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Greetings ladies, I am an old member of this forum just checking up on you all. Infertility journey can be tasking but I pray that in ends in praise for you all like it did for me and other mama's in this forum.

Keep doing what you are doing diligently while making sure you do your own research. Infact go for consultations with enough knowledge like a doctor to ensure that you understand what the doctor is aiming for and give proposals as well if necessary.


I highly recommend endometrial scratch in your cycles. I did 5 IVF cycles and the only difference I made in the last two cycles that worked is doing an endometrial scratch and taking prednisone. Someone from this forum recommended it to me and I will say it worked because after 3failures, the change gave me 2 successes.

My prayers and thoughts are with all of you

All the best ladies, you got this.

Married for 9years now and still bearing my father's name. I did not change my name and never would.

I almost thought u were describing my brother. Sad u have one of "this" in ur family. They never change and are usually a bone in their parents throat. Like your mom, my mom always make the silly excuses of "he's your brother " bla bla bla, and no your mom is not promoting his behavior, mothers just have a different bond with their kids irrespective of their age and I'm sure ur mothers greatest heart desire and prayers is for him to change.

For our parents sanity, my siblings and I contributed and rented an apartment for a year for my wayward brother and his baby mama just so my parents could get a break from him being in their face in their house and causing havoc everytime.

U see the silent attitude u are giving him, it's the best for ur own sanity. However, just as u did, never keep quiet when u see an obvious theft.

Sad news is that they never change. My brother is now 41 and no single bit of responsible behavior in him.

Courage my dear. Just focus on u.

ellaV:
I have been praying, but it's looking like the more I pray the more he gets worst, a lady Neighbor of mine I told my problems to told me to follow her to ijebu that my case is moi moi... am seriously thinking of going because I have suffered alot

Lol � � � from pastor to where? The confusion is real indeed

Richy4:

She's determined to blame someone else instead of the husband with the problems. Why did the pastor who saw the mom in the marine kingdom not break the chain?
Gullible pastor followers.

Read ur Bible madam and stop blaming others over u and ur husband's predicaments.

EndRape2:
Your note part is crazy,
Note : he does not want her to post his pictures his birthday on social media, now this is not possible for a woman: women always want to fluent three things
Their wedding ring
Their man
Their family on media , that is women for you

But bringing your husband matter to media with is picture might not be very right, the admin of that group is very stupid, because when members bring stories, you will post it, without the member name or member picture



Op you said three years of marriage, no child right?

If no child I think it is the reason your brother is shouting no no, maybe doctor told him.she can not birth a child, so he decided to use the media as an excuse to send her packing .

What kind of a man will tell a woman not to fluent him, on media , he has girlfriend and does not want them to see him?


Please tell your brother wife the begging is enough, let her leave , nothing goes up that the sky can not take


In life when you beg people and they refused to forgive you, leave them and move, the ocean they want to swiw , that is sweeting them will soon swallow them and they will come back to their senses.


The only sin that is not forgivable in marriage is adultery

Every other thing we must learn to forgive .


Your brother has another reason behind his actions .
He should get out.

Those calm people are always demonic

Let her walk out in style ,if he refused to forgive

Show this to your brother .

I concur. This husband is very manipulative and heartless. Any man with such degree of anger in him is not worth living with. The woman needs to stop the begging and let him do his worst. Divorcing may even be better for the lady's sanity.

This so called kind man is a beast and has no business in marriage.

chatinent:
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Should we deduce every guy cannot man up to their main nicks? Is this a double life?

Eh hen..?



Hmm. I refuse to understand this. Well... Ok..?

Hmm.


Hmm. You have another mouth to feed. It's normal.

Hello,

I sincerely will not mince words here.

There must have been sth you told her before she pondered over it to give you her “dreams” ..of course, knowing too well you were very hungry to know it is a witch that's making you have shortcomings.

Dreams are just like a CD set. It gives you mostly what you put in.

The dead are conscious of nothing. I also agree demons exists. I also agree that demons can materialise bodies of people who onced lived to torment.

But I truly think that anyone who is all about labelling sb a witch or wizard has a problem themselves. Most of them are paranoid and always have his rare issue of schizophrenia that sb wants to hurt them.

My apology if I were too blunt.


The issue of pastors and self-acclaimed prophets labelling people witches and wizards isn't a new one. It is everywhere and many gullible persons are always lab-rats.

