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Now that the op has deactivated, how can we reach him.

@op, I just wish you're still there, reach out please. Reach out to me, I promise to give a listening ear, just try, please. Thank you.

An interesting thread!


Morally: YES

Legally, according to Nigeria law: NO

Na wa o!

With this type of warnings here and there, it would be difficult for one to be extra nice or be shown nice gestures in the public.

I love Kaffy's courage and maturity because it takes courage and maturity to apologize when one misbahaves.

I love this thread!

The same things PMB did in his first time as the President of the country are the same things he's doing presently........

~Blaming the past administration for his failure.

~Selective corruption fighting.

I just hope he can quietly make up with his wife too.

Nice story! I love it but in all honesty, I don't think I can be that patient with such a wicked man.

eyeview:
Anytime i read such i cry cos such situations in nigeria would have simply meant that the baby would just have to die without hope. Not that we dont have the best brains,no,after all,a nigerian was the co- surgeon in this success story. The problem we have here is the medical facilities. Given similar facilities,our nigerian medical practitioners would perform similar and greater feats.
Sadly, some govt hospitals make budgetary request for such facilities in their budget proposal to the govt but when the budget is approved and funds disbursed to them, the CMD and the CIMAC of the hospital will just share the money and wait for the next year's budget to resubmit it.

That is why when those looters have ordinary headache, they run abroad. They know the extent of their damages in the health and education sectors.

This is incredible!


Born twice indeed!



Or better still born again, since the baby has been born before and now born again.

Politicians in Nigeria are friends regardless of their political affiliations because they have common interest of looting and milk drying the country.

It's you online posters that are fighting one another and I'm sure they would be making jest of you when they're flexing together.

No permanent friend or enemy in politics but permanent interest!

baby124:
Chai . Just seeing this for the first time. Sign of the cross, sprinkles holy water and anointing oil all over me. Na wa oooo. God save and rescue us. Na me dull pass for NL drama. Almost a year later

. Greatgod2012 . And this one
https://www.nairaland.com/2746886/coogar-exposed-credit-card-fraudster

This is serious o!

So, all this kain things they happen here?
Na wa o!

baby124:
I even wanted to send money silently when Tehn confirmed. Na wa o. It seems like I am a confirmed mugu these days.What they are doing is not good because it makes givers paranoid. I even just saw the thread of Coogar's drama just today. I thank my God that I don't communicate with anyone outside NL. People can be so deceptive, I am shaken to my bones at the personalities that abound here. It's making me reconsider my membership.

Please, I need a link that coogar's drama thread. I missed it. Thanks.

Agbaletu:
The thieves (husband and wife) just suffered the innocent woman for nothing. She must have abandoned other important things to see the hopeless thief. I really feel for her.
These thieves are already cursed.

I'm honestly not feeling bad. I'm really entertaining myself with good laugh here.
If I'm to be honest, I really feel for them, because I'm quite sure that , by now, the two of them will have started regretting doing what they did.

This is my reward, anytime I touch a life or put a smile on someone's face, I usually have this inner joy radiating all over me and I've been having this feeling since I stretched my hand to give that woman something.

No regrets whatsoever!

baby124:
Where is greatgod2012

I am here my sister. I have been having a good and loud laugh since. I've been reading all sorts here and honestly I don't know what to say. I tried to call her, the line wasn't going through.

To be honest with you, I met a woman with a baby of less than two months and who is obviously looking ......and suffering. I did a little interview and I concluded from the way she was answering me that she needed help, especially for the sake of the little baby.

After a while, I started seeing some busting by Anabell2 and I was wondering how husband and wife could connive to scam people but I couldn't just give a more definite answer than shamelessness.


Of course, I gave her something, but am I feeling bad?, no! Am I regretting giving her something? No. Will I do that again? Definitely yes, why? Because I don't know who that stipend can actually save. Am I feeling sorry for someone? Yes, for them, because they don't know what they're actually doing for themselves now and in the future.

If they're truly in need, as I have advised, she should put more efforts in whatever she's doing, no dignity in begging. If they're not, but playing smart, they should continue, everyday is for the thief, one day is for the owner.

I rest my case!

baby124:
Where is greatgod2012

I am here my sister. I have been having a good and loud laugh. I've been reading all sorts here and honestly I don't know what to say. I tried to call her, the line wasn't going through.

To be honest with you, I met a woman with a baby of less than two months and who is obviously looking ......and suffering. I did a little interview and I concluded from the way she was answering me that she needed help, especially for the sake of the little baby.

