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Logobenz3:
Now this is the story.
So I discovered this girl worked for the dad's crashing contracting firm according to her.
They are having liquidity issues and I as a businessman myself understood what was going on..
Noticed she was cashstrapped and all and we talked about it and I decided to put her on 50k salary monthly.
Because we had already started discussing future plans since the both of us have had our fair share of the world.
There is no day I meet this girl that I won't spend 15k or more.
It's always one fancy restaurant or the other,one this or that even though I never gave her cash.
I began to wonder and ask myself,how is someone who is penniless not know the value of money?is it that I'm her maga or what?
We went to NOVOTEL for lunch one day and after blowing up to 12k on food in her presence,she still demanded for takeaway for her bony sister?
I sha pay,no shaking.
She even wears leg chains.wtf!I told her to take it off to no avail.i ignored.
She knows all the big women in GRA and will always tell me to come with the bigger car so we go see people I have no business with.why?I still don't know till date!
Perhaps to go show off her new maga or catch.Bleep!!
I was such a fool.i should have noticed!
I was thinking about all these and wondering whether to continue or not when she called one morning very early and told me ehn,she had been working on whatever and told me to go to Beijing chops and get her Chinese bla bla bla...for breakfast on my way that she is very hungry.
I couldn't help but talked to her rudely on the phone and hung up!
That was the deal breaker.
How would a person that doesn't even have ordinary 100k feel so comfortable in blowing a man's money like that?
Mtcheew.
Stay off poor girls!bunch of lunatics.spits!

You thought she was rich, posh, self made Abuja chick but I guess you were disappointed. I bet you that chick spends more time in ph than Abuja. I'm so sorry for your heartbreak. Next time don't judge a book by its cover. The right woman will surely come your way. Gracias.

After 22 years of marriage what could be the reason for the divorce. The love that bound them for two decades, what happened to it?

Start squatting and always eat balanced diet.

If you people dated for 4 years, where did this ex spring from? Is it that she was in constant communication with him during those years? Is it that you turned blind eye to all these happening now? Op be a man and be in charge of your home. Run secret check on your wife she might be more than you know. A woman that truly loves you will be contented with whatsoever you give her.
Use your tongue and count your teeth.

I have been waiting for an update but Op is keeping mute. Man what happened to your car? Your subsequent dates etc... I like gist shaa oo

She's pretty... Hbd to her

Lol that's equivalent to her bride price and traditional wedding expenses

She's married so her getting pregnant shouldn't be a news.

Efewestern:
The school fees is quite large and the grade isn't that encouraging, well the best way out is to save some money, move out, start a little business or migrate to some better country and when you are financially stable, you can then get your degree.

Since you are into crypto, be proactive, know when to pump in more money, you know it isn't that fixed or stable.

As for your mom's attitude, you aren't alone, most African/Nigerian Parents are like that, too spiritual, they blame everything on witches & wizard, you just have to ignore.

Are you speaking of him going for another degree or go for that same one? I'm asking coz Nigerian university admissions expires after additional two years you complete your expected course year. I don't know about Ghana and private schools though.
IMO I would advice he enrolls for another degree after making some money. I know it won't be easy but spending such money in getting that certificate isn't wise.

SeunWedsLinda:
Thank you everyone. We did the scan. She's not pregnant. I can finally heave a sigh of relief

Good for you buy use protection next time or you pull out. Don't put yourself into this kind of situation again. Make more money first.

alphaNomega:
I tell you the truth and you say it is ignorance, yet you can't explain. I am not surprised.

Maybe the real mum sold the baby to her. Who knows?

Why do you need an explanation when you have already concluded. She's late and it's still fresh in my memory so why would what a stranger that I don't know if he's a human being or not, who doesn't know anything about me nor my family be the reason I will say things that I don't want to say.
The best I can do is to give you the address of the hospital and the name of the doctor for you to confirm and the name and number of the deaconess from my church that also went into the labour room with us. You can never know better than the person who had the experience so next time before you say trash, you confirm first.

SUPERPACK:
she fell for a pregnancy scam ongoing in mostly south east part of nigeria. read thread below. https://www.nairaland.com/5296168/cryptic-pregnancy-doctor-abah-ehi

This thing you shared is unrelated to her experience sir. I was present in the labour room when she gave birth, not just me but my mom too. All stories are not the same.

alphaNomega:
Your sister should return that child to the real mother!

I forgive your ignorance.

SeunWedsLinda:
Now this is some scary stuff. No problem. Will update after running the scan today.

The girl in question is someone I love and would want to spend the rest of my life with. However, the timing of the pregnancy if truly positive is wrong. Considering d & c

Don't think of that please. If she's truly pregnant, keep the baby since you love her but don't get her pregnant again after this. Grow with her and plan the future together with her, at least be financially stable before you have another baby. In future you will surely smile when you look at that baby.

SeunWedsLinda:
then why isn't there any sign? Why did the urine test fail to indicate that it's positive? I'll Sha run scan today to know my fate

Urine test doesn't show on some women. I have married sisters with different stories. One of my sister's pregnancy was never detected by urine, blood test nor scan till the day she gave birth. Her gynaecologist was convinced she was pregnant and she believed him.

SeunWedsLinda:
thanks. I've been told to run a scan because that would tell you the duration of the pregancy if truly she's pregnant. I'm just confused

Don't be cos the case is not complicated. Running a scan isn't expensive... Just make up your mind to be a dad if it gets to that. All the best bro.

Let her run another test in a standard laboratory for final confirmation. A lot of women doesn't have pregnancy symptoms at the early stage while some still menstruate even when pregnant usually at the early stage. It has happened to my sister and a girlfriend of mine. They were pregnant but was still menstruating.

Always lock your doors and never open when she's knocking or you leave the house in the morning before her. I gave you the advice above cos I found out from your post you don't know how to say NO . If it's someone like me, I will outrightly tell you no that I want to have some me time.

Please don't heed to the advice of leaving the kids alone coz should anything happen to them while you agreed to attend to them, you will be in deep trouble. Anytime you agree to look after them, make sure you do it to the fullest.

Let her keep the baby but make sure you run a DNA test on the baby when it's born. I have this feeling you are not the only one she's sleeping with cos it seems she's experienced in the game.

Your mistake was having sex with her without protection but there's no need for blame games coz the deed has been done. Frankly speaking I feel for your wife and I'm just wondering how she will take this news you betrayed her trust.

Just come down to Nigeria and speak with her one on one in order to find a way out of this. Maybe you can arrange with a doctor to stay in your hotel room when she's coming to run a test on her to confirm if she's truly pregnant...that's if you think she's not pregnant.