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sorextee:
A northerner is passing by.. since this topic aint about us...

MrPresident:
nice write up Bro,

"Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the universe"
- Albert Einstein

while we don't know where the universe ends, or if it ends, , it is fairly certain, going by phenomenal statistics that humans will continue to act stupidly without end.
the US vs THEM mentality, the fear, discrimination, stereotyping, prejudging and hatred for the others that always keep people divided, is a human stupidity syndrome, a mental illness

plaetton:
Again, I think you miss the point.

It is certainly not up to any of us to decide whether Timaya is guilty or not.

It is tragic that you keep repeating the same fatal error of prosecuting and prejudging the accuser first.

Only the US criminal justice system can put this allegation to the crucible to determine its merit or lack thereof.

Again, what the lady did after is highly irrelevant.

Has Timaya denied having sex with the lady?
I believe the answer is No.

Was the sex done with her full consent?
She says No, he says yes.

So where do you and your friends come in to say that she is a false accuser?

Because, You say, she is a hoe?

Do you know how many rape victims have been called hoes before?

Do you know how rape victims are too afraid and ashamed to cry out because of the fear of being called hoes?

Do you how many rape victims, who are hoes, that cannot cry out and seek justice, simply because they know that they are hoes?

I don't know how old you are, dragon King, whether you have daughters or will have in the future.
But pls , try to see that lady as your daughter or dear sister, irrespective of her lifestyle.

The reasons I keep referring to our primitive mindsets is the clear inability to put issues in proper perspective, and then address them according.
We tend to put emotions and feelings first and above all else.

Sure, Timaya is popular and much admired celebrity. That should not overide our common obligations to hold him accountable in the best and trusted moral and legal system there is.

5minsmadness:
And in this is the summary of my initial post, only in my case I focused on marriage. Now kindly go back and read the inital post again.
Thank you.

5minsmadness:
Yeah right.
Everytime you oogle a woman's bums you tell your wife about it.

Lets say for a moment I beleive you...
You think deep down your wife will be happy hearing you make comments like that, even if you are sharing it with her?
Of course not! But your sharing is like telling her "See, am still doing this thing, but i'm telling you about it so you know its harmless."
She gets that and so wont raise hell about it. she'll turn a blind eye to it.

Thats what I'm talking about.

5minsmadness:
And you really think your wife hasnt caught you once or twice doing so but didnt say anything about it?

5minsmadness:
No, I didnt just get dumped.
It amazes me how allergic we are to reality in this forum. This is family section for goodness sake, where we are supposed to discuss and air common views. You want to sit in front of your computer and tell me since the day you got married you havent even glanced at another woman's behind? and you are not gay?

Ok.

5minsmadness:
Are you yourself married?

Why cant we all be honest for once. Same "No reason to hit a woman" crew. If a woman stabs you in the chest with a butcher's knife dont hit her,dont defend yourself, just walk away.
smh.

5minsmadness:
Another liar.

How many women have you checked out this week alone? Just lookery, nothing else?

Go on. Lie and tell me none.

5minsmadness:
It's simple. Sometimes your partner gives you an insight into what she really feels about you or your finances. She tells you how you have not done enough for her despite the fact that you slave to ensure she gets the best or at least as good as her friends (who she is always comparing herself with consciously or unconsciously with... Women do this a lot whether they want to admit it or not) do. Sometimes you see her being selfish with her finances, buying things with your money and surreptitiously making others feel she was the one that bought them, giving her relatives transport fare when they are leaving and not telling them it was you who gave her the t. Fare to give them. All in a bid to let them feel she is independent of you. She tells you to give her n50,000 to go to market to buy foodstuff, even shows you a list, meanwhile you know for sure that meat doesn't cost that amount per kilo, you know cos you priced it the other day at Shoprite out of curiosity. You know that list wint cost more than n30k but you keep quiet anyway.

You watch as she proudly displays her culinary skills in front of her friends,telling them how she saved you from hunger and starvation in your bachelor days, they grin and shake thier heads at you and you smile helplessly to their pleasure, using eye contact to keep the secret that it was you who taught her to cook like this during your nysc together.

She keeps 'borrowing' money from you, money you know she's never going to pay back but she insists that she will 'one day' and then when you borrow a little from her in your time of need she haggle and frowns her pretty face until you give it back to her.
The list goes on and on.

But you know she's playing at being blind too so you don't grumble so much. You know she has caught you on more than one occasion staring at her best friend's oversized melons with secret hunger. Watched you devour thier massive behinds with lustful eyes that portray forbidden passion. She smells the breath of alcohol on your lips as you kiss her good evening, knowing you are trying hard to pretend as if you just came from work and not from Giddy's Bar where you had a drink with the boys every Friday night where they show live mapouka dance entertainment ;guys N1500, ladies free. She doesn't utter a word in protest but kisses you back with a smile and a hug and the promising smell of dinner cooking in the kitchen. She pretends not to hear the numerous single girls that start a phone conversation or text with you with the greeting "hello honey" and pretends not to notice when you suddenly have the urge to answer your phone call in the corridor or toilet away from her audio prowess. As long as you don't come home late and you are not having an affair she pretends to be blind and deaf.

