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tochez24:
An Epistle of a simp😁😁

Nigeria is the only part of the globe where they celebrate people for behaving like a normal human being or performing their duties⚠️

You will never see a white man, indian, Chinese or even an Arabian man with this kind of long epistle of jargon over a woman♂️

I have never come across a clip or text where foreign men are worshipping and praising their women, whenever i come online all i see is foolish African men disgracing themselves😔😔

Your wife is simply doing what you married her for and is no big issue you bloody simp💯

If you feel you need to show her love for being a good wife, please do that secretly and stop blocking our online space😡

You sound very bitter. May God help you in your struggles.

Mindlog, your presence, competence and expertise are required here.

Acidosis:
I always consider politicians who talk about social media regulation to be nothing but brainless clowns. I mean, even Mark Zuckerberg, with all his resources and intellect, has not been able to properly regulate just Facebook. Do you people think that social media regulation is about ballot box snatching?

Has Zuckerberg even tried it?

Forget the troublesome in-laws. They don`t have your or your wife`s best interest at heart. You people have two kids and should be working on your marriage so that these kids grow up in a loving home. I don`t understand why you keep travelling to this village. Are you bored and looking for trouble? It`s been 14 years now so what are you trying to achieve there? Do these people feed you or your kids? Do they pay school fees or rent? I don`t understand why someone would go through all this trouble to please people that can`t be pleased. Redirect your energy into more fruitful endeavours. Lastly, you need to put your immediate first and be the head that you are meant to be.

Who made this one therapist?

If a man can`t show his weakness to his wife, he can consider himself single.

BlackfyreRebell:
Please advice me
My ex husband and I are divorced 2 years ago. He recently acquired an European citizenship, he also wants to extend the citizenship to our son. Though I thought it a good idea but I can't shake the feeling that he is trying to use that to take him away from me.
He told me our son will need to come over there to finish the process of his citizenship. But when I went to submit the "application" what I saw on it is different from what he told me. The paper read that I am consenting to my son to go and reunite with his father. Or is that the way they process it?
Please those that have gone through same should please come to my aid, this is my only child and I can't afford to lose my child this way.

No, it`s not the way they process it as far as I`m informed. If I were you, I`d be careful too.

Devaro:
Rhymes and the likes is what they usually start with

A one-year-old is still a baby and I have never met a baby at one that can speak more than single words like mama or dada at most. Even if they could, are they supposed to learn rhymes for hours all day every day? Is there all there is to a curriculum for one-year-old children?

MrGerald:
Sorry but I've been busy. If you are observant you'd notice at that age your child is developing a brain capacity, asking sensitive questions and able to remember things, at that point it's important you enroll the child in school, it'd help him/her pick up fast. But before this age it's the role of the parents to teach and train the kid at home.

Kids are developing their brain capacity right from the start, even in the womb. I agree that at age 3 they develop a new set of skills and abilities, the question is, however, why at this age specifically they should be enrolled in schools and not go to kindergarten for example? It would also interest me how the lessons should be designed? Are they expected to sit at their desks for hours? What`s the difference between a kindergarten and a school? What is the difference between education and formal education?

BRATISLAVA:
Depends on their learning pace. Children will learn regardless.

Personally speaking, a child can go to school at 1 year of age. Do I recommend it? No. It's not for everyone. The curriculum is whatever class they fit into in school.

I am interested in the curriculum for a one-year-old-baby. I was hoping someone would enlighten me as to what teachers are instructed to teach this age group in particular.

BRATISLAVA:
A lot for a year old person.

Some children talk faster than walk earlier than others.

A lot? What is a lot exactly? Is there a curriculum for 1-year-old-kids?

Offpoint1:
I understand social bonding, all of that can be done at home during the first 3 years.

Let me play with other neighbors kids in the hood, just draft time they can spend outside.

I said social skills, not social bonding.

YourGFsnatcher:
That's quiet unfortunate

It is.

Devaro:
My daughter start when she was 1 year old. She will be 8 this year and will write her common entrance.

It helps if the school you enrol your child in is good with their methods of teaching.

It doesn`answer my question. What can a 1-year-old learn at school?

Offpoint1:
Nigerians just have this mentality that if their kid don't start school within a year, it's lack of money.


Let's be frank, a 2 years child have no business in school. It's total wastage.

Best is home school them. Parents nowadays prioritize money over their kids. Imagine a child of 1 year is already a burden they have to dump in school. No time to bond with them

I agree that at 2 a child is too young to be in school but I don`t agree that you have no time to bond with them if they, for example, are in a creche. Many kids enjoy playing in small groups with other kids and learn a lot by doing so, not in terms of formal education, but social skills and they have a lot of fun there. Being at home all day long can be boring.

MrGerald:
3 years is OK, unless you want to waste money before 3

Why at 3? Any reasons? What can you teach a 3-year-old in school?

Devaro:
1 year

What can a child learn in school at 1 year?

YourGFsnatcher:
They allow them to play and get understand life, environment and friendship in their own way before they are indoctrinated into school life.

Infact, for the first year in school they don't teach them anything serious, they play with various prototypes of shapes, colors, materials, instruments. After your first year, when they tell you this is a cone, even olodo cannot forget becuse u've been playing with it for a year.

Their assignments are also very minimal and they don't stay long in school hours. They don't work with positions, they work in teams. They learn the right way.

They are currently doing better than any other country in terms of education. Other countries are going there to learn their methods.

They are no longer the world-best, they fell down in the latest ranking because of the policies implemented in the last years.

nairagenone:
Seems you love to live in denial.

Congratulations to the OP, but be aware she is married to a widower who is 20 years older than her.

