₦airaland Forum

Sofialuv:
you can't escape problem from a lady but just have the ability to understand them

I know but there's a big limit to what I can endure, i recently had to issue a quit notice to a tenant over his wife's behaviour and utterances. I would die of hypertension if I have a wife like his. Imagine looking for a house in this economic situation when he's owing months of rent already due to recent financial problems facing the family?

Samantha123:
Good luck having the both of them when you finally get to live in an open space.

I'm in my late 20s.

lol, reminds of the expression 'a cat and dog relationship', if you don't mind me asking, can I know more about you, like your town of residence, interests and hobbies, works etc?

Meanwhile, the Buhari's government continues to pamper Fulani terrorists while harassing the likes of Sunday Igbogho and MNK with the security forces. The government have effectively bought the news media to change the name of the terrorists from Fulani herdsmen to bandits.

And this haven't made it to the frontpage yet? Nairaland moderators seems to have been bought over by Tinubu's deep pockets.

So this is the picture of Seun, the guy looks gay so I'm no longer surprised that Nairaland is promoting homosexuality. The actress is on point on this one, at least a pregnant bride shouldn't dress in white gown and veil because it denotes virginity but apart from that, her marriage ceremony is the same as others and is often held together with others at the same time. I think that's common Roman Catholic Church practice, I'm not an expert on the topic sha.

Op where is the source? What Tinubu and APC did to Good luck Jonathan in 2015 is what they're receiving from Nigerians now, they're lucky that Nigerians have not been insulting their family members the same way that they insulted Goodluck Jonathan's wife yet Goodluck was a far better candidate and president than Buhari and Tinubu combined together.

While Peter Obi addressing massive crowds everywhere he goes, Thiefdumbu is addressing small rented crowds in a few states as town hall meetings while buying a lot of news and social media coverage for them with his massive stolen wealth. Nigerians vote wisely.

Mermaid123:
Greenermodel u said u cant date a girl that cant help become a better person .Have u tried helping her.To become a better person

that's the major problem, most of them have this 'accept me as I am' mentality, they're not willing to change to a better person, they expect you to accept them with their good and bad sides,I want somebody that is willing to grow rather than remaining stagnant. An example is a lady that doesn't just like to study as a university student, pushing her hard to adopt a better studying habit is bound to fail as long as she doesn't want to improve regardless of what she's saying otherwise, forcing a lady to study for 40 straight minutes against her consent would only attract her resentment, what she wants is where to spend her evening catching fun not studying.

With Tinubu's deep pockets, it can only be expected that hired hands like Nwabufo would sing for him if paid, the question that all of us should ask ourselves is 'Who among the three main candidates can you employ to manage your business?' We should not repeat the Buhari mistake?

DaddyCK:

bro do u no that if somebody smoke IGBO...that person witl tink that his shadow is atracted to him....juss sayin
by the way do u smoke IGBO sir? (((no oofeinse)))

This guy with his changing monikers, what do you smoke before making your hilarious comments?

Western news agencies are not better than NTA, very biased in their reports.

Urheadmaster:
Despite witnessing Lagos state been built.

He didn't remind the builder to build hospital they can always patronise instead of going all the farway London hospital .

that question is more appropriate for Tinubu, the self acclaimed builder of Lagos.

So he was already living in Lagos before Tinubu came to Lagos from Iragbiji? Na question I ask o.

Olachase:
If you Don Cook and fry the indomi and egg finish con add small S.K make una too chop ham

That something way u won check na COMA u go day check ham

please, don't try this, you might actually end up in coma, I'm not joking.

Samantha123:
I have two cats..

Don't let the baby face deceive you..

I love cats and dogs although I don't have any now because I live upstairs in a flat. As for the baby face, you're definitely a young lady, I'm an ancestor ( in my late thirties)

Samantha123:
I didn't know I was in trouble..

I just checked your profile picture, you're quite younger than I thought. And you have a cat

Samantha123:
I didn't know I was in trouble..

you aren't, you just like giving it to others. If I had your phone contact, I'll save it with the name 'BullyMax'

Samantha123:
Don't worry, I'm not the kind of a person that kicks a man when he's down.

So, let's laugh it off..

lol,you my friend, likes trouble.

Samantha123:
Lol.. I thought you said you Nigerian men know how to treat women better.

How come you're failing to keep one? Oh! Wait, that's just a rhetorical question.

Always remember that you're who you attract.

Nice comeback, let's laugh it off.

The same NATO that invaded Libya and other countries that didn't land a missile in their territory is now giving conditions to react to a supposed missile attack? They're deceiving themselves.

jeromestarks:
So I met a girl on Twitter. We talked and exchanged numbers.
I called her to come over to my place because I needed sex. She agreed and pleaded that I should play with her heart.

She even asked me to buy her a new phone when she comes. I said no problem.
We agreed that she will see me tomorrow.

After talking with her on phone, I searched for her name on Facebook and found pictures of her and her baby which dated December, 2021.