Have you ever asked them for an evidence? I bet you never did. God himself may be surprised who sent them.


Even witches who exist are afraid of people who know what they believe.

I ask, why have you so given in to accept this woman is a witch without any evidence?

Why wouldn't you when you think any little setback is withcraft? Does a runner in a race stop when he falls at every pothole? In fact, the runner stands and continues running knowing there are still chances of winning.

This life in itself is full of ups and down!

Seriously? Like you are being serious about this? You should have kuku started this question with this part na rather than beating about the bush.

You want to leave an innocent woman because some self-acclaimed seer says some mother-in-law is a witch without evidence? Aren't you a puppet to some abracadabra? Wait, isn't this thing you are about to do the main witchcraft?

With due respect, you are not a man if little challenges make you dust your slippers to take off to oblivion. You only look like a man.

And what happens to her?

Why do you care now?

So if she wasn't in this picture you wouldn't have minded running away like a junior school student ...that very moment your family needed you to shield them at a better vantage?

Is your wife the witch..like your witch fingers told you? But you want to run to make her suffer.

Oh, I get it. They told you to dissolve the union and the witch will stop...yeah? Such delusion! In your mind, if witch dey pursue you, if you run en no go see you again. Such a paused brain!


Dear Wizard,

Your problems are:

1. Your Germany witch finder.

2. Your Nigerian witch locator.

3. You: seeing anything as witchcraft.


Have a nice century.

Thank you for this detailed digestion of his stupidity. How can a man be this gullible? Poor woman thinking she has a husband not knowing he's an *ewu*

Tutu82:
Having good quality frozen embryos is not the issue but the process of thawing when they are brought out as some fragment and do not survive the process.Everyone’s story is slightly different if her Doctor knows something it should be discussed at length first.

U are very right, all our stories are unique.
However, I responded based on what the op wrote. They have not gotten to the point of thawing and the embryos fail to survive. The clinic just wants her to dive into a fresh cycle which makes absolutely no sense since she has frozen embryos. I'll personally be skeptical about the clinic.

U however made a valid assumption about the Dr's knowing more. So u are right, if the Dr knows more as to why they should abandon the frozen and move on to a fresh cycle, then let him explain clearly to the lady and not give the vague point of fresh is better than frozen.

All in all I hope and pray the op is able to get a successful cycle be it fresh or frozen.

Blessgerald:
No I wasn't given I was only given panadol after retrieval and cyclogest after transfer.
Theses are My Embryos Qualities
All day 5 blastocyst
1 BB,1BC,1CB,2CC,1D
1BB AND 1BC was transferred and it failed then 1CB AND 2CC were frozen but they say it takes 3months before considering anything.thanks

They would not have been frozen if they were not good enough. I had a baby from a day 6blastocyst frozen embryo transfer. That is the embryo became a blastocyst on the 6th day and not the 5th day and was frozen and it's transfer was successful.

Use up ur frozen Embryos and God will definitely bless u. Don't dive into a fresh when u have Embryos waiting for u.

Blessgerald:
Just joining,I had a failed ivf transfer recently but also noticed I got Urinary tract Infection with blood stains and pain while urinating immediately after Embryo Transfer.Please do you think I contacted it during the process and it affected the cycle.thanks
Then when can I have another cycle after because my clinic said 3 months later even though I have 3 frozen Embryos they are saying a fresh cycle will be better.please your opinions are needed

Did you take an antibiotic before your transfer? It's supposed to be part of the process to prevent infections like this. Make sure u are prescribed and antibiotic in ur next cycle. I took an antibiotic for 5days prior to my transfer.

Also ur clinic just wants to drain u of ur money. Frozen cycle is as good as a fresh and may be even better. I am a 2time successful FET candidate and u can proceed with ur frozen embryo transfer as soon as u are cleared of the infection. U don't have to wait 3 months.

wonyi:
Congratulations dear.Wishing you a healthy and happy 9 months.

How did you cope with a clingy toodler during your second procedure?


How did you manage the two weeks wait?

Thanks sis!

It was a FET so less demanding than a fresh Transfer. Fewer injections(progesterone only every 3rd day) and meds.

During my TWW DH was on leave and incharge of the baby so I didn't have to worry about chasing her around. U know how busy they are at this stage. On a normal day she's a daddies girl and I'm only an option to her when daddy is absent � so she was fine with daddy viaout my 2ww.

