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mentorandfriend:
PART 4

Warning:

1) Ladies, please never marry a man that clearly lacks purpose. They are everywhere, parambulating up and down without a purpose/plan for their lives. It will be a Holy Padlock, not a Holy Wedlock; because they will sit over your purpose/plans/ambitions; feeling threatened at your progress since they themselves lack purpose. They are the type of men that graduate into abusers; battering their wives at the slightest issue because they try so hard demanding for respect instead of earning it with their grand purpose/plan/ambition/sense of direction. The stories on internet portraying all sort of abuses meted out to women are enough lessons. Beware, lest you forget.

2) Gentlemen,please do not marry a clearly clueless, naive woman who is unsupportive, directionless, and totally dependent and needy, without a life of her own. As a single lady, her highest calling is spending time strategising on how to tie down a man of her own; warming a hundred beds in town without planning on how to be a wife/mother/resourceful partner/efficient manager of resources/home-maker.

A sense of Purpose/Assignment solves all that. It has a way of confering wisdom for living to people who discover theirs.

mentorandfriend:
PART 3

How I Discovered My Purpose.

1) I spent one weekend alone, thinking and reflecting on my CORE VALUES.

You see, our values are a pointer to where our calling lies. For instance, I discovered that my core values included
~Integrity and Sincerity
~Curiousity (Yes, it's true. I'm a curious person. I lack discipline and order). The meaning is that I hate routine and would likely rebel against norms than follow them.
~Hardwork
~Dedication
~Respect
~Loyalty
~Love, Compassion and Sharing
~Impact, Recognition and Appreciation
~Family and Friends.
I wrote them down, and decided that I would walk away from people, associations, societies, and cliques that do not share at least half of these values. There is a correlation between purpose and your values.

2) I looked inward to discover what my PASSION really was. For instance, I have more passion for public speaking and making power point presentations than I have for hospital job. Thus while my value for Love, Contribution and Sharing will keep me in the practice of medicine, my passion for communicating hope and direction will keep me afloat as a public speaker.

3) I analysed the things that gave me PAIN and STRESS.

Many of us have been hurt and disappointed severally by people. For instance, I lost a sibling who was supposed to be my elder brother to a careless doctor who was treating him for malaria for several weeks while he was suffering from anaemic heart failure; which eventually took him. He was the only son of my parents then; with five girl-children ahead of him already, so you can imagine the pain of my parents at losing a son they've been waiting for.

You see, there will be defining moments in your life. You don't have to forget them; but heal from them and turn them into a message/career. Make sure someone close to you does not have to go through the same things that hurt you in the past.

4) I took a look at the PROBLEMS around me.

I believe that problem solvers are men of purpose. Problem-solving will shoot you to relevance and make you a man-on-assignment; a man of purpose. I found a problem.

When I was a student, one problem I saw was a sea of people who didn't know why they were in school. Some naive girls as young as 16 or 17 years were readily snapped up by smooth talkers who go on to persuade them to move in with them. Every night is a night of rumble under the sheets. These girls enter the university as good, homely girls but are turned to sex objects before they leave school. These are people's future wives for that matter. I saw it as a social problem that needs to be solved. It pained me, so I started talking about it. I will enter a class early in the morning before a lecturer comes in and plead for attention from them to hear me out. I talked in hostels too. Little did I know that I was sharpening my public speaking skills and perfecting myself in the art of persuassion; at the same time, making an impact in the lives of first year students.

5) I spent time bathing myself in PRAYER; asking God why He created me, and sent me to my family, my community, my state, and Nigeria. Why was I born in Nigeria and not in Luxemburg?

I prayed until I had peace in my mind that God wanted me to practice medicine and not to be an entrepreneur/importer of drugs after medical school. Lol.

You see, I believe the bible is a universal book that has sold more than any book on earth; filled with so much wisdom. Thus whether you're a christain, muslim, or an atheist, I hope you draw inspiration from a story I read in Habakkuk 2vs1-3 that taught me this 5th point.

Prophet Habakkuk said he will stand on his watch (the place of prayer), to hear what God will tell him. Then God gave him his purpose and told him to write it boldly and in plain letters. God further encouraged him with further words of hope. You can find your purpose like this.

mentorandfriend:
PART 2

My Story

Between my first year in the medical school and fourth year, I vascillitated constantly on what I wanted to do after school; because I clearly lacked direction. In my first year in school, I wanted to specialise in Orthopaedic Surgery because I had an uncle who was a successful orthopaedic surgeon. Problem arose when I tried to get close to him to be my mentor then, but sadly, I discovered that he didn't believe in me. He thought I would never make it through medical school. He constantly spoke words of fear each time I visited him; telling me stories upon stories of young chaps who couldn't make it beyond the 2nd MBBS examinations. I lost my confidence and self esteem listening to him constantly, so I stopped visiting him.