OP is getting married to her 3rd husband (who is 20 years older and a widower) and all you can come up with is a way to somehow make it feel like our choices in life do not matter ?

If the OP had her way, would she be marrying a widower who is 20 years older than her ?

I am putting this here to provide guidance to younger ladies out there who might get the impression that our choices do not matter in life cos thats the message your write up is conveying...

A woman found love and is happy, a man who lost his wife found love, and I assume is happy again, and here you are spreading your negativity all over the place. Who is the bitter one? I am sure you`d rather see her in an unhappy union. Misrey truly loves company.

We4all:
Wawu! Everyman seems to be celebrating the woman without considering the stress she is passing through as an expectant mother (that is if her story is real).

What stops the husband from buying lunch once in a while so as to ease off the stress of his wife waking up early?

As a human being, I will never allow my maid to wake up as early as 4:50AM to cook for me or run other chores for me. Why then would I allow my partner do such?

As human beings, we should try to be considerate and not take advantage of others.

The lady doesn`t work, if I am informed correctly. Why does she even have to cook so early? Most meals can be prepared a day before. I find the story and the reactions hilarious. But I like your comment.

Yes, I do. Sometimes.

If you have doubts, don`t. Your gut feeling is your best advice.

And please, next time make paragraphs. My eyes are hurting.

cococandy:
Because if you’re not suffering it doesn’t count

Those of us that cook at normal times of the day are too feministic

And here I was hyping myself.

The couple must be catching cruise though. The wife, who doesn`t work, gets up at 4 to cook and she needed another woman to get her in the kitchen. The reactions are hilarious though. People getting all worked up about how a couple chooses to eat or not eat. My oh my!

I can't believe that so many people make so much noise about cooking.

I feel like a Goddess now.

Cococandy, have you seen? They have learned to appreciate.

On a more serious note, why does it have to be in the middle of the night?

Mayeldah:
Every same mind abhors it, not only religious people

It is only depraved minds like you that encourages it. If your parents towed that line, will you be here typing this?

If my parents did, I wouldn`t be here to know. Logic.

Mayeldah:
Leave that matter, being born with some elements of feminine traits shouldn't make anyone think he is gay. There are men with no beards, there are ladies with hairy chests and so on. nature sometimes bring about these things.

The young guy is only pandering to this devilish gay thing because the society thought him so. Let him continue his life as a man and have a girl friend. His body will adjust as he grows.

Homosexuality is sin, it is an abomination here in Africa and the Nigerian laws forbids it

Keep your religious views to yourself law-abiding citizen.

advanceDNA:
Everyone likes forming woke of the internet until their sons and brothers tell them they suckk a fellow man's dick, are in greater risk of HIV/AIDS, and will be marrying a fellow man ........ then they realize why others have been worked up when there are much bigger problems.....

There is no full heterosexual parents that will sing "what a happy day" and "wonderful news" after hearing their son wants to fvck the àrse of another man for the rest of his life..

U just dey try form woke....

I am not woke since I have never been asleep. Good night!

This is terrible. I don`t know what went wrong, uncontrolled use of social media and the internet definitely play a part but I am not sure this explains everything. She might be pre-mature too. Some kids develop faster than others also in terms of sexual hormones. Whatever the reasons are, it`s your and your families responsibility to protect her. So far your mom has failed in her responisbilty to check what the kid is doing online. Thank God you checked the phone. It`s not too late yet.

All family members who live with her must be informed and you need to control her strictly and consistently. If it was my kid, I would take her out of the boarding school and monitor her carefully. I would also take away her phone. Then I would sit her down and talk to her, I would talk to her over and over again. The topics would involve the imapct of early exposure on her mental well-being, possible STIs, unwanted pregnancies, hygiene, respect for one`s body, consent, boundaries and healthy relationships. If you are a religious family, I would also talk about sex and religion and marriage. You need to make her understand that her actions have consequences. Please, don`t beat her. You need to build a relationship of trust and teach her to be responsible so that she doesn't use the next unguarded opportunity to harm herself.

Scholace:
Why don't you keep yourself after your first sex experience? Why do you explore with same guy or other guys? Why do some girls engage in prostitution after being molested by several Men?

Did you choose to engage in sex with the opposite gender because you were raped by them? Does that even make sense to you?

Scholace:
Some weren't born that way. just like a girl that was forcefully raped by some group of Men, if the said girl didn't get proper rehab, she might end up being a prostitute. Some of these guys were raped, their first encounter with sex was through their fellow men probably older who forcefully raped them.

These guys couldn't speak up due to stigmatization, particularly in Nigeria, where we found rape victims being stigmatized and got blamed. Being their first time sexual experience they probably got used to it and automatically tow that line. Some are influenced probably for financial aid, sense of belonging, cultism et al, and some of these guys are still saint in the sense that they haven't had sexual intercourse with the opposite sex before, so it'd be easier to lure them and get adapted

from op narration, i guess some are truly born that way.

They were forcefully raped by homosexuals and that`s why they like to engage in homosexuality. There is absolutely no logical to the trash you have typed here.

There is nothing you can do about a person who is gay. There have been conversion therapies done with homosexuals and their results have been desastrous to their mental well-being and otherwise changed nothing about a person`s sexual orientation. In this world, people who are different, need acceptance from their loved ones. The world is still very much a hostile place to this group of people. And as you have already rightly observed, people are born this way and there is nothing they or anyone can do about it. I don`t understand why it is a problem anyway and I will never understand why people get so worked up about it when clearly there are much bigger problems.

She is so beautiful. Happy Birthday baby girl!