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NoToPile: ![]() I know a lady who has been trying since her mid 20s. Got pregnant with the help of fertility clinics two times. Didn`t carry any pregnancy to term. Is now in her 30s still trying. Another one, has been trying since her 20s, 4 miscarriages until a healthy baby boy was born in her mid 30s. I was a dionosaur when I got pregnant. I thought we would have to try forever. One shot was enough. ![]() All these google doctors will make you freeze your eggs at 16. ![]() |
ravensckar:You have spoken very well. I would even advise my own daughters to wait till their late 20s early 30s until they take the responisbility upon themselves to raise kids. |
Seeing the pictures from the day when the Danish lady found him breaks my heart again and again and again. |
Gandhi didn`t have money and properties and yet his influence was and legacy still is remarkable. |
Do you trust the guy you have met? Are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Do you trust he will be good to your daughter? Has he got kids of his own? Where do they live? Can you accept them as your own? How do you think life will be when you have kids with him? Will he treat your daughter like his own? Family dynamics can be complicated especially if there are already kids from previous relationships. I would recommend you to read about the experiences of others and then truthfully answer yourself if you are up to the challenge of a blended family. Forget about the kids get polluted in the West nonsense. There are many very well brought up kids here. The answers to the questions above should determine your next steps. Since you are very insecure about what to do next, take your time and don`t rush it. |
All the women you know are jobless? |
Emily22:A man came home drunk after his wife went to work, took care of the kids and the house. I don`t feel sorry for him. He should have stayed longer where he was to sober up. He is of no use to anyone outside. |
thesicilian:And he will also keep quiet when his wife refuses to do anything at home and instead goes out to drink and smoke. Stop deceiving yourself. |
Fishbrain who doesn`t know how to respect herself. I pity her future children. |
If something like this is enough for him to break off an engangement instead of working it out, he will be looking for a wife for a very long time. Her behavior was indeed selfish but nobody is perfect. |
He has a wife but your problem is his height. I see ... Is his first wife ok with you in the picture? |
Unfortunately, I could not find any data for Nigeria but a quick google search will show you that in Western countries the divorce rate is higher for the poor, uneducated and unskilled. |
bukatyne:Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye. Matt.7 Verses 3 to 5 |
Also Bukatyne There is no resting in the feminine in the Bible but a Christian wife works from dusk till dawn. ![]() |
Bukatyne This here is for you. 9 He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt: 10 “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed[a] thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ 13 But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ 14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.” Luke 18:9-14 There are those who are clean in their own eyes but are not washed of their filth. Proverbs 30:12 |
Cococandy, I just logged in because of you. I salute you and bow to you my lady. I admire your patience, openness and tolerance. I wish I had the time to type more with regards to the topic but I don`t. All I can say for now is that it`s not surprising that people condemn what they don`t understand. It`s been like that since time immemorial. However, it is sickening to read the rhetoric about hellfire and sin and pit of hell when it was their Jesus who found a totally different approach to those stigmatized, the outcast of his own time. Anyway, I can`t go into detail but I am grateful you don`t let anyone, no matter how many, silence your voice. You are my hero. |
onumadu:Because they can`t afford to buy poor young men in their countries. Come on! Everyone knows it. Same reason white men go to poor countries for sex tourism. |
cococandy:What a twist to the story. ![]() |
Belafonte: ![]() |
Belafonte:Fair enough but if next time Lady Belafonte brings up migraine or back pain or stress and fatigue, cut her some slack and give her the benefit of the doubt before you take it personal. ![]() |
Brandiebird:Wack website? This is THE ATLANTIC. One of the oldest newspapers in the US. The article cites several studies from Britain, Finland and Germany among others. How you came up with the above I can`t explain but in your quest to sound smart you have proven intellectual laziness. |
wagzy37:You have just contradicted yourself. I won`t take the time to explain it and allow you to believe whatver you choose to. |
Belafonte:Experience and personal observations vs. research. ![]() |
wagzy37:Research contradicts your opinion and you may not like it but it is what it is, research. |
Belafonte:bold According to the article women get tired faster. |
Jman06:Whatever works for you, go for it. |
talented321:No need to be angry. Life is too short. ![]() |
Vision101:You got it all wrong. What a man can, do a woman can do better. More rights, no responsibilities. ![]() |
Belafonte:Really? I was surprised when I stumbled upon it. |
Vision101:No, she will marry several men and they still will be taking care of her financially. I think that`s better. ![]() |
pocohantas:I will go into exile if I must. ![]() |
Please don`t kill the messenger. ![]() "The Bored Sex Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it. By Wednesday Martin (...) Marta Meana of the University of Nevada at Las Vegas spelled it out simply in an interview with me at the annual Society for Sex Therapy and Research conference in 2017. “Long-term relationships are tough on desire, and particularly on female desire,” she said. I was startled by her assertion, which contradicted just about everything I’d internalized over the years about who and how women are sexually. Somehow I, along with nearly everyone else I knew, was stuck on the idea that women are in it for the cuddles as much as the orgasms, and—besides—actually require emotional connection and familiarity to thrive sexually, whereas men chafe against the strictures of monogamy. But Meana discovered that “institutionalization of the relationship, overfamiliarity, and desexualization of roles” in a long-term heterosexual partnership mess with female passion especially—a conclusion that’s consistent with other recent studies. “Moving In With Your Boyfriend Can Kill Your Sex Drive” was how Newsweek distilled a 2017 study of more than 11,500 British adults aged 16 to 74. It found that for “women only, lack of interest in sex was higher among those in a relationship of over one year in duration,” and that “women living with a partner were more likely to lack interest in sex than those in other relationship categories.” A 2012 study of 170 men and women aged 18 to 25 who were in relationships of up to nine years similarly found that women’s sexual desire, but not men’s, “was significantly and negatively predicted by relationship duration after controlling for age, relationship satisfaction, and sexual satisfaction.” Two oft-cited German longitudinal studies, published in 2002 and 2006, show female desire dropping dramatically over 90 months, while men’s holds relatively steady. (Tellingly, women who didn’t live with their partners were spared this amusement-park-ride-like drop—perhaps because they were making an end run around overfamiliarity.) And a Finnish seven-year study of more than 2,100 women, published in 2016, revealed that women’s sexual desire varied depending on relationship status: Those in the same relationship over the study period reported less desire, arousal, and satisfaction. Annika Gunst, one of the study’s co-authors, told me that she and her colleagues initially suspected this might be related to having kids. But when the researchers controlled for that variable, it turned out to have no impact. (...)" https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/02/women-get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/ |

I thought we would have to try forever. One shot was enough. 