You ignore her excesses because you love her. She ignores your furtive glances because she loves you.
And in those rare instances where you both are screaming at each other and letting your feelings and hurt out as ALL couples eventually do, those instances when you let each other know you know what they thought you didn't know even though you knew deep down that they did... In those instances you are quick to forgive each other because you both appreciate the other being blind and deaf.

In marriage being in love is all about being a mumu.

-5minsmadness

TheDauraMallam:
https://www.theindependentbd.com/assets/news_images/Obama2.jpg

Barack Obama has made a scathing attack on Africa’s culture of presidents-for-life, urging the continent’s leaders to follow the example of George Washington and Nelson Mandela by respecting term limits, and saying of himself: “I think if I ran I could win, but I can’t.”

The US president, addressing the African Union (AU) on Tuesday at its headquarters in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, at the close of a four-day visit to east Africa, also repeated his impassioned plea for girls to be treated equally and not suffer mutilation of their bodies.

The fragility of Africa’s recent democratic gains has been exposed by the decision by the Burundian president, Pierre Nkurunziza, to override the constitution and gain election for a third term in a disputed victory, plunging the country into civil strife. Similar moves are afoot in Congo-Brazzaville, the Democratic Republic of the Congo and Rwanda.

“I have to say Africa’s democratic progress is also at risk from leaders who refuse to step aside when their terms end,” Obama told delegates from across the continent.

“Let me be honest with you – I just don’t understand this. I am in my second term … I love my work but under our constitution, I cannot run again. I actually think I’m a pretty good president: I think if I ran I could win, but I can’t.

When a leader tries to change the rules just to stay in office, it risks instability and strife, as in Burundi
Barack Obama
“There’s a lot that I’d like to do to keep America moving, but the law’s the law and no one person is above the law, not even the president. I’ll be honest with you, I’m looking forward to life after being president. I won’t have a great security detail all the time. I can take a walk, spend more time with my family, look for new ways to serve, and make more visits to Africa.”

He said he was puzzled why some African leaders clung to office, “especially when they’ve got a lot of money”, prompting huge cheers and whistles from the public gallery.

The president continued: “When a leader tries to change the rules in the middle of the game just to stay in office, it risks instability and strife, as we’ve seen in Burundi. And this is often just a first step down a perilous path. But if a leader thinks they’re the only person who can hold their nation together – if that’s true then that leader has failed to truly build their nation.

“Look at Nelson Mandela. Madiba – like George Washington – forged a lasting legacy by being willing to leave office and transfer power peacefully. And just as the African Union has condemned coups and illegitimate transfers of power, the AU’s authority and strong voice can also help the people of Africa ensure that their leaders abide by term limits and their constitutions.

African leaders listen to the US president at the African Union headquarters. Facebook Twitter Pinterest
African leaders listen to the US president at the African Union headquarters. Photograph: Saul Loeb/AFP/Getty Images
“Nobody should be president for life. Your country’s better off if you have new blood and new ideas. I’m still a pretty young man but I know someone with new energy and new insights will be good for my country. It will be good for your country, too.”

Mandela voluntarily gave up power in 1999, having served one five-year term. But Africa is still replete with leaders unwilling to let go. Teodoro Obiang Nguema Mbasogo and José Eduardo dos Santos have ruled Equatorial Guinea and Angola respectively for 36 years. The Zimbabwean president, Robert Mugabe, in power since 1980, was not invited to Obama’s speech despite being the current AU chairman.

I believe my two daughters ought to have every chance to pursue their dreams – the same goes for girls here in Africa
Earlier this month, the Rwandan parliament voted for a constitutional change to allow president Paul Kagame to run for a third term in office. Muthoni Wanyeki, regional director of rights watchdog Amnesty International, said: “It’s a new pushback against the gains made in the nineties. Many then, a period that was seen as Africa’s second liberation, created term limits but now these terms are coming to an end, and they’re determined to hold on to power by any means.”

Obama’s message on term limits was generally well received.

Hallelujah Lulie, a researcher at the Institute for Security Studies in Ethiopia, said: “There are many countries with no term limits, but we have to start by respecting the constitutions where term limits are clearly set. If you look at the past five years, it has been a source of instability and insecurity so it’s good he addressed it.”

Akuei Bona Malwal, the South Sudanese ambassador the Ethiopia, added: “It’s right on. In Africa now there are enough educated young leaders who should be given a chance to give it a try. They might make mistakes because of their youth but that’s better than making a mistake because they stayed too long.”

Only two of Africa’s 54 leaders are women, in the Central African Republic and Liberia. Obama surprised some in Kenya with his blunt remarks on gender equality and gay rights. He returned to the latter theme in his address to the AU, which is headed by a woman, Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma of South Africa.

