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ificatchmodeh:Guy park well. The fight against corruption is on track. Just for your information (I know you don't have any clue on this), the FBI, CIA, NSA, in the USA also report to the American President! So again park well! |
Suurulere:Where is the foul mouthed Fani Fani Kayode? He will not see this "Christianization" of Ondo state abi? Madman! |
A Federal High Court sitting in Lagos has struck out a suit a challenging President Muhammadu Buhari’s appointment of Hameed Ali as the Comptroller-General of Nigeria Customs Service. Justice Sale Hassan said the court lacked jurisdiction on the matter. The case was filed, in November 2015, by a human rights lawyer, Ebun-Olu Adegboruwa. Mr. Adegoruwa challenged the appointment of Mr. Ali, a retired Colonel, as Customs chief saying Nigerian laws were violated in the process.
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abokibuhari:No mind the idiot! Na any name why resemble Hausa bi Hausa person abi wawa! |
39xtr90r:So N28b is "paltry" abi? You people na wa! First you are happy the north is under developed, the you are sad that the govt is spending more money to develop it! Thunder fire una teeth! |
Child marriages in Igboland? How is that possible? Well, it is. Whenever the issue of child marriage or paedophilia (one of the most horrible crimes against humanity) is discussed in Nigeria, some think it is a problem limited to the north alone (just as some erroneously think female genital mutilation is the problem of one religion alone). But the fact on ground is that child marriage/paedophilia is a massive national problem. It is not a northern or southern problem, it is a Nigerian problem. Pre-pubescent girls around the country are forced into difficult marriages or sexual relationships with older men as a result of a dizzying mix of economic reasons (the level of poverty is alarming), ignorance/illiteracy, cultural values and societal expectations/norms. That is however, not to say that politics or religion do not play their own roles too in some cases. Today, I am writing on a bizarre practice in Abakaliki, in what is now Ebonyi State (but then called East Central State of Nigeria). Ebonyi State will not be formed until 1996 during the despotic regime of the General Sani Abacha. This is a trip back in time, to February 1974 when girls were married at the age of 10. BACKGROUND Nigeria had just finished a civil war so the wounds were still repairing but that did not mean traditions were going to die out anytime soon. In Abakaliki, it was a taboo for young girls and boys to fall in love and that was because once the girls reached the age of ten, they were betrothed to older men, some of whom were old enough to be their grandfathers. Actually, younger male rivals who dared this tradition may actually be beheaded with a cutlass by the man to whom the girl has been betrothed. But how was this cultural practice like? Read on. THE ‘’MARRIAGE’’ At this time, any man who visited Abakaliki and was attracted to little girls was only attracting his death as there was a tradition in place that ensured that the girls were already set for marriage once they marked their tenth birthday. For them at that time, it was a grievous offence punishable by decapitation to date a smaller girl or even try to do so. This was so serious in Abakaliki that in areas like Ezza and Ikwo districts were the tradition was most deeply-rooted, merely asking a girl approaching the age of ten to be your friend as a man means you are tired of life. You will be killed. But why? The people of Abakaliki held the belief that according to their custom, once a girl reaches the age of 10, she was to be engaged to the man who will be her husband. Now, how this usually worked then was that the future bridegroom in most of the cases was a best friend of the girl’s father. Never mind if the husband-to-be is old enough to be the ancestor of the child bride. The people of Abakaliki then insisted it was the culture and tradition (as if those things were not put in place by men, every inhumane tradition or practice should be ridiculed and dismantled) and had to be carried out. The Shocking Culture of How 10-Year-Old Girls Are Married Off To Older Men In Abakaliki For One Cow & N40 Naira 2 JUST MARRIED: 13-year-old Nwideyi and a friend of the family, Mr. Ede Edeali, aged 46, who already has two wives. In this ceremony, the couple drink palm wine from the same glass after sharing a meal. So once a girl has been officially linked to the future husband via an engagement ceremony, any man who makes the mistake of wooing the girl is found guilty of adultery, and the penalty was death – in the hands of the groom of the child bride. You will soon understand why this extreme measure was in place. And make no mistake, men were actually killed for this form of ‘adultery’. As a result of this cultural practice, it was quite common at that time (1974 is not that far back in time really) to see girls of 10 married to men in their fifties or even those who were more advanced in age. HOW IT WAS DONE If a man was interested in ‘wifing’ a girl, the first thing he would do was to approach the father of the girl to get his consent after informing him of his wish to become a son-in-law. But please pay close attention to the steps. His mere informing the prospective father-in-law was not free, the man interested in marrying the infant