I won't say anything. I will wait till she comes, fvck her, give her some money (highest 3k) and discard her.

No time to keep olosh0 as a girlfriend.
( I pray I won't contact disease shaa).

she asked you not to play with her heart, please, don't play with her heart. As long as she hasn't done any wrong to you,don't do any wrong to her first. Entertain her with food and drinks and maybe discuss your friendship with her, you can stylishly tell her that you want an open friendship where each of you can keep other friends etc. Just be considerate with whatever you do with her.

Emma2Seconds:
Like will the person agree to stay for 6years for three children only and how much will be considered for payment

OGA ,you're approaching this the wrong way besides, baby mama have too many problems especially in Nigeria that the lady might not upheld her own end of the contract.

DaddyCK:
lightskin or darksin sir?

Who skin colour help?

Mermaid123:
U too have ur past no one is perfect for u to love someone ull love the good and bad of them

this your entitlement mentality is trouble with Nigerian ladies, rather than change from their bad habits,they would start demanding that you should accept them as there are, who does that? Any relationship that doesn't leads to my improvement or her improvement is a baseless and pretentious. I want a woman that would tell me my bad part and help me to improve it, if I'm lazy, encourage me to be hardworking, if I'm a spendthrift, encourage me to be frugal, if I'm a bad cook,encourage me to be a good cook and I expect to do the same to her, but when a lady expects you to accept accept their bad character because you're not perfect yourself, she is saying that she's entitled to her bad character.

frozen70:
The problem you are having is that you are looking for a woman that have no faults and a woman you can trust

Those days sardine use to be three inside and that's all we get inside sardines

Now sardines is two inside, yet people still buy it and manage the two they found inside and they will keep buying it till its left with one fish inside

The meaning of the above narrative is that

If you want to get a woman, get one and don't expect her to have all the qualities you want, that's if you have aa high demands

Look out for behavioral attitudes

Internal and external character

Good cooking skills

Homely in her manners of approach

Finally one who is prudent enough to manage every little thing given to her

If you are not satisfied with the above

Then the problem is from you

Thanks for the advice but these qualities you listed are common sense qualities that an average Nigerian lady wanting to be married would also display, spend enough time with her and you realise she's faking it. Imagine a lady in her thirties that can't cook even basic soups like eqwusi but would rather die than admit it upfront, the girl would eat up the meat in the soup while eating and would rather argue endlessly than stop it among other even more serious red flags.

diogo23:
My brother even that perfect woman you're looking for you will still manage her

agreed but they're things that I wouldn't want to manage like poor anger management/psychological problem, single moms, autocratic and self centered ladies that doesn't get along easily with people, lying and stealing, etc. Most modern ladies seems to exhibit these characters.

ucheheart:
Though they are all the same, so they say but there are some that are better.

If you want to get the better ones you must forget about physical beauty, 99.9% of beautiful girls don't make good wives. Their beauty dey enter their head and before you know it they think they are doing you a favour by dating you then they start misbehaving.

Focus on their character, some will hide their true character. But they cant hide it forever.

Never be sentimental when picking a lady based on character, thinking that she will change one day. Devil will always remain devil.

If you love sex don't go for fat girls, I repeat, never go for fat girls. They are not good in bed and they will end up blaming you to cover up their failure. But they love foolishly and they are very humble.

I am writing based on my years of experience in dating and marriage.

Have a nice day.

you're right, almost all the beautiful ladies I've been with ended up having serious behavioural problems or existing hidden children. Honestly, I'm not after beauty anymore but I often end up with them. At my age, any lady that I'm getting involved with already knows that it would likely end up in marriage soon, some mere female friends would outrightly ask me to marry them or indirectly say that I should marry.

nicerod:


U need to start with Friendship first before getting married.


Get to know them and never tell them u want to marry them because they will start pretending.

U look desperate sef.


Alaye calm down o

right from the friendship, I would soon learn something she's hiding from the public, like been previously married with children.

lifenajeje:
Problem no dey finish .

Nobody perfect everybody get their strength and weakness .

U get trust issues

I'm not having trust issues with a particular lady,but almost every lady I have been with turns out to be hiding one serious issue or playing mumu manipulative games. I don't even bother about their double dating behaviour so it's not about trust issues.

Samantha123:
You see why I said we're too different?

Already you're trying to compare Nigerians with South Africans.

With you guys everything is always a competition and I hate this mentality that you guys have.

At first I thought maybe we were going to have a constructive discussion, but with the way this conversation is going, I've lost interest.

I'm done replying you and have a good evening.

Ouch,I must have struck a nerve there , have a nice week my friend.

Guys,I'm more than ready to settle but I keep ending up with girls that I later discover very unpleasant things about. I have talked to my married friends about this problem but they would just say that all women are the same so you manage your wife till you become tired. I doubt they're are really happy in their marriages, they're likely managing the situation they found themselves as best as they can, so please I need advice on how to get a potential life partner worth keeping for life,I don't have energy for problematic ladies.

This war is just starting, December to February would open up another chapter, we just don't know what it would be yet.