MummyNeto:
Thank you for sharing, it came in handy, please what tips can you share after the transfer, the dos and don'ts. Thank you.

-Warm feet very important. It was extremely warm here but I wore socks until my bfp.
-I also divided a pineapple core ( the hard middle part of a pineapple) into 5 parts and ate one each day from the day before my transfer.
No bed rest. Be a little active but don't over work urself. Being active increases blood flow to the uterus.

I also ate a pomegranate on the day of transfer and the day after.

Laugh alot. Watch comedy shows or be around people who make u happy. No stress needed at this time of ur life.

I don't know if the above points helped but it gave me peace of mind that I was actually doing something and it was a success so why not?

All the best my dear.

PositiveLady1:
Thank you for your response and congratulations to you. Did you buy it without doctors prescription. I just saw it is a prescription drug

My clinic added it to my protocol. So the fertility clinic actually prescribed it.

chigirl45:
Wow...congrats sis.
So you didn't have to do a myomectomy?
I know most hospitals would want you want to get rid of any fibroids before the procedure.
Please what hospital did you do your procedure?

I didn't do a myomectomy. My fibroids are too many for any form of surgery. A surgery for me will cause more harm than good. They are not big though, they usually only grow bigger in the early days if my pregnancy.
I did not cycle in Nigeria.

PositiveLady1:
Thank you for sharing please when did you start taking the prednisone, how is it taken

I started taking the prednisone on the same day I started my medications and I'll be on it until about 10weeks of pregnancy. I take 10mg daily with 1 low dose Aspirin.

[quote author=Agumbawife post=103889644][/quote]Sorry I didn't cycle in Nigeria. I took monthly Lupton shots for 3 months prior to my FET and had the endometrial scratch one week after my last Lupton shot. That's Approximately 2 weeks to the start of my medications.

flawlesskayc:
Congratulations dear.
Please ur advise, is it for everyone going for ivf? Or just for people with endometriosis?
Anticipating ur response.
Thanks much.

The endometrial scratch is for everyone going via IVF bc it makes the uterus more receptive to implantation. Sorry I can't explain how the endometrial scratch achieves it's purpose but it creates a more receptive uterus for implantation.

The prednisone helps in suppressing natural killer cells for people with endometriosis, adenomiosis or anyone who's diagnosis makes them prone to having natural killer cells in the uterus. It also increases blood flow to the uterus alongside low dose Aspirin(81mg).

Hello everyone, it's been long I followed up this thread but I use to be a committed member and got alot of help from here.
I just want to encourage you all and chip in my 2 cents of what I think made the difference for me. An advice I got from someone in this forum that changed my story I believe.
I am an IVF veteran I'll say after having gone via 7rounds of IVF(FET inclusive), what else can I call myself? Thank goodness the journey ended in praise.

I got my BFP from a FET transfer 4weeks ago so baby no 2 on the way. Had my daughter from a successful cycle in 2018.
NOW TO WHAT MADE THE DIFFERENCE IN MY LAST 2 SUCCESSFUL CYCLE
Sisters pls and pls make sure you do an endometrial scratch and take prednisone during ur cycle. I had tried every thing until someone from here told me not to attempt any cycle without an ENDOMETRIAL SCRATCH and PREDNISONE. I followed the advice and my last 2 cycles have been successful.

NB: My pelvic is messed up, I have stage 4 endometriosis, had a hydrosalpinx that led to the removal of one of my tubes. I have multiple fibroids and my ovaries have numerous endometromas etc.
Infact I thought I was never going to have a child but here am I looking forward to baby no 2. I've ever only transferred 1 embryo every time.

I wish u all success and pray God takes us all out of the waiting room
My testimony is just to encourage u all that it's not over until it's over.

Beautifulsenora:
Goodevening All,

It's been a while I visited this platform. I Pray that we all succeed in this journey . Please I want to know if anyone have had a prognosis of one of the ovaries being behind the uterus during ivf and have proceeded to get a BFP

I just had an antral follicle count ultrasound done and my doctor informed that one of my ovaries is behind my uterus and it may not be so easy to aspire the eggs from the ovaries during ivf unless the uterus gives way for the ovaries when they are bigger from simulations.

I want to know if anyone have had a similar situation and if the outcome was positive.