bride had to make a non-refundable deposit of one gallon of fresh palm wine. When the father of the girl receives the gallon of the foamy drink, he is not obliged to give a response immediately. Whether the father of the girl says yes or no to the man’s proposal, the future groom still has to do a lot to win the heart of the man. So he goes over to the farm of the man to work for a while, he even joins in helping out in the domestic chores of those he is hoping to be his in-laws. This includes sweeping the compound, washing plates or even cooking for the family. While the ‘love-stricken’ man is busy doing romance-induced slavery for the girl’s family, her father takes his time to assess how much of an asset the future groom is going to be. As for the mother of the girl, the tradition then was that her mouth was to be shut on the matter (she was supposed to agree with everything the father decided). But that does not mean the future groom should neglect the prospective mother-in-law. The more the gifts he can shower on her, the better. As a matter of fact, many of the hopeful grooms would make the initial inquiries from her. According to custom, she would then say she does not have any daughter bearing the name the Mr. Lover has mentioned. Then Mr. Lover approaches the girl’s father who will then give the same response. But the man who is in love with the 10-year-old girl is not expected to give up like that. He is expected to prove the extent of his ‘true love’ for their daughter. Therefore, he will make such inquiries a total of SIX times, and each time he does this, he has to offer another extra gallon of fresh palm wine to the father of the girl. After collecting six or more gallons of fresh palm wine, that is when they will then tell the Mr. Romantic that the girl he mentioned is truly in existence so the proper hustle for the wife-to-be can then commence. At that point, the little girl is called out to take a look at the suitor. Once she does this, she is to leave the meeting immediately. And that was it, the ‘engagement’ is done and she has been betrothed to the man. From that moment on, the parents of the girl will start watching over the girl so that another man will not ‘tamper’ with her as she now technically belongs to another man, a proper suitor who had proved himself. The parents of the girl starts to teach, or rather bombard her tiny brain, with the virtues of marriage and give her constant education sessions on what she is expected to do as a wife. Remember, the girl is just 10 or thereabouts. She is also free to live with her future husband from time to time and the man is free to do whatever he feels like with her. I leave that to your imagination. But that is one way. There is another way to it. In this second style, it is the father himself who offers his daughter to a beloved friend for marriage. The first step in this is that the father will offer his friend a live goat. Then he waits for the response of his friend to his ‘noble gesture’, it is irrelevant if the friend is married to a dozen women already. The usual thing is that the lucky son-in-law then responds with a keg of wine and a pack of tobacco. But the drama is just starting. This exchange will be marked with a party to also mark the taking of their friendship to the next level. At that point, the father invites his wife to witness the new relationship between him and his friend and later the girl herself is introduced to her husband in a hail of rituals. Typically, a week or two after this is done, the father will send a message to his son-in-law requesting him to present the family wine (called the Mmanya Umunna) which at that time was worth ten naira. After that, he is expected to pay the actual bride price of forty naira and a cow. This was a communal affair and once it is done, all the members of the family of the bride will publicly express their approval of the bride price and members of the family of the bridegroom, including any wives he might be married to, will also publicly declare their acceptance of the new bride. But that is not all; the new husband will still ‘drop’ more. PARENTS OF THE BRIDE: The father, Mboyi Ukwe, offered Nwideyi, to a lifelong friend. PARENTS OF THE BRIDE: The father, Mboyi Ukwe, offered Nwideyi, to a lifelong friend. After that ceremony, the father will then call on the freshly-minted son-in-law to bring the family kola (which is referred to Oli Umunna). The family kola included two grasscutters (considered to be a delicious and prized delicacy), eight gallons of fresh palm wine, one load of tobacco, eight kola nuts, dried fish and one bottle of native gin. That was not all. He will also add two types of cloth, one red cap, one long iron bar and two yams for the father of the bride. But if you think that was all, then you don’t know nohun. After two weeks, the father will then call on the son-in-law to bring forward the family goat (Ewu Umunna) and what that meant was two fat goats, one load of tobacco and two bottles of native gin. I am assuming that is because they must have used their atenuje to finish the earlier supplies from the hapless groom. And that is not all. Tradition was not done yet. Once in a year, at every edition of the native Aji traditional festival, the son-in-law must pay a formal visit to his parents-in-law and he must visit them with two gallons of fresh palm wine, eight tubers of yam, the biggest dried fish he can