be that young — nothing. There’s no such woman in the world who could make me agree to let another man’s child into my home.

That would be deeply, deeply humiliating in every possible sense. Me, raising someone else’s child? I’d rather die than agree to that. Never. Not even then. There’s no scenario in which that would ever happen.

Even the thought of having a casual relationship with such a woman disgusts me — simply because that kind of relationship is far below and far more hypocritical than being with a prostitute. I can’t picture myself in that situation. And many men who actually have value think exactly the same way.

I do understand those women. They’ve ended up in that situation for all sorts of reasons — but that’s not my problem, just like it wouldn’t be theirs if the situation were reversed. They desperately try to find a new life, a new partner, without realizing that, in the eyes of men who actually have worth and could give them what they want, they are worth nothing.

That’s why they end up with low‑quality, weak‑character men who can’t get real women, so they settle for divorced ones — promising them everything, only to run away later because they have no real potential for anything. And that, in turn, frustrates those divorced women even more, making them increasingly toxic over time.


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Psychological Profile of a Man Who Stays with Divorced Women with a Child

1. Low Self-Esteem and Confidence

He does not believe in his own value or that he can get a better option.

He depends on the woman’s attention and is willing to tolerate compromises he would never accept if his partner had no children.



2. Emotional Insecurity

He constantly seeks validation from his partner.

Fear of rejection or loneliness keeps him in a burdensome relationship.



3. Inadequate Strategy and Resources

He cannot “target” free, quality women because he lacks social, financial, or status capital to be competitive.

Often weaker, more passive, and less ambitious.



4. Compensation Through Control or Promises

If he is seen as a “good guy” by the woman, he often promises everything to maintain the relationship.

If he lacks real potential, he runs away when things get serious or when investment is required.



5. Limited or Illusory Emotional Intelligence

He does not recognize that a relationship with a divorced woman with a child comes with a complex emotional package and responsibilities.

He believes he can “fix” the situation or be a heroic partner.



6. Passive Comfort and Compliance

He settles for a situation below his real potential because “something is better than nothing.”

He tolerates manipulation, drama, and complex dynamics that a quality man would avoid.





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Essence:
These men are not “bad” in themselves, but they are not a challenge for a woman seeking real value. They are the backup choice in the relationship market — men who do not have enough to choose from, so they settle for what is offered, regardless of additional complications.

In short: divorced women with a child do not get a man “who truly has value,” but a man who is not valuable enough to choose a free woman without baggage.

Naijalegal:
Under the Nigerian Law you cannot divorce a woman because you just discovered that she was a wayward prostitute before the marriage. Before marriage, every woman has the right to live her life the way she likes and nobody can decide otherwise. Prostitution, cheating (different from adultery), flirting and other wayward lifestyles are not criminal offences but moral issues and moral issues are not enforceable under the Nigerian law. The same way that it is illegal for the police to arrest a young man for wearing dreads or having funny haircuts. These are personal issues that are protected by the fundamental rights of privacy.

Going back to the main issue which is that a man cannot divorce his lawfully married wife just because he discovered that before the marriage she used to be an olosho at Allen avenue pleasure supermarket where every dick, tom and harry took turns on her let us consider the content of S.15(2)(b) of the Matrimonial Causes Act which provides:

"Since the marriage the respondent has committed adultery and the petitioner finds it intolerable to live with the respondent."

When you look at this section very carefully with the mind of a trained lawyer, the first thing to notice is that the only adultery that will count for the purpose of divorce is the one committed from the time of the marriage "SINCE THE MARRIAGE......" Any intercourse done before the marriage is not going to count even if she was recorded and posted online and you saw it. After marriage the law sees the woman as a new person and gives her the honorable title of a "MRS" and wipes out everything else she has done in her years of youthfulness and every old thing is passed away. Marriage is a form of veil that protects the dignity of a woman and the doctrine of covering the veil operates to prevent anyone from looking to see who she was or what she did before her marriage. Thus, once married old things are passed away.

Ladies must also remember that there is no law that said you must reveal your body count to any man in the name of being a good person. Whatever you did with any man is your privacy and the constitution protects your right to privacy. Even if a man asked you what your body count is all you have to do is to assert your constitutional right to privacy and he has no right to force you. Even if you lie to him about your body count, he has no right to do anything about it because nobody can take away your fundamental right no matter what unless you have committed a crime and taken to the court. Even if he goes to court to ask for divorce relax and sip your bottle of beer because he is going to lose the case. The law court is not a chapel or a mosque where issues are decided on morality. In the Nigerian legal system, morality and law are two different streams that are not allowed to mix. For moral behavior to be enforceable in Nigeria, it must first be passed into a law for everyone to read and follow, see the case of Aoko V. Fagbemi.

If your fiancé ask you if you have done olosho or hookup before simply look into his eyes, and remind him of your constitutional right to privacy and if he forces you to answer, simply tell him no. If he discovers anything else after the marriage, the law is very simple because whatever happens outside the marriage stays outside the marriage. What counts is the one is the one that happened during the marriage. Research has revealed that many women who lived the life during their youth make better wives because they have seen everything and have finally decided to settle down so their whole mind is in the marriage and they hardly cheat unlike women who entered marriage without exploring and will end up trying to experience things they have not done before out of curiosity.

Dear men, once you marry please don't listen to anyone telling you anything about your wife's past life because it no longer matters. Most of them are only interested in breaking your home. A woman who was wild in her youth may have outgrown such tendencies and make a good wife. You have the duty to protect your wife's dignity and honor no matter what her past was and you are now her knight in shinning armor.

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What a pile of nonsense.
Why would I even state that as the reason for divorce
I could simply write anything else.
The real reason would be her filthy past, but I’d list “differences in opinions” and “her mistreatment of me” as the cause.
If I found out that my current wife had been a wh,ore in the past, nothing and no one could keep me in that marriage.
As for the number of previous partners — she can lie, but if over time it turns out that things aren’t as she claimed, of course there would be a divorce, officially “due to irreconcilable differences.”

If Junior is quality, hardworking, and dedicated, go for him. If he has qualities. Don’t look at what he says, look at what he does. Words are worthless — only actions count. Don’t listen to his plans; watch what he does to make them happen. Only concrete actions matter.