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Greatmind653:
Pls, if you don't really understand this post, don't comment please. If you're gender bias, pls, read and ignore.

Good morning kind hearted people in the house. Pls, I need honest and matured advice from experience and knowledgeable people in the house.

How can I train my sons especially my 11yrs old boy into a good, respectful, well behaved young man in a situation where he constantly see his father in gambling addiction, and the house is not always peaceful because of this?

How can I make them believe that the fact that their father does not provide anything for them nor anything in the house, does not mean they're not good enough?
My son has learnt the habit of not asking his Dad for anything no matter how little because he knows the answer already. He would rather starve than ask him for anything. Every of his needs, he will patiently wait for me.

I practically provide everything in the house and he knows. Infact my husband and my two sons can be in the house hungry for the whole day if I'm not around.
Any money he has is strictly for betting. He wouldn't even use it to feed himself not to talk of his children.
He eat anything I provide in the house without him providing. Most times it's very annoying.
Most times, we don't talk to each other in this house, yet anything I cook, he must eat.
I'm trying my best, because I can't watch my kids go hungry or stay without light, water, TV subscriptions and the rest. But once he's holding TV remote, no one dare change the channel.

How can I train well behaved young boys in a home like this? I'm so lonely and worried for my children too.

I'm no longer traumatized by his gambling addiction, because I have tried everything, and it didn't work if this is the life he wants, then fine.

I'm traveling with my two boys for the Christmas and I intend to stay in my family house for a very long time. Maybe not to return back here.
This house, I shoulder the house rent, all the bills all for the sake of my children. I don't want a broken home. I don't want my children growing up lonely without the presence of their both parents. But, am I doing the right thing here?
My husband has refused to change for years. all efforts, complain, family intervention all failed.
He's been in gambling even before we got married. I have endure for so long and I'm scared if what I'm enduring really worth it.

I've given up either.

Am I making my children better by staying together here or they could be better when we're apart?
Anyone experience this before?

What's the right thing to do here?

Please I beg you don't listen to Feminist to Leave your Husband ....Women that endurea like this raise great Children ........You would enjoy in old age ....Your children knows what your their father is doing is wrong but this would toughen them up to face bigger challenges and overcome them ....
Boys needs both Parents just the presence of their father is enough He won't allow his children adopt his own vices though he might not provide but he knows those Sons are his Hope ....
Please make the sacrifices now you would reap it in old age ....As for him he would still Apologize and serve your interest later ...
Love conquers All

marienl:
I have had many experience interacting with people who need work
They like to Show their CV and certification which at the end they cant even follow simple instructions right
I wonder how many of them get their qualification?
This nation has a very long way to go no wonder we will even prefer to hire white man to come do work here because of experience.
You people should go and change

My brother they're are bumblers every where ..People are all you've got
work with what you have .....
Train them to your taste and make them sign to work.for you for atleast 5years......

Soludo must be a Yellow bar Muslim he's from Ogbomosho trying to claim Anambra....

Congratulations ma ..I would like to emulate your Kind of Success

My brother leave Lagos ....Do your business in Ebonyi ...Have contacts with demands in Portharcourt Calabar or Kano ...... And do delivery...

Lagos get Wahala ...
If you insist on still moving just deliver to your customer and go or rent temporary shop only if Government no demolish it ...
This is my advice

Please go back to study medicine it's worth it .....Don't listen to people who wants you to give up on your dream......
You can still have your side hustle

Woodshot:
Lion among men
Men shivers and pee at sight of him
They do his biddings because he's got the willpower.
That's Wike himself.
But he's actually forgetting power doesn't rest on his shoulder alone. There's no lion forever. No king forever.

I see all the threat from many quarters here against Wike...An Ikwerre man doesn't bow to threat..I laugh when some folks said he dare not enter PH.. Isn't it the same Wike that has been a Political thug from Odili's era....
Many people don't understand Rivers Politics....
Many Threatened Amaechi like that not to enter PH because of GEJ he came out openly and no one went close....
Wike knows that territory very well than you think....
He would buy out many Politicians to his Side and they would Sing a new Song...
Sim has a long battle to Fight a very long one the way he started is not needed yet at least at the beginning

No man's land mantra will reduce from henceforth......

When we keep telling them to watch what they say or tell people who have nothing to lose in Lagos to watch it

Ogogoro people Sef!! Lol 🤣🤣 🤣🤣🤣

Bosman17:
Honestly, I still don’t understand why the some Igbos hate Yorubas so much. We’ve have the highest rate of inter-marriage, almost every Igbo man or woman has one or more Yoruba friend and vice versa.
We are yet to realise that the real division is between the ruling class and the led…
As for me, I will never judge a whole race by the action of a few… I have lived with Igbos in Igbo land.. Aba precisely, and I have to be honest, we lived happily as friends and neighbours.

