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Body built in a classy, boss lady attire,I too look corporate, even when I was into business before getting a job ,I always wear corporate, lastly I don't wear slippers,I don't know how to,I wasn't trained with one,so even on a Friday,I wear classy corporate.

OloshoMan:
She's getting it elsewhere. Simply move on from her and get another. #AbundanceMindset No time to waste

Seriously, why would anyone be with a woman who doesn't want to have sex with them?

Kill that scarcity mindset.

What kind of advice is this?,you think everyone likes sin?
I am a believer, I havent had sex for 24yrs,God abhors sin,you can only understand this,if you live a life of miracle,a life where what you pray for is answered,you will find out that when you indulge in sin,some prayers are not answered,sin is a barricade between God and man.
She wants to be focused in her level of interaction with God, she's not sleeping elsewhere.

We should pray for you?..it's like you're ment, I always say this,if you're not ready to cater for a baby,CLOSE YOUR LEGS.

I am dark in complexion,27, graduate,from abia state,I am God fearing,as a matter of fact very prayerful, introvert, brilliant, and hardworking, currently doing something little and waiting for admission to pursue my masters degree,I am independent but love surprises,I treat my man same way he treats me.
As a matter of fact my relationship didn't work out cos my ex wants us t wed in cherubim .
Which didn't sit well with me,I thought we would wed in the church his elder brother wedded.
This happened 2yrs ago.
So I am opened to love again, someone from Igbo land,God fearing, hardworking, someone who has vision and pursues it and won't see anything wrong with me going outside to pursue my education, currently waiting for admission as I have applied,so don't say i need a sponsor.
I need genuine Love.
NB: I love distance relationship, I don't believe in pre marital sex.
Email me for my whatsapp number.

You look beyond me by yadah

oldienavie:
I clocked 36 years 2 months ago, I look fit for my age compared to many Nigerians(I realised most Nigerians dont pay attention to their physical fitness).
I have been outside of the country and just got back with the aim of trying to get a wife.
Am I too old to expect to find a decent woman ?
What suggestions do you have with regards to getting a good woman in the shortest possible time ?
Thanks all.

Let's get to know each other..

Until isreal comes for their people, Nigeria won't even stand.. Lai mohammed mouth go shut up, Dss better release those people.

Hello nairalanders, pls help me list out any ongoing federal government Recruitments, I sincerely wish to apply. thanks

Till today I love abaribe, I love Nnamdi kanu..

Because he speaks for the igbos, wait a min,
how's that your biz

360degreess:
This man is mad.How can a sensible person stand as surety for the leader of unknown gunmen in the first place?

The only way to know its legit is for y'all to go same time, each of you should take someone that would stay outside with you guys, also ye them once you guys stay mor eghan necessary they should call the police or raise an alarm but if its in same street as the nnpc gudu I know, then it's an open place

I applied for my masters in UK and Canada, I got 6 offers, from Northumbria, Aston, Ulster, Bradford, Birbkerk, Reading(UK) 202 and cambrian college (Canada), my brothers which are my sponsors asked me to apply, but as things are in the country, I've been asked to reject all due to funds.
I really wish to do my masters outside Nigeria, with my experience of a Nigerian University, I wouldn't want to go through that again,and it's not about relocation, it's about what my heart desires.
I feel so bad��

It's I again nairalanders, I made a post here about how my guy dresses in an unkempt way, I mentioned we stopped talking cos I was letting him know that I get attracted to neat, simple and good looking guys, I equally mention how he treats me well etc.
Some advised me,
Some checked my profile and said I was dark judging from the pic of my leg they saw there,
Some asked what made me fall in love.
Some called me a gold digger that I've gotten work and now realize he's unkempt.
Finally, we've resolved, I sieved the tantrums and took some advice and he'd working on it and we are happy. Thanks to all that advised me,
Some of us who truly love don't care about some things, we make lemonades out from lemons.

First we are not married yet again secondly there's nothing as being "competent with what I have" rather you should say be contented " Moreso courtship is for one to know each other and that's exactly what we are doing.

wizzy41:
Aunty be careful else u will soon loose that ur husband to another woman...if he cheats wahala, stingy wahala,not caring wahala...why can't u be competent with what u have...u have to note that thousands of women are looking for a husband just like him...

OK thanks so much, I'm grateful

Beloved3:
Grace,
I have the same answer for you. Not everyone is vast in shopping for the right outfits. Discuss with him on the next time he would be going shopping for clothes. Do a live video call with him on that day, show him the kind of t-shirts and jean or outfits you like him to wear or appear in.

Since you care for him and want the best, just assume that he doesn't know fashion, then help him improve. Don't just sit on the phone in Nigeria to criticize him on his dressing. That's quite annoying you know. Especially for someone who works his teeth off to make you happy and provides your financial needs. Hence he was on the defensive and getting upset. Each time you criticize someone they come up with many excuses in their minds to defend themselves. Criticism isn't always the best way to bring change.

So the key word is - help him improve. It is like a teacher criticizing a Jss3 pupil that he doesn't know the next lesson topic; Quadratic equation. Until the teacher teaches him and gives him examples, he shouldn't criticize him. In this case, you are the teacher, he is the pupil, fashion/dress sense is the quadratic equation. The goal of a relationship is for couples to help each other's weaknesses.

Cheers.

Try find a land who will love you enough to affect your life, and not only about money money money, trust me if I care about his money alone, I won't be with him and if he knows I love only his money, he won't have me too.. I am not like your girlfriend, I am a a great lady who is achieving my dreams and oh just do you know, I got a full funded admission for my masters in Canada, He's reaping too, not all women have that intellect,
have a man whom they respect even in his absence and still always choose to affect j positively.