lay his hands on or grasscutters and then top it with two leaves of tobacco. This he will continue throughout the duration of the girl’s stay in the traditional fattening room where she is prepared and plumped up for marriage after a mild form of circumcision. But wait, before the first circumcision will be done, the husband of the girl has to drop fourteen naira, five kegs of wine, two loads of tobacco and two bottles of native gin to his future parents-in-law. This is to notify them of the ‘circumcision engagement’. Virtually all the members of the girl’s family will take part in this ceremony. When the girl’s stay in the fattening room comes to an end, the husband has to once again give the sum of eight naira, one keg of wine, twelve kolanuts, one load of coconut, tobacco and two bottles of native gin to his little wife’s family. At this point, he is also expected to offer even more help to his parents-in-law, and at that time, the man is already feeling like he is the most qualified man to go with the girl. After the first stage of the circumcision with her parents, the child bride spends the first two weeks with them during which the new groom goes to visit her and he dares not go with empty hands, he has to go with coconuts and one gallon of wine for her parents. At this point, the husband tells his parents-in-law to allow his young wife to come and spend a few days with him. She is allowed to follow her husband home for about two months after which she is then returned to her parents again. Do not ask me anything here abeg. After one month, the husband will then go his parents-in-law with dry fish worth four naira and coconuts. This is the charge for his new request to allow the return of his wife to his compound. I repeat, do not ask me any questions of what she is going to be doing in his compound, abeg. This time, the father of the girl slaughters a goat and treats his son-in-law (who is also usually his friend), his other friends and relatives to a big feast. As for the girl, she will also have her tiny friends and relatives around her. When they finish the goat-swallowing blast, the little bride is then led back to her husband’s home, like a lamb to the slaughter slab. The biggest day of all is the bride price day. On this day, the girl and her adult husband are called upon to declare their ‘conjugal affection’ for each other. A big party is thrown and the couple dance to the melodies of local musicians. The belief of the people of Abakaliki is that the child bride system assists the man to mould his wife to his taste and also allows the bride to study and comprehend her husband, but how will a girl of 10 do that? THE EXAMPLE THAT GRIPPED THE NATION February 1974 was a time when one of such weddings was carried out in Abakaliki at the village of Ofenekpa. There, Ede Edeali, a man of forty six got married to his darling, a girl of thirteen, Nwideyi Mboyi, to the joy of the cheering father, who incidentally was long-term friends with Edeali (see photos above). The groom, who was full of smiles, said the marriage to the girl was a testimony to the true friendship that existed between Nwideyi’s father and the girl. He said words could not describe his joy and excitement when his friend presented the memorable gift to him. PARTY TIME: The groom (second from the right) and friends dance after his wedding to the girl Nwideyi. PARTY TIME: The groom (second from the right) and friends dance after his wedding to the girl Nwideyi. Well, the opinions of the elders of the land were sampled and Chief M. I. Onwe, a former president of the Agubia Customary Court in Ezzikwo, who was the guest speaker at the traditional wedding of Mr. and Mrs. Edeali boasted that the child bride system helped to reduce the rate of divorce in Abakaliki. He also pointed out that if after the customary stay of the bride with her husband during the betrothal, if the girl was dissatisfied with the man’s way of life, she had the choice to opt out of the marriage. Chief Onwe also said that the age of child brides should not exceed thirteen saying that once a child begins to approach the age of puberty, they become sensitive to ‘earthly things’. When it was suggested to him that the child bride system was going to disrupt or affect the education of the girls, he simply brushed the criticism aside saying that the system helped the girls to remain strong morally and spiritually. AFTERMATH The prevalence of this harmful tradition (it still persists till this moment in various ways and under slightly modified arrangements not only in Abakaliki but all over southern Nigeria (for instance, it is also a horrible problem among Ibibios in the southsouthern state of Akwa Ibom where the Pope John Paul II Family Life Centre and Maternal Birth Injury Hospital at Mbribit Itam is solely in place to handle these cases) despite legal and constitutional sanctions against marriage to minors, Nigeria is a signatory to the 1989 Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC), the 1979 Convention on the Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW), the 1981 African Charter on Human and People’s Rights and the 1990 African Charter on the Rights and Welfare of the Child) means that the reproductive systems of many young girls are damaged. Early marriage and childbirth are some of the most important indirect causes of obstetric (vaginal) fistulae, a devastating condition for many girls and women around