Cheers.

I had a similar situation and still do(worst now bc both of my ovaries have multiple cyst and are behind my uterus). One of my ovaries was hiding behind my uterus during my IVF cycle and the Dr told me there was going to be a challenge(if at all it was going to be possible) getting eggs from the particular ovary. However, on the day of my retrieval, a nurse pressed very hard on my tummy(it hurt a little) and with the guidance of an ultrasound they were able to get a couple of eggs from the hidden ovary.
So if the uterus doesn't give way once the ovaries are stimulated, in my case pressing on my tummy helped in moving the ovary a little forward for egg retrieval. Ur Dr could try this and hopefully it works out well for u.
Good luck my dear

Na wah oh. Last last wuna go the alright.
Goodluck!

It took us 5 years to conceive after marriage and I had to do IVF. Shocking thing is that I got pregnant for hubby a month after we started dating but lost it. No abortion or anything to get rid of it, it passed on its own and we were very excited it passed because we were not yet married then.
When we finally got married, where pregnancy? 1year,2year,3yr, and 4 years no baby. Then the 5th year with fertility treatment we got pregnant. We actually started fertility treatment in the 2nd year and only succeeded in our 5th year of marriage after 5 rounds of IVF treatment.

U see this baby thing, it has no formula. Just develop a thick skin for whatever people say and focus on enjoying ur marriage while TTC. Womb watchers start watching for pregnancy the next day after your wedding so u can never please them.
Courage my dear, I pray u don't have to wait for too long and hope u and hubby are best buddies.

KanwuliaExtra:
Why would anyone ask for marital advice from a third party?

If you have to solicit marital advice from ANYONE, you are not qualified to be in a marriage.

Simple!

I bet u are not married yet.

Redrosely:
Gbam...my issue is my kids,how do I make them understand,cos d wouldn't let me be. You hear them say, mom I want to tell dady good night,mum wen is dady coming back. Mum everybody in my class has dady only me. I just tire

No matter how much we love our kids, our happiness too counts. Infact it'll be hard to give ur kids the best if u are not happy. Don't mind all the daddy talk, it wouldn't kill them. Last last they'll come to terms with his absence.

U are not married, forget that man. Live like he doesn't exist. Don't call or pick up his calls. Calling or answering his calls is kind of giving him room to continuously disrespect and torment u. Good thing is that u are working and can cater for ur self. Forget his existence and focus on u.

If he ever takes out the time to travel to u to make amends, use the opportunity and bring about changes. Give conditions and be firm abt them. Infact be ready to leave the marriage if he doesn't follow the rules(reasonable ones of course like him coming home more often).

Marriage is not a do or die affair. It's not worth living in an abusive (yes u are being abused) marriage all because of your kids. They may be ur offsprings but u don't owe them ur life. Besides, where is the dad in their life now that u are in.the marriage?

Quit the marriage if nothing improves.

Cameroon nova see anything yet. The sins of all the bloodshed by these french people who call themselves la republique du cameroon(lrc) di catch up with them. Ambazonian their blood no fit let them win anything anywhere. Lrc go continue to crumble and fail in all aspect. Shege!

grandlexuz:
Thank you Oyindidi.. I am meters away from the once vibrant fine boy I use to be..Lol However I remain extremely grateful to be alive without the major disabilities that come with extremely raised BP.. I know a bunch of young men who are down with stroke. Most of them never came close to the kind of BP I had. By the way I am 39.. The saga started at 37..

Ashia my brother from another mother. Ur wife huh mmmm, no comment. Quick recovery papa.

In this time and age who says " autistic and disabled" people. Identifying someone by their health condition/situation.
Pls kindly edit your topic to "People with autism and disability". They should come first, n they are individuals who have a condition. Identify then as say "Ike" and not " autistic Ike". Thank you

MiddleSpot:
What happens the day we need help but since we lack social bond with people, how do we get the help we will very much need in our day of need.

Good question!

truthsayer009:
Hmmm I like your kind of Wife oh, at least I know i won't be worried or Jealous about other men that would steal you away, just joking lol.

Speaking of meeting people, so how did you now meet your husband then, since you meet no one?
Abi he just came & told you he dreamt that God said you are his Wife??