I later changed my mind to Ophthalmology in my second year; then Obstetrics and Gynaecology in my third year. Later on, I decided I was going to be a top entrepreneur, with a focus on importation of drugs and running a one stop pharmacy complex. But my contract with confusion had not been severed. There was more confusion to come.

In my fourth year in school, I decided that I was going to be a pastor with my church, Living Faith Church, aka Winners’ Chapel. I greatly admired my Bishop, Dr David Oyedepo; thus in pursuit of the annointing for the ministry ahead, I abandoned my academic texts for many months as I went on many personal retreats. I missed tutorials and clinics while reading up on several books on Faith, Miracles, Power, etc, and I listened to hundreds of tapes in the process. I was the president of our fellowship then in campus. Needless to say, I dropped in my academic performance in school during this period of my search for the annointing and I’m sure you know why.

Due to this effect on my academic studies, I gave up on being a pastor when I leave medical school and I faced my books squarely in order to return to my academic best. It was during this time that I became angry at God and at the religious folks around me. I rebelled vigourously against God in my mind. I cared less anyway since I clearly couldn't diagnose my problem.

It was not until my fifth year that it all came together. I had more clarity than ever before. Nothing gives more clarity than a sense of purpose.

Are you feeling like a confused automaton trapped in a cold and unforgiving matrix? I’ll show you a way out; how I solved my own puzzle of living without a purpose and a direction. Grace to you.

mentorandfriend:
PART 1

What Living On Purpose Really Means

Living on purpose simply means being able to give a correct account of the WHY for every of your daily actions. It means to live your life like a man/woman on an assignment; having short term, medium term, and long term goals for your life. It means living a planned life. Living on purpose implies a longer life for you; and not just that alone; it also means a life full of impact and meaning. It is a life worth living.

Nothing can be more frustrating as drifting through the days of your life robotically, feeling vaguely lost and dissatisfied; angry at life, angry at people, blaming everyone else but yourself. People with a lack of purpose float rather than swim. They are passive in life rather than active. They flow with the tide and will rarely row hard against it.

They are shortsighted, helping fulfill everybody’s dreams but their own. Their lives are an emotional roller coaster, with more troughs than peaks; bored with themselves, often finding a way to distract themselves whenever possible. They rather find joy in foolishness such as strategising on how to get laid, flagrant display of clothes and its accesories, flaunting of electronics that are already outdated in Europe, binge drinking, joining confraternal brigandages in campuses, etc.

This may be sounding vitriolic, or looks like a cynical viewpoint, but I’m afraid it isn’t. This is reality. I was a victim of lack of purpose for many years. Some of those days, I stayed awake all night, pondering what on earth I was born to do in life. I was so easily distracted by anything at all; lacking focus and direction; spending my life on 2go and facebook looking for fine girls to ask out.

Julius2214:
The kind of content you offer to your readers matters a lot. Contents can actually make or mare your blog. It is time to drop ‘copy and paste’ and be creative with your posts. If you’ve been struggling for the type of content to post on your blog, if you want more comments and readers engagement for your blog, then this post is for you.

In this post I’ve compiled 20 blog posts ideas to keep your readers engaged and boost your blog traffic. Read them below.

1. Run a contest – Running a contest is a great and effective way of getting attention and new traffic to your blog.

2. Write a review – You can write a review on movies, books, products, phones, hosting companies, etc. Reviews deliver a lot of value to your readers, and people are constantly looking for honest opinions, not the fake ones that the web is full of.

3. Host a giveaway – People love free stuff, and taking advantage of that helps you reach new audiences. It will also increase your traffic if you do it regularly.

4. Write a short story – think of something short and interesting (between 200 to 500 words). Then ask your readers for feedback.

5. Create a list post – people are lazy. They don’t want to waste time gathering information. That’s why lists are popular. You can make lists like Top10 movies that bla bla bla, Top 20 that bla bla bla.

6. Give your opinion about recent Post/News – When you write a quality blog post on hot topics, your blog can be featured on popular newspapers or blogs like a post on Nairaland was featured on Naij.com some days ago.

7. Start a poll – That’s simple. Want to know what other people prefer or think about a certain topic? Start a poll to get quick overview.

8 Write where you’d like to travel – … and encourage others to do the same in your comments. This kind of conversations usually turns out pretty big.

9. Blog about marketing secrets – Tell your readers about your top secret strategies, techniques, and tactics you use to get more followers and traffic.

10. Write a blog post in Pidgin English – Forget the well-known rules, and use the expressions you use every day. It’s a great way to make your posts more enjoyable and stand out.

11. Compile a list of common mistakes in your niche – Many people don’t know the basics and make common mistakes. Write tutorials to help them prevent these mistakes.