the world. It leaves them with urine or faeces dripping out uncontrollably so they are always stigmatized because of the heavy stench. This is not to mention the foul-smelling vaginal discharge, constant vaginal/urinary tract infections, vaginal pain or dyspareunia (pain during intercourse) and others, in short, it is living hell. This problem is so severe in Abakaliki, Ebonyi State that the federal government decided to site the National Obstetric Fistula Centre (NOFICA) there. We are still trying to cope with the number of cases there. Interestingly, few people have been able to connect the harmful traditional practices of early marriage (of course alongside equally horrible factors such as poverty and malnutrition) with the spiraling cases of vesicovaginal fistulae in the entire southeast region. Many of the VVF patients (across Nigeria) actually believe that their conditions are spiritual attacks from witches or a curse from the gods or even divine punishment while some others accepted their fate as God’s will. CONCLUSION The relevant authorities (and humane Nigerians) should look into this and put in more efforts to educate the people on the evils of early marriage and address core issues such as poverty, lack of qualitative maternal care and illiteracy. Nigerians (especially those fond of shouting ‘it is our koshor’ all the time) should put on their caps of reason and join hands with sane Nigerians in either phasing out or reforming aspects of traditional practices that have been demonstrated to be harmful to life and they should stop sounding as if culture is static and perfect. Traditions are formed by humans and must be changed by humans. As a people, we must change our approach to life itself and that starts with the smallest of things. It starts with us, by us, I mean, all Nigerians. It is a national problem and should not in any way be trivialized with parochial or narrow-minded sentiments. Thanks for your time. COPIED FROM .COM
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Naughtysite:sometimes e good make you dey read properly! He said they converted his dollars to naira! shine ya eyes bros! |
ShootToKill:You are not saying the truth. If a bank tells you it doesn't have dollars to pay you, how then do you claim that they had converted your dollar to naira in your account! I have a DOM account and my bank tells me same thing but they advice I go to Abuja or any other state branch of their bank where the have enough dollar to give out. Make you dey lie small small |
Frustratedconeh:So it's now Yoruba abi? I thought it was Christians that were been killed? Una go tire! Instead of condemning a barbaric act and urging for justice, you love stoking religious and ethnic commotion. Kontinu, Kontinu, . Dia ris God oo! |
prinsam30:Please and Please give me the link to the download pls!!!!!( on my knees begging and crying!) |
owukpa:This picture is not in Benue State. It had been used severally as BH attack in Maiduguri since 2015 |
Slikbae:What a shame! Denying your religion because you want to look better than others! What a shame Denying the genealogy of Christ just to show you are better than them. We are Muslims and accept everything Islamic. We may not agree with all of them, but we must accept them. This is what I called faith! |
Dakad:You are very wrong. He committed 2 criminal acts. The first is statutory rape and the second is kidnapping. He must face the full weight of the law. As a Muslim he must also face the Sharia law for fornication, rape and kidnapping. We Muslims must be just even if it's against ourselves. Yunusa is wrong no matter how you look at it. This should serve as a lesson to men who can't differentiate between likeness and lust. A child is a child, be her 1 month old or 17 years old. |
zainabxel:My issue with your type is that when confronted with an alternative argument, you quickly resort to "it's a lie" without proving proof. Now let me explain to you why that theory that Nana Aisha was 9 yrs when th married Prophet Mohammed was a lie from hell. The most important criteria in Islamic marriage is that the CONSENT of the girl must be obtained freely and without duress. Now age for us Muslims (and am hoping that you are a Muslim by your monicker) is a determinant for giving that consent. Now midevial people didn't use calender to determine maturity rather menstruation or onset of wet dream for boys, were used. It's only in this modern world that a 9 yr old girl would have began menstruation. Those days the likely age for it would have been 15 or 16 yrs. And we also know that the Prophet's daughter was also of the same age as Nana Aisha. And they were married at almost same time too. Fatimah was at least 18 yrs when she got married. With all these facts it seem unlikely that the theory is valid. |
zainabxel:The issue I have with people like you is that when they are faced with a contra view in an arguement, the are quick to label such as "lies" without providing any proof to the contrary. If you are a Muslim (and am hoping by your monicker that you are) you will know (also hoping you are educated in Islamic history) that there are several schools of thoughts about the age of Nana Aisha. The popular ones (and that does not mean they are correct by any means) claim she was 9 yrs old when she got married. Of course people like you wish to believe this version as it suits your prejudices. But that is a lie from the pit of hell! For one the most cardinal criteria for any marriage is CONSCENT. This must be obtained freely. This can and must come from someone who is of age to give it. Age is very key in Islam and as such it couldn't be possible to accept that Prophet Mohammed could go against his own teachings. He never did and would never do. So you see the theory that Aisha was 9 yrs old could only have come from a demented mind. |