After a while, I started seeing some busting by Anabell2 and I was wondering how husband and wife could connive to scam people but I couldn't just give a more definite answer than shamelessness.


Of course, I gave her something, but am I feeling bad, no! Am I regretting giving her something? No. Will I do that again? Definitely yes, why? I don't know who he that stipend can actually help.

Anabell2:
Didn't your husband travel to the USA last month?

Have you considered selling your phone/system you used to write this post to feed ?

I don't know about the husband travelling to USA o but as for the phone, if she is even to sell it, I doubt if she can realize 2k or 2.5k from the proceed. It's a very small phone with internet facilities like opera mini or so. It's one small techno phone.


I'm not trying to say she shouldn't be verified but this is what I saw.


And in all honesty, I've told her not to expect much and that she should think outside the box.

The economy is not smiling.


@op, your attention is needed here o.
You need to answer questions if you really need help like I've told you.

Well, well, well! We met o.
I really don't know how to do this!

I have always preferred anonymity both in my giving and doing underground searching.



So, I asked her so many questions o, ranging from the Hubby's job and hers, welfare of the kids. She truly need help but I've let her realize that the begging has been to many these days on NL which makes her thread to be at the wrong time. I also let her know that the economy is not favourable to many.

She said her husband left for Ibadan to squat with a friend and to find something doing when they could no longer afford to pay the house rent and that since he left, he hasn't sent anything to them.

She said her pastor's wife is the one that is accommodating her and the kids, that she's also the owner of the small school where she's managing presently, but the pay has been so meagre and not enough for feeding for one week, but the woman has really tried for them, so, its difficult for her to confront the woman.

I also advised her to look for a bigger school or other working places where she can earn more than what she's presently earning.

I have told her to be ready for screening and verifications and that being absolutely truthful, honest and modest will go a long way in finding help.


Abo mi re o!

Lol....Acidosis, I see you too. How you dey.



@the whole house, the op is a known nairalander on the pregnancy thread. I've spoken with her through the phone and she has explained what she's passing through to me, it's really a tough and pathetic situation she is. We have scheduled to meet physically by 12 pm today, after which I will come back to give the feedback of our meeting.

If God lays it on your mind to help, please do. May God continue to provide for us all. Amen.

@op, where exactly are you in Ijebu ode and in which private school are you teaching?

99.9% of Nigerian politicians are corrupt and hence can't fight corruption fully.

He will listen to her in the other room.

Power intoxicates!



Smh for our rulers, they aren't supposed to be called leaders.

Power intoxicates!



Smh on our rulers, not leaders.

tearoses:
Good Morning dear
Please what do you all mean by "she enjoys being pampered"
Please give me examples


To also come in from another angle don't we all enjoy being pampered?

Aunty, first, I don't want this to lead to argument, I love dodging argument. Secondly, i don't want to judge her but from her previous thread and this one, it is glaringly obvious that she's someone who enjoys easy ride without lifting a finger, that is one of the reasons she has been falling into wrong hands relationship wise.
She has been enjoying virtually everything without working and not willing to work for it, and she expects that such should continue. When her mother got tired of all, she refused to continue which led her here asking for financial help from strangers, instead of trying to work for what she really needs legitimately.


Yes, we all like to be pampered, but when it's one-directional, it becomes overdependence. Before you're pampered, you must have pampered who is pampering you. I still maintain my stand, she must be willing to change, being forced or begged to change means the change not from within and will not last.





But then, what do I know? Ki l'omode no?

Ishilove:
You are very wise

Thanks, my sister.
Only God is wise, we are only but humans, saying all sorts of things as we can comprehend, whether right or wrong, but however we see it, we present it. All honor to all knowing-God who's never wrong.



Aunty CC, sorry, Tearoses, e ku ojo meta o, she enjoys being pampered, that what she's been used to, there is need for change from her part, she really need to show that she's ready to change, not to be forced or begged to change. The change must come from within her. Though, counseling and therapy may be needed to achieve this, but is she herself ready and willing to change. This is my concern. If she's not willing to change, but because of people's intervention and pressing, she obliged, such change will not last. The changes begin with her.