12. Thank your audience for following you – Show them they’re valuable and that you respect them.

13. Launch a free e-book about your best blog posts – Gather the most viewed and commented posts together and convert them into an e-book

14. Host a voting contest – Ask your readers to nominate the best blogs in your niche. This can turn into several posts since you can take thosenominations and write a “Top 100 Blogs in the Industry” post. Notify the winning blogs so that they’ll send some of their followers your way.

15. Wish yourself happy birthday – Are you entering the second year of your blog? Wish it a happy birthday, and then show readers how far you’ve come.

16. Showcase a reader – Do you have a strong relationship with some of your loyal readers? Ask one of them if you can interview him or her and post his or her responses on your blog.

17. Create a list of free eBooks – People love free stuff, so help generate some buzz by creating a long list of helpful and free eBooks in your niche.

18. Compile a list of jokes – People love to be entertained. Make them laugh with a list of jokes related to your industry.

19. Write a FAQs post – What questions do you get asked constantly, either about yourself or your niche? Create a FAQs post answering all these questions. Repost this as a page on your website so that it’s easy to find for newcomers.

20. Write a blog post about 20 blog post ideas (or more) in your niche – List down 20 blog topics in your niche; a lot of people find it useful.

http://bloggingplan.com/20-blog-post-ideas-to-boost-your-readers-engagement

CBMO:
Sorry i have been MIA. I got the offer. Got called this week

phabulous88:
Prior to August 2015, I never thought I'd loose my job because I am well educated and always met my KPIs. But then I lost my job and had to start looking for a new one. I joined an online job portal, did a lot of cold calling, attended series of interviews but nothing was forthcoming.

By mid August, I changed my strategy and started searching for firms online by using industry specific keywords. For example, I'll go to Google and type ' Associate Information Technology Consultancy South Africa Nigeria LinkedIn' and I'll get a list of LinkedIn profiles of professionals in the industry. I'll then peruse their LinkedIn profiles for the companies they are working for or for companies they have worked for. Thereafter, I'll visit the company's website for information on the kind of services they offer.

I was doing this one Saturday evening and found out that a company in VI was recruiting. I sent in my CV immediately but I wasn't satisfied. Fast forward to Monday morning, I drove to their office in VI and requested to meet the M.D. After about 6 hours of waiting, I was able to meet the M.D for about 2 minutes, and that 2 minutes changed my story. I was scheduled for a formal interview and before the ministerial list could get to the Senate president, I got a job offer.

I'll be resuming work on 5th October 2015 and I'm so so thankful to God for this opportunity. I pray that God will bless any Nairalander looking for a job with a job that brings fulfillment and happiness. Amen

Lessons learnt:
1) information is power - the Internet has loads of information that one can exploit, use the right keywords to get more information. Also, do a thorough research about the company you're applying to
2) Follow up - if I hadn't gone to their office and requested that I met with the M.D, I'll probably will still be searching for a job
3) Network - by spreading your tentacles in the right direction, you are more likely to get your dream job than those who do only online job portals. I did speak to trusted friends and got a couple of interview invites through their friend's friend's brother's cousin's fiancée
4) Keep developing yourself - I did a lot of research and learnt a couple of skills this period. No knowledge is a waste
5) Pray - Ah! I prayed o! But don't spend your whole day in the church, go out!

6) Save - I don't need to say much on this

Lesgupnigeria:
Plantain business is a very profitable.business.but not without its challenges.
The purpose of this thread is to enable you to have in depth knowledge about what you have not known or hear before in plantain business.

I am your agricbusiness expert and i am dedicated to your success so you can trust me to open up on all what you have not been told or on what you are not aware of in this business.

This thread will enable you to make informed decision when you are making decision on when,where and how to start your business as pertain to plantain.

What i will be sharing are very important and cannot be ignored or taking with levity.
I will draw from my over half a decade experience and other experiences of other plantain farmers so you can learn all what it takes to start out on a brighter note.

You have not heard this anywhere,Plantain farmers will not even want to tell you,but you will hear and see everything on this thread.

I will also bring to you the latest researches on plantain and how you can take advantage of this recent developments in plantain industry.

...stay connected

geobukky:
Aiit... Tanx Am probably out sef... Was mailed to repeat video interview cos of technical issues... since den dy av bin doing like the mtn network in my area and I no wan dy too bug them with mails... Judging by d mail dy sent last am still in but it has dragged too much.... Wen someone ppl already have offer letters... And my second for this case said he received regret already.... Perhaps my own dn dy draft ... Rewarding careers to u guys

geobukky:
My case is complicated o... Since video interview we still dy wait for them... Am just curious about the driving requirement...

geobukky:
xo the driving could disqualify

CBMO:
The recruitment hasn't been cancelled. Stop going around spreading false news!!!