An idle man, maybe i should sign with u'r name as my signature Jcob

No problem with that, it's part of doing house chores which is fun and romantic especially when both of are hoping and expecting to become a couple

@ poster, honestly u are not alone if u think so, I have always battled to understand the meaning and why ppl easily say " I love U" knowing down deep in their mind that the next hour, the same person they claimed to be in love with could as well become their enemy. However, I have come to the understanding that it's one of those comtemporary words ppl use, so why we live, we should rather join the train than being left out.

jejelolatu:

@fiswu,
if u are just learnin then welldone, you ar doing fine.
I undastand creole, cnt speak well tho.
Gurl, jst follow your heart. If u think there is a problem, there is. If u think its ok , then its ok.

@ poster, I appreciate that english is u'r second or maybe third language. However, I advise that u follow u'r heart as sis Jejelolatu has siad, in addition I would advise U to also use u'r brain and give u'rself more time before drawing conclussions that will help u make a decision.

@ poster,having been reading all these NL replies which i'm sure u have been reading too; all I could say is, "BE WISE, A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE" cos there is no such free lunch nowadays!

A man sees a woman prettier than his wife would only admire the beauty in that lady, but will never consider of anything like trade off, There is nothing that can make me compromise my wife beauty for another woman beauty!

For me there is no prblem in getting married to either, but the party involved has to be open to learn those things she / he might not had the oppportunity to learn earlier.

She is enjoying the privilage u gave her, one month is still to judge if she really loves u or u'r money. My advise to u is to reduce on how much u spend on her!

sexybaby22:

The girl was just lacked maturity and the man took advantage of it. Men can be demons at times

Hey dear, why do u bring men into this, just talk about the man and his cruel behaviour towards the teenage

How can I advise one who was enjoying money and gifts with both her eyes & legs widely open! I can't advise her now cos they two, i mean she and the unborn baby! Maybe i can advise during her post-natal, when she can understand what it means to embark on protective sex.

I will not at all consider marrying a woman older than me, but only on the condition that she respects me as the husband and remains submissive

Are u asking what to do, when it's apparent that she does not love u anymore, will u consider losing her and at the same time losing the money she accepted to back to U. No waste time to send her the bill,

funkybaby:

37yrs. . . . never married, no kids?

are you from the eastern part of nigeria ?

Is it only people from the eastern part that marry late? I total disagree with U

I do make love in the morning and could not tell more about what time at night!

If u really and still love her, then go back to her, , I can understand from what u said that she confided in her girl friend that she did not do any stupid thing with anybody: going by that I advise that u accept her back.

Luvties:

Instinct should be follow than brain, your brain can fail u at times than your instinct!

Not always, but sometime it could be true coz that was what the guy did when he left and marry the girl from his home country of which the result was divorce at the end

For me I have always followd my brain, but in this case the girl's instinct had really worked for her

This is a true story of a guy and his girl friend who come from different countries, both were lovers for two years before the guy went back to his country and got married to a new girl he met  during one of those Xmas. After his marriage he came back, met the girlfriend and  was honest to tell her that he is now married, but would like both to be friends. To his girl friend, she accepted but was not happy that the person she has spent 2yrs with left her for another woman. 
She left and avoided any chance that could lead her to meet the  guy, but she was still in phone contact with him;  she tried avoid  meeting him, but  in her mind she is still in love with the guy coz she has always believed according to her instinct that both will one day get married and live together.  Based on her belief, she declined three suitors who came to her for a real marriage.
To everybody surprise after 3 yrs, the guy's marriage collapsed and he came back and proposed to his Ex girl friend and finally they got married and are happily living together.[b][/b]. plz I would like to read u'r comment whether it's right to follow our instinct (heart) or brain?

Marital affair / problems is forthe two parties in the marriage; a friend or third party could be a crowd, so my answer to the question is capital NO

It's not a crime, but could be a disadvantage to be , befriend and even marry an ugly person!

@poster, if U think the future will be brighter than what u are experiencing now, then forget the past life of hers and build a solid and strong future with her.

davidif:

You are right, a lot of our guys are short.

Lol, says who? if u are short, does it mean other men are short too? My observation tells me that average number of men are taller than their women counterpart.

freecocoa:

it depends on wat u mean by xcess money,i belive if u have enough money 2 take care of a family den u can get married,i mean being able 2 provide basic needs.

No offense, plz what could be the basic things u mean? coz i have known many women in many marriages, but are insatiable in terms of what i might consider the basic things.

My dear, since u don't pic here, how can i know the person that put ad? Do u have any Unique selling point (USP) that will differentiate from other undergraduate gurls  in Niaja Uni that study during the day and go for runs at night.

One good thing she has done is sharing this problem that makes her unhappy,it's good that she shared it with somebody she trusted. The fact that she shared it with a male colleague she trusted is better than with a fellow woman friend who might advise her wrongly and in the end she might lose her marriage.

echo- bee:

ask your sisters,if u have one,and if u dont ask your girlfriend

Lol, what if he doesn't have any of the above mentioned persons, could he ask echo-bee at least to get the answer he so much desired to know?

Cos players must always go with their mouth in-order to make their ways, on the other hand most girls easily believe guys who tell them what they like hearing.