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Its part of the agenda of the NWO elites, "make Black hate themselves and relate the african with all forms of disease and all sort of negativity. Then make them believe it" - then we buy it.

You don't need so much photo journalism to promote cancer awareness.

While it might look logical to take it out on the lady as a gold digger, we forget on the flip side is a man trying to prove authencity by telling lies. That is inauthentic in itself, a careful look with perspectives also gives the understanding that the man also doesn't love the woman and didn't carefully consider also what the woman can offer him to preserve both him and his percieved wealth, had he loved her unconditionally as he wants to be loved I doubt he will want to leave her just on that basis, which brings to question his mate selection theory. Truth be told, both the man and the lady are flawed.
Not even these ones here commenting on this thread will get past such test. Who wants a poor man for a spouse seeing the way they were matched. Neither does anyone wants a superficial woman for a wife. This story is good for Nollywood and entertainment but the lessons attached are two fold and the theory needs to be reviewed.

It has alot to do with empathy, Mind control and a higher self knowledge. Empathy fixes selfish nature of the male body to quick arousal, Mind control kicks in when empathy fails it allows delay, distraction and generates nausea via your preset value system, It is effective after physical arousal when the body is simply obeying neurochemical processes (mind control is the only option). Higher self knowledge comes into play when all have failed, it requires physical movment away from the enviroment or source of stimulus (flea) and so this state combines mind control and preset value system in the soul.. At this level you live above your body, what controls the mind is bigger than what the body wants (sex, food, comfort).: this stage is equivalent to a hungry man who is salivating for the presence of food and all of a sudden a child poop very close to his plate of food just when he is getting ready to eat, there will be instant loss of apetite which will take a while to bring back.

Higher self knowledge triggers instant nausea and hatred at the situation or person involved. Nausea arising from your personal value or preset belief. Joseph got the rid of it at the empathy level and after the situation persists he used a higher self knowledge. I Have personally done this on several occasions howbeit subtle.
Unfortunately there's need of a preset value system the mind holds strongly than itself. Do you have it?

I hope they reason well

Call me when it happens. No bad in dreaming.

Scientifically correct! Except that it shouldn't serve as a reason to engage more than a partner in the act.

The software for these actions has not been installed

[quote author= ClassyAdewumi post=33593978]TAKE BABY STEPS: you don't have to become Mr. Outgoing overnight,start by pushing yourself to talk to two or three random strangers everytime you go out, and just become comfortable with the interactions. Your words don't need to be deep or meaningful, they just need to get the interaction moving.[/quote]thats the exact problem with social anxiety, needing to say something to push the convo.

RapLawd:
the statement didn't say romance love is blind rather it's... love is blind...



so is love still blind on your side?

personally No! Love takes a conscious and selfless effort. It means seeing the flaws and still living with it.

There are different types of love. Romantic love is said to be blind because Emotions take over logic.

Subconciously, young people size members of opposite sex for attraction and compatibility before they even bond for friendship. Am not here to argue the possibility of cross gender friendships but I pose a question to you and everyone. . . Will the said friends still be as close if one of both gets married? If yes then I doubt their commitment in their romantic relationship

Thing is those sort of attention chokes and bore me to death. The more the intensity the more disgust I feel at the exuding individual.

Wow this is awesome, personally I find that steve havey's book interesting. And this article is a no brainer discribing guys at the layest level, I consider it philosophically true, looking at the fact that guys who go after women without first finding purpose and fufilment are unconscious and Infact are dead while yet living. I don't put much blame on women because they age faster than guys and their intrinsic need for companionship.. A conscious woman will not allow themselves on a guy who has no purpose and even if a claim they do: to what extent have they developed it. See the problem I found with these type of ladies is they walk around with Delusion that they can wait and they further harm themselves with ''lets enjoy ourselves while we can'' mentality forgetting to project into the future and the essence of everything.
My advice: A man should have purpose, a woman should also have purpose then both can find fufilment doing what they love in companionship and support. But a woman's purpose shouldn't trump the man's purpose but rather support it. This is what God created. Any man who has a woman with a superior purpose has given up his position as the Man. If this principles are maintained life long, then there will be more healthy relationships out there. Nice article