Election is the problem my brother ....Half of my cousins are Ibos by marriage at least Most of my Uncles are married to ibo women ...
My mum senior Sister is Married to Ibo man ...And her sons and daughters are my uncle's and Aunts ....
This hate came via politics ...Forget social media it's not real ...
Every weekend in Lagos Ibadan and Portharcourt Ibos and Yorubas are getting married despite all this

Barrister Why
Your legal Career is on the line already....
You're liable to assault, domestic Violence, abuse and disturbance of Public Peace by this act...

DuBLINGreenb:
Iri awé! Iri awé!! Iri-awe!!!
Ahn Izon!!!
Ahn Kalabari ehhhh

We the good people of Rivers state should be careful not to allow our state be consumed by Wike and his boys that should be priority.
We should also be careful of Asari and his family. Political dynasties and dynasties of thuggery should not be allowed to thrive in our beautiful state.

What is more worse than Wike is Coming for Rivers State if this Asari Sister doesn't watch it ...I have lived in Rivers, worked and Schooled there and it's never been this heated to the extent of family Dynasties provoking one another on top Politics .....This is very wrong with all the Vituperations she said there .... ....
I consider Rivers state as my Second home in Nigeria and I think it calls for caution and Wisdom what we say in Public .....
Both Wike and this woman needs to be called to other enough of this nonsense

Johnweeked12:
But you would rather let him siphon and pay the resources and revenue of Rivers state as homage to his oga at the top who feels he is entitled to a percentage of a whole state's income to keep his personal structure in place, just one man's ambition o and put the lives of millions of its residents in jeopardy.

I hhave said it that many nigerians are very and incredibly stewpid sehh..... Loyalty to a man against the livelihood of millions of people.. Haa, ogbeni, you are successfully become h.opeless.. Your base mentality is appalling.

You're funny honestly what makes you think he's not for his own interests..,
By the Way Wike said the same thing
Amaechi said the same thing
Now this one ....
Obaseki used the same formula to win 2nd term now wants to install his own when the same Man gets into office he wud use the same narrative.....
And all of them never ends well it's been proven over and over again ..
Was Fubara not aware about all this things ...

Jonathan was also advice by his fellow SE and SS people apart from Asari to go against OBJ...
Pa Edwin Clark , Briggs and Co...
But were all quiet during the campaign but as soon as he needed second term he went to Obj ....

Am opening your eyes to the dumb way most of this Ss politicians play Politics
Fubara would soon change Loyalty to Amaechi and Atiku...

Just like Obaseki suddenly changed loyalty to Wike ... Yet kick against godfatherism but still looking out for one for support

I know that's smart to you since you don't understand the game of Power...

Ss/See way of doing Politics.... I don't know what they define as courage to be betrayal unloyal and fight unnecessary in an attempt to prove they're in charge....
This one barely spend 3weeks already doing what they are known for

Dreamhighnow:
Tooor


E go favour u and your family

I will personally vote tinubu next election. Sebi u na no wan get sense

The most annoying part is that a lot of people who can barely feed themselves are the ones shouting jagaban up and down.

One called me recently and saying that Baba really disappointed them. That he doesn't know e be baba buruku. I was like I tried to convince u during election but una dey abuse me

Anyway make una dey enjoy una renewed shege.

What's really going on never thought it would get to this point..

Obj Vs BAT war don start ....

Second warning to Turkey
The next one na to drown that Pharaoh in that country

CalabarPikin:
Forget all this Western medicine..

A good herbal doctor will fix him with little change

Hope you know what you're saying....This are defective white blood cells produced in the bone marrow.....how does herbal correct a bone marrow disorder...

evsimmigration:
Ever since Thiefnibuu won, yoruba cowardss have been making mouth threating Igbos cos they think Theifnubuuu will cover them when war starts.
You guys Yoruba have been fanning tribal wars Igbos are watching you.Donot think it will be walkover on igbo war when it will start.You guys have been making mouth destroying their properties out of envy and jealousy cos you think your Theifnubuuu is on the stolen throne.
I only see is that yoruba cowardds are full of tribal jealousy and chronic hatred over Igbos dominated them in their states
A lazy tribe man who always likes to measure dick with Igbos cos out of hatred and jealousy they enjoyed whenever Igbos are being maltreated.

One day one day, Igbos would challenge you and fight you to stupor,you wil see that it is only mouth Yoruba person has.If you like hate Igbos marginalise, curse them burn all their properties,you can never conquer or dominate them, and you can never defeat Igbos when they mean to challenge you.
Fulani did worse than Yoruba, yet Igbos are waxing stronger.Yoruba to me is Akamu case

Ok please start the war as you said .....
But remember how to start is not a problem but how it will end....
It will likely be on a round table with one party Surrendering .....
War is not Nzobu zobu oooo...War isn't muscle neither is all about Military might they are more to it that's why it's always the last resort when all available avenues for Peace are exhausted

43Ronin:
while most igbo youths and igbo people who have sense will agree with bode George, the truth is that apart from Lagos all other SW states are shít. They are not even at par with SE states when it comes to rural development. I know becos I was born and bred in Lagos, and can speak yoruba fluently. I have travelled to all SW states and I was appalled by the level of development in your region. Apart from the state capital the villages, rural towns and cities are terrible with no infrastructure. Also saying igbos don't have identity is trash. The identity makes them go home every Xmas. Unlike you guys who go to lagos and never return. even Bury your dead relatives in lagos. Moat of you guys shouting igbos leave lagos are not lagosians you know why, half of the real lagosians have inter-married with igbos.