Caveatemptor:
Sister ishilove,
I accept I might have been wrong to feel I could do what I wanted to do and help someone I felt was in a tight corner but let me tell you a story.
Nineteen years ago my wife,was late into her first pregnancy. I was working in an establishment in Zamfara state,while my poor wife was alone in our house in Lagos.
One night she went into labour.y wife picked up her maternity bags and staggered out of the house. Managed to lock the doors and struggled to walk out of the compound gate in the throes of labour. Outside the gate on the street she was hit by intense contractions. A man driving by in his car saw her bent over,parked his car and asked her what the problem was. She told him between painful breaths that it was labour. This stranger helped my wife into his car and drove her to the hospital where she registered for antenatal,almost two kilometres from my house. He helped her out of the car took her to the labour room and only left after she gave birth to my son and first child about thirty minutes later.
I do not know this man's name till today and have never met him but I am eternally grateful to him because I know that in pregnancy there is a slim line between life and death. The product of that pregnancy is today an undergraduate. I always think about that stranger and always say a silent prayer for him and his family.
So I am sorry if I come across as silly to you but where ever pregnancy is concerned I will always try to help.
Thank you. Sorry for my long story.

Well done everyone! You people are really wonderful. Despite the recession and all sorts in the country, you people still prove that, you're loving and caring. Thank you and well done good people!

Oga Caveat, your story is so inspiring, I love it. God bless you, the stranger who helped, the child and your other children, and then your wonderful wife.

I just want to bring some things out from this your story.
Your wife was alone, while you were far away in Zamfara state, when your wife went into labour, she HERSELF carried her maternity bag, staggered out of the house, still locked the door, staggered out of the gate again, and when intense labour hit her, she bent down before a stranger came around to help. YOUR WIFE HELPED HERSELF THROUGH OUT BEFORE FURTHER HELP COULD COME FROM THE STRANGER. KUDOS TO YOUR BRAVE AND STRONG WIFE.

Let's now juxtapose, sincerely, Moji needs to help herself first before being offered help. She needs to do some things on her own which should be stepped on for further assistance. She doesn't need all these petting and pampering, believe me, the pampering cannot help her, if it does, it will only be momentarily and temporarily, it's the help that she offers herself like being humble, hardworking, respectful, good discretion, good human relationship that can only be permanent. She's not a kid, she's a grown up and a mother, she should know the importance of all these, not waiting to be pampered by her aged mother and strangers. She need to take her life serious, not always dependant, it's only after this that she can appreciate any help that comes her way.

If money or other materials should just come her way without her working for it, she won't appreciate it and whenever the money finishes, she'll be back to square one, begging for money again.


Once again, thanks to everyone on this thread, even me have learnt greatly here. God bless us all.

We have seen this, its beautiful!

We also need to see the pictures of what he has done or doing in his constituency.

Election or selection

maxti:
It is well with you.
If you don't mind, post ur wife's number so Nairalanderz can call n plead on your behalf.
Mods. This should make frontpage. Save a family.
This is my first time asking a post be sent to front page.
Lala, Seun, et all

Are you also the op?

@op, don't run away, you've done terribly bad, and you tried to right it by confessing to your wife. It is normal for her to be annoyed, in fact, very annoyed, but with time, things will get back to normal. You don't expect her to give you a blowing kiss after such a horrible confession. Wait behind and face the repercussions of your misadventures. Running away and leaving her alone with your child is like doing a more terrible thing than what you previously did.



And lest I forget, stay away from drunkenness!

It is well!

5minsmadness:
Sometimes women say terrible things out of anger. If you follow every word spoken by your wife you will just get bp.

How has your marriage been over the years? How will you rate it over 10? If it has been miserable all through then there must be a problem you two have not addressed? If it has been fairly ok then she might be in a desert phase right now where she is rethinking her life with you after 4 kids and wondering what might have been i.e with her ex. Now is the time to show her love, that is, if u truly love her. Take her recent emotional flirtations with her ex as a challenge, not as an insult. You have four kids together and almost a decade of marriage, surely that must count for something! Have you been paying her any attention recently? As guys we tend to stop forget to be romantic and become absorbed with the wahala of maintaining a family, finances, work, etc etc. When last did you take her out to eat peppersoup like you used to? if she didnt love you she wouldnt have stuck with you through 4 kids.

Take a step back. An old ex wants to invade on your property, your family, your home. Your anger should be directed towards him, not your wife. Ignore or push aside the hurtful words you read from her to her sister, a message you actually were not meant to see. Woo her again, take her out, make time for her to gist with her and make her happy. Change your schedule. Stop looking for the best way to punish her for cheating, look for a way to make her love for you catch fire again. We all want to be loved, her included. The ex is just a distraction and an obstacle, a man like you. Be a man and overcome him. Win your wife back.



All the best.

God bless you wonderfully for this piece!

You're one of the men I admire most on this section. You possess a great deal of wisdom.

How some posters are asking him to send his wife of many years with whom they have four wonderful kids together still baffles me.


Once again, God bless and increase your wisdom!