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Offpoint1:
Most people who comment here don't have kids or never lived with one.

2 years old kids can't make long sentencing of explaining things.

They can only use few words to communicate, but most parents understand them.

The girl may say "Nanny" or "nanny beat me" what the mother asked 'who beat you " (that's if she's even 2 years with at least 3-5 months depending"

The what did you do answer is likely "poopoo"

Exactly!

ahnie:

Epic punchline Hathor.
Some of these adult kiddos make their mothers efforts on them looks like a waste,and a pretty bunch of them are blessed with wonderful mother's

So true!

One of the reasons why I feel more comfortable raising my kid abroad. I don`t have to worry that someone will brutalize my kid in daycare or school.

Konkoja:
My lady brought order to my life. I was so carefree with my finances before we met. She became my 'accountant and manager'. I wasted so much before her, but thank God for her, my immediate and extended family is better off today. Much 💞, mon Bijou.

Konkoja, I copied your reply here because some kiddo doesn`t know when to keep quiet.

Thanks for your contribution. You have a smart wifey.

Which qualities do you particularly value in your spouse?

Let`s talk about the sweet side of marriage.

Disclaimer: If you have nothing positive to contribute, kindly exit. Thank you.

cococandy:
@hathor your topic is such a good one.

Thank you beautiful, I think I will open it once again. If another senseless kiddo decides to spam it again, I will report him. I was typing a response to him yesterday but deleted it because I started feeling sorry for his mother. Imagine your son implies that you didn`t bring any value to his father`s life.

ahnie:
I gave all the ladies on this thread a like each.





See uppercut inside upper iweka

The picture though

pocohantas:
The question was very simple and directed at people who have sweet sides to their partners and marriages. If you have none or haven't experienced any from your immediate family, please keep shut and allow HAPPILY married people talk. You are beginning to sound like a broken record.

Thank you for doing the needful.

Which qualities are you particularly fond of? Let`s talk about the sweet side of marriage.

I doubt they have used his sperm so many times.

Could you please stop polluting this section with all these dream meaning threads?

concho:
“Forgiveness” 🤩

I understand. But if you can`t trust her again, then what`s the point?

concho:
She cheated before

Then why are you still with her?

concho:
A friend she sees everyday at work ?
A junior colleague for that matter

We have instincts, mine told me something was wrong .

I don`t know the nature of her work but at work I don`t get to gist with my colleagues/friends a lot because at work we work. If we want to spend some good time togther, talk and laugh, we meet after work or on a free day.

If you don`t trust her, then you guys have much bigger issues than what has happened today.

wentroublecomes:
You don't know me so, I'll just keep mute to Ur words. If u know me in person, you'll know I don't av a struggling bank acct b4 getting married. One thing happens and funds crash, which makes me starts from zero.
But I'll say thank you to all your words said to me.

You don`t have to explain yourself to anyone. And please don`t end your life. Your family needs you. And they love you.

Better days will come. I wish you a little optimism.

Why would you feel umcomfortable with her seeing a friend?

Klass99:
It's different when a woman willingly chooses to put her dreams or career on hold, for the sake of nuturing young kids, as opposed to having those dreams or career potential, truncated by the whims, pressure or manipulations of a man and society.

It`s true but there are plenty of women who thought they can have it all, career and kids, only to learn that it`s not as easy or feasible as they thought it would be once they had kids.

Klass99:
Some of these men will agree to your plans, especially if you are young and hot, and they are afraid of losing you. Only to do a 360 degree turn after marriage, to renege on what they originally agreed to.

They like to use pregnancy/kids to lock you down. In their minds once you've had kids with them, you can't or won't leave because of the children. Additionally, the Nigerian society in particular loves to diss and shame divorced women, so most would rather stay put and stay married, for the fear of divorce stigma.

Even if he is supportive, the demands of children are so that ordinary mortals like me find it very hard to climb up the career ladder once we have them. I know some people will come up with examples of high achieving women who had kids and impressive careers but we don`t know their support systems, how hard they found it to leave their little ones back to go the extra mile for success, how demanding their babies/toddlers were (they are all so different), the working times, the competition factor in their respective career etc. etc.

Whichever path we choose, it all comes with a price tag.