Most Yorubas don't build in their Villages like building mansions ...They would rather build in the Capital or at most Lagos and Ibadan ......
Stop comparing the two Ibos travel home for Festivities how many Yorubas do that very few ...
Go check motor from Lagos or Ibadan it's few compare to Ekele Dili chukwu and the rest

Nchenches:
Declare Oduduwa Republic so that Yoruba will own Lagos, these Yoruba people refuse because of proceeds from crude oil in the Niger delta region.
Instead, Igbo and Lagos become their heartache.
Interestingly, Yoruba man owns Gatwick Airport in the UK, Yoruba people own tens of thousands of other landed properties in the UK.

But would always know one day they're coming back ...They acknowledge they're sojourners as owners of the Land never chest beating as developers to the extent of trying to make the indigenes look like minority in their Political space...
My brother think it would definitely provoke trouble either now or in the future for them.....


A time is coming all those Nigerians or even Indiana who traveled to us or UK would not be recognized as citizens even to the fourth generation it just take a law to be passed and it stands

This is a milestone breakthrough....

OVB123:
He will meet his waterloo.

Don't mind him jaree ...... Exactly what Oshiomole did look out for one topnotch manager in the corporate sector in Lagos ....Ignore others because you can't trust them to protect your interest when you're done....

This manager would also give him the same treatment if he gets the job

Is it not the same thing this man Accused Oshiomole of is doing ....Anointed candidates.....

Just like his one Obaseki was also a Director of Nigeria Stock Exchange yet he performed below expectations....

Now he went to bring Beer Parlour Manager to manage a state
well impossibility is nothing

God bless Isreal nice Job..,.
Next is to use Salty Sea water from Dead sea to flush those Rats in Human form called Hamas out of their Underground Tunnels ......
Hezbollah should see what will happen to them if they toll the same line ....Wicked Cretins

You have Just one Life
If you have any means t Leave Naija please do..
Go to school learn their culture even marry there ...
Don't Risk your Life on uncertainties of Nigeria ...
This people only have plans for the next election but for future generations I don't know but for elections the have a blue print for sure

pipnator00:
It's a Nigerian thing. Nigerians, we are mentally lazy but worst off, our ladies. Hence the reason they don't meet up when they're outside the shores of Nigeria. And the reason Nigerian men seem to be worshipped outside Nigeria is, the attention/reciprocation they don't get from Nigerian women when they are in Nigeria, they get same from foreign women at ease without much effort. In return, they match the effort by these foreign women by being a little extra.

Nigerian women suffers this complex... "superiority complex" They all feel every man should worship the ground they match on even when the have nothing to offer. Eg: Tolani Baj, Tacha,

During my grad school days, I remember one party we went. Myself and a host of us (Nigerians and non-Nigerians - both males and females) at the grad college. The Nigerian guys in our midst were all chatty and interacting with everyone at the party but for our Nigerian girls. They just sat in a corner, in their group waiting to be approached. Very boring set but I have to give it to them, they dressed TIGHT and CLASSY.

I remember too, the first ever date I went with a non-Nigerian lady, I fought to be the one to settle the bills because she wanted to match me.

It's just sad with our ladies. Try to chat them, even when they are into you, they will always reply with one word sentences showing how lazy they are mentally. The only thing that seem to be in their mind these days is just make-up and wig.

My advise to younger Nigerian men, while you are young and in your youth, try to have some experience with women outside Nigeria or Nigeria women that have lived some years outside Nigeria.

To conclude, Nigerian men deserve better than they get from our Nigerian women.

*** To avoid being guilty of generalization, when I say Nigerian men or Nigerian women, I mean the majority not all.

PS... I like this lady @ Pocohantas She is very logical and of sound reasoning. Many months back, I read her diary here. She seem a very likeable person but I don't know the reason most people attack her here.

Until you're going out you won't know the malady with them... They become worse once they cross to UK or US
met some Botswana beauty... She sees men as just men...But my naija one would have calculated your pocket, her interest above any thing before rating or she finds you useful to another she's interested in

It's a Nigerian thing ooo
They're just like that entitlement is their orientation.....
They carry it abroad and tends to ruin marriage

MichaelSokoto:
no bi as dem take renew ya #30k ronu stipend nahim u take fall out again so?



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