Itaarh:That has always been the lie that people with paedophilic tendencies propagate. Aisha was the age of Prophet Mohammed's daughter Fatimah (which was at least 18 or 19 yrs) when she married. That was the main reason why she had conflict with Fatimah. Trust African men especially to always put forward all manners of theories and lies to back their primodial urges |
kenny987:Bros ice water! Ice water! There is more to the stories! Relax |
optionB:Thank God I can now be a wealth man. Hope that Emir promise is still on cos I have About 200 young Bayelsa girls that I will convert and send to Kano! God thank you ooo! Madam Oruru am coming to collect the phone numbers Abeg! Money and fame here I come. Yeye dey smell! |
Europija:how the hell do these posts get to FP? Haba! |
davodyguy:my thoughts exactly! The rope is even too thin to have held the body when he jumped, unless he was already dead when the rope was used( no struggle) |
nickxtra:It seems the poor economy of Nigeria is making all our agencies EYES to red! Abeg if this is what will keep happening, then more of BUHARINOMICS please! |
Palantir:try this: "With over N732.79 billion to these all important Ministries and Departments that deal with our security, can President Buhari explain to Nigerians what his National Security Adviser would be doing with additional N57.7 billion? This National Security Adviser allocation is an amount that is higher than the funds allocated to the Ministries of Transportation, Water Resources, Works, Power and Housing put together! Haba!" did OP even look at the above? |
justurch:nice try "YEYE"! But you have top try harder (with accurate facts) to convince me! |
Koolmexxi:PDP and Wada don't have a ground to challenge this election, even though they will try. I think it would come on 2 grounds: 1. Non Compliance with Electoral Act specifically that the APC has no right to substitute her candidate after the due time. That will be thrown out as section 33 gives the party that option in case of death of her candidate. 2. That Yahaya Bello wa not validly nominated as APC candidate. Now this would be interesting to see how it goes because PDP would claim that the APC candidate can't claim the valid candidate as he did not take part in all the processes as demanded by section 141 of EA. My take is that the Tribunal will also throw it out as it is hinged on party supremecy with regards to section 33, section 221 and the Ameachi case. |
K takedat:Under the law, Faleke can't withdraw from his position by writing INEC. Same way he can't write to INEC that he is a candidate. Only the parties can do so as INEC only communicates to political parties not contestants. Legally, Faleke has no grounds to contest the outcome of any election as he was not a candidate. Only candidates and political parties can. For now, he has come to the end of the road. He has 2 options: 1. Continue as deputy to Yahaya Bello. Personally, I would suggest he be impeached immediately as he is not trustworthy. 2. Write his official resignation letter as deputy governor-elect. This is a better option for him as it is an official position he now has. |
omeke12:Ha bros dia ris God oooo! So you bliv all this things way you write! |
There is no "doctrine of necessity" about Faleke's position. Section 181 of the 1999 Constitution can only be invoked if INEC had declared Audu the winner. Unfortunately it didnt. Faleke also did not participate in the primaries of August 28th 2015 as required by section 141 of the Electoral Act 2010 (As Amended), therefore elevating him to candidate would provide an easy win for PDP in the Court drama that would follow. Oyegun is thinking for the good of the party. Faleke is showing clearly why we didnt want him in the first place. His desperation is his undoing. He should have relaxed |
Which car? no pics |
maxti:Thanks. OVC Stands for -Orphan and Vulnerable Child. VC (new nomenclature)- Vulnerable Child |
My NGO is running a program to provide conducive environment for a selected OVC up to the university level. The project is to commemorate this year's INTERNATIONAL DAY OF THE GIRL-CHILD. The beneficiary will be sponsored from secondary school level to the tertiary school level. Criteria for selection include: 1. Must be older OVC (14-17 years) 2. Resident in Lokoja, Kogi State 3. Must be an orphan For more details contact: INITIATIVE FOR GRASSROOT ADVANCEMENT (INGRA), LOKOJA, KOGI STATE ingralokoja@yahoo.com, 08033177259 |
My NGO is running a program to provide conducive environment for a selected OVC up to the university level. The project is to commemorate this year's INTERNATIONAL DAY OF THE GIRL-CHILD. The beneficiary will be sponsored from secondary school level to the tertiary school level. Criteria for selection include: 1. Must be older OVC (14-17 years) 2. Resident in Lokoja, Kogi State 3. Must be an orphan For more details contact: INITIATIVE FOR GRASSROOT ADVANCEMENT (INGRA), LOKOJA, KOGI STATE ingralokoja@yahoo.com, 08033177259 |
, an oyel producing state. what about you?