Brandonx:
A stupid gold digger that's what you are. We know your type you ve seen there's money there that's why you want to stay. Run along and look for your so called "neat man" ode
If I were that man from your attitude I would keep you with promise of marriage over there in Nigeria while I do a low key marriage and make a nice family with someone that understands Me. When your head correct you go find your way gold digger.

Yoruba people dirty pass

PoloG:
Omo igbo with dirtiness

Thanks for understanding

Mordson:
I'm afraid you got your work cut out for you.

Changing dirty and sloppy people who care less about their looks takes quite a lot of patience and determination. It might take you years of hardwork to effect some semblance of change in them. For others it might take a lifetime. You're trying to change an entrenched culture of dirtiness that prolly started from their childhood and has become ingrained their DNA. It's a tough job.

Weigh your options and quit now if you're not up for such arduous task of constantly correcting and teaching him. He's mostly likely going to put up a stiff resistance and frustrate your efforts and infuriate you. If you're not cut out for such, quit.


I really detest slovenly folks. My experience with a dirty and slovenly lady left me traumatized. Gosh!

You are more foolish, if you don't have a lady that affects your life positively, then your life is doomed, we love each other and we seek each others growth, I can't see what I don't like and not say it, I do not want a break up in marriage hence this is our courtship process,
u don't see some certain things in human until you're close

Brandonx:
I don't mean to be rude but you seem like a very foolish person.
Didn't you see his appearance before you agreed to date him ?
Oh you need someone you can flaunt and do show off to your friends.
Madam leave obviere alone if he does not smell he's a real man.

If a girl loves a man and seeks to affect his life positively people will still talk.. You're senseless for saying this.

Xenry:
Eyyaa! Hustling don enter this one's brain ooo! He over-believed that the handsomeness of a man lies in his money.

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This life no balance shaaa: One will have money but can't take care of himself, while another will not have anything, but can still be able to look clean and neat; Just like the Narcissistic guy that I saw this evening, he no get shishi, but he still dey package himself wella — even with lipstick and eye pencil .

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But seriously, were you blinded by his money all these while or is it his performance in bed? I know something is holding you back, or maybe he is speaking the language that you can understand —MONEY.

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No worry ooo! Just take am as you see am abeg, because he speaks the language that girls understand, and he can easily fill up your space if you leave.

You're a coward, if love, respect and faithfulness doesn't exist in your dictionary and relationship, I am a lady that helps build her man, that is why I'm seeking for views.

Tajbol4splend:
The guy is rich, who wants to leave a dirty rich guy for a neat broke one, it is unpossible

He's Godly, he's Mature in reasoning, we grew from friendship.

Deicide:
What made you fall in love with him in the first place?

Kindly read the post again, this time let it sink.. I think u jumped where I said he lives outside Nigeria

DareyFortified:
Instead of you telling him what to do, show him how to do it instead. Buy him those clothes, buy him those jeans, trousers and shoes you love to see on other men. And see if he will wear it or not. Lead the way and he will follow.

I don't even know why I sort for help here,
do u guys think I would share this if I don't love him and love to help him? You think I wouldn't keep quiet and continue eating his money if I don't want him? Ode

Blacknote:
Nne just tell us say you don collect enough bill from him, and your game don dey want cast so you dey find strategy wey you take japa go enjoy the loot with your main guy without it looking like you did so

What am I even saying E be like say this schnapps do dey hit the right spots.

This is the kinda negative advice you give yourself before making a stupid decision, so a lady will love him for being dirty?, I am willing to help him that is why I am asking for help me as we have discussed this and he's getting upset.

Beloved3:
Let him go sis, since you are not attracted to him. You can chop his money but you don't like his appearance.

I bet he will find another lady who will genuinely love him for who he is and be willing to help him improve on his outward appearance.

She will buy him clothes and underwear and body sprays. She will buy him/recommend to him a nice phone and teach him how to pose to take neat pictures. Gradually her kind and loving gesture will rub on him. Soon he will be used to looking neat and attractive that he would begin to buy nice outfits and dress neat himself.

So please let him go.

Cheers.

I don't mind

Kylekent59:
let us assume he was neat and he didn't have money.
You would still complain.

My advice is for you to keep reminding him that cleanliness is next to holiness.

But wait oo, have you thought about him becoming neat and other women start tripping for him?



At Op, be careful.

I love my colour, it's such a beautiful colour

gozzlin:
Who be dis one?!

Ogbeni abeg face front. Did you see anywhere I castigated her color. I only expressed surprise at the degree of blackness of her legs and nothing more. Why take panadol for another pesin headache?

We've been together for a year and throughout that one year, he only helped me when I wasn't working, now I've started he rarely sends money. Moreso this issue has been ongoing, I equally said it when we began.

Blingblings:
But when he was sustaining you post nysc you didn't mind the dirtyness. As you don turn working class now, you don realize sey he too dirty. Na so una dey always do.

If you read my post very well, you will see where I said he's in another country, don't be too fast to reply without proper understanding, if he were to be around,
I would have bought them myself, but he's in Italy, do I buy clothes from here and send to Italy?

Beloved3:
Let him go sis, since you are not attracted to him. You can chop his money but you don't like his appearance.

I bet he will find another lady who will genuinely love him for who he is and be willing to help him improve on his outward appearance.

She will buy him clothes and underwear and body sprays. She will buy him/recommend to him a nice phone and teach him how to pose to take neat pictures. Gradually her kind and loving gesture will rub on him. Soon he will be used to looking neat and attractive that he would begin to buy nice outfits and dress neat himself.

So please let him go.

Cheers.

Una Advice Don do