Have a wondeful day.

Reminderz:
guessing from your comments, I guess you're a female..

do you have a son? If yes? then pray your son(s) grow up and tell you in the future that they are going to end up marrying a woman they met on a dating site and also ready to adopt 6 children she had with different men...

do I hear a loud amen?

All I want for my son is to be happy, so if this is where he finds happiness, why not?

Reminderz:
o boy, I think calling this one a simp will actually be a disgrace to simps... ... this one is completely finished...

Simp or supersimp, the man seems to be a happy and content person, are you?

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh


Doing this in Nigeria is kind of better but the repercussion of this in the US is dangerous.

If he happens to divorce his wife, those adopted kids get a share of his inheritance even an equal with his own biological kids. His wife too have hers, children upkeep. This would be fatal.

Well I wish him all the best.

When you choose to adopt children, they are yours so even in the process of divorcess and thereafter the children are yours and have to be treated like yours. If you can`t do it, don`t adopt.

oz4real83:
The man won't bother to ask important questions now because he wants to be an "hero" or love is "shacking" him. How many fathers do the kids have? What happened to the fathers? I wish him well oo

How do you know he didn`t ask those questions? You know the family?

Surface2AirToto:
like why?
Why should your children be thanking you for doing your job? Nigerian parents, stop feeling as if you're doing your children a favour by feeding them, you are doing your job. They did not force you to bring them into the world, you brought them here without their consent. So stop teaching your children to thank you after eating, that is nonsense.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with teaching your kids to be greatful and appreciate what they have, absolutely nothing.

She had six boys when she met him, SIX BOYS. After three, four, five, six BOYS, she still wanted more kids? Strong woman.

That our loved ones who are late are around us all the time. And that it`s possible that our little ones see them.

OH PLEASE!

He is married, there is a child, HIS CHILD, crying needing his attention but he is busy talking to some lady instead.

He lies about his profession.

Once again, HE ALREADY HAS A WIFE!

What else do you need to hear to know that this guy is not good?

Are you this desperate?

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh


I won't be surprised if OP has been charmed by one of this white ladies.

For your information Sir, WOMEN ARE THE SAME IRRESPECTIVE OF THIER RACE Their physiology are the same.

In every good people there exist bad omen, be aware ! No group of race is immune to this because we all are different !

Exactly!

pocohantas:
White woman has a boyfriend and still wan knack Naija guy.

Naija guy: White women are straight forward. They are open with their sexual expectations. They can just knack you and go. No fake love. #TeamForeignGirls

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Naija girl has a bf and wants to knack Naija guy.

Nairaland guy: Nigerian women are oloshos. Borehole pùssy. I pity who marries these ones. They can fck for indomie and egg.

Another Nairaland guy: Which indomie? Useless girls with itchy pù**y. They must want to knack.

Another Nairaland guy: Then when they are evenings newspapers they will go to Shiloh. Naso one wan trap me enter marriage. I just dey fu** am. Mumu dey wait for ring.

Yet another Nairaland guy: Once I leave Nigeria, nothing fit make me date Naija girl again. Useless entitled oloshos.

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Dearest Naija women, this too shall pass.

My sister, you nailed it.

Kobojunkie:
Again, babies are an expected result when two individuals have sex. Calling the expected result unwanted is indirectly asserting the couple were fools.

By the way, no be una culture dey also believe say children are a blessing. Shouldn't blessings be celebrated?

Even intelligent people can get carried away in the heat of the moment.

Some people are wicked.

Your brother is a man of honor. If it was my brother, I would tell him to try to recover at least some of the money. However, he shouldn`t commit any crimes while doing so. Chances are low he will get any of it back so he also shouldn`t waste too much energy on it.

Why is her upcoming wedding a reason to tell her what you have been withholding from her for such a lengthy time? I don´t get why she should be told now.

budaatum:
Marry or not?

And what do you think would make one write the above?

The writer sounds bitter.

Marriage is designed to ensure the survival of women? Seriously? Women too can survive without marriage. He draws the comparison between humans and animals. Is it only the male animals that survive?

Incoherent gibberish.

I don`t understand why someone would invest time to write something like this. You don`t want to get married, don`t. It`s a choice after all.