Facebook! We chatted everyday for 5 months without ever meeting each other. Random friend request from him. And we got married 2 months, yes 2 months after our first meeting. Almost 6yrs together now and waxing strong. Never a dull moment together. Not saying we are perfect, just happy together.
I guess love happens when it happen because I don't know y Me of all people accepted a facebook friend request from a total stranger.

QueenSekxy:
Goodmorning all.
Please, I have this character of avoiding people in real life. I avoid talking to people or even greeting people.
I'd prefer taking a longer path than meeting someone I know through a route that's closer to where I'm headed.
Last two week, I changed route from my normal routine path of reaching the destination of where I work cos, someone said I always pass him without greeting
I'm kind of worried cos it might affect me in the future.
I'd stay indoor and pretend to be sick rather than see a visitor at home.
How do I stop this? Thank you.

My dear, I am exactly like u, and now that I'm married, I sometimes have issues with hubby because he is a peoples person. We'll get invited and I will not want to go because I don't want to meet anybody. When hubby even succeed in convincing me to come along, I want us to return almost as soon as we get there. Worst part is I'll exchange no with people because they ask but when they are calling me, I feel like they are irritating, sometimes I don't pick and I never call back. At work, I am just in my room. I don't go to the staff room at lunch because I don't want to meet people. I can go on and on but what I know is that to me, I need my space every time. My only interesting person whom I don't get bored chatting with is my husband. It's not the best way of life but interestingly I'm enjoying my life this way. Maybe it's just our own way of life. Atleast we are not hurting anyone are we?
Don't worry my dear, if u can change then fine but if u cant, no worries, U are good the way you are. We are all unique.

finecheek12:
I have been a silent follower of this thread and I have learnt a lot, when mama ebony got her bfp I decided to cycle with grabbo and it was a pleasant experience , everything went smoothly and I got my bfp after 8 long years of waiting saw my baby with fotal pole at 6weeks but when I went for scan at 8wks the baby,s heart beat had stopped at 7weeks so it was termed a missed miscarriage with the cervix still closed and no bleeding. I am so devastated cos I was extremely careful and always resting.
my question is what really caused this miscarriage?
gynae says the baby will come out like my period naturally but it's been 5 days now and still not bleeding please mamas can anyone suggest how I can induce bleeding ?cos I still have all the pregnancy symptoms and a positive urine test.

Sorry for your loss my dear, I've been via this pain before. Unfortunately sometimes it can even take up to a month for your body to realize the baby is dead. Ask you dr to prescribe meds (misopristol I think) which u can insert vaginally to cause contraction and miscarriage. That's what I did after waiting for close to 2 weeks and no bleeding.
I can imagin ur disappointment. Don't worry dear; u will have another. Most missed miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormalities. It was hell when I experienced it but to the glory of God I'm pregnant today and everything good so far.
Good luck

MrsEnny:
Good evening mamas.
@ebonynelly and all the sabi mamas pls all the symptoms i was having during the first 2ww av disappeared o. Where did they travel to. I hope everything is fine.

I'm smiling because this was me exactly a few weeks ago. All my symptoms vanished for a week. I knew it had ended but guess what, baby is right here dancing the last time I saw him/her lol. Ur symptoms will return my dear, its hard not to worry. Even right now, I have on and off days. Some days I don't feel pregnant at all and other days are terrible. Enjoy the symptom free moment. Take this from someone who almost went mad due to symptoms disappearance. I actually concluded that it was over but look at me now, everything is fine.

hope43:
Hello house pls help me cos I don't know what type of ivf protocol does this,I started down regulation since 20th feb and got my period on the 27th that's exactly 7days but the dr didnt start me on injection until mon 4th Feb thats cd9 woo,today is my 7th day on injection and he is saying that I will stimulate for another 3 days making it 10dyz on stimm,but my egg collection is not until 20th of this month that if I finish injection on wed the 13th I will then wait for 3 days no injections nothing I don't woo what is this woo,nb I only have two follicles that are responding pls advice me as I am planning to cancel the cycle

Mmmmm I've never heard of such a protocol oh. And the dr should know well enough to tell u to either cancel ur cycle or convert to iui based on ur tubes if only 2 follicles are developing. Stim, stop and wait for collection after a few days sounds crazy l. Whatever his motives are doesnt make sense, my dear, don't waste ur money. Follow ur instincts and cancel, the protocol doesnt sound right, not at all.
Good luck