When two mentally matured individuals are involved why not? Individuals who are not connected only by emotions but also by their souls. . . Meaning, they both have spent alot of energy building themselves that non of the two parties can imagine starting off with another person. Long distance relationship takes conscious effort to maintain meaning all sides to the relationship are properly working including geniune Love, Openness in communication, Trust, indepth Understanding and more importantly support. . And now speaking as a psychologist that I am, I personally believe it can work hugely depending on the attachement type of both individuals prior to depature or before physical seperation. And again who knows values and religious belief can also be key. . . Contact me later or do some research on - human attachement theory. Am sure that will hand you a better understanding of how to sustain distant partnership. But like it or not it is not going to be cake walk and such relationships are not for superficial minds.
Here, I will hand you a clue just in case ''Nigerians who go abroad after the age of 24 will find it difficult to get a spouse especially if they are females who were in a relationship before they left'' so no fear.

Why are people making life difficult- for themselves. . . . Love is love, you can't differentiate between 'like' and 'love' however there are different types of love. What is discribed above is just two different love and attachement type.. Don't bug your soul with synonymes. So whats the difference between 'hate' and Dislike?

FYI You can visit this link to hear from my fellows its a promising article. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/getting-back-out-there/201504/10-things-you-need-know-about-real-love

Why should you get heartbeats at a person professing to Love you. The issues concerning love, infatuation & lust can easily be decoded if the air is cleared with decisive questions people avoid to ask themselves and an intending partner, what is the end result of the relationship? If it is for life partnership, taking steps in that direction should help. Furthermore, evaluating his values should get you candid results, is he the Authentic type?, Does he have a spiritual value?, is he open to discussions with you about defining the relationship? A GENUINE MAN DOESN'T GIVE HIS HEART, HE GIVES HIS MIND, ENERGY AND TIME.
Finally, I think the problem with girls, women or ladies in this category is often times they also don't want a serious minded man, but act they do, hoping to retain the fun of the moment while it lasts- this in itself is deciet and manipulation. Nontheless, two serious minded individuals will align their values and naturally do the above instinctively.

But am supprised at the number of countries Nigerian passport can get you. I was expecting 2 countries. Togo and Benin republic.

You still can't compare this to a fleeting and disappearing boobs.

There is an element of truth in the theme of this article, similar to the fact that people are addicted to the feelings of infatuation & emotional rush, that when it ends they do not mind entering another, locked up in a vicious cycle. ''why do fools fall in love''.
Truely, my mom told me she didn't love my dad at the beginning of their courtship infact in her words, after marriage she 'had to pray to love him' which later happened: now they are happily married.
But here, it is difficult to go into a romantic relationship without emotional motivation, and that motivation is usually a sting or touch of infatuation however small. Love will always be blind. Only the courageous and mentally sound individual will enter with their eyes wide open. Nice article!

Many would not understand that post, it is psychological and deep. The most annoying ones are those girls/ladies who come around smiling and jerking like nothing is in their brains, trying to sell the image of a free spirit. I can spot a fake in no time. Nonetheless there are some genuine phlegmatics not everyone is a melancholy.

Game on! Now the guy would chase more, struggling to win her over.

That is a post on Psychologytoday.com please post source.

Actors' discretion is adviced. Been there.

Then you're about to 'love' a boring person as heartbreak looms when the stimulating one comes calling. Same applies to both gender

ahsekeena:
And now,all of a sudden,out of the blue,u wanna go out with a girl u never liked,never noticed simply becos she told someone she wanted to out with u.



That my friend is why ladies don't hit on a guy,not to be take advantage of. Cos we all know guys can never say no to anything in a skirt,even if it has the body of a toad.

Don't be so sure.

The rules of staying married involves maturity on all front including financial and spiritual maturity and one more thing: couples involved must be ready to get rid of emotional laziness, as this is the number one cause of divorce for couples who once loved each other.
[personally if there is anything that makes being single amazing, it is the fact you don't have this extra work to do]

That shouldn't be a concern, people are generally uncomfortable with the reasoning of an atheist. . Just like the discomfort with the LGBT community. Atheists are indeed the minority group when it comes to issues of faith.
Its better to believe in a massive stone than to believe there is no God.

Heart break?.. I read immaturity. Two rationally mature minds won't start what they won't finish.