₦airaland Forum

Those of us who are serious about fixing the country know Shettima is a great choice for BAT. Thank God he didn’t listen to the voices of the enemies who were urging him to only go for a Christian in the North which would have been disastrous for APC. TINUBU is almost a Christian himself as his wife is not only a Christian but a high ranking pastor of the Redeeem Church. That would have been a one way ticket and be so lopsided against the Muslims
Besides, Shettima would be able to garner enough votes in YOBE, Bornu, Gombe and even Adamawa.
With BAT/Shettima APC 60% of the entire national votes is secured

Now what campaign strategy be this. That we should be sleeping on a mat in order to get our vote? Whether it’s for prayer or for just sleeping, the mat strategy really misses it. Muslims don’t sleep on a mat with pictures or pray on it. Besides, who wants to descend to the low level of sleeping on mat?

Ready100:
Whenever I see most Nigeria politician, I feel like crying

Take a look at Ukraine president.
Take a look at Norway president.

Young peoples.

Do you think if Ukraine president is as old as buhari, he'll join his people to fight?



When coming to this Earth, I actually took Canada as my first choice and UK as my second choice.

But I don't know who changed my file

Why not take a look at the American President?

alsudan:
You are a true MOG pastor Bakare.

Unlike Thiefnibu who had to buy both delegates and aspirants to win the ticket.

And he wasted 100 million Naira to pass a test of character? He wanted to reap where he didn’t sow. He thought he would be given the mandate free by PMB. He is an unfaithful thief

NLElder:
First of all don't be quick to judge me. I am just here for matured help/advice cos I am fast loosing it. I am sure if it's abroad I will to told to go meet a therapist.

I am a young man in my early 40s and married for 9 years now with 2 kids. My nature of work is such that I am living on another town 5hours away from my family. This has been the case 6years out of the 9 years I am married. I have never really enjoyed my marriage as a young man cos I am always driving up and down every weekend to meet my family and when I got a promotion with more responsibility I reduced it to every 2 weeks, and as the stress of work and driving became more stressful, I now go every month. I have tried all my best even till date to see if I can get another work in the same state my wife and kids reside to no avail and my wife can't leave her work in the state join me as she is in a federal government establishment that has no branch in the state I live and work.

The scenario so far shows you that I am not enjoying a healthy sex life with my wife, but being someone brought up to respect the marriage institution, I have resigned to my fate and taken life as I have seen it. To make matters worse, with due respect to my wife, she suffered female genital mutilation and you know it affects women's sex life and their man is always worse off for it. In summary we lead a routine boring sex life in the few occasions we even get to have it. However, the 6 years I have lived and worked in another state, I have never cheated or thought of cheating on her despite all the cold lonely nights I have to spend alone. I am a kind of introvert and never hide it from people that I am married. Some will be like "u no get side chick"? I will say no.

The problem started 4 years earlier out of the 6years in the city I live and work. Since I am always lonely and bored in my crib, I mostly do video calls with my wife and kids daily or chat online with friends to keep my mind busy and avoid unnecessary tensions that will remind me of the lonely boring life I was living. This also keeps me away from sexual urges if I feel any as a fool-blooded young man I was. It was in one of these online chats that I got close to one young lady of about 30. We really got close through chatting and graduated to exchanging numbers. I always make it known that I was married to everyone I meet and she was no exception. We became best friends online and kept our limits as married man and a single lady would. We became curious and excited to meet each other live when we found out we were in same city.

We arranged a harmless date in a restaurant in town were we really got to know more about each other. I found out that she was a struggling young girl teaching in a private school with NCE and was unable to proceed to degree level due to lack of funds. Her salary wasn't even up to 18k and she was squatting with one lady in very uncomfortable circumstances. After that 1st live meeting, a very good friendship ensued but entirely platonic .

All these past 4 years before I met her, I cook for myself and go to market by myself. One Friday she called and I did not immediately pick cos I was in the kitchen. I called her back later and told her I was cooking and she jokingly asked if she could help. As at then she was yet to come to my place, so I told her if she really wanted to help then I would come and pick her up and that was how for the first time in 4 years, a lady visited me in that town. It felt awkward. It did not take long for me to find out how homely she was...washed plates, tidied everywhere, and finished up the cooking. I really felt at peace and started getting worried at the same time. We spent time chatting but kept our distance and nothing happened between us and I dropped her off later where she was squatting.

After that, our friendship went to another level and the visits became more frequent but still nothing happened between us. I got to know she was a well brought up lady that still had values and I also confirmed she had no man as at the time she met me. She said she had always wished to be married before now and never believed she would reach 30 and still be single.

I know my story is getting rather long, so let me try to wrap up. In summary, she started having issues with the family she was squatting with and didn't have enough money to rent a place of her own. I didn't have enough to rent for her either as I was already carrying a lot of financial responsibilities for her by then...monthly stipend of ₦10k to add to her salary, tolletries, making hairs and even helping out with her sick mum hospital bills.

So without a 2nd thought, both of us decided she move into my place. Inside me I knew it was somehow but I think by then we were already in love with each but maybe living in denial.

So she moved in and that was it. Yes, we started having sex, uncomfortably at 1st but later became 2 sex maniacs. It was as if she was sent to compensate me for my horrible marriage sex experience I have endured all these years. We couldn't have enough of each other. In fact when I want to travel and see my family, she breaks down crying. I knew it was more than a side chick matter. In fact this lady gave me a fulfilled sex life that I swear if it's in the olden days I wouldn't mind taking her as a 2nd wife. Months grew into years and our passion for each other grew to the point that we got jealous of the opposite sex calling us. She even starts frowning when my wife calls or tears will start running down her eyes. People, I became so confused. We both knew we have gone too far and yet were not ready to end it.

I even because part of her own family cos I go with her to see her sick mum and played a prominent role when she died. I don't know her older siblings knew if I was married or not , but I think she confided in her older sister who seemed to like me so much and only warned her to be "careful."

After 2 years, she started agitating about marriage so much that she said she needed to move out of my place. That as long as she is with me, she might not get married since it's obvious I wasn't going to marry her no matter how much both of us pretended about it. Deep inside me I knew she was right and I couldn't be selfish to keep her from meeting single suitors but I felt an inexplicable pain in my heart as if a part of me was about to be cut off. However, I forced myself to assist her to get a place and yet she on her own kept coming to my place every weekend until she moved in again leaving her place wasting for over 2 months., only going there once in a while to pick things..

All the 2 years we were together she was open and truthful to me about relationships she was now trying to build with single guys she hoped would marry her. I was already feeling bad inside me that she was about to leave my life, but she kept assuring me that she was with me and truly told me everything happeneing in the new relationship she was building.

She later moved out completely from my place after 2years on a new year day. She said needed to start the year on a good and clean note and had gotten serious with the guy that said he wants to marry her. I began to feel extreme jealous I couldn't explain. I knew it was not right but I couldn't stop myself. I tried my best and stopped calling or chatting with her but I still didn't find peace. One evening a month after when it was now clear that she has decided to get serious with the guy she said was coming for marriage, she visited me and and you can't believe it, we made hot passionate love. And when we were lying side by side, her new man called and she quickly ran into the toilet to answer him. I felt it was time I ended this whole thing, it wasn't looking right again.

So I confronted her why she was still leading me on when she is now in a marriage -bound relationship and she said because she still loves me and doesn't know how to let go of me. We cried together that it wiould be tough as we would soon separate from each other for life and she left. I cried like a baby as we made love again and she consoling me to try and teach my wife the things she does to me despite her FGM predicament.

The period she was with me, she was uncomfortable answering calls from her man and I got fed up and decided to investigate. So I went to the street where she showed me the guy lives(she was truly open to me and I give her that) and waited to see if she has started visiting him as she mostly denies and lo and behold, I saw her entering the guy's house. I felt a sharp pang of jealousy which I couldn't control. I picked up my phone after some minutes and started calling her, but her phone rang severally and she didn't pick. I was almost half-dead with jealousy. I cried iny heart and drove away. I sent her a text that because she was "enjoying" herself with her man she was now avoiding my calls. That maybe tbe guy was so good at it. She called about 2 hours later and really took offence that because she visited him and did not pick my call was simply because she doesn't want him to start asking questions and not necessarily that they were doing anything.

We quarrelled like never before and said hurtful things to each other and I asked her to return my key at my office the next day cos by then she no longer visited my house as she has really gotten serious with the guy. She returned the key and for over 2 months we stopped communicating and became strangers.

Instead of pushing her out my mind, I felt a daily torture looking through her Facebook pics, WhatsApp status, and other social media. I will go to her guy's street and painfully watch her enter his house from afar. I was fast losing my mind. I knew it was over for good and don't want her back but the obsession is yet to leave me till date. Everyday, I check her pictures and feels pangs of pain and jealousy as I see her lovely smiles. My people it's punishment and torture for me. I keep obsessing every second of my life about her. Who can help me? Something is definitely wrong. In one of her recent status, I saw her flaunt her hands with an engagement ring and I felt a sharp pang of sadness instead of happiness. People help me I am loosing it. Even though she has apologized to me and I too have apologized for the hurtful things we said in the course of our quarrel, my mind is still not at peace.

Even now presently she is engaged she still calls me and tries to engage me in friendly conversations but I will just be answering without interest. She even sent me a pic recently at a wedding she went to and I told her she should stop sending me her pics but should be sending to her man. She apologized and said she has taken note. Yet, I will feel bad inside me if I don't see her friendly chats which my attitude has made her reduce. Yet in all these, first thing in the morning I will quickly rush to check her pics, if she has made new posts, etc etc. I need help, I really do. Sorry my people for the long post but I really needed to empty myself to see the help I can get if any cos I want my normal sane life back. I have also prayed to God and asked for forgiveness for cheating on my wife ....I have no excuses for doing so but from the long story you can see it was never my intention.

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Summon courage and move on. There’s a strategy they call: NO CONTACT.. pls stop looking at her pictures and her videos and her status. Infact block her on all social media. Infact tell you are breaking off totally and don’t just communicate or contact for like two months. Infact, if you can do it for only 21 days, you will overcome a lot and you will thank me later.

Failure44:
I'm reaching in a depressive state of mind.
I can't stop masturbating towards pictures of my ex, I had stopped for 4 months but I immediately backslided one day and now am back doing it chronically.
We recently talked and it was 100% obvious she had moved on from me but I still haven't moved on.

I need counseling pls not insults or jokes.

It will go away. Time will heal your heart. It’s purely psychological because she is out of your reach.
Interact with other women but don’t abuse yourself.

Let’s just do a mock election among the contenders from the PDP. Who is your favorite candidate?

Why didn’t he give it last year or year before the last. SMH

Real action Governor. Even though we are not from his state, we are pleased to hear this commendable act. Wishing him well

HOLYNICEGUY:
The country is doomed

U people just open your mouth and say anything. Because train ran out of fuel that makes the country to be doomed, Abi? Very negative thinking youths

ayzTIGER:
Nawao Tinubu singlehandedly made you president e come reach Tinubu time you just dey use am like tissue paper. Hope he won't be flushed down the pit like Alimi, Awolowo and Abiola.

People can just write anything sha? How can it be possible for one individual to single-handedly install even a councilor not to talk of a President of 200 million people?

Which Quran were you quoting.
Surah Nisai 3: 26 says:

یُرِیدُ ٱللَّهُ لِیُبَیِّنَ لَكُمۡ وَیَهۡدِیَكُمۡ سُنَنَ ٱلَّذِینَ مِن قَبۡلِكُمۡ وَیَتُوبَ عَلَیۡكُمۡۗ وَٱللَّهُ عَلِیمٌ حَكِیمࣱ ﴿ ٢٦ ﴾

He wishes to make His laws clear to you and guide you to the righteous ways of those who went before you. He wishes to turn towards you in mercy- He is all knowing, all wise- (26)

An-Nisa', Ayah 26

Truthissupreme:
Headslammers won't be happy with this news

You can all baff with menstrual blood in pains

Sunan an-Nasa'i 326


"It was said: 'O Messenger of Allah, you perform Wudu' from the well into which the bodies of dogs, menstrual rags and garbage are thrown?' He said: 'Water is pure and it is not made impure by anything.'"

As a father to a son. Pls don’t squander your money around any how

It must still be a computer. Can you link him up with me? I think I can assist zamzam2019@protonmail.com

Na security o. iPhone beats android phones on this. And that’s very very big!!

flyinnizam:
I can't believe it myself that my brother caught a chimpanzee alive today with a trap. Everyone was amaze.

I joined others to beg you to release it back into the wild. And if it’s because of money I’m ready to pay for a goat in its stead. Just try to treat fast and then take it to where it was caught. It will find its way to its community

InHeaven:
Very irritating and disgusting. How useless could this people be, I'm just hearing this for the first time.

Honestly!! Even matured men like us! What’s the world turning into? Unacceptable! Morally very very wrong!!!

I pity Gunineeans

Coronabirus:
Nigerians failed to understand that they're not the ones thinking but rather allow few Politicians to think for them using social and mainstream media.
Between 2011-2015 average Northerner believed that GEJ was behind Boko Haram and FG and DSS were used as an agent of terrorism. Many believed GEJ used security agents to bring weapons to terrorists BH by deliberately allowing the terrorists to ambush arms transported to military in North-East, at the peak of BH insurgency more than 60% of BH weapons were looted by insurgents from military ambush; these allegations was further propelled by Late Gen. Andrew Azazi who was former COAS, and NSA who publicly claimed that PDP is Boko Haram and he shortly died in plane crush which many people believed that he was assassinated for trying to expose hidden agenda of PDP and Nigerian Politicians which is commonly acceptable by average Northerner.

More over, some few years after PMB took over in 2015, BH was pushed to boaders of Borno and Yobe and banditry by Fulani herders become the order of the day, they kill, rape and kidnap people. This prompted many people especially from the south to believe that PMB and APC are terrorists and behind all these insecurities.

Finally, it is very sad how both educated Nigerians and illiterates are so brainwashed & delusional not to understand the media twist and unfounding speculations of dangerous accusations we play which will never solve our seemingly unending problems. Media houses are being paid by opposition parties to play such a dangerous game and the gullible citizens believe everything media feed them especially propaganda driven by ethno-religious bias. This mistrust is proliferated by some extremist religious leaders from both Christians and Muslims who have strong affiliation to party politics and politicians use them to propagate falsehood which they believe gullibile citizens will quickly believe. These religious leaders know nothing about governance but they've few people around them who tell them that they've access to security reports and they know what is happening and govt is planning to do this and that; during GEJ era many of such people deceive Northerners that Southern, Christian President is using BH to depopulate them while under Northern Muslim President they deceive southerners that North want to Fulanize/Islamise them when in reality North is the worst hit and biggest victim of the banditry and kidnapping.
We all have to wake up from being used by ethno-religious division politics!

This piece just shows we still have sharp minded people in our midst. Thanks for your contribution. But then will we borrow from your sanity?

Why are people so foolish? What concerns religion or no religion in this. So if a reverse case had happened to the Israelis, they would have folded their hands because their religion forbids fighting? This is pure war and politics

Ikpeyi:
This my boy...

He is walking proverb and tradition...

He is from the gods...very smart...


Hon. Chukwuemeka Nwajiuba for 2023...

I support you HON EMEKA NWAJUBA FOR 2023!!!

Bluewitch:
Shame!

Same people who cry inequality....
Isn't the maid a human being

Thanks a lot for this simple statement. Is the maid not a human being too? It was like that from the day of Abraham. Our problem started when we copy the whites in everything. Fela married 27 women at a go. Heaven didn’t fall. My advice to young men, always let women know you are an African man and you are not bound to a single woman

saasala:
This is something very delicate that one should be careful of revealing to the world. Schizo is highly hereditary which means that her brother got it from the family tree.

Any man with sense should avoid raising offspring from the womb of Maria to avoid having mad children. It might sound like a harsh statement but it is true.

Oga d doc! What of those getting without a known family history?

RPirez:
Reno should just STFU! He speaks from both sides of his stinky mouth. He needs to STOP demonizing APD like PDP is saint. They're both VAGABONDS-IN-POWER

What happened to all the Billions of $$$$ stolen by GEJ and his regime? Dezieni alone stole >$20Billion.
Why is he and his family living abroad? What happened to the Nigeria he pretends to have so much love for?
Where did he find the resources to fund that lifestyle?
What does he do for work prior to GEJ admin and, how much did he make as salary during that time?

These dudes are all HYPOCRITES!

Thanks sir! Is the hypocrite even in Nigeria himself

wyt:
We have being in talks since January. We met in late February, then she visited me in late March. We started talking of marriage.

Now she is in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. She found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November.

We scheduled to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. She will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since

Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. She once told me she makes herself cum that is before we met in person around February which she promised to stop.

After she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.

Now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. That she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. She still masturbates while in my house.

Note: she has gone to see my parents and I have met hers.

pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.

Don’t bring your matter to Nairaland to be solved! Because you can hardly get matured and sound advice here.
According to your description of her, she is bisexual not lesbian as straight. And that is the lots of most women and they will never tell you. Almost all women masturbate, at least nothing less than 60% of them do.
Your woman has demonstrated one very good thing - she has come straight with you. That’s not easy.
The question is does she wants to find solutions to her flaws? If yes, be a friend and support her to find how to get her redeemed. Secondly, do you really like her personality tending to love, then don’t harshly judge her. Often the issue involves psychologically can be very deep and you may need expert to assist you. But the efforts can be rewarding for both of you

goodmorning40:
Welcome to freedom

Islam, Muslim or whatever they call it is actually living in bondage

. Very confused. Read through and he wasn’t even a Muslim before. But once our people hear conversion they will start to jubiliate

Bad belly people. What’s wrong if an outgoing President visit an incoming President?

All that he wrote are facts of history. But you know what it’s not from my mouth that you will hear that “the mother of a King is a witch”
Research!!

So acutely right!!

Sonnobax15:

That kind expensive hair on top head wey no get oil talk more of sense


Honestly,most of these girls wey dey rock these expensive hair no dey get anything to offer apart from flaunting their fake beauty via their heavy makeup

Left for me cha,my banny go dey rock constant low cuy At least make breeze of sense dey enter her head......

It’s just everywhere. The educational institutions are even worst, Jamb, NECO etc all included

NwaAmaikpe:





Why am I not surprised?

I know a sergeant who gifted a girl he's never shagged an iPhone 11 pro.
If you realize how much money those guys make from bribes at checkpoints, extortions from yahooboys, bail money in their stations and abandoned confiscated assets, you'd marvel.

The system is so corrupt that remaining good endangers your personal and professional wellbeing.

Someone once told me that there is no upright policeman. I argued with him because I know one who is a Deeper Life brother, he serves in the chaplain too.
I could swear he was different till the day I saw him effecting an arrest on a prostitute in a brothel.
Just from seeing how he manhandled that poor girl's boobs and all, I had an erection because it was just as debased as a sex show.

This man even told her, "You no dey hear abi, your toto go hear am today".

Our systems are hyper-flawed.
There are no checks, no balances, no control, no nothing just an undying quest for self-aggrandizement.

Professionalism and decorum is absent in Nigerian Public institutions.
I do not know if there is a special orientation that instills corruption and insensitivity into these Public officers.

Someone joins the Nigeria Customs as a recruit today and by this time next year the same person has over 10 confiscated cars in various car stands.
This same person will have a '4-flats' commercial apartment to their name.

It's no different with VIO, FRSC, NSCDC and even our Public Universities.
If an Immigration officer tells you how much he makes daily from extortions on International Passport applicants, you'd hate your job.

And you think corruption will ever stop?

Sadly, these are our law enforcement officers and you are the law breaker whose only crime is using Twitter.

Oga, the child could still be yours. She might be afraid of who exactly is the owner of the kid. Might be she still had sex around the time you met her, and now she doesn’t really know who the kid belongs to among you. Don’t deceive yourself that she ought to know. Some very loose women find it difficult to pinpoint if they have multiple partners

Our double standard no get end:

*lawyers: "Benin Republic shouldn't handover Igboho to Nigeria."*

*lawyers: "Abba Kyari should be handed over to America."*