“Africa is the beautiful, talented daughters who are just as capable as Africa’s sons,” he said. “As a father, I believe that my two daughters ought to have every chance to pursue their dreams – and the same goes for girls here in Africa. We can’t let old traditions stand in the way. The march of history shows that we have the capacity to broaden our moral imaginations. We come to see that some traditions keep us grounded, but that, in our modern world, other traditions set us back.”

Female genital mutilation (FGM) affects more than 130 million girls and women around the world. Most of the 29 countries that carry out FGM on girls are in Africa, and include Ethiopia. The practice carries a risk of severe bleeding, problems urinating, infections, infertility and complications in childbirth.

Obama added: “When African girls are subjected to the mutilation of their bodies, or early or forced marriage, that sets us back, and it needs to end. When more than 80% of new HIV cases in the hardest-hit countries are teenage girls, that’s a tragedy and it sets us back.”

Barack Obama and Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma of South Africa, the African Union chairperson. Facebook Twitter Pinterest
Barack Obama and Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma of South Africa, the African Union chairperson. Photograph: Evan Vucci/AP
The US was beginning a partnership with 10 African countries – Kenya, Lesotho, Malawi, Mozambique, South Africa, Swaziland, Tanzania, Uganda, Zambia and Zimbabwe – to keep teenage girls safe and Aids-free, he said. The first lady, Michelle Obama, is leading an education and health campaign including a new initiative in Tanzania and Malawi.

“Africa is the beautiful, strong women these girls grow to become. The single best indicator of whether a nation will succeed is how it treats its women. When women have healthcare and education, families are stronger, communities are more prosperous and nations are more successful – just look at all the amazing African women here in this hall today.


Obama's message of hope rings true in call for Africa to flourish
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“Let’s work together to stop sexual assault and domestic violence. Let’s make clear that we will not tolerate rape as weapon of war – it is a crime and those who commit it must be punished. Let’s lift up the next generation of women leaders who can help fight injustice and forge peace and start new businesses and create jobs – and probably hire some men, too. We’ll all be better off when women have equal futures.”

Obama condemned corruption, wildlife trafficking and the rival leaders of South Sudan, a country that gained independence with US help, for plunging it into a civil war. “In South Sudan, the joy of independence has descended into the despair of violence. Neither Salva Kiir nor Riek Machar have shown any interest so far in sparing their people from this suffering or in reaching a political solution.”

Obama and regional leaders meeting on Monday gave Kiir and Machar a deadline to reach an agreement by 17 August. “If they do not, I believe the international community must raise the costs of intransigence,” he said.

The Guardian view on Obama in Africa: good news for women and girls
Editorial: In Kenya, Barack Obama had a message worth hearing but in Ethiopia he faces much greater obstacles
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The first sitting US president to address the AU did so in $200m headquarters that were a gift from China, which is widely perceived as America’s rival on the continent. Africa’s trade with China is now roughly double that with the US.

Obama did not mention China by name, but said: “Of course, the United States isn’t the only country that sees your growth as an opportunity. This is a good thing. When more countries invest responsibly in Africa, it creates more jobs and prosperity for us all. But economic relationships cannot simply be about other countries building infrastructure with foreign labor or extracting Africa’s natural resources. Real economic partnerships have to be a good deal for Africa – they have to create jobs and capacity for Africans. That’s the kind of partnership America offers.

The US was investing in agriculture to lift 50 million Africans out of poverty, working to bring electricity to more than 60m African homes and businesses, supporting more than 40 African nations to prepare and adapt to climate change, and investing in better treatments and helping Africa better prevent and treat disease, he said.

“As Africa changes, I’ve called for the world to change its approach to Africa. So many Africans have told me: ‘We don’t just want aid, we want trade that fuels our progress. We don’t want patrons, we want partners who help us build our own capacity to grow. We don’t want the indignity of dependence, we want to make our own choices and determine our own future.’”

**[color=crimson]If you want to hide something from a black man, put it in a book...[/color]

http://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2015/jul/28/barack-obama-africas-presidents-for-life-are-a-risk-to-its-democratic-progress

sonmvayina:
Exactly, the second attempt is even more ridiculus than the first, after the failed attempt at drowning every one in a flood. people ending up in hell makes the calvary tale worthless..

johnydon22:
So God could not just forgive your sins unless he had his son murdered... Sounds barbaric

nifton:
Mehn dat was d only time i saw Nigeria's collective will as a nation irrespective of tribe,tongue, region,religion,political affiliation etc.Everyone automatically became his brothers keeper,spreading news far and wide on how to kip every citizen safe.Tnk God we scaled thru.

opeaceo:
No, I need you to send me the magic stick via DHL

Chubhie:
May Allah increase OUR wisdom.

Chubhie:
Thanks. I think I've been away from the streets so long.

Chubhie:
Timaya ballin at this level ought to know the rules----There are hustlers out there waiting to milk you dry at such level.

I guess he was cornered under the influence of shayo by the lady. Common, we don't need to sweat it---Timaya is a big boy capable of taking care of his own mess. Mugu fall maga chop. We can only use the likes of him to point towards lessons